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Big Philly said:
I love my wife and I have 17 years in. She looks just like the chick in my avitar and if I knew then what I know now I would have gotten out of it before I made good money and before I had a bunch of kids. Listen don't be miserable no matter how fine she is or how much you love the kid!!!
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You're speaking from experiene...

Many married men will tell you that if they knew then... what they know now... they would have not married the woman.

Women are masters of deception.... why do you think they put on make up and wear wigs... its a disguise.:lol::lol::lol:
 
taikun said:
Yo Fam,

The wife has taxed the last of my nerves. She has turned me into a little bitch with all the naggin and straight bullshit. I got a 2 month old that I want to RAISE and a good salary. I never hit her nor been caught cheating. What should I do to prepare to free this bitch? (clown if you must...but this shit is real.)
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Re-examine that word in bold above!

You don't "know" what SHE KNOWS!

Finally, your GOOD SALARY won't be SHIT WHEN SHE'S TAKING A HUGE CHUNK OF IT!

Take care of that "caught" part, and stay outta them streets!

It is CHEAPER TO KEEP HER, and better for your child!
 
gameboy said:
quit your job and start begging her for money,,, bitch will be gone like the wind,,,

then when she leaves, cry and beg her to stay,,, this will ensure that the bitch will never bother you again or ask you for shit
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what dude says is real shit. Take control by giving fake control. U both win that way. U get what u want, she gets rid of a lazy bum...(in disguise):D
 
PrettyToney said:
Remember, just ask yourself...

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Honestly u gotta do u seems when these women have babies they lose half their brains. U gotta just worry about u and your kid people don't get married these days expecting to be for the next twenty years have fun meet new people start cheating a unhappy relationship is a unhealthy relationship get ready to move on. It seems like when people start nagging they seem to think the found something better(comparing GUYS).Man have intuition too it u think
it's something (cheating) else 90% of the time it probably is. PEACE
 
taikun said:
Yo Fam,

The wife has taxed the last of my nerves. She has turned me into a little bitch with all the naggin and straight bullshit. I got a 2 month old that I want to RAISE and a good salary. I never hit her nor been caught cheating. What should I do to prepare to free this bitch? (clown if you must...but this shit is real.)
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Dog some real advice.
If you can do it. take your kid with you. If you got all the street runnin and playin outta ya system. Man up and take your kid. If you have a good support structure, decent payin job, and can show you will be able to be there for your child.
1) it will be cheaper
2) You have the control of your money.. not the courts or her.
3) Men are generally more forgiving when it comes to things like visitation and such.

Believe me, I have custody of my child.
I made the choice to ALWAYS be there for my kid.
I didnt let her mother scare me or let her friends talk bullshit into her ears.
Even though she and I are best friends, I protected myself thru the legal system. Why?
She might meet a man someday, who gases her head up with how she's not a good mother or, He would never take her child away type shit.

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

I repeated that, because men tend to wait, and let her do all the shit. Then you end up paying for it.

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!
 
Tazirai said:
Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

I repeated that, because men tend to wait, and let her do all the shit. Then you end up paying for it.

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!
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Thats another good point and I'll co-sign to that because sometimes it helps to be the first one to make the move...

but...but...you gotta be cautious and make sure you have a good lawyer. At most, you will still end up with joint custody. Seeking the right to become custodial parent against a mother is quite difficult. You've got to prove she has serious issues enough for her to be proven an unfit mother. Especially if the child is under 5.
 
bgbtylvr said:
On the risk of getting clowned right along with you, i will say that, being that the child is only 2 months old, she is probably going through quite a bit with a child that young and new to both of you. I would say stay and try and work it out. Ask her what is bothering her then...THEN.. let her run her fucking mouth until she gets it all out. Been with my girl 11 years, and the one thing i learned is they gon' talk whether you listen or not, but this time, listen. Don't just walk out cuz, not right now. She may be tired from getting no sleep, still in some pain or discomfort from giving birth, and going threw some withdraws. Life does change drastically when you pop one out, so she may just be seeing all thse life changes and odd feeding/changing hours flash before her eyes.

Talk to her, but let her do all the talking! All the damn talking, LOL!!! Don't even interrupt when she's saying off the wall shit,let her talk long enough to solve her own problem.
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First competent advice I've read in this thread. People are so quick to quit on marriage. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. Have you and your wife ever worked through any problems before? Do you feel like you married her for the right reasons? Do you feel like you married the right person? Do you love her? If your answer to any of those questions is yes, then you need to carefully weigh your options, and don't do anything spur of the moment.

Most importantly, does she have any idea that you feel the way you do? Your marriage will never work if you handle your problems by scheming around your spouse like some of the bruh's here are telling you to do. You need to communicate how you feel to your wife. Not yell, communicate. Tell her as many times as you need to, 'cause sometimes women are hard of hearing. Tell her how you feel and then listen to how she feels. Get marriage counseling. Unless you can honestly say that your marriage was a mistake from the get-go, you should make every attempt to work it out.

No one is perfect, and everyone changes. You have be willing to adapt, and hope that you are with someone that is willing to adapt to you. Not saying that this is the case with you, but a majority of the people that are married and get a divorce generally do so more for misunderstandings that might have been worked out, rather than major problems like infidelity. Communication is the most basic aspect of any relationship, yet it is the most difficult to maintain. It's real easy to bottle up your feelings (especially as a man), but eventually this will cause you to explode.

A practical question and/or aspect of reasoning behind not getting a divorce is this. Are you going to be alone for the rest of your life? If you are like a lot of men (myself included), it will be nearly impossible for you exist without another marriage or serious relationship after you have been married. Notice how many men get re-married after divorce (many of them jumping right back into it), or at least get into serious relationships. What men don't realize is that unless you divorced your ex for something major (ie infidelity, or she was mentally unstable) then you are signing yourself up for the same problems.

Different tune, same melody. Women are different, but the fundamental quips and inconsistencies you find in one woman, you will eventually find in another, if you hang around long enough. They might take longer to manifest, and/or the new woman may be better at hiding it then your old woman, but you will eventually go through the same stuff. You will have spent time learning and getting used to a whole new woman, only to find out that she shares a lot of the same "qualities" as the woman you left.

There are just something's that men are not going to like and/or understand about women, and will have to learn to deal with or
face being alone. The grass might seem greener but it's not. Sorry so long, just some food for thought. Marriage can be a beautiful thing, if you and your spouse are willing to work through it.
 
gameboy said:
quit your job and start begging her for money,,, bitch will be gone like the wind,,,

then when she leaves, cry and beg her to stay,,, this will ensure that the bitch will never bother you again or ask you for shit
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This is sad, but true....women can dish it out but cant take it...
 
taikun said:
Yo Fam,

The wife has taxed the last of my nerves. She has turned me into a little bitch with all the naggin and straight bullshit. I got a 2 month old that I want to RAISE and a good salary. I never hit her nor been caught cheating. What should I do to prepare to free this bitch? (clown if you must...but this shit is real.)
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You want to "free that bitch" or do you want your wife back? And what's up with never been caught cheating shit? Meaning you've been cheating and she has no proof? Trust me cousin, if you have cheated, she's got proof. In fact, you don't know what she's got. It might not hold up in court but she's got proof.

You make good money with a 2 month old and yet you call her a bitch. Seems to me you need to calm the fuck down and reassess things.

First off, quit calling her names. I don't care what she says or what she does. Don't ever call her names. If you gotta cuss, it's always cool in my opinon to cuss about some "thing" but not at her for reasons that should be painfully obvious to you.

Secondly, quit cheating on your wife. You ain't neva been that slick and the fact you're talking about the bail is because you know she got you dead to rights. That or guilt is kicking your natural ass.

Thirdly, get with the fact that you're married and just because you're head of household doesn't mean you run shit. You don't. The manager does. That manager is your wife.

So get with the program. It's why you hired her in the first place so don't try to micro manage what she does. Managers hate that shit.

Now go and see if you can get that woman to trust you again. You don't make enough money for child support AND alimony too.

-VG
 
One thing for sure: this isn't the place to resolve this. Go see a counsellor or priest or something.
 
femmenoire said:
My mother who is a nurse told me a story when I was about 10 or 11 about post partum depression. In this case a woman going through it accidentally killed her kid and when she realized it she killed herself. Her husband had come home to find both dead.

It is very serious. It's really a shame that black people still do not take mental illnesses seriously. We have so many things against us...most of all ourselves.
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ITS TRUE. MOST OLDER WOMEN(PERIOD) UNDERSTAND THIS, THATS WHY THEY MOVE IN OR CLOSER TO THE NEW MOTHER. TO EASE THE STRESS AND TO GIVE THE MOTHER THE ATTENTION THAT SHE COULD BE CRAVING.
 
VegasGuy said:
You want to "free that bitch" or do you want your wife back? And what's up with never been caught cheating shit? Meaning you've been cheating and she has no proof? Trust me cousin, if you have cheated, she's got proof. In fact, you don't know what she's got. It might not hold up in court but she's got proof.

You make good money with a 2 month old and yet you call her a bitch. Seems to me you need to calm the fuck down and reassess things.

First off, quit calling her names. I don't care what she says or what she does. Don't ever call her names. If you gotta cuss, it's always cool in my opinon to cuss about some "thing" but not at her for reasons that should be painfully obvious to you.

Secondly, quit cheating on your wife. You ain't neva been that slick and the fact you're talking about the bail is because you know she got you dead to rights. That or guilt is kicking your natural ass.
Thirdly, get with the fact that you're married and just because you're head of household doesn't mean you run shit. You don't. The manager does. That manager is your wife.

So get with the program. It's why you hired her in the first place so don't try to micro manage what she does. Managers hate that shit.
Now go and see if you can get that woman to trust you again. You don't make enough money for child support AND alimony too.
-VG
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Last 2 replies are the best I've heard on the topic. A stark reminder of why I'm not married and dont plan to be.
 
I.F. UCKEDYABITCH said:
ITS TRUE. MOST OLDER WOMEN(PERIOD) UNDERSTAND THIS, THATS WHY THEY MOVE IN OR CLOSER TO THE NEW MOTHER. TO EASE THE STRESS AND TO GIVE THE MOTHER THE ATTENTION THAT SHE COULD BE CRAVING.
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Mothers don't do that any more. There is no sense of family or family support because there is no family structure anymore.

That's why you see the kinds of responses you're reading in this post.

"Just leave her"

What a shame.
 
bromack1 said:
Yes... but at the end of the day...it was all his wife's doings... not his...

Post partum depression and mental illness are sorely misunderstood within the black community. But what we gotta understand is, the person with the problem has the primary responsibility to seek out help. You alone can't force them...

The "victims" of the abusive behavior are not obligated to stay and hang around (and that applies whether its a man or woman). Sadly, the only real wake up call that gets the most attention for people dealing with mental health issues is.... when they're loved ones finally walk away from them.
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WTF ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? THEY DONT SEEK HELP BECAUSE THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THAT THEY NEED HELP! AND IF YOU LOVE THEM THEN YOU HAVE TO STAY TO GIVE AND OR SEE THAT THEY GET HELP. OR ELSE YOULL LOSE THEM AND MAYBE THE KIDS. THIS IS A CLASSIC EXAMPLE OF THE MISUNDERSTANDING OF MENTAL HEALTH. YOU THINK SHELL GET BETTER NOW THAT YOUVE LEFT HER ALONE? FUCK NO, YOU JUST ADDED MORE STRESS AND PROBLEMS, LET ALONE THE FACT THAT NOW SHELL GO INTO "NOBODY WANTS ME, HE LEFT ME BECAUSE OF THE BABY, ITS ALL THE BABYs FAULT!" WHAT DO YOU THINK COULD HAPPEN NEXT?


IF YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE OR KNOWLEDGE OTHER THAN YOUR SHITTY ASS LIFE AND SITUATIONS STFU!
 
femmenoire said:
Mothers don't do that any more. There is no sense of family or family support because there is no family structure anymore.

That's why you see the kinds of responses you're reading in this post.

"Just leave her"

What a shame.
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DIG THAT! READ MY LAST POST.

IM GLAD I STILL KNOW MOTHERS OF THIS CALIBER, ITS AN IMPORTANT FUNDAMENTAL OF POST PARTUM. ESPECIALLY FOR 1ST TIME MOTHERS. WHEN I WAS IN THE NAVY PHARM WINDOW I SAW SO MUCH OF THESE SITUATIONS. I ALSO SAW ALOT OF THE GRANDMOTHERS THERE FOR SUPPORT.
 
gameboy said:
quit your job and start begging her for money,,, bitch will be gone like the wind,,,

then when she leaves, cry and beg her to stay,,, this will ensure that the bitch will never bother you again or ask you for shit
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:lol::lol: Brilliant!

Been tellin' catz for the longest, never have the responsibility of cuttin' a chick off, let her leave you...leave the guilt onto her.
 
As Pro Black As You Cats Wanna Seem, It Seems Pretty Funny That Yall Find No Problem Telling This Cat To Break Up Another Black Family.
 
femmenoire said:
Mothers don't do that any more. There is no sense of family or family support because there is no family structure anymore.

That's why you see the kinds of responses you're reading in this post.

"Just leave her"

What a shame.
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Dont forget that our social and family structures are broken as well. Too much focus on "womans lib" has women not wanting to be traditional mothers and raise their children. Shit on tv like that show with Russel Simmons wife Kimora where on camera she actiually seems pained on days where she had had to perform "mommy duty". (not saying if she's a good parent or not, it just comes off bad) Has females out there like, "yeah, I want to be like her" thinking family life is for lames.

Men can't be expected to have traditional responses in untraditional times. We need to fix this from all angles, not just reactionary ones. Let's get down to the causes.
 
I.F. UCKEDYABITCH said:
As Pro Black As You Cats Wanna Seem, It Seems Pretty Funny That Yall Find No Problem Telling This Cat To Break Up Another Black Family.
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I think our hearts are in the same place as far as black people, but we may differ on the process of getting there. Obviously the family structures have broken down, which means there is a flaw in the system... And it didnt begin with this young man!

Lets look at why marriage is failing across the board, then look at its effectiveness in success, its application and meaning in these current times, and so on.

I think he should work it out.. Unless it will break him and make the home an uncomfortable place to be. My folks broke up, but both loved me and cared for me, they just couldn't be happy together. We are all happy and apart now.
 
KhilPhil said:
I think our hearts are in the same place as far as black people, but we may differ on the process of getting there. Obviously the family structures have broken down, which means there is a flaw in the system... And it didnt begin with this young man!

Lets look at why marriage is failing across the board, then look at its effectiveness in success, its application and meaning in these current times, and so on.

I think he should work it out.. Unless it will break him and make the home an uncomfortable place to be. My folks broke up, but both loved me and cared for me, they just couldn't be happy together. We are all happy and apart now.
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SOUNDS AS IF HE IS JUST READY TO CUT AND RUN, WITHOUT TRYING. THEN IT DOESNT HELP THAT THESE ASSHOLES ARE TELLING HIM THAT HE'S RIGHT IN THINKING THAT. YES WE MUST LOOK ACROSS THE BOARD AND ADDRESS THE PROBLEM AS A WHOLE, HOWEVER, YOU MUST START SOMEWHERE. :hmm: 1 FAMILY AT A TIME, LETS START A NEW TREND, SOMETHING THEY USED TO DO BACK IN THE DAY, ITS CALLED "BEING A FAMILY UNDER 1 HOUSEHOLD, AND STAYING A FAMILY UNDER 1 HOUSEHOLD." NOW IF AFTER YOU TRY AND TRY AND TRY, THEN A MUTUAL AGREEMENT SHOULD BE MADE, NOT JUST A CUT AND RUN. SAM ESITUATION I HAD POP BOUNCED, I HAD ALOT OF HATRED FOR HIM, NOW IM TOO OLD FOR THAT SHIT, BUT I ALWAYS USED TO THINK ABOUT WHAT IF HE STAYED? LUCKILY I HAD ALOT OF OTHER POSITIVE MALE ROLE MODELS. CATS THEY DID WHAT THEY WERE SUPPOSED TO DO FOR THEMSELVES AND THEIR FAMILIES, AND I LEARNED FROM THEM.

IT KILLS ME THAT CATS THINK, "OH I GOT MONEY AND SHIT, I CAN START A FAMILY. WELL IF YOUR NOT MENTAL READY, OR MENTALLY STRONG ENOUGH TO STEP UP IN CASES OF UNPLANNED PREGNANCIES, THEN KEEP THE BAG ON!
 
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Tazirai said:
Dog some real advice.
If you can do it. take your kid with you. If you got all the street runnin and playin outta ya system. Man up and take your kid. If you have a good support structure, decent payin job, and can show you will be able to be there for your child.
1) it will be cheaper
2) You have the control of your money.. not the courts or her.
3) Men are generally more forgiving when it comes to things like visitation and such.

Believe me, I have custody of my child.
I made the choice to ALWAYS be there for my kid.
I didnt let her mother scare me or let her friends talk bullshit into her ears.
Even though she and I are best friends, I protected myself thru the legal system. Why?
She might meet a man someday, who gases her head up with how she's not a good mother or, He would never take her child away type shit.

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!

I repeated that, because men tend to wait, and let her do all the shit. Then you end up paying for it.

Take your kid, follow the law, don't let her scare you, put the legal system on your side FIRST!!!
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^^^^^^^^^^^^

I agree. I'am not married. But from what I've seen from my parents relationship and Other older people along with my own personal experiences with females. Lumped in with the horror stories from BGOL. I can easly say that your peace of mind is far more valuble than trying to salvage a relationship that's not working. what I'd do is give her a little more time two or three months try talking too her to find out what the problem is. If shit don't improve. Put your lawyer on speed dial. Definitly get custody of your Child.
And after that go off and enjoy your life with your
Child. :yes:
 
Walks into the bedroom put on my green army Fatigue suite grab the 45 and shotgun scream out HONEY LETS GO 4 A WALK problems solved
 
Take a step back and think about if it's really that bad. Everybody girl's nags. At least every dude I know in a relationship has a nagging wife. It's just shit you gotta deal with.

Yo, what I'm about to say alot of dudes might disagree with:

But there has to be a certain level of fear your wife has to have for you. I'm NOT talking about a wife beater. But she has to repect you. Fear and respect go hand in hand most times. Real talk.
 
Thick Johnson said:
Always let a girl leave you....Its waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay easier.:yes:

It makes them feel better. You dont want her vindictive cause she has the upper hand.
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Niiiiiice
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spoken like a true coward. no man should be passive aggressive.

2 months after the baby isn't the time to leave your girl. but if you don't see yourself, anger aside, w the chick later on then leave, dont waste each others time. were you having problems w the chick before the baby?
 
I.F. UCKEDYABITCH said:
WTF ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? THEY DONT SEEK HELP BECAUSE THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THAT THEY NEED HELP! AND IF YOU LOVE THEM THEN YOU HAVE TO STAY TO GIVE AND OR SEE THAT THEY GET HELP. OR ELSE YOULL LOSE THEM AND MAYBE THE KIDS. THIS IS A CLASSIC EXAMPLE OF THE MISUNDERSTANDING OF MENTAL HEALTH. YOU THINK SHELL GET BETTER NOW THAT YOUVE LEFT HER ALONE? FUCK NO, YOU JUST ADDED MORE STRESS AND PROBLEMS, LET ALONE THE FACT THAT NOW SHELL GO INTO "NOBODY WANTS ME, HE LEFT ME BECAUSE OF THE BABY, ITS ALL THE BABYs FAULT!" WHAT DO YOU THINK COULD HAPPEN NEXT?


IF YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE OR KNOWLEDGE OTHER THAN YOUR SHITTY ASS LIFE AND SITUATIONS STFU!
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Dude... I got plenty of life experience.... thats why I say... save "yourself" while you can... dump the bitch .....cause it ain't gonna get any better.

Also, get real... if someone has to come to a porn board to get advice... then chances are, his situation is really "f" ed up.

Wouldn't it be much easier just to talk directly to her???? Obviously it ain't.



.:lol::lol::lol:
 
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