And that's why our President and the First Lady are prime examples. Look what we can accomplish as black men when we find the right lady.
This is true. He didn't come with some lame excuses blaming someone else for his problems. Certain brothas have to stop that blame game. Certain kats are quick to say they are a man, yet they run from personal responsibility, character, integrity
Nice Article
What Makes a Man?
For most Black men, the true measure of manhood has been distorted, minimalized, misunderstood and at times; altogether rejected. Our markers are usually measured by our ability to sire children, our looks, earning abilities, physical prowess and other measurements such as reaching the drinking, voting or driving age. Amazingly, some boys are still being indoctrinated to believe they become a man after their first sexual encounter with a woman.
To further aggravate this critical issue, Black boys are constantly bombarded with philosophies and ideologies that only serve to subvert and detract their impressionable minds and hearts from true manhood. For far too many of our sons, their measurement of manhood is determined by their ability to rap, dance, sing, sling crack, play hoops, tag the booty of multiple sex partners and not tolerate being “dissed,” by another “nigga.”
The void of not having more Black men like Johnnie Cochran, Myles Monroe, JC Watts, Frederick K.C. Price and Judge Mathis, reverberates throughout our communities like the Ebola virus. In their absence, we’ve raised a nation of player playas, thugs, misogynists and Brothas who have no vision for life, love, family or community. The shameful legacies these misdirected Black males boastfully pass on are ones of mayhem, dishonor and disrespect.
Regrettably, a large segment of Black males have unwittingly joined and are aggressively promoting the mission of the modern day KKK, which is: Kindred Killing Kindred. In many circles, a Black man shooting or stabbing another Black man has become a badge of honor. Their shifty views about life, women and manhood spews from dangerously unreliable sources. They take their primary cues from the streets, dysfunctional and broken homes, the media, music and Hollywood, counterproductive religious groups, crude Brothas and hostile Sistahs.
In the end, until we get this vital part of the Black family back on track, we all lose: Black, white, yellow, brown and red! However, the brunt of the pain, despair and destruction will always be felt within the homes, communities and churches of the Black family.
Brethren and gentlemen, let’s get manhood right! What makes a man and what is the true measure of manhood? Take notes:
Temperature is measured in degrees
Weight is measured in pounds
Speed is measured by miles per hour
Liquid is measured in ounces
Distance is measured by miles
Time is measured in hours
Hard drives are measured by megabytes
Pressure is measured by PSI
Genius is measured by IQ
True manhood is measured in virtues
--Gillis Triplett, Mastering Manhood
What Are The Virtues of True Manhood?
True manhood is measured in virtues. The best way to define virtue is through the telescope of manly courage and valor. It is the quality of doing what is right when doing what is wrong is much easier.
The virtues of true manhood…
A true man is secure in himself; unflinching in the face of the mixed messages heralded by society concerning: sex, manhood, fatherhood and husbandhood.
He inherently recognizes his duty to God, his family, community, country and government.
He leads with a servant’s heart; filled with love and endued with compassion; concerned about the needs and feelings of his fellowman.
He lives by the law of all for one and one for all.
He never sells out his family or community for filthy lucre’s sake.
His character is marked by his integrity, fidelity and loyalty. No matter how other men conduct or represent themselves, he lives by the law: “My word is my bond.”
He does not leave his family and community vulnerable to risks, attacks or dangers. Protecting them is one of his utmost concerns.
His diligence in fulfilling his responsibilities is demonstrated daily as he vigilantly seeks the spiritual, moral, health, educational, social, and economic prosperity of his people.
He never abandons his flesh and blood or leaves his family or community dangling in the wind.
He is a griot; he perpetuates the family legacy, traditions and vision through the future generations.
How he deals with adversity distinguishes him from the multitudes of males who succumb to temptations, crack under pressure and cower under in times of challenge and hardship.
Always executing that which is right and good for his family and community; he has the courage and resolve to make tough unpopular decisions.
His vision of the family is a loving, vibrant, cohesive, healthy and tightly knit unit and he never jeopardizes that vision.
He does not squint his eyes in the face of injustice or inhumanity; he is resolved to helping and improving mankind.
He is not a respecter of persons.
He prepares his sons and daughters for the future.
He doesn’t misconstrue his kindness as a sign of weakness.
His character is marked by dignity, honor and chivalry.
He is known as a champion amongst champions.
He is able to admit and amend his faults and receive advice and guidance without being arrogant, stubborn or prideful.
He does not recompense evil with evil; instead he repays evil with good.
He is a cultivator and as such, he brings out the best in people.
He respects his elders and comprehends the immense value of their sage advice.
He is called an awesome son, the best brother a sister could have, a true friend, a great husband, a doting and loving father, a trusted confidant, a caring and benevolent man.
His character is marked by his good stewardship.
He knows his God-given purpose and understands and utilizes his God-given gifts, talents and abilities for the benefit and blessing of mankind.
This is the true measure of a man.
May you look into the mirror of life and find yourself measuring up! May you join us, the growing number of Black men at Mastering Manhood who are reshaping the Black family into a wholesome picture of unity, love and fidelity!
saild? You are creating new words now huh. 
with what you said earlier
Shame. Making all those excuses and YOU are the one who chose to get her pregnant
are worse than White people ... they see the boys skin colour and assume he was raised by a single mom that the dad is not there blahblahblah ... they throwing every stereotype available out there without knowing the full situation ... all the while complaining about how the media portrays them negatively
