Imagine me playing with yo saved nba 2k my player.
ok that just went into my top quotes list.....
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Imagine me playing with yo saved nba 2k my player.
Stop playing with me. I was being sarcastic since we keep wanting to go to our own lil spot but we'll mess that up too.Where is Wakanda located??
Another thread about knocking black women.
I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.
It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.
Peace,
Damn.
That’s some callous shit. It’s obviously a lot more complicated than that. These are children, not discarded party favors.
Women are in relationships before you meet them. Some of them produce children as a result of being in those relationships. A lot of cats get women pregnant then (for whatever reason) split, leaving women to bear the burden of raising kids that a lot of those dudes emotionally and physically abandon.
Driven in large part by the same callousness exhibited in your post, a lot of brothers only want to blame the women but don’t want to take responsibility for the critical part that men play in these situations.
When a dude nuts and runs a woman has a chance to snatch 17% of his pretax income. If he makes the average $2k/month that's $340. All he has to do to avoid this is spend time with his child. If this isn't happening it means that
1) He's dead or in jail
2) he doesn't have any money worth going after
3) (Most likely answer) This bitch is so much trouble to deal with that he'd rather just cash her out.
#1 is understandable. #2 means she's eventually leaving your ass for another bum #3 means run for the hills before it happens to you.
Uh.....
No.
No person should be guilt tripped into taking on a responsibility he had no business in creating.
That's all this is. A person exercising their options.
I have no problem with a man taking on a 'no children' policy just like I have no problem with a woman taking on a height/occupation/money/appearance policies.
This is really about one party getting butt hurt because the other party has options and are exercising them.
Is it not?
*two cents*
Peace,
That’s not the point I was trying to make at all, brother.
I’m not currently (nor have I ever) raised another man’s children. I also haven’t abandoned my own children and left someone to do that for me. My point is that the sword is double-edged and that both men and women are responsible for single motherhood, fatherless children and the sticky American stepchild dynamic.
Peace,
It’s not simply an economic decision. A lot of men, unfortunately, tend to base their relationship with their kids on how well things are going with the mother.
I thought this thread was about a man not wanting to take on another man's children as his own NOT a man skirting his responsibilities to raise his children.
I do not nor should not be guilt tripped into raising another man's kids.
It's selfish and selfishly unfortunate for the single mothers whose options are limited because of their situation but that's life.
I have children and if my marriage dissolved and I met a woman who had a 'no kids' policy then them the breaks....for me.
How's it that men FULLY understand that concept but women do not?
*two cents*
I didn't miss anything. As Ill Paragraph said above it's a double edge sword.Uh....NO.
This is not about the piece of shit NOT raising his kids.
This is about men who do not want to deal with a woman with children and exercising his options not to.
So let me clarify....
First guy....BAD. NOT TAKING CARE OF HIS RESPONSIBILITIES.
Second guy....GOOD. EXERCISING HIS OPTIONS.
Not sure how you missed that.
*two cents*
Peace,
The thread was originally about that, yes. Then what happened (as usual) is that cats used the original premise of the thread to blame women and broadcast their hurt feelings.
It was tough at times but I don't regret being a step dad. My son and I have a much better relationship than he does with his biological. There's a difference between being with a woman who had a failed relationship/marriage and a hood rat with multiple baby daddies.
I see your point. But this statement is only valid on a case by case basis. Every black man that left a black woman with a child was NOT an asshole. Some guys got ran off by a crazy bitch! Some women get pregnant by married men. Some women get pregnant after a one night stand. Some women get pregnant because they were trying to trap a baller or man of means. I don't completely vilify the women but I'll never say every single mom is a victim of a no good black man either.Another thread about knocking black women.
I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.
It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.
Why do you have to play step dad in order to date a woman. Nobody saying not to get you date game on. He just asking why does that mean you need to play daddy to her rug rats?
Peace,
Damn.
That’s some callous shit. It’s obviously a lot more complicated than that. These are children, not discarded party favors.
Women are in relationships before you meet them. Some of them produce children as a result of being in those relationships. A lot of cats get women pregnant then (for whatever reason) split, leaving women to bear the burden of raising kids that a lot of those dudes emotionally and physically abandon.
Driven in large part by the same callousness exhibited in your post, a lot of brothers only want to blame the women but don’t want to take responsibility for the critical part that men play in these situations.
I didn't miss anything. As Ill Paragraph said above it's a double edge sword.
You have a point about the callousness of the men that get women pregnant and bounce. But I can make statements like that because I've never gotten a woman pregnant. I consider it an affront for a woman to have the expectation that I'm willing to take on her and her last relationships mistakes just to be with her. I've always had three reasons not to get too serious with a woman with kids. 1.) You will never be first in that woman's life even as you make her first in yours. I'm not willing to be in a relationship that's unbalanced. 2.) I should not have to deal with any of her exes. She never has to deal with mine and I shouldn't have to come home and see her baby daddy sitting on my sofa drinking my wine. 3.) I'm not willing to deal with someone saying "you ain't my daddy!" These days that can lead to a boy squaring off with you in your own home or a girl putting a false molestation charge on you. I'm not dealing with either. Its funny how people are quick to call someone callous over their particular standards but won't think the same way about their own standards. I'm sure if I dig deep enough I'll find a statement you made about the kind of woman you aren't willing to deal with i.e. No fat bitches, no weave, no tattoos, no broke hoz, no ghetto bitches, etc. No single moms just happens to be on my list. Everyone is entitled to a preference.
This dude gets it...Uh.....
No.
No person should be guilt tripped into taking on a responsibility he had no business in creating.
That's all this is. A person exercising their options.
I have no problem with a man taking on a 'no children' policy just like I have no problem with a woman taking on a height/occupation/money/appearance policies.
This is really about one party getting butt hurt because the other party has options and are exercising them.
Is it not?
*two cents*
Black men have become the ones with the most excuses to not be responsible. And it's really sad. Yall will be the same niggas to go to Wakanda fuck everything and claim you can't find a good woman.
I'm sick of the BS from us now.
I will be the first to state that it's harder for black men,we usually end up the pawns on the board of life but that's not to say that a lot of use bring shit to the table and act like it's something of value,if they bring anything at all to the table.Black men have become the ones with the most excuses to not be responsible. And it's really sad. Yall will be the same niggas to go to Wakanda fuck everything and claim you can't find a good woman.
I'm sick of the BS from us now.
All this pussy out here, Im going to date left overs?
If im going to marry a women. I have to be the only one that impregant her pussy.
How? Please explain.
Example. Let's say you and I were casually dating and you found out I had over $300,000 dollars in personal debt. In your knowledge of that you tell me that we can continue dating, casually, but we're not going above that because you have no desire to take on financial obligations you had no part in creating.
I then cuss you out and guilt trip you on how you're like all other chicks who aren't WOMAN ENOUGH to take me and my debt on.
The example I gave is ridiculous because how is my debt your problem?
That's how I feel when woman lambast men who don't want to take then on long term because they have kids.
*two cents*
I will not fuck with a single mom I don't care how either the pussy is. I don't want them in the car, I don't pick them up at a bar. I don't talk to them on a bus. I don't want them anywhere near us.
I do not like them Sam-I-Am. I don't date no single mam.
Another thread about knocking black women.
I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.
It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.
Honestly fellas this goes both ways. Women don’t get pregnant by themselves. If men can go on to find love after having a child a female should have the same rights as well
breh....me and my boy talk about this all the time....
just because a woman dont have kids doesnt mean she's never been pregnant.....especially 30 and above
my exwife technically didnt have kids but had been pregnant atleast 4 time i came to find out.....one miscarriage and 3 abortions....and the miscarriage she wasnt even sure who the father was......like i said that i know about.....
you need to start asking these women if they ever been pregnant....multiple abortions is a huge red flag