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why black women arent getting married
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because a lot not ALLof our sister demeanor is like this
LoneStar29
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That radio show was laden with a lot of stereotypes and just angry bickering about African American women. Although the host did speak some stats and facts, he did it in such a way to completely turn off black women who may have been listening in on the show.
How can we ever get ANYWHERE as a people if we just sit and bicker with one another? And, also, what was the point of posting something like this on SOL without a discussion question when you know it's going to probably piss off more than half of the members of this board?
On a side note, what I have witness in the community is both men and women feeling they are too good and better than the their counterparts and being extremely superficial and materialistic in their quest to find a mate (i.e., she must be a certain weight, have a certain hair length, or he must make a certain amount of money or be a certain skin complexion) rather than looking at longer, true ATTRIBUTES of an individual.
How can we ever get ANYWHERE as a people if we just sit and bicker with one another? And, also, what was the point of posting something like this on SOL without a discussion question when you know it's going to probably piss off more than half of the members of this board?
On a side note, what I have witness in the community is both men and women feeling they are too good and better than the their counterparts and being extremely superficial and materialistic in their quest to find a mate (i.e., she must be a certain weight, have a certain hair length, or he must make a certain amount of money or be a certain skin complexion) rather than looking at longer, true ATTRIBUTES of an individual.
I'm so tired of having to defend black women so I'm backing away from this
Thank you,its getting redundant
I can't take another black man rant on black women. If I hear weight issues AGAIN...lol...this shit is just ridiculous
When are we gonna work together?
But...I lost all respect for this particular rant when he started saying how black men marry women of OTHER races more often than us. That's not even true...but besides that, what a great way to get us to listen to you! dumb ass
When are we gonna work together?
But...I lost all respect for this particular rant when he started saying how black men marry women of OTHER races more often than us. That's not even true...but besides that, what a great way to get us to listen to you! dumb ass
LoneStar29
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Jo ... sweetie ... you are much to educated and reasonable to be posting in this mans thread ... let him live in his ignorance ... there is no point in trying to have a discussion with a man that already hsa a negative perception of you becuase you are a Black woman ... let the White women have him ... we're better off anyways
I'm so tired of having to defend black women so I'm backing away from this
C/S ... this man is very ignorant ... there is no point in trying to have a discussion with him about anything that pertains to making the Black community stronger ... all he ever wants to do is bash Black women ... Flash ... I mean carolina boi ... give it up
Women are naturally more emotional then men...so thats liable to happen.
But that was a funny reply..i'll give u that
No, I was referring to the 5089432809432 posts on BGOL about this same topic. I don't understand why its posted over here, when it's so readily available on BGOL.
No one is upset. I am just tired of the same posts written 300,000 different ways. They all say the same thing.
Not to mention the movies.
I guess gender empowerment is only meant for the fairer sex.
(Didn't listen though)
The higher the rate of incarceration and the lower the educational level of black men (in a particular state), the less likely it is that a black woman will get married. Pretty simple.
The questions should be; "Why aren't black men getting married?" "WHERE are they?" "Why do they marry white women at 3x the rate that black women marry white men?"
Black women are always stuck waiting on black men to get their shit together, and often with his child to raise. (Which is a shame because, independent of the burden of single motherhood, black women outperform black men AND white women in terms of educational performance and post-college employment success.)
The questions should be; "Why aren't black men getting married?" "WHERE are they?" "Why do they marry white women at 3x the rate that black women marry white men?"
Black women are always stuck waiting on black men to get their shit together, and often with his child to raise. (Which is a shame because, independent of the burden of single motherhood, black women outperform black men AND white women in terms of educational performance and post-college employment success.)
LoneStar29
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You boys are being silly with those comments in here
None of us women in here wrote those books, or any of those movies ... and whose to say we even agree with those opinions
When these ignorant girl haters come over here and spit this "Black women are this and that" every other day it gets veeeeeeeeeeeeeery old and is pretty lame
It's funny to me how many times I hear men say women label them but you boys do it aaaaaaall the time to us ... hypocrites
None of us women in here wrote those books, or any of those movies ... and whose to say we even agree with those opinions
When these ignorant girl haters come over here and spit this "Black women are this and that" every other day it gets veeeeeeeeeeeeeery old and is pretty lame
It's funny to me how many times I hear men say women label them but you boys do it aaaaaaall the time to us ... hypocrites
Can we make Jo's reply a sticky for this same tired ass question. For real I'm about to go straight BGOL style and just post ass, titties, and dicks in these redundant threads. SOmething for everybody!
People that REALLY want to get married (black or otherwise) and do what it takes to get married (including moving halfway around the world if necessary), GET MARRIED in my experience. Why even assume "can't"? Tired question and tired flawed reasoning.
Better question...how come across the board in the west (yes, white folks too!) people can't STAY married? That seems to have more value imo.
EDIT: That gif is FUNNY! LOLZ!!!!
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Flash and Carolina Boi are the same person. Tariq Nasheed kicked him out of his pack of underlings and flunkies (the mack pack) and flash cant let it go sq he still posting that niggas shit up. Also he's in this thread answering his own questions using both names.
What up peoples?
I read both boards often but really just post on the business network side but just wanted to add my 2 cents.
I think that we both men and women both have several issues. I agree with the brotha maybe not his delivery but he is kickin realness. I did the school thing. BA and MS (Just paper, opens doors but still just paper) In school I was always in class with a bunch of Black women who insisted they didnt need a man this that and third. I always thought I want a woman who is independent but still understands what her role is and what my job entails. It comes down to play your position, I find that women want to run the team or drive the car when Im looking for a navigator and an assistant. No knock on all women but by far I find women who say "I know my role", but when its game time they trying to run it. Then have issue with when I say you need to fallback and play your position. Ofcourse Im alittle more tactful most times but for times sake Im being less verbose. That being said I have found MANY lovely Black Women whose pros heavily outweigh the cons. Still that true helpmate mentality while women are under the age of 40 has been eluding me.
Weight and health concerns are also an issue that we can work on if they are willing. Some say they are but when I say you work out today I hear I was tired I was this I was that. Non cypher on that. We cant build together if I dont eat red meats or fried foods and you want to eat Mickey D's.
I also meet women who dont feel like its there duty to cook and clean. Even if Im on the money making extra hard. Meaning I make enough to make mortgage (not rent), take our yearly vacationsss, lay the pipe and again be fair and just.
Now Im not all knight in shining armor cause I still like to hunt but Im still thinking thats becasue I havent met the woman who embodies the things above. Hard for me to stay faithful at this point. Its almost like I have BENZ money but I drive a Excel sooner or later Im gonna be like I need to get that Benz.
Peace to all yall though. The biggest problem that we both have is having an open ear. We have to listen and honor both sides. I see cats on here thats attacking women. Bottom line is yall (women) cant hear what we say in that tone. Same way that we cant hear a word yall say when yall blanket Blackmen in a negative light. I know it can be hard to stomach when most of your experiences have been that way but we both play a part.
Peace yall
My bust on the spelling and grammar
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I read both boards often but really just post on the business network side but just wanted to add my 2 cents.
I think that we both men and women both have several issues. I agree with the brotha maybe not his delivery but he is kickin realness. I did the school thing. BA and MS (Just paper, opens doors but still just paper) In school I was always in class with a bunch of Black women who insisted they didnt need a man this that and third. I always thought I want a woman who is independent but still understands what her role is and what my job entails. It comes down to play your position, I find that women want to run the team or drive the car when Im looking for a navigator and an assistant. No knock on all women but by far I find women who say "I know my role", but when its game time they trying to run it. Then have issue with when I say you need to fallback and play your position. Ofcourse Im alittle more tactful most times but for times sake Im being less verbose. That being said I have found MANY lovely Black Women whose pros heavily outweigh the cons. Still that true helpmate mentality while women are under the age of 40 has been eluding me.
Weight and health concerns are also an issue that we can work on if they are willing. Some say they are but when I say you work out today I hear I was tired I was this I was that. Non cypher on that. We cant build together if I dont eat red meats or fried foods and you want to eat Mickey D's.
I also meet women who dont feel like its there duty to cook and clean. Even if Im on the money making extra hard. Meaning I make enough to make mortgage (not rent), take our yearly vacationsss, lay the pipe and again be fair and just.
Now Im not all knight in shining armor cause I still like to hunt but Im still thinking thats becasue I havent met the woman who embodies the things above. Hard for me to stay faithful at this point. Its almost like I have BENZ money but I drive a Excel sooner or later Im gonna be like I need to get that Benz.
Peace to all yall though. The biggest problem that we both have is having an open ear. We have to listen and honor both sides. I see cats on here thats attacking women. Bottom line is yall (women) cant hear what we say in that tone. Same way that we cant hear a word yall say when yall blanket Blackmen in a negative light. I know it can be hard to stomach when most of your experiences have been that way but we both play a part.
Peace yall
My bust on the spelling and grammar
Gotta get these oils out http://stores.ebay.com/FragrantBodyOilz
says the engaged black woman.
What up peoples?
I read both boards often but really just post on the business network side but just wanted to add my 2 cents.
I think that we both men and women both have several issues. I agree with the brotha maybe not his delivery but he is kickin realness. I did the school thing. BA and MS (Just paper, opens doors but still just paper) In school I was always in class with a bunch of Black women who insisted they didnt need a man this that and third. I always thought I want a woman who is independent but still understands what her role is and what my job entails. It comes down to play your position, I find that women want to run the team or drive the car when Im looking for a navigator and an assistant. No knock on all women but by far I find women who say "I know my role", but when its game time they trying to run it. Then have issue with when I say you need to fallback and play your position. Ofcourse Im alittle more tactful most times but for times sake Im being less verbose. That being said I have found MANY lovely Black Women whose pros heavily outweigh the cons. Still that true helpmate mentality while women are under the age of 40 has been eluding me.
Weight and health concerns are also an issue that we can work on if they are willing. Some say they are but when I say you work out today I hear I was tired I was this I was that. Non cypher on that. We cant build together if I dont eat red meats or fried foods and you want to eat Mickey D's.
I also meet women who dont feel like its there duty to cook and clean. Even if Im on the money making extra hard. Meaning I make enough to make mortgage (not rent), take our yearly vacationsss, lay the pipe and again be fair and just.
Now Im not all knight in shining armor cause I still like to hunt but Im still thinking thats becasue I havent met the woman who embodies the things above. Hard for me to stay faithful at this point. Its almost like I have BENZ money but I drive a Excel sooner or later Im gonna be like I need to get that Benz.
Peace to all yall though. The biggest problem that we both have is having an open ear. We have to listen and honor both sides. I see cats on here thats attacking women. Bottom line is yall (women) cant hear what we say in that tone. Same way that we cant hear a word yall say when yall blanket Blackmen in a negative light. I know it can be hard to stomach when most of your experiences have been that way but we both play a part.
Peace yall
My bust on the spelling and grammar
http://stores.ebay.com/FragrantBodyOilz
Good post bxbomber. Thanks for posting on this side
Best to you sir.
Jo that was the point hun. Its why SOL has become what it has.
Compare this thread to the one on the other side. Can we make Jo's reply a sticky for this same tired ass question. For real I'm about to go straight BGOL style and just post ass, titties, and dicks in these redundant threads. SOmething for everybody!
People that REALLY want to get married (black or otherwise) and do what it takes to get married (including moving halfway around the world if necessary), GET MARRIED in my experience. Why even assume "can't"? Tired question and tired flawed reasoning.
Better question...how come across the board in the west (yes, white folks too!) people can't STAY married? That seems to have more value imo.
EDIT: That gif is FUNNY! LOLZ!!!!
Izzy a question like that doesn't have the same affect dahlin. It would actually mean there would be something to think about.
Peace
reading both sides i found this stat interesting:
78% of Black women are overweight, 50% R obese, 70% R single.
i know many "complain" on both sides about the weight thing, but it is an everyday issue.
you just can't sweep it under the door, if enough people are complaining about it, there must be some truth to it.
78% of Black women are overweight, 50% R obese, 70% R single.
i know many "complain" on both sides about the weight thing, but it is an everyday issue.
you just can't sweep it under the door, if enough people are complaining about it, there must be some truth to it.
a lot.
despite what people think, physical attraction has to occur at some point.
despite what people think, physical attraction has to occur at some point.
I know this was not my question but I think it has alot to do with not getting married. On the psychological side. Women are attracted to men for security, safety and stability while men look for child rearing qualities which one of them is physical appearance. Thats white, Black, red or green. Also if you driving a 92 corolla but you have Lexus money sooner then later you gonna trade up. Nothing like waking up next to a beautiful in shape, about her business Black woman. Its like you hit the lottery. Kinda like why when folks get money they only marry pretty in shape people. Why? Becasue they can and thats what we all want to get the best for our money
In so many words 
Yes, there are obese and overweight people out there, but I think those stats are exaggerated... In reality, if we are going by the BMI index, everyone is over weight. On the BMI index, being 5 foot 5 and 150 lbs is considered overweight. I think it's all about how you carry your weight. And all this shit talks about women being overweight, last I checked it was FAT MEN out there too, and I'm not tryna lay up under no fat ass man. Fat men got some nerve talking about they want a girl who is in shape and only 120 lbs, so he can crush her...
I know this was not my question but I think it has alot to do with not getting married. On the psychological side. Women are attracted to men for security, safety and stability while men look for child rearing qualities which one of them is physical appearance. Thats white, Black, red or green. Also if you driving a 92 corolla but you have Lexus money sooner then later you gonna trade up. Nothing like waking up next to a beautiful in shape, about her business Black woman. Its like you hit the lottery. Kinda like why when folks get money they only marry pretty in shape people. Why? Becasue they can and thats what we all want to get the best for our money
a lot of people refuse to face that. Physical attraction is the largest percentage of why your drawn to a person. we can argue the beauty is skin deep line all day, but we all know most of you wouldn't give an "urkel" the time of day just from initial visual contact. let's be real, ladies how many of you would look twice at this gentlemen here:
so why is it hard to comprehend that overweight women are seen the same way you see that guy above?
last I checked it was FAT MEN out there too, and I'm not tryna lay up under no fat ass man. Fat men got some nerve talking about they want a girl who is in shape and only 120 lbs, so he can crush her...
and i have no arguments to your line of thought. i have no problem with the saying what's good for the goose is good for the gander, but usually when the tables are turned, no one wants to hear it. Many women do take it as an "attack" upon their person. I'll agree many a times the message is not put out there "properly" for example i myself am constantly guilty of putting the right message out the wrong way(the no fat woman logo for ex.) but enough is enough. there's a saying people don't see themselves the way other people see them. a lot of people need to start hearing what those people are saying in some aspects...
seriously there's nothing hard about keeping physically fit. there's no reason for excuses to not do something that will help you whether it's dieting, exercising, popping some pills, etc.... "SOMETHING"
i know for a fact within the last two years my weight started fluctuating within a 20lb range so i do something to keep me within my goal weight of 180-185 everyday. so i pop 4 hydroxycut hardcores, jump on this the elliptical daily for 30 minutes and 15 minutes doing push ups...
Again, to me, all the rants about black women being out of shape has got to end. We can bitch and moan about it, or we can help sisters altogether, get in shape. I posted about this in the fitness and health forum in which black women get so many different messages about their bodies and women, in general, get information about losing weight quickly or through diet plans rather than through regular exercise and a sensible diet. It's definitely something that, as an adult, I have learned how to eat well instead of eating the high sodium, large carb diet you get raise on in New Orleans.
From a man to a woman if i told you. "losing weight will help you feel better and increase your attractiveness to the opposite sex"
what would be your response? and an honest one, not the "i'm gonna lie to prove my point response"
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