Had to explain to some females why some men cheat or leave, was I wrong?

[nawlinsn931]

I told her/them,Say this out loud
My husband cooks cleans does laundry takes care of the kids changes his schedule to make sure I don't have to miss work he makes times for us as a couple and isn't in the streets or cheating


Oooh how you show him thanks girl???
Oh I nag him when he goes to the gym and go searching thru his phone everytime he puts it down and I stay"at work" all day and when I get home I'm busy with work so he gets whatever I give him


Nah fuck that them days done. Women need to learn that marriage is more than just"attendance" if you feel like a man should be happy that you graced him with your presence you deserve to be treated as such,,,,, like a jump off cause at that point that's all you're here for

 

[ANGRY MAN]

Don’t have to buy the cow to get the milk for free!

 

[PsiBorg]

A lot of women are just delusional. They need that old school wisdom from Grandma (Pre-70s Grandmothers).

Men today are fed up with being second fiddle in their own homes. Grown men now understand that marriage for the most part is a losing proposition. So most men are tending to forgo it all together. That dominant woman shit is a thing of the past. If you can't be submissive and lady-like... scram!

 

[DJCandle]

Ive never understood why men are supposed to put up with the bs, willingly. Why, when and how is this ok? How did the norm become happily being a doorstep for a woman that has no control of her emotions?

Are these women allergic to EQ and accountability?

 

[nawlinsn931]

A lot of women are just delusional. They need that old school wisdom from Grandma (Pre-70s Grandmothers).

Men today are fed up with being second fiddle in their own homes. Grown men now understand that marriage for the most part is a losing proposition. So most men are tending to forgo it all together. That dominant woman shit is a thing of the past. If you can't be submissive and lady-like... scram!

Bruh my brother told his wife to her face"soon as jr turn 18, you go your way and I'll go mine, you can keep the house, I'll start new somewhere else"

 

[nawlinsn931]

Ive never understood why men are supposed to put up with the bs, willingly. Why, when and how is this ok? How did the norm become happily being a doorstep for a woman that has no control of her emotions?

Are these women allergic to EQ and accountability?

That's a bad word in the women world. It makes you a narcissist

 

[CptMARVEL]

I'll never understand why people are involved with a partner they feel a "need" to cheat on.

I mean; why get married in the 1st place, if you still actively pursue "extracurricular activities"...?

 

[Mrfreddygoodbud]

If a Man is successful, holding down the fort, always coming home

when he is not making, and dedicating the weekends and holidays

to his wife/children... and taking care of her so she has no wants or needs..

then shed be stupid to do any other thing but her ROLE....

 

[nawlinsn931]

I'll never understand why people are involved with a partner they feel a "need" to cheat on.

I mean; why get married in the 1st place, if you still actively pursue "extracurricular activities"...?

It's not a need
Nobody said they"needed"to cheat

 

[850credit]

Ain't worth it. Think.

She moving into your home? She has no better option, otherwise she would be moving into his home.

You moving into her home? You'll never have her respect.

I'm not dating no more renters and no more ready made families.

Single, no kids, homeowner around my age? Hardly exists.

I'm good with wham bam thank you ma'am at this point.

 

[nawlinsn931]

There's still pandering going on, the female friends, TV shows etc that reinforce that bs to women but even now women are speaking up telling women that they are the ones destroying their happiness breaking up the homes causing the problems

 

[nawlinsn931]

Ain't worth it. Think.

She moving into your home? She has no better option, otherwise she would be moving into his home.

You moving into her home? You'll never have her respect.

I'm not dating no more renters and no more ready made families.

Single, no kids, homeowner around my age? Hardly exists.

I'm good with wham bam thank you ma'am at this point.

I hear that so much bruh my guy calls em catch and release aka sport fishing

 

[gene cisco]

A lot of women are just delusional. They need that old school wisdom from Grandma (Pre-70s Grandmothers).

Men today are fed up with being second fiddle in their own homes. Grown men now understand that marriage for the most part is a losing proposition. So most men are tending to forgo it all together. That dominant woman shit is a thing of the past. If you can't be submissive and lady-like... scram!

Feminism has turned society into some arachnid shit.

Men used to be men. Strong, provide, and protect. Women used to be women. Nuturing, hold down home, and strong support. Everything worked as a unit.

Now in the era of 'strong women' society has gone batshit.

I don't feel sorry for men who can't be men. It's on them.

 

[nawlinsn931]

It shows in our "days"
Mother's day a woman gets pampered special treatment the works
Fathers day you get a cup a tie and tools so you can complete the to do list

 

[nawlinsn931]

Feminism has turned society into some arachnid shit.

Men used to be men. Strong, provide, and protect. Women used to be women. Nuturing, hold down home, and strong support. Everything worked as a unit.

Now in the era of 'strong women' society has gone batshit.

I don't feel sorry for men who can't be men. It's on them.

What do you suggest

 

[DragonXJC]

I'll never understand why people are involved with a partner they feel a "need" to cheat on.

I mean; why get married in the 1st place, if you still actively pursue "extracurricular activities"...?

It's not a need. It's whether you want to give into temptation. Like everyone has their price, every man (and woman) have that person(s) that'll make them risk it all.
In my 20s, I cheated on every single girl I dated because pussy and affection was being thrown at me from all directions and I'm real good at spinning plates. There's deeper issues that I realized as I got older and understood how destructive cheating can be.

 

[CptMARVEL]

It's not a need
Nobody said they"needed"to cheat

How would you classify it then...?
- Desire.
- Revenge.
- Validation.
- Unfulfilled lust.
- Wish fulfillment.
- Passive aggressive codependency.

'Cuz it sounds very much like your friend's on the path to becoming yet another resentful "weekend father" with a bitter ex-wife and child support payments for children who won't understand why "daddy doesn't live here anymore"

 

[nawlinsn931]

How would you classify it then...?
- Desire.
- Revenge.
- Validation.
- Unfulfilled lust.
- Wish fulfillment.
- Passive aggressive codependency.

'Cuz it sounds very much like your friend's on the path to becoming yet another resentful "weekend father" with a bitter ex-wife and child support payments for children who won't understand why "daddy doesn't live here anymore"

Ok but when the wife doesn't do her part and he leaves instead of cheating, you end up in the same position do you not?

 

[nawlinsn931]

She listens to her friends instead of her man
She gains weight let's herself go instead of going to the gym, working out, during with her man
She stops doing the things that she did to get him and gets comfortable
It's basically"live be unconditionally take whatever I give you and be happy" instead of at the very least putting forth effort
Somehow it's still the man's fault
Oh I'll be submissive to the right man, nah you don't want the "right man" you want the man that won't tell you when you're wrong, that gives all he has and don't ask for anything in return, the man that lets you lead with no resistance or guidance
Nah chick get a sex toy and be by yourself

 

[Dr. Truth]

I'll never understand why people are involved with a partner they feel a "need" to cheat on.

I mean; why get married in the 1st place, if you still actively pursue "extracurricular activities"...?

You think like a child. People cheat for various reasons.
1. Woman or man not giving them enough sex.
2. Sex slows down after marriage/kids
3. Boredom
4. Lust for new partners

Do you think once a person is married desires stop? Limiting sexual partners is not normal . Marriage is NOT normal. It’s a financial contract. People have kids and stay for the kids. You can love your spouse and still want side pussy.

Life ain’t Black and white. If cheating wasn’t the norm then why do most people do it at some point.

 

[nawlinsn931]

Ask a woman how she shows her man appreciation or gives him peace and just watch and listen

 

[850credit]

Oh I'll be submissive to the right man, nah you don't want the "right man" you want the man that won't tell you when you're wrong, that gives all her has and don't ask for anything in return, the man that lets you lead with no resistance or guidance

They don't want that guy. Maybe at first but they get bored with him quickly.

Many women's problem is they either don't know what they want, or their wants change like the wind and you're supposed to be everything...or she will date by committee.

 

[nawlinsn931]

They don't want that guy. Maybe at first but they get bored with him quickly.

Many women's problem is they either don't know what they want, or their wants change like the wind and you're supposed to be everything...or she will date by committee.

That date by committee is so true bruh but be quick to tell man they can't commit, don't know what they want, can't control themselves etc etc etc

 

[nawlinsn931]

One that gives em money
One that's good with her kids
One that's a good listener, doesn't judge, basically like a gf
And one or more than how her back out, she does all the freaky shit with. That she said she couldn't do with her husband but never opened up her mouth to ask for

 

[PsiBorg]

It shows in our "days"
Mother's day a woman gets pampered special treatment the works
Fathers day you get a cup a tie and tools so you can complete the to do list

Hold up, hold up! You got a cup of tea and some tools? You lucky MoFo.

One year, I got a freaking Hershey's bar, and I shared that with the Homie down the street because his family didn't get him shit!

 

[jack walsh13]

Feminism has turned society into some arachnid shit.

Men used to be men. Strong, provide, and protect. Women used to be women. Nuturing, hold down home, and strong support. Everything worked as a unit.

Now in the era of 'strong women' society has gone batshit.

I don't feel sorry for men who can't be men. It's on them.

Feminism also has a lot of women out here with unrealistic expectations.

 

[PsiBorg]

Ask a woman how she shows her man appreciation or gives him peace and just watch and listen

First thing she'd say is, "I cook and I clean."

Really? Oh, so you're doing the shit that you'd normally do anyway. Thank you for letting me eat dinner with you.

 

[nawlinsn931]

Feminism also has a lot of women out here with unrealistic expectations.

The Superman/guard dog mentality

 

[Big Tex]

There are a lot of hurt and damaged men on this site that I really hope see a real therapist instead of looking for answers on a site that has a number of posters that think the Earth is flat.

 

[jack walsh13]

The Superman/guard dog mentality

Yup. Stupid ass bitches.

 

[CptMARVEL]

Ok but when the wife doesn't do her part and he leaves instead of cheating, you end up in the same position do you not?

No.
The end is not the same.
Have they tried:
- Talking to each other?
- Couples counseling?
- Individual professional counseling?
- Speaking to their minister?
- Seeking marital advice from a licensed therapist?
- Agree to a trial separation?

If you love & are truly devoted to your spouse, shouldn't you at least try one (if not all) of these things before betraying the person you claim to love...?

I'm just sayin'...

 

[CptMARVEL]

You think like a child. People cheat for various reasons.
1. Woman or man not giving them enough sex.
2. Sex slows down after marriage/kids
3. Boredom
4. Lust for new partners

Do you think once a person is married desires stop? Limiting sexual partners is not normal . Marriage is NOT normal. It’s a financial contract. People have kids and stay for the kids. You can love your spouse and still want side pussy.

Life ain’t Black and white. If cheating wasn’t the norm then why do most people do it at some point.

"In sickness and health. Forsaking all others..."

I'm sorry.
But I missed the part of marriage vows that proclaims sexual frustration or lust for other individuals are "acceptable" grounds to betray your spouse. Or for your spouse to betray you...?

 

[gene cisco]

What do you suggest

No easy fix. Most western men are punks who don't command any respect for other men or women(unless they bosses in a workplace, but it stops at the door). Combine that with feminism and we get the 'happy wife, happy life' mentality. The 'cheaper to keep her' shit. Men who aren't head of their households, but are expected to be responsible like they are.

Some men act like a new chick is the answer when it's how they are as men. Women don't respect pushovers on any level.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

There are certain things that I do to be happy and successful in my career. I'll be damned if I'm going to have to beg, argue, or sneak around to do them. Life is hard enough without all that.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

No easy fix. Most western men are punks who don't command any respect for other men or women(unless they bosses in a workplace, but it stops at the door). Combine that with feminism and we get the 'happy wife, happy life' mentality. The 'cheaper to keep her' shit. Men who aren't head of their households, but are expected to be responsible like they are.

Some men act like a new chick is the answer when it's how they are as men. Women don't respect pushovers on any level.

That's the catch 22 though.

Give in and she'll never respect you. Don't give in and spend your whole life having one fight after another. Why would any man want to do that to themselves?