How are you? Mental Health Check-In

[TEN]

Hey Brotha, glad you are well and glad you had a great vacation with family.

I think I have frozen shoulder now and this is about to take me out. I'm trying to get in to see my Dr now. I was told it was a symptom of menopause (yes I'm that old now lol) but this is not for the weak.

Hey hun,
Frozen shoulder is horrid in the beginning and mid stages (it has 3 stages) the pain is hard to describe and you lose usual mobility in said arm, and reach. The last stage, called the thaw, is a great relief..thats where iam now, pains gone and getting arm reach and arm mobility back. Full recovery can take as long as a year plus. Ironically enough my doc had it too that's why she recognised it quick in me. Ive also had physiotherapy sessions but I found exercises at home helped more. It can happen in one arm/shoulder one year and then the next shoulder years later, or not. I've had it in both now. Some peeps say Chinese acupuncture helped them too.

 

[dHustla]

I honestly don't remember why I hate, you so that should tell you I don't...hate you. You more than likely became disrespectful at some point, but it's water under the bridge because I refuse to go dig up the why.

But what ever it is what that last line, you are aight and you will get through whatever it is.

If or when I've ever been disrespectful or offensive, I apologize, it was never my intention. It has come to my attention that sometimes my efforts to be funny are fringe or borderline offensive.

 

[dHustla]

I've been debating whether to share this & where to put it..

UPDATE:

During a roadtrip this past summer I was driving with my girl, not far from where I was born, and asked what she thought about me trying to find some relatives on my biological father's side, she encouraged me, so we pull over and start searching on phones.

For context, my father has 6 kids (that we know of); In birth order: A daughter 13 years marriage, another daughter by his wife, me (oldest son), a son by his wife, then 2 sons by his sister's best friend.

Sigh... I found out a brother committed suicide in 2018 (his son by his wife), oldest sister moved to Texas, I believe I found my biological father's address, we pulled up, but after second thought I didn't want to meet him, so we pulled off.
I was able to find & meet the second youngest brother, after some tense questions about my identity & intentions he let his guard down and was welcoming. That felt good. I told him I felt like I was kept away intentionally, he replied, "You were. You can't keep someone from their siblings by mistake". That really resonated. We stood outside talking for over an hour, introduced my girl, he's 32, introduced me to 3 of his sons that were outside playing, he has 5 kids total. I didn't get to meet his/our younger brother, he's 30.
Also, visited an aunt and cousin I had met before when I was 18 that was cool, too. They were able to put me in touch with oldest sister in Texas, she's 50, divorced and has 5 kids by her ex-husband that are all young adults now.
We've been keeping in touch periodically.

I still feel like I don't belong, on either side.

It's clear that it was a concerted effort to keep me separated from my father's side. After explaining it to a friend, they called it selfish, by all parties. It's not just the alienation from siblings, but also grandparents when they were still alive, now I have to hear stories and look a pictures of memories that were made without me, ask questions about how my grandmother was, how my grandfather was.

As well as missing a sense of belonging, I'm also missing a sense of identity

"The stone that the builder refused"

Compounded, lately, by financial uncertainty, business not going so well, and a few other troubling issues ... maybe I'm not ok.

Gotta keep going, tho.

 

[dik cashmere]

I've been debating whether to share this & where to put it..


Compounded, lately, by financial uncertainty, business not going so well, and a few other troubling issues ... maybe I'm not ok.

Gotta keep going, tho.

Keep pushing, I’m going through something similar

 

[The Jamaican]

Survived the worst hurricane ever to hit Jamaica yesterday. The fear of uncertainty with mother nature and the lack of control over an event like that rewires your brain.

 

[Lurk Diggler]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

 

[jawnswoop]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

Damn, sorry for your loss. I remembered this old saying about "parents never should have to bury their child"

 

[dik cashmere]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

My condolences

 

[tallblacknyc]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

My condolences also

 

[tallblacknyc]

Survived the worst hurricane ever to hit Jamaica yesterday. The fear of uncertainty with mother nature and the lack of control over an event like that rewires your brain.

Glad to hear you were able to survive that ordeal

 

[Black 454]

Condolences Godspeed

 

[The Jamaican]

Glad to hear you were able to survive that ordeal

Give thanks. I was among the lucky

 

[jawnswoop]

Survived the worst hurricane ever to hit Jamaica yesterday. The fear of uncertainty with mother nature and the lack of control over an event like that rewires your brain.

I'm glad you're safe to tell your story.

 

[The Jamaican]

I'm glad you're safe to tell your story.

Give thanks brother.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

I've had it in both now. Some peeps say Chinese acupuncture helped them too.

Chinese acupussypuncture works the best. It's the Truth.


It's what the doctor ordered.

 

[TEN]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

Sending sincere condolences your way bro. May your son rest in peace and love.

 

[dHustla]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

Sorry to hear this. My deepest condolences

 

[slewdem100]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

Condolences Boss...much condolences

 

[cocobeauty]

If or when I've ever been disrespectful or offensive, I apologize, it was never my intention. It has come to my attention that sometimes my efforts to be funny are fringe or borderline offensive.

It's all good.

I've been debating whether to share this & where to put it..


Compounded, lately, by financial uncertainty, business not going so well, and a few other troubling issues ... maybe I'm not ok.

Gotta keep going, tho.

Yes you have to keep going.

Survived the worst hurricane ever to hit Jamaica yesterday. The fear of uncertainty with mother nature and the lack of control over an event like that rewires your brain.

Thanking God you're here to tell us. Praying you get through it.

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

My sincerest condolences.

 

[cocobeauty]

When I made this thread it was just me really wondering how everyone was because so much is going on especially in the US.

Over the last two weeks I had no idea I would possibly have to face a health scare I thought was a done deal 27 years ago, only to find out it may have come back, but thank God all is well. But I couldn't think straight in the waiting phase of it. Mentally I didn't know if I was coming or going, but I'm good and I pray things continue to get better for all of us.

 

[SamSneed]

We’re doing great

Wife’s health is good. I need to hit va up for appointments.

We finally hit the humane society and adopted a kitten, he was the only one to reach for me

Wife noticed his right eye was missing, he came in with an infection and they had to remove it,

We named him Willy, like the one eyed pirate from the goonies

My wife loves the lil fool, he sleeps close to her

our female cat is still adjusting to it, Ol selfish ass cat.

 

[cocobeauty]

We’re doing great

Wife’s health is good. I need to hit va up for appointments.

We finally hit the humane society and adopted a kitten, he was the only one to reach for me

Wife noticed his right eye was missing, he came in with an infection and they had to remove it,

We named him Willy, like the one eyed pirate from the goonies

My wife loves the lil fool, he sleeps close to her

our female cat his still adjusting to it, Ol selfish ass cat.

I’m not a cat person but this made me smile. I’ve always heard an animal chooses you not the other way around, so this was perfect.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

When I made this thread it was just me really wondering how everyone was because so much is going on especially in the US.

Over the last two weeks I had no idea I would possibly have to face a health scare I thought was a done deal 27 years ago, only to find out it may have come back, but thank God all is well. But I couldn't think straight in the waiting phase of it. Mentally I didn't know if I was coming or going, but I'm good and I pray things continue to get better for all of us.

Glad to hear all is well, CB.


The waiting phase is always trying.

 

[SamSneed]

I’m not a cat person but this made me smile. I’ve always heard an animal chooses you not the other way around, so this was perfect.

My old dog passed least yr, kept him at my moms. I buried him in my back yard.

Always kept a cat tho, kit was my boy, he loved to get high with me. I know he’s gone, he never came back. Just wish I had his body to make grave.

Ella came to my job, wife calls her my side chic, she follows me all over the house

I just love cats

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

I’m not a cat person but this made me smile. I’ve always heard an animal chooses you not the other way around, so this was perfect.

a runt would pick Sneed .....

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

My old dog passed least yr, kept him at my moms. I buried him in my back yard.

Always kept a cat tho, kit was my boy, he loved to get high with me. I know he’s gone, he never came back. Just wish I had his body to make grave.

Ella came to my job, wife calls her my side chic, she follows me all over the house

I just love cats

shyt, my snake " Julius Ceasar " died last week. snake was with me for 30+ yrs .....

 

[BlackGoku]

We’re doing great

Wife’s health is good. I need to hit va up for appointments.

We finally hit the humane society and adopted a kitten, he was the only one to reach for me

Wife noticed his right eye was missing, he came in with an infection and they had to remove it,

We named him Willy, like the one eyed pirate from the goonies

My wife loves the lil fool, he sleeps close to her

our female cat is still adjusting to it, Ol selfish ass cat.

Thats great to hear. Glad you're doing great fam! Cats...lol

 

[BlackGoku]

shyt, my snake " Julius Ceasar " died last week. snake was with me for 30+ yrs .....

Sorry to hear that...what kind of snake was it?

 

[ThaBurgerPimp]

Do you like it there?

Sorry i wasn't able to get back to this quicker..

Yes it's great here so far,my cousin and his wife live in a loft so i basically have a whole area to myself..his wife has family in Montreal so we might head that way for Christmas

 

[Texas Catdaddy]

Sorry to hear that...what kind of snake was it?

ball python ..... fukka was the size of a large earthworm when I bought him, close to 5" when he died ....

 

[LegendOfLedo]

To be honest struggling. Finalized a divorce that all but ruined me financially, off work for a couple months for a back/injury for 2 months out of the year. Bosses riding me the first half of the year and when I got back from injury the fuckers thought I was faking it. Turned 40 this year and have 19 years in the place but updating my resume. There's no shot of promotion here.

On the bright side I think I found the right woman that will pray for and with me, but taking it slow and being patient. My kids continue to be the force that drives. Anxious to see where things are next year

 

[PJN]

Just buried my son… I’m fucked up right now but determined to keep it pushing somehow. I still got time on my clock so gotta play the game

My sincere condolences brotha, damn!

 

[PJN]

I remember when this board used to be beef central. Good to see us doing some growing up and letting go of nonsense that don’t contribute positively to our wellbeing. I would say this prolly comes with age but then I get realized who’s in the WH - grown and stupid.

 

[tebriel69]

Truth be told, on my part, I have hit some serious rough spots.

1. Plucking grey hairs is not as effective. I'm officially a salt-and-pepper guy.
2. My clients are draining, and business is slow. Companies are shying away from anything/anyone black
3. My girl and I are taking time off. She's spiraling emotionally and mentally.
4. My friend's husband has constant seizures and lupus and can't work (she's holding the family down despite her spiraling)
5. Trying to buy a house, but these rates and these prices are bananas.

My two silver linings are that my sister is having another daughter, which I'm excited about, and that my gym routines are advancing to superhuman level due to using the gym as my stress reliever. I did 66 dips straight the other day.

Gym is my sanctuary as well. I’m mostly a calisthenics guy myself. Never tried to do a dip burnout but think I’m going to attempt. I prefer weighted dips so interested to see if I can reach your numbers. What’s your routine like?