Women, For the love of god, get it through your heads.

[LoneStar29]

Some of yall females I don't know why you mad. It ain't like your man wasn't out there licking ass holes and pussy before you. So why you act like all of a sudden he's a clean slate because you have him trapped? A man can come home normal after digging out some jump off. Why? Because that is what a man does. It's like going out playing ball with your bulls. After the game is over you got a nice work out and you want to go home chill with the wife and eat a sandwich. Pussy is a sport.

What if she needs you for a family emergency but she cant reach you cuz you are out licking some other girls ass?? What if when you get home she needs some lovin' but you can't get your dick up cuz you just finished a marathon session with your jumpoff??

There is NO WAY that a man can have extra marital affairs and still focus on his fam and make them number one

Your post is sheer selfishness

 

[Andeyhollawho]

if you wanna fuck then stay single and do it

This is what baffles me about these convos and nobody has stepped up and answered this yet?

Why is it cool if you are single? What does that piece of paper change about the dynamic of a man or a woman?

Cause from what I'm getting if you are not married you can fuck around all you want. Don't matter if we been fucking for 3 years as long as we are not married it's understandable?

 

[LoneStar29]

This is what baffles me about these convos and nobody has stepped up and answered this yet?

Why is it cool if you are single? What does that piece of paper change about the dynamic of a man or a woman?

Cause from what I'm getting if you are not married you can fuck around all you want. Don't matter if we been fucking for 3 years as long as we are not married it's understandable?

Let me put this into words you can't nit pick with then ... if you want to fuck multiple women, then dont have a girlfriend OR a wife ... if you are going to act single, then stay single ... if you are in a commitment, then be committed

You cant expect a woman to do all the wifely things for you while you fuck around and share your time with other chicks ... that is selfish IMO

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Let me put this into words you can't nit pick with then ... if you want to fuck multiple women, then dont have a girlfriend OR a wife ... if you are going to act single, then stay single ... if you are in a commitment, then be committed

You cant expect a woman to do all the wifely things for you while you fuck around and share your time with other chicks ... that is selfish IMO

So there is no difference between a girlfriend and a wife then when it comes to "commitment". Ok I got you.

I've said plenty of times that people (not just men) do this all the time and the other partner doesn't notice until they are "caught". But that whole time they are doing what everyone is saying is impossible.

But I'm beating a dead horse I guess.

Oh...and welcome back!

 

[LeroyDibiase]

I see what you are saying Andey and the answer is just it's the fundamental difference between men and women. As a man, you are looking at the logical side of marriage in that it is the same, just with a piece of paper and added insurance and tax benefits. Women tend to look at the emotional side of marriage in that it signifies a lifelong commitment to each other.

You're trying to say that there's no difference between a 3 or 4 year relationship with outside fucking and a marriage with outside fucking. While there technically isn't, there also IS a big difference.

 

[Andeyhollawho]

I see what you are saying Andey and the answer is just it's the fundamental difference between men and women. As a man, you are looking at the logical side of marriage in that it is the same, just with a piece of paper and added insurance and tax benefits. Women tend to look at the emotional side of marriage in that it signifies a lifelong commitment to each other.

You're trying to say that there's no difference between a 3 or 4 year relationship with outside fucking and a marriage with outside fucking. While there technically isn't, there also IS a big difference.

Damn bout time somebody got that part of it.

I was actually saying there is no difference in the person while there may be a difference in the level of commitment but you on the path so I won't fuck with it!

And people thinking there is a big difference is why we have so many divorces around this bitch. You marry the same person you dated. Expecting them to all of a sudden change is going to leave you all fucked up.

But that's another topic I guess.

 

[SuchATease]

You're a therapist, SuchATease?!?!?

We should talk...

I started off in Addiction Therapy now I work with Dual Diagnosed patients...


lol, sure anytime! you have insurance right? j/p

 

[JofromthaNO]

I started off in Addiction Therapy now I work with Dual Diagnosed patients...


lol, sure anytime! you have insurance right? j/p

No, I don't need to "sit on your couch." I work with children in schools, doing short-term counseling and am trying to get into working in a therapeutic setting soon... I'm a psych! lol

 

[SuchATease]

No, I don't need to "sit on your couch." I work with children in schools, doing short-term counseling and am trying to get into working in a therapeutic setting soon... I'm a psych! lol

oh okay cool, I can't work with kids, I learned that when I did my internship lol but kudos to you!

 

[BrownTurd]

I demand you read the rules over here (1st warning) and then hit search....For my photos....Hint-confirmation and critique...
Thanks and have an AWESOME day

Now was that necessary. I mean seriously

 

[SoopamanLuva]

Great Topic and discussion.
From what i see, There is a difference in the basic fundamentals. Women keep saying basically, you cant have sex without feelings being involved. From a mens perspective, yes you can. It is very possible for a man to bang a chick and not feel ANYTHING for her besides an orgasm. Men do it all the time. We don't attach feeling to sex unless we want to. Sex is just sex. That's why it makes sense to the guys to ask if He taking care of home and YOU have NO wants or needs, is it cool for him to get a little on the side every now and then WITH your consent. I'm indifferent on the subject but i think its a great discussion going on here.

And to clear something up, its isn't cheating on you if you KNOW about it.

cheat   [cheet]
–verb (used with object)
1.
to defraud; swindle
2.
to deceive; influence by fraud
3.
to elude; deprive of something expected
–verb (used without object)

So ladies, i propose a new question to you. Are women, generally speaking, able to separate feelings from the act of sex?

 

[Izayoi]

Great Topic and discussion.
From what i see, There is a difference in the basic fundamentals. Women keep saying basically, you cant have sex without feelings being involved. From a mens perspective, yes you can. It is very possible for a man to bang a chick and not feel ANYTHING for her besides an orgasm. Men do it all the time. We don't attach feeling to sex unless we want to. Sex is just sex. That's why it makes sense to the guys to ask if He taking care of home and YOU have NO wants or needs, is it cool for him to get a little on the side every now and then WITH your consent. I'm indifferent on the subject but i think its a great discussion going on here.

And to clear something up, its isn't cheating on you if you KNOW about it.

cheat   [cheet]
–verb (used with object)
1.
to defraud; swindle
2.
to deceive; influence by fraud
3.
to elude; deprive of something expected
–verb (used without object)

So ladies, i propose a new question to you. Are women, generally speaking, able to separate feelings from the act of sex?

Nothing is absolute, but in general I'd say no. In my experience the women who say they can are usually emotionally wounded in some way and their attitudes and behavior are defensive rather than authentic.

I don't disagree with you about men's ability to compartmentalize, but there's a flaw in that argument that that alone makes infidelities harmless. The primary flaw being the the erratic and unpredictable actions of the other women who can not compartmentalize and can and DO sometimes act to destroy a union. Discretion is a lost cause nowadays.Your dirt will come to light and you may lose more than you thought you were willing to gamble over some moist skin and a pair of nipples.

It's always about cost/benefit/ and choices. Relationships are conditional, and if you are with someone whose conditions include monogamy you embrace it or you don't and you accept what consequences come with your choice.

This whole cake and eat it too is so very 80's lol. If variety is important then do the open marriage thing, but STI's, the internet,cell phones, and our overall voyeuristic and bitch gossiping culture killed that sneak shit.

 

[SoopamanLuva]

Nothing is absolute, but in general I'd say no. In my experience the women who say they can are usually emotionally wounded in some way and their attitudes and behavior are defensive rather than authentic.

I don't disagree with you about men's ability to compartmentalize, but there's a flaw in that argument that that alone makes infidelities harmless. The primary flaw being the the erratic and unpredictable actions of the other women who can not compartmentalize and can and DO sometimes act to destroy a union. Discretion is a lost cause nowadays.Your dirt will come to light and you may lose more than you thought you were willing to gamble over some moist skin and a pair of nipples.

It's always about cost/benefit/ and choices. Relationships are conditional, and if you are with someone whose conditions include monogamy you embrace it or you don't and you accept what consequences come with your choice.

This whole cake and eat it too is so very 80's lol. If variety is important then do the open marriage thing, but STI's, the internet,cell phones, and our overall voyeuristic and bitch gossiping culture killed that sneak shit.

Very good points

 

[dHustla]

Nothing is absolute, but in general I'd say no. In my experience the women who say they can are usually emotionally wounded in some way and their attitudes and behavior are defensive rather than authentic.

I don't disagree with you about men's ability to compartmentalize, but there's a flaw in that argument that that alone makes infidelities harmless. The primary flaw being the the erratic and unpredictable actions of the other women who can not compartmentalize and can and DO sometimes act to destroy a union. Discretion is a lost cause nowadays.Your dirt will come to light and you may lose more than you thought you were willing to gamble over some moist skin and a pair of nipples.

It's always about cost/benefit/ and choices. Relationships are conditional, and if you are with someone whose conditions include monogamy you embrace it or you don't and you accept what consequences come with your choice.

This whole cake and eat it too is so very 80's lol. If variety is important then do the open marriage thing, but STI's, the internet,cell phones, and our overall voyeuristic and bitch gossiping culture killed that sneak shit.

Very good points

INDEED

 

[InFullStride]

Man, as a whole, don't value metaphysical and emotional attributes of fucking nearly as much as women.

Most men view sex as a basic, challenged-oriented, recreational activity.

Most women have no clue just how non-intimate sex can be for a man.

They put too much importance on sex. The put too much importance on their sex. And other folks sex too.

A man can play a 1000 online Halo or Modern Warfare matches. During the gameplay, that shit is full of fun and excitement. After the match, the other players in the game along with their wants, needs and desires are meaningless.

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Nothing is absolute, but in general I'd say no. In my experience the women who say they can are usually emotionally wounded in some way and their attitudes and behavior are defensive rather than authentic.

I don't disagree with you about men's ability to compartmentalize, but there's a flaw in that argument that that alone makes infidelities harmless. The primary flaw being the the erratic and unpredictable actions of the other women who can not compartmentalize and can and DO sometimes act to destroy a union. Discretion is a lost cause nowadays.Your dirt will come to light and you may lose more than you thought you were willing to gamble over some moist skin and a pair of nipples.

It's always about cost/benefit/ and choices. Relationships are conditional, and if you are with someone whose conditions include monogamy you embrace it or you don't and you accept what consequences come with your choice.

This whole cake and eat it too is so very 80's lol. If variety is important then do the open marriage thing, but STI's, the internet,cell phones, and our overall voyeuristic and bitch gossiping culture killed that sneak shit.

It's impossible for a woman to seperate emotion from sex being as how her orgasms is so tied into her mental and emotional state. A woman in an enhanced state of emotion experiences the best orgasms (even anger, sadness).

Notice I didn't say extreme.