Need some Relationship Advice

[jwilliam85]

Me and this girl broke up early last year on some lets just do us type shit. We was five years deep or whatever but anyway we bump into each other and we talk, I say some random shit like lets kick it sometime,mind you she has a dude, she say cool and I leave it at that.

She text me the next day trying to set a date so we can kick it, I say I'm busy next week and we pick a day a couple weeks down the line. So she calling me and shit for just random talk and we chit chat and what not.

So I hit up ol gitl wit a text so we texting back and forth for a min trippng out. So today she hit me with the text she just thinks its better we just go our seperate ways and not speak or see each other no more and now I'm like . Because just last month she was sending Christmas cards and shit to my parents.

So can someone wiser please tell me what part of the game is this and what you think is going on.

 

[glen107wood]

 

[Andeyhollawho]

First of all...her boyfriend found the texting and disapproved of the shit so your ass is once again kicked to the curb.

Second thing...take this shit to SOL NOW. You have been warned!

 

[glen107wood]

seriously though, it sounds like she is catching those familiar feelings that she doesn't necessarily want to catch. so she is playing it safe and trying to "stay over you" by distancing herself. either that or her dude found out and beat the shit out of her.

 

[TRUFICTION]

Dude She Is With Stepped His Game Up
Something Came Down The Pike That Caused Her To Make A Hard Choice.
You May Have Been Used For Just That.

He Got Wind Of Her Shenanigans And Upped The Anty
Or He Kicked Her Ass...........
She Was Getting In Too Deep
All She Really Possibly Wanted Was A Jump Off
And You Didnt React Fast Enough For Her.

You Really Did The Right Thing By Not Rushing In
"fools Rush In".........

 

[DASK]

Kinda hard to answer that when we really don't know her personally. Better of asking someone who knows her better than BGOL does.

 

[LurkMode]

Me and this girl broke up early last year on some lets just do us type shit. We was five years deep or whatever but anyway we bump into each other and we talk, I say some random shit like lets kick it sometime,mind you she has a dude, she say cool and I leave it at that.

She text me the next day trying to set a date so we can kick it, I say I'm busy next week and we pick a day a couple weeks down the line. So she calling me and shit for just random talk and we chit chat and what not.

So I hit up ol gitl wit a text so we texting back and forth for a min trippng out. So today she hit me with the text she just thinks its better we just go our seperate ways and not speak or see each other no more and now I'm like . Because just last month she was sending Christmas cards and shit to my parents.

So can someone wiser please tell me what part of the game is this and what you think is going on.

It's not "part of the game". Ya'll have a long history and she might have thought of the good stuff first. After thinking about it a while, she probably realized it wasn't a good idea to stay in contact with you...too painful or whatever.

or....her man found out about ya'll texts and convo and shook her up a little bit. Either way, try to keep it moving for her benefit.

 

[BGLR1212000]

It's hard to close that book once it's open, aint it? My female friend told me bitches be "swinging on the monkey bars" when it comes to dudes. They got they hand on one, and one on another ready to swing, and then they may swing back if they don't like that new bar. You stopped it in time, because you weren't just gonna fuck.

 

[Lady-Wiz]

First of all...her boyfriend found the texting and disapproved of the shit so your ass is once again kicked to the curb.

probably what happen

 

[m2m]

She probably hit a rough patch with her new guy and needed some support; once they got through it she didn't need you anymore. Or it could've been she was entertaining the thought of getting back with you and gave you sort of a test run before deciding against it.

I don't know how available you made yourself whenever she called or if you were seeing another female at the time but basically she got nostalgic before quickly realizing she really wasn't interested. Regardless you need to move on, you don't need to waste your time with a selfish ass female.

 

[Heist]

90% of bitches are wishy washy, blow hot and cold, and don't know whether they're coming or going.

She just did you a favor. 5 years was long enough for you to decide you didn't need to marry her, right? Great, so leave it alone and go on about your life.

 

[the Imm font]

her man saw the texts and found out, you suppose to do it like a mexican with no insurance. hit and run.

 

[jwilliam85]

She probably hit a rough patch with her new guy and needed some support; once they got through it she didn't need you anymore. Or it could've been she was entertaining the thought of getting back with you and gave you sort of a test run before deciding against it.

I don't know how available you made yourself whenever she called or if you were seeing another female at the time but basically she got nostalgic before quickly realizing she really wasn't interested. Regardless you need to move on, you don't need to waste your time with a selfish ass female.

I feel ya but what female aint selfish?

 

[Built4Life]

I feel ya but what female aint selfish?

She could be on some bs, but you have to ask yourself how you really feel about her.

 

[cocobeauty]

In the beginning she missed you and when she saw you, she thought it was possible you all could fall back in stride. After a while you showed her you were controlling the time of when and it might have triggered issues that caused yall to part in the first place.

So rather than hurt again or go through what she had already been through, she said just forget it. Her man may not of known a thing about you and her communicating, and even if he did, she would still have found a way if she wanted to bad enough.

Its sorta of like, I know what he is about, so let me try to make this one work that I'm with now.

Just my .02.

 

[gene cisco]

Fuck it. She don't know what she want to do with her pussy and that aint never a good thing. Type goofy broad have some dude knocking on your door with a pistol.

 

[jwilliam85]

In the beginning she missed you and when she saw you, she thought it was possible you all could fall back in stride. After a while you showed her you were controlling the time of when and it might have triggered issues that caused yall to part in the first place.

So rather than hurt again or go through what she had already been through, she said just forget it. Her man may not of known a thing about you and her communicating, and even if he did, she would still have found a way if she wanted to bad enough.

Its sorta of like, I know what he is about, so let me try to make this one work that I'm with now.

Just my .02.

 

[jwilliam85]

She could be on some bs, but you have to ask yourself how you really feel about her.

What does that mean? Its obvious I got feelings for her.

 

[furlough]

By not acting on it right away, you gave her time to think & remember how fuked up you were.

 

[Otis Supreme]

First of all...her boyfriend found the texting and disapproved of the shit so your ass is once again kicked to the curb.

Dude She Is With Stepped His Game Up
Something Came Down The Pike That Caused Her To Make A Hard Choice.
You May Have Been Used For Just That.

He Got Wind Of Her Shenanigans And Upped The Anty
Or He Kicked Her Ass...........
She Was Getting In Too Deep
All She Really Possibly Wanted Was A Jump Off
And You Didnt React Fast Enough For Her.

You Really Did The Right Thing By Not Rushing In
"fools Rush In".........

yeah. she prolly wanted some outside dick real quick and u aint respond fast enough. oh well.

 

[freshnclean]

It's hard to close that book once it's open, aint it? My female friend told me bitches be "swinging on the monkey bars" when it comes to dudes. They got they hand on one, and one on another ready to swing, and then they may swing back if they don't like that new bar. You stopped it in time, because you weren't just gonna fuck.

Indeed, its very seldom bitches are really "single"...99.9% of the time they have somebody fuckin them or someone there interested in

 

[teiaperigosa]

yea...same as us

 

[catalina74]

her dude saw the a text she sent you. he checked her ass on some him or me shit and she cut it all off. she really wanted to have her cake and eat it too. meaning she thought it would be nice to kinda keep you around in the event shit dont work out with the current dude. you gotta keep it movin foward. no goin back. when you see her again give her the whole "how u been, good seein you, take care" bullshit, and keep it movin. one thing we as men know and thats pussy is plentiful. get out and get your share. stop looking at her number in you phonebook and delete that shit.

 

[Twiceasnice45]

Me and this girl broke up early last year on some lets just do us type shit. We was five years deep or whatever but anyway we bump into each other and we talk, I say some random shit like lets kick it sometime,mind you she has a dude, she say cool and I leave it at that.

She text me the next day trying to set a date so we can kick it, I say I'm busy next week and we pick a day a couple weeks down the line. So she calling me and shit for just random talk and we chit chat and what not.

So I hit up ol gitl wit a text so we texting back and forth for a min trippng out. So today she hit me with the text she just thinks its better we just go our seperate ways and not speak or see each other no more and now I'm like . Because just last month she was sending Christmas cards and shit to my parents.

So can someone wiser please tell me what part of the game is this and what you think is going on.

I would guess you said something in one of your conversations she did not like or the dude she is with gave her an ultimatum. She might also be testing you to see how serious you are about getting back with her. I guarantee it is one of the three things here.

 

[jwilliam85]

I would guess you said something in one of your conversations she did not like or the dude she is with gave her an ultimatum. She might also be testing you to see how serious you are about getting back with her. I guarantee it is one of the three things here.

Alright I'm game, what if she is testing me? Is there a better way to handle it?

 

[Pure Game]

Im gonna weigh in on it like this.

now I don't know how old you are, but you said yall were together for 5 yrs, and u say yall mutually broke up.

The thing is about most woman is they don't go backwards. A woman isn't gonna go from dating a man with a car to dating one without a car, if you get what im saying. so there was some reason why yall broke up in the first place, cuz if she was perfect and u were yall would still be together

Now iniatially she was thinking of all those good times yall had, but somewhere down the road she realised why yall aren't together still in the first place and put the brakes on the shit, that's all it was

cuz even if her "new" nigga found out about the shit, if she wanted to get rid of that nigga or even just give u some pussy, she would do it anyway, nothing the new nigga could do about it.

I mean basically she probably just realised she didn't want to go down that road with you again, cuz it didn't work the 1st time and u probably didn't give her any reason to think it would be different this time around

 

[Im_Too_Cool]

Similar situation happened with me like two years ago. Shot and simple...I suggest you just leave it alone and move on.

 

[Built4Life]

What does that mean? Its obvious I got feelings for her.

Having feelings means nothing. I have feelings for the bum on the street. Does that mean I want this person to be in my life? What I am saying is what do you want with and from her?

 

[jwilliam85]

Having feelings means nothing. I have feelings for the bum on the street. Does that mean I want this person to be in my life? What I am saying is what do you want with and from her?

Just wanted to kick it and see where it would go from there. At least just be cool.

 

[Scarecrow]

seriously though, it sounds like she is catching those familiar feelings that she doesn't necessarily want to catch. so she is playing it safe and trying to "stay over you" by distancing herself. either that or her dude found out and beat the shit out of her.

end of thread

 

[WhoaIsMe]

fuck her....










































not literally, but just be like "aight" and move on. Unless you want to pursue her and go that "made for TV" route...

 

[followup]

First of all...her boyfriend found the texting and disapproved of the shit so your ass is once again kicked to the curb.

Second thing...take this shit to SOL NOW. You have been warned!

Naw... leave it right here where it belongs.

@ OP: She wanted to get some from you, but you were pussy footing and she changed her mind to not cheat with you. Next time, move faster

 

[Spectrum]

90% of bitches are wishy washy, blow hot and cold, and don't know whether they're coming or going.

She just did you a favor. 5 years was long enough for you to decide you didn't need to marry her, right? Great, so leave it alone and go on about your life.

end of thread/

 

[TheFuser]

In the beginning she missed you and when she saw you, she thought it was possible you all could fall back in stride. After a while you showed her you were controlling the time of when and it might have triggered issues that caused yall to part in the first place.

So rather than hurt again or go through what she had already been through, she said just forget it. Her man may not of known a thing about you and her communicating, and even if he did, she would still have found a way if she wanted to bad enough.

Its sorta of like, I know what he is about, so let me try to make this one work that I'm with now.

Just my .02.

I was thinking something along the lines of this when I read the OP.

 

[DADDY4HOES]

...she threw you away twice, so what advice do you need.....how to land?