Porn Makes Men Terrible In Bed

[JofromthaNO]

Peace,



Right.

And that's the point that the author didn't really emphasize: accountability. Why aren't women dictating the terms of their own sexual satisfaction? They're the ones with the power to control that, and they consistently give it away.

It's a double-edged sword if we do dictate it...a man, especially a younger man, might question why does a woman know/understand so much about her own satisfaction and come to the conclusion that the woman is a hoe. I've been in a situation where a guy made me feel like a hoe because HE came too quickly and said it was because I was too loose. I've never had another man, including my husband, tell me my pussy was loose, but you get the idea...

 

[gw1933]

If a man pays attention to his woman and communicates with her then he can learn what turns her on and what doesnt.

Another thing is people arent keeping it 100 with their turn ons/offs, because they dont want their partner to look at them differently.

This is why a woman will have vanilla sex with her husband for 10 years straight, break up, then do everything freaky under the sun with the rebound guy.

Ultimately, if a person is insecure about their sexuality they have no business trying to get into a relationship/marriage.

 

[Better]

So, it's just okay to go around not pleasing women you're with because, hey, eventually she'll get hers? It may keep you more fulfilled but, shit, what about her? I guess it goes to an old question of is sex more about pleasing yourself or pleasing your partner? For you, the answer is obviously the former and not the latter. But, for women, we're taught, "programmed" to not be about our own personal pleasure, our own personal desires and needs. If you are, you're loose...a hoe...a slut. Men can easily navigate the waters of sex with no repercussions, but women always pay for bad sex somehow...

Many men - if not most - feel a significant amount of pressure to please women. This is possible, I've found, though to varying degrees. The 'best sex ever' to one woman, may only be 'aight' to another.

I was not always this way. I'm a perfectionist. A perfectionist who didn't want to be one of those guys women clowned for being wack in bed. I got tired of going into every bed with that weight on my shoulders. Its their for men even if its subconscious. Well, I made a conscious choice to stop caring. As I said before, most women I've dealt with didn't feel the same need to go out of their way for me, so what am I doing all of that extra shit for? So a woman can brag on me? So she can tell other women how good I am and I get more pussy?

That'd be nice, but it ain't necessary. I can be very charming, and I'm a fairly good looking guy. Getting pussy isn't really all that difficult at this stage of the game for me.

God bless any guy who feels the need to be 'Soopaman Lova' out here. Some people have a talent for it, AND they want to be that.

 

[Ill Paragraph]

Peace,

It's a double-edged sword if we do dictate it...a man, especially a younger man, might question why does a woman know/understand so much about her own satisfaction and come to the conclusion that the woman is a hoe. I've been in a situation where a guy made me feel like a hoe because HE came too quickly and said it was because I was too loose. I've never had another man, including my husband, tell me my pussy was loose, but you get the idea...

You guys shouldn't be suppressing your sexuality to accommodate an inadequate man, though. You should have told that wack ass mf that he was a wack ass, little dick, non-fucking mf.

 

[Ill Paragraph]

Like I've told women, "Great sex involves at least two people communicating so if my dick ain't in your mouth you need to speak up!"

*two cents *

You's a damn fool man.

 

[water]

It's a double-edged sword if we do dictate it...a man, especially a younger man, might question why does a woman know/understand so much about her own satisfaction and come to the conclusion that the woman is a hoe. I've been in a situation where a guy made me feel like a hoe because HE came too quickly and said it was because I was too loose. I've never had another man, including my husband, tell me my pussy was loose, but you get the idea...

He was an asshole who you enabled. He played you and flipped shit for his non performing ass on you and you fell for it.

That's on you.

Other men shouldn't be accountable for his actions.

You move on until you find the right one.

But these days they are trying to make wrong men into right men and painting all men with a bad broad brush.

That shit doesn't work.

 

[Naha-Nago]

You's a damn fool man.

The real question is....AM I WRONG THOUGH....

*two cents*

 

[JofromthaNO]

Peace,



You guys shouldn't be suppressing your sexuality to accommodate an inadequate man, though. You should have told that wack ass mf that he was a wack ass, little dick, non-fucking mf.

Blame it on being young and inexperienced smh...

 

[JofromthaNO]

See below written by the same woman.
She is the LAST chick I would take any sex advice from.

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But, do you believe porn ruins sex for people, in general? I watch it, my husband doesn't...I think it makes our love life exciting, but it could just be all in my head...

 

[Naha-Nago]

It's a double-edged sword if we do dictate it...a man, especially a younger man, might question why does a woman know/understand so much about her own satisfaction and come to the conclusion that the woman is a hoe. I've been in a situation where a guy made me feel like a hoe because HE came too quickly and said it was because I was too loose. I've never had another man, including my husband, tell me my pussy was loose, but you get the idea...

Sounds like a WOMAN issue you trying to make a MAN issue.

*two cents *

 

[Ill Paragraph]

Peace,

Blame it on being young and inexperienced smh...

Unfortunately, the world can be very harsh and unforgiving for young women.

 

[water]

Blame it on being young and inexperienced smh...

Then the article should have been about this.

How being young and inexperienced can taint your view of sex and how to speak up.


Much better and much more helpful to women.

Instead it was a man bashing article

As mainman post showed, she was sexually assaulted and so her perspectives is to see men generally as selfish and self-oriented.

Where is this poll of men she did?

She just posted shit about men in general without qualifying any of it.

And I see the trend these days.

Every group CAN and DO tell men how they show behave i.e.
How to be a man

but men dare not tell any other group the same including women, gays etc.... about how to be themselves.

Crazy times............

 

[Entrepronegro]

Porn has always been beneficial to me. I've learned lots of different positions from watching porn. I've actually taught a lot of my sex partners sex moves. That's one reason why I always have females wanting to sleep with me that I know cause they know I'm very freaky and creative when it comes to sex positions and they like that from me.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Then the article should have been about this.

How being young and inexperienced can taint your view of sex and how to speak up.


Much better and much more helpful to women.

Instead it was a man bashing article

As mainman post showed, she was sexually assaulted and so her perspectives is to see men generally as selfish and self-oriented.

Where is this poll of men she did?

She just posted shit about men in general without qualifying any of it.

And I see the trend these days.

Every group CAN and DO tell men how they show behave i.e.
How to be a man

but men dare not tell any other group the same including women, gays etc.... about how to be themselves.

Crazy times............

But, I do believe there are two separate, but related issues being pointed out in the article: 1) the idea that young women aren't able to express themselves comfortably and in a non- labeling away, in order to feel sexually liberated and 2) the idea that men don't create spaces that help women (of any age) feel comfortable to be sexually liberated due to their views on sexuality which can be largely based upon porn watching. I think both men and women play a role in sex being a free space for a woman, but many man dictate - either because of women's lack of confidence or a woman's buy-in into a submissive role in the bedroom - how gender roles play into sex.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

You'd be surprised at how much a woman, especially a younger woman, will not say in order to "satisfy" a man and stay in his good graces. And, I'm not talking wild shit...just horrible sex. And, yeah, a younger woman will not know to say, "Please stop...I don't like that." because, in the end, it's nice to still be "chosen."

God damn yes.

 

[Osca Lee]

when I was young...I had me a older woman and the first thing she told me...you aint about to rearrange my insides im gonna show you how to please me and many women after me.

I think all young men need to experience a older woman who will teach them the art of stroking the pussy..working that pussy at every angle and enjoying the pussy as well

 

[water]

But, I do believe there are two separate, but related issues being pointed out in the article: 1) the idea that young women aren't able to express themselves comfortably and in a non- labeling away, in order to feel sexually liberated and 2) the idea that men don't create spaces that help women (of any age) feel comfortable to be sexually liberated due to their views on sexuality which can be largely based upon porn watching. I think both men and women play a role in sex being a free space for a woman, but many man dictate - either because of women's lack of confidence or a woman's buy-in into a submissive role in the bedroom - how gender roles play into sex.

I think that stems from a lack of women mentorship


Older women should be mentoring younger women about all of life including sex.

The author missed an opportunity to do the same.

The "aren't" part is not a lack of capacity, it's a lack of confidence. That can be changed.
If safe spaces don't exist be gone. There are way too many choices of partners to couple up with the wrong mofo.

The article could have been so much more if the intent was pure but instead is about how men should adjust behavior and no similar adjustment of behaviors for women.

 

[tallblacknyc]

It's a double-edged sword if we do dictate it...a man, especially a younger man, might question why does a woman know/understand so much about her own satisfaction and come to the conclusion that the woman is a hoe. I've been in a situation where a guy made me feel like a hoe because HE came too quickly and said it was because I was too loose. I've never had another man, including my husband, tell me my pussy was loose, but you get the idea...

sex is suppose to equal orgasm..i'd tell a chick if u ain't busting a nut what's the point of u fucking that dude..sex should never seem like a choir that shit should always feel like a blessing..everytime a bootycall is made u should kno and expect great pleasure..if u ain't getting that u better tell ole boy to step his game up or go searching for great dick

 

[cceast22]

As a younger man, I was lucky to have an older woman break it down and provide a tutorial. I was the man once I graduated from this course.

 

[tallblacknyc]

when I was young...I had me a older woman and the first thing she told me...you aint about to rearrange my insides im gonna show you how to please me and many women after me.

I think all young men need to experience a older woman who will teach them the art of stroking the pussy..working that pussy at every angle and enjoying the pussy as well

fucking an older woman is a gift and a curse..the gift is the ego boost..the curse u'll never tolerate no bullshit from chicks especially young chicks that like to play games..u'll be like bitch please i get older pussy fuck i look like tolerating ur bullshit and u trying to be cheap with the pussy u broke bitch..older pussy got their own cribs, own money, got skills in the bed, can cook..man that shit turns u into a monster and makes u have high expectations from females and makes u never allowing urself to accept less..young dudes getting grown pussy = endgame for young pussy and their bullshit..in fact young pussy fall in line once they kno u get grown pussy cause they kno they got to compete to get ur attention..lol man oh man my younger days and grown women pussy shoutout to those broads..ego boosters

 

[JofromthaNO]

I think that stems from a lack of women mentorship


Older women should be mentoring younger women about all of life including sex.

The author missed an opportunity to do the same.

The "aren't" part is not a lack of capacity, it's a lack of confidence. That can be changed.
If safe spaces don't exist be gone. There are way too many choices of partners to couple up with the wrong mofo.

The article could have been so much more if the intent was pure but instead is about how men should adjust behavior and no similar adjustment of behaviors for women.

I agree, but will say there are so many differing attitudes from women about life, and attitudes toward sex - no group of women will have the same attitude regarding life because it all depends on what experience and family has taught her. But, I think there are some general life principles that can be passed down.

 

[Problematic]

author's background always matters.

when I was young...I had me a older woman and the first thing she told me...you aint about to rearrange my insides im gonna show you how to please me and many women after me.

I think all young men need to experience a older woman who will teach them the art of stroking the pussy..working that pussy at every angle and enjoying the pussy as well

As a younger man, I was lucky to have an older woman break it down and provide a tutorial. I was the man once I graduated from this course.

 

[Mr. Met]

Different strokes for different folks.

Hard for a man to take sex advice from an abused woman.

 

[LSN]

I was genuinely interested in reading the article and giving it a fair chance...but it ended up reading like a pity party for porn starlets and painted men as being incapable of differentiating between porn and real life sex

 

[tallblacknyc]

I was genuinely interested in reading the article and giving it a fair chance...but it ended up reading like a pity party for porn starlets and painted men as being incapable of differentiating between porn and real life sex

yo whose the chick with the soup coolers in ur avatar

 

[Mobilemannie]

Bullshit article. Porn has probably helped more people have better sex than it hurt. Learning multiple sex position and oral sex are just a few things that have gotten better world wide since porn has been available on the Internet.

Anyone got that Jenna Jameson and T.T. Boy scene discussed in the article?

 

[actinanass]

its worth mentioning that the woman who wrote this is a sexual assault survivor who is anti porn and anti rough sex... understandably.

i understand her point but she should keep it 100 about the circumstances that led to her position.

and if u r a man that understand womens body language and aren't 100% selfish, porn probably helped more than it hurt ur sex life over the long run.

This.

And if she was a victim of sexual assault, she might not be the best person to get this information from.

Porn probably did more to help sexuality as a whole than hurt.

 

[dtownsfinest]

Your chic suppose to be telling you what you doing wrong or right.

 

[LSN]

yo whose the chick with the soup coolers in ur avatar

wish I knew...she was posted in the everybody post a pic thread...she gorgeous af tho

 

[tallblacknyc]

wish I knew...she was posted in the everybody post a pic thread...she gorgeous af tho

that broads lip jesus

 

[LSN]

that broads lip jesus

her lips eyes nose...I could spend a good 10-15 minutes just kissing on her face...and don't let her have a pretty pussy cuz that's another 20 minutes right there

 

[Onpoint]

Every woman I've banged that likes and watches porn regularly are the best fucks! IMO!

 

[Osca Lee]

fucking an older woman is a gift and a curse..the gift is the ego boost..the curse u'll never tolerate no bullshit from chicks especially young chicks that like to play games..u'll be like bitch please i get older pussy fuck i look like tolerating ur bullshit and u trying to be cheap with the pussy u broke bitch..older pussy got their own cribs, own money, got skills in the bed, can cook..man that shit turns u into a monster and makes u have high expectations from females and makes u never allowing urself to accept less..young dudes getting grown pussy = endgame for young pussy and their bullshit..in fact young pussy fall in line once they kno u get grown pussy cause they kno they got to compete to get ur attention..lol man oh man my younger days and grown women pussy shoutout to those broads..ego boosters

man you broke it all the way down...that's it...

hell yeah shout out to those older broads...

 

[Naha-Nago]

But, I do believe there are two separate, but related issues being pointed out in the article: 1) the idea that young women aren't able to express themselves comfortably and in a non- labeling away, in order to feel sexually liberated and 2) the idea that men don't create spaces that help women (of any age) feel comfortable to be sexually liberated due to their views on sexuality which can be largely based upon porn watching. I think both men and women play a role in sex being a free space for a woman, but many man dictate - either because of women's lack of confidence or a woman's buy-in into a submissive role in the bedroom - how gender roles play into sex.

Goddammit so ONCE AGAIN how a woman FEELS about something HER SEXUALITY is MEN'S FAULT!?!

How are we as men suppose to take you all seriously as women if you can't take responsibility and/or accountability for even something as biological as bustin a nut!?!

Y'all FEEL bad!?? REALLY BITCH???

I think Kat William is as looney as a Warners Bros cartoon but I'll be damned if he wasn't 100% on this one point here...


*two cents *

 

[Naha-Nago]

fucking an older woman is a gift and a curse..the gift is the ego boost..the curse u'll never tolerate no bullshit from chicks especially young chicks that like to play games..u'll be like bitch please i get older pussy fuck i look like tolerating ur bullshit and u trying to be cheap with the pussy u broke bitch..older pussy got their own cribs, own money, got skills in the bed, can cook..man that shit turns u into a monster and makes u have high expectations from females and makes u never allowing urself to accept less..young dudes getting grown pussy = endgame for young pussy and their bullshit..in fact young pussy fall in line once they kno u get grown pussy cause they kno they got to compete to get ur attention..lol man oh man my younger days and grown women pussy shoutout to those broads..ego boosters

Manye....don't get me started....

*two cents *