I hope this helps.
you stupid leroy
I hope this helps.
King Midas in reverse, everything I touch turns to shit.
Yea that shit had me dying ing I might have that touch but I'm trying to change
Ever been in love or something like it? Everybody doesn't believe in "being in love". I didn't for a very very long time- even older than you.
I had crushes on women...some girls who wanted to get with me... didn't cause most black women are about themselves...every girl i wanted to get with has told me i'm everything they want in a man...but,nothing so far...i have no kids,i'm not gay or on the down low,never been arrested,don't do drugs,etc...simply put,i'm a good man...20 to 25% of all black women are worth a damn anyway,so...
All I tell you is that it not my time yet....I get asked that ALL the time by mostly females. When I tell them i'm single and have no kids, first they can't believe it, then they immediately think it's something i'm doing wrong or if there's something wrong with me. I just laugh.....my moms has never full court pressed me about it, but she has mentioned that she wishes that I was married.
My last serious relationship was 4 years ago, and after that I decided to just get into me more...and i'm cool with that. I'd rather be alone and happy then to settle and be miserable like some people I know who are already married.
At this point I just leave it in GOD's hands, maybe he has a better plan for me, they say the Lord works in mysterious ways.
Femme knows.
She knows I attract unstable women who hate me an love me.
I'm also an emotionally challenged, shallow, selfishly prideful, spoiled, impatient only child who is basically King Midas in reverse, everything I touch turns to shit.
what part of chicago is all white?
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your name is false advertisement and why do you wanna be a hick?.
you tryna get lynched?.
where u stay in chicago?.
Good thread. My dude, don't let your folks pressure you to get with any woman. Especially a woman from church.This has been on my mind for a minute. I guess everytime I really wanna go to the next level, I get the cold feet. I'm honest, it really ain't about chasing pussy, or being a bacholer anymore, I've gotten so use to being alone, that it's a big part of me. Yesterday was really tough. My family (the women) ganged up on me, about having a wife, children. My mom is all over me about that. I told her, I respected her enough not to have children with a woman that i didn't truly love. All day they matched me up with women from church, they're friends daughters, all kinds of women, that shit was crazy. My dad says I did the right thing, by not settling, but he did ask me, was there anybody special.
I used to believe in soul mates and all that jazz. I'm not so sure anymore.
i'm a good man...20 to 25% of all black women are worth a damn anyway,so...
That's not a good attitude to have. And most women are about themselves. Most PEOPLE are about themselves.
I've just been trying to give me some myself some me time and just relax on the relationship stuff. I'm trying to learn how to be patient again. . . and just become a better person because the old me would have already replaced my ex.
But I must add the single life isn't bad. I'm starting to get used to being alone now and it really feels peaceful. .
I've already had two husbands and I can honestly say that marriage is not what it used to be. The chances of you finding the "right" person are slim to none. Being single has more advantages for me.
I agree Jam Jam. All this shit is a crap shoot. Believe it or not, I just determined that shit -- I mean REALLY accepted it -- within the last 2 years.
Number 1, Marriage is overrated. I did all the right things the right way . And still, I am going thru a divorce right now. I went school, graduated with a bachelors, landed a good job, met a man, got engaged for 2 years, married him, had a baby 3 years later. The marriage went south and I realized it was no longer healthy to be in, even for my daughters sake. Im saying all this shit to say that even if you do the right things shit can still be jacked up.
Number 2, Relationships are nice, but not necessary. (I wish the "old school" generation would accept that shit! I hear them talk about how my female cousins must be gay because they are in their 30s and not married! WTF?!?!) Fuck all that. MFs need to focus on going to school, getting the paper, get a good job, KEEPING THE JOB, save money and invest wisely. (Over Thanksgiving, I heard 3 stories from college drop-outs wishing they'd stayed in school. Degrees can make a $30K difference on an entry level job!!) I digress. Anyway, if you are single, sure you may get lonely! But I've learned that thats the time to focus on improving self, obtain new skills, enjoy family, improve faith, join organizations and volunteer in the community.
Number 3. Like the SOS Band says, Take your time do it right. Im kicking myself in the ass for not heeding this advice I got years ago. Now, I truly know what it means. WTF is everyone rushing to be in committed relationships for? They are time consuming, expensive and stressful. Although I no longer have casual sex (It's so not safe and hell, I'm 32 with a daughter!), my focus is on my child and being a good, solid provider and role model. But when I do get the patience (and energy) to settle down with a man again, it will be slow and easy, giving 100%.
This has been on my mind for a minute. I guess everytime I really wanna go to the next level, I get the cold feet. I'm honest, it really ain't about chasing pussy, or being a bacholer anymore, I've gotten so use to being alone, that it's a big part of me. Yesterday was really tough. My family (the women) ganged up on me, about having a wife, children. My mom is all over me about that. I told her, I respected her enough not to have children with a woman that i didn't truly love. All day they matched me up with women from church, they're friends daughters, all kinds of women, that shit was crazy. My dad says I did the right thing, by not settling, but he did ask me, was there anybody special.
Marriage is a whole different animal than a career or accomplishments. The same qualities that can make you successful in other aspects of life can doom a marriage. Marriage or a long term relationship has to be approached from a different angle. That shit isn't a notch on one's belt.
I understand that totally.
I've been by myself for a long time.
I think I'm used to it now.
And after I dealt with the cancer thing, I honestly lost ALOT of patience for alot of things including relationships. I find I have very little patience for much of anything now. It's not a good foundation to build a relationship on.
I hope this helps.
Femme knows.
She knows I attract unstable women who hate me an love me.
I'm also an emotionally challenged, shallow, selfishly prideful, spoiled, impatient only child who is basically King Midas in reverse, everything I touch turns to shit.
I agree Jam Jam. All this shit is a crap shoot. Believe it or not, I just determined that shit -- I mean REALLY accepted it -- within the last 2 years.
Number 1, Marriage is overrated. I did all the right things the right way . And still, I am going thru a divorce right now. I went school, graduated with a bachelors, landed a good job, met a man, got engaged for 2 years, married him, had a baby 3 years later. The marriage went south and I realized it was no longer healthy to be in, even for my daughters sake. Im saying all this shit to say that even if you do the right things shit can still be jacked up.
Number 2, Relationships are nice, but not necessary. (I wish the "old school" generation would accept that shit! I hear them talk about how my female cousins must be gay because they are in their 30s and not married! WTF?!?!) Fuck all that. MFs need to focus on going to school, getting the paper, get a good job, KEEPING THE JOB, save money and invest wisely. (Over Thanksgiving, I heard 3 stories from college drop-outs wishing they'd stayed in school. Degrees can make a $30K difference on an entry level job!!) I digress. Anyway, if you are single, sure you may get lonely! But I've learned that thats the time to focus on improving self, obtain new skills, enjoy family, improve faith, join organizations and volunteer in the community.
Number 3. Like the SOS Band says, Take your time do it right. Im kicking myself in the ass for not heeding this advice I got years ago. Now, I truly know what it means. WTF is everyone rushing to be in committed relationships for? They are time consuming, expensive and stressful. Although I no longer have casual sex (It's so not safe and hell, I'm 32 with a daughter!), my focus is on my child and being a good, solid provider and role model. But when I do get the patience (and energy) to settle down with a man again, it will be slow and easy, giving 100%.
Two words for me: Trust issues
I have passed on at least three keepers because of my trust issues...
I also don't believe in unconditional love between two people unless it involves a parent and a child. Every other type of relationship is conditional.