don't have any and if i did i wouldn't be talking about them on a porn forum....
Why don't the men of the board ever talk about their kids?
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ah yes this topic would be fine here
except...
every supposed SOL hater evil bgol board member is lurking here even though they would never admit it and if i had kids i wouldn;t even want them to know i had them period. just sayin.......
ain't got none to talk about...
I'm the type of person to keep my separate lives just so. I don't talk about work when I come home. I never liked to talk about school, unless I was doing something school related. I don't tell my friends about me and my girls personal issues, unless I say something vague like "damn shawty been trippin lately. I keep my son EVERYDAY while my girl goes to class, but I just choose not to talk about his development with a porn board.
This just hurts.
I Made References About How I Raise Mine In Bullshit Free Posts From Time To Time. No Problems Here Talking Bout My Lil Gifts.
Femm, you are making the wrong assumption that kids don’t mean as much or the meaning is different because they are not discussed on the board. BiGirl wrote it somewhere above, this is a porn board!Well that's all I was saying. Not anything specific necessarily. Just general stuff. If you can talk about your job, your wife/girl, your ride, your house because they mean so much to you. Don't your kids mean as much too?
Anyway, I digress. Your kids are teens aren't they?
Men have the unique ability to separate things in a manner that they don’t cross. Me talk about my kid on this board…..the two shall never cross. Again, this is a porn board. Why would a man talk about his kid or even in general about his kids on this board. The rules are thrown out on this board. There are undefined limitations on what can be discussed and how things will be taken. Talk about girlfriends, girls we date, maybe the wife once in a while…all fine. Talk about a child…..probably won’t happen.
Again, doesn’t have anything to do with caring or whether or not the kids are on the mind. THIS IS A PORN BOARD! Let’s not forget that.
If I was the HNIC I'd regulate the discussion of Children on the board. Subject like child rearing, etc, can contain key words that could end up placing the board in strange places in web searches, thus bringing additional attention on the board to unwanted guest. You all think the FTPs are bad what if the anti-porn folks, and the crazy church people started peppering the forum with posts about how Porn is wrong. Also Because this is a porn board, don't you think the discussion of children kind of work against the idea of porn. The two issues don't mix. I pretty sure all Men on the board see see BGOL as a porn board 1st then all the other stuff is secondary. If I has kids I wouldn't even mention them here. Porn, and child raising should require two different mindsets. At least that's my opinion.
Even in general discussions about children don't belong on a porn board. It seems most members feel the same way. There will always be taboos and it seems on this board children are it.
Y'all are harsh about the nature of people on BGOL and SGOL. While i *HATE* the fact that we can't post our pictures without 7-page haterade caption threads of embarrassment popping up, I'll be the first to admit that when someone posts something serious (i.e, cries for help), *SOME* people step up. It's not always about the coonery.
Like I said in another post, I don't even consider SGOL a porno board. I'm here for the conversation (I'm on BGOL for crazy videos, music, or media). If I had kids, and thought that the people of BGOL and SGOL would foster real connections, then fuck it...
...I'd talk about my kids, no hesitation.
Unfortunately the cowardice of anonymity, e-courage, and digital smack makes me think that it's not worth it. Half these people -ladies included - are just living fantasies.
Like I said in another post, I don't even consider SGOL a porno board. I'm here for the conversation (I'm on BGOL for crazy videos, music, or media). If I had kids, and thought that the people of BGOL and SGOL would foster real connections, then fuck it...
...I'd talk about my kids, no hesitation.
Unfortunately the cowardice of anonymity, e-courage, and digital smack makes me think that it's not worth it. Half these people -ladies included - are just living fantasies.
C/SSome things you just don't discuss on a porn board or just any other general forum. If I needed any help, had any questions or just felt like talking about my daughter I have a circle of people in the real world that I can share that with.
Because I don't have any. but if I did I prolly still wudn't talk about them here.
Ok u must have missed the thread with jason kidd son and monica's lil boy niccaz had jokes for days on these kids heads.
Can you imagine if one of these savages get a pic of your kid and the lil nicca supposely ugly to them
Ill never say shit about my kids (if I had kids) on a computer or post pics on social sites like myspace or faceBook
Can you imagine if one of these savages get a pic of your kid and the lil nicca supposely ugly to them
Ill never say shit about my kids (if I had kids) on a computer or post pics on social sites like myspace or faceBook
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Dont Have Any
I have spoken about mine a few times. As a matter of fact, a couple of years ago I got into a long discussion/argument with Makkonen about Bratz dolls.
But I only mention her within the context of whatever post I happen to be responding to.
To talk about kids on BGOL is sorta counter to the whole idea of masculinity.
But I only mention her within the context of whatever post I happen to be responding to.
To talk about kids on BGOL is sorta counter to the whole idea of masculinity.
That's the point I was getting at.
It seems to me that white men don't feel this way. They are always talking about children in whatever venue.
There have been various threads on BGOL about disciplining children, the educational system and how it effects children, personal responsibility, etc. In those threads I have given my opinion as a dad and as a somewhat responsible adult but the context and content of this board generally don't relate or apply to children. That and the fact that I'm a private person makes me feel as though I don't know folks well enough on here to warrant discussion about the most important people in the world to me.
In other venues I'll sing the praises of my babies all day though if you have time enough to listen.
In other venues I'll sing the praises of my babies all day though if you have time enough to listen.
Well, you know black folks, especially black men. We stay homophobic. God forbid anyone question our manhood, then they got a fight on their hands.
Really sounds more like insecurity, doesn't it?
lol
I already spend so much time with him:
1) pick up from school
2) take to football/basketball practice
3) help with homework
4) cook dinner
5) get stuff ready for next day
6) etc.
I come to BGOL for an escape. Plus, I haven't seen too many threads where it would be appropriate to bring him up.
1) pick up from school
2) take to football/basketball practice
3) help with homework
4) cook dinner
5) get stuff ready for next day
6) etc.
I come to BGOL for an escape. Plus, I haven't seen too many threads where it would be appropriate to bring him up.
Spot on H. Spot on.
This is my point exactly.
One member here posted baby pictures and it really disturbed me.
What does not wanting to talk about your kids on a porn board have to do with being homophobic?
Oswald Bates, is that you?
Yeah right. Not even King Grownman is that stupid. The only kid I saw posted on BGOL was the black kid with the blue eyes and it was sad to see grown men talking bad about a kid.
On other less hostile black forums I have been on, men talk about their kids all the time. Its just that this is BGOL.
From My Stand Point My Kid Has Nothing To Do With Whats Going On This Board,,he Is Not Facing Issuse With Realationship,personal Problems Or Just Want To Talk Real Talk Sometimes With The Fellas..he Is Just A Kid And Kids Dont Hav A Worry In The World What Is Going On Out Here In The Real World,,and Truthfully Its Should Stay That Way We Shouldnt Hav To Discuss Any Thing Related To Our Kid Or Kids On This Board That When It Just Get To Personal On Here...
You generalized about the white men and you are also generalizing about the brothers here. You haven't read the posts that brothers mention their kids and/or discuss kids issues. This is the most diverse board out there. We talk about everything. Tell me which other board you will find as diverse as this and tell me which white porn board you will find with what you are asking about and as diverse also as this.
Seems you have met lots of white men who talk about their family but you haven't been around the black folks who are all about family also. I also want to point out that in all customer service training or customer oriented job training they tell you to talk about family to create a bond with the customer. Check again and see if these white people weren't trying to sell you something, were at some point in their life in sales or customer oriented position or thinking about selling you something in the future.
Exactly. I'll fuck around and go CSI on niggas, track em down and bomb on that ass, they say ANYTHING disrespectful about mine. I absolutely could not handle that. 
*sigh* I get caught out there on stuff like that too.Good point also.
I may allude or generalize, but noooooooo specifics.
And it aint just kids. Its work, money, etc....too much identifying info of ANY kind is not a good idea on this board, or any board really.
I come here to escape the bullshit and drama that goes along with having kids, custody, ex wives, child support and other shit. Once I'm done I give them a call, invited them over and go back to being a father again.
That reminds me, I have to call my ex later. Thanks a lot
That reminds me, I have to call my ex later. Thanks a lot
I HAVE DONE IT ON SEVERAL OCCASIONS
AS IT PERTAINS TO WHATEVER SUBJECT BEING DISCUSSED
PARTICULARLY WHEN THERE IS A TOPIC THAT INVOLVES
SELF ESTEEM ISSUES AND THE YOUTH OF TODAY AS WELL AS FAMILY AND ITS BONDS PAST AND PRESENT.
AND YES THEY ALL LIVE UNDER MY ROOF.
AS IT PERTAINS TO WHATEVER SUBJECT BEING DISCUSSED
PARTICULARLY WHEN THERE IS A TOPIC THAT INVOLVES
SELF ESTEEM ISSUES AND THE YOUTH OF TODAY AS WELL AS FAMILY AND ITS BONDS PAST AND PRESENT.
AND YES THEY ALL LIVE UNDER MY ROOF.
Context, my man, context. Not many posts exist in a vacuum, and your therefore myopic visualization of said response being non-representitive of the entirety of the speculazation of my of my somewhat simplistic though highly poignant regurgitation of that repetitive theme espoused on these pixelated forums that brothers be separated heuristicly from said phobias.
Nah mean?