Why Black Men ARE REFUSING to Play Step DADDY!

[Ill Paragraph]

Peace,

You have a point about the callousness of the men that get women pregnant and bounce. But I can make statements like that because I've never gotten a woman pregnant. I consider it an affront for a woman to have the expectation that I'm willing to take on her and her last relationships mistakes just to be with her. I've always had three reasons not to get too serious with a woman with kids. 1.) You will never be first in that woman's life even as you make her first in yours. I'm not willing to be in a relationship that's unbalanced. 2.) I should not have to deal with any of her exes. She never has to deal with mine and I shouldn't have to come home and see her baby daddy sitting on my sofa drinking my wine. 3.) I'm not willing to deal with someone saying "you ain't my daddy!" These days that can lead to a boy squaring off with you in your own home or a girl putting a false molestation charge on you. I'm not dealing with either. Its funny how people are quick to call someone callous over their particular standards but won't think the same way about their own standards. I'm sure if I dig deep enough I'll find a statement you made about the kind of woman you aren't willing to deal with i.e. No fat bitches, no weave, no tattoos, no broke hoz, no ghetto bitches, etc. No single moms just happens to be on my list. Everyone is entitled to a preference.

I get that, bruh.

 

[34real]

Like everyone else,I had several examples of bad baby momma drama and dead beat fathers.....I knew what I wasn't going to do,what I wasn't going to put up with and who I wasn't going to even entertain(bitch kick rocks from Maine to Spain).Choices....I had many and even if I did get unlucky I would just had to bite that bullet til the child get's 18 which wouldn't be long cause I wouldn't be sitting on my ass youtubing about it either.

I will admit that some of you,like many of the brother's I know,including my blood brother's choose some terrible mud ducks from the depth's of under hell....one even told me he met her at the bus stop when he was driving passed lol you should of never ever stopped.

You choose em...toss em back before it's to late,you get warning signs,it's bad,it's really bad but some of you would take heed to your car engine light being on before a broad.....nigga's be slow.

 

[godofwine]

My boy played step daddy for a couple years. He grew pretty attached to the kid. It was his mom that was the problem. Actually, thats usually the case.

My boy did the same thing and then the unbelievable happened.

The mom threw a temper tantrum, broke up with him and forbid him to ever see the kid again. That petty bitch bitch my man's heart.

Fuck single moms. Tell your little girls the worst thing you could ever be other than a drug addict is a single mom. If you are not engaged at the very least, don't even consider having some man's baby

 

[yureeka9]

(bitch kick rocks from Maine to Spain).

Stolen!

 

[godofwine]

breh....me and my boy talk about this all the time....

just because a woman dont have kids doesnt mean she's never been pregnant.....especially 30 and above

my exwife technically didnt have kids but had been pregnant atleast 4 time i came to find out.....one miscarriage and 3 abortions....and the miscarriage she wasnt even sure who the father was......like i said that i know about.....

you need to start asking these women if they ever been pregnant....multiple abortions is a huge red flag

Honestly, I don't give a fuck if she has had abortions or if she's been pregnant before.

It's called: no proof.

I've said before that being a single mother the worst thing a girl could be and it's mostly preventable. No marriage, no raw.

I was talking with and mostly white crowd at John Carroll University and one white chick was staunchly against abortions calling women who have had one murderers. After everyone left I pulled her aside:

"You really believe that bullshit?"

"Hell no. My mother told me the worst thing I could be was single mother. No decent man is going to want a constant reminder of kids that aren't his. My mom said, 'Either abort them or swallow them.'"

Ask yourself a question, how many middle class white guys have you seen married to a woman with kids that aren't his, or with an interracial stepkid?

You don't. Why? Cuz they preach all that Jesus doesn't want you to have an abortion shit and then do the very shit they tell you Jesus doesn't want when you're not looking.

Being a single mother is is almost guaranteeing struggle in your life. And most single mothers are eternally poor

 

[knightmelodic]

Some men can do it, some can't. I'm firmly in the latter category. The issues have been spelled out already.

 

[CptMARVEL]

Another thread about knocking black women.

I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.

It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.

Black men have become the ones with the most excuses to not be responsible. And it's really sad. Yall will be the same niggas to go to Wakanda fuck everything and claim you can't find a good woman.

I'm sick of the BS from us now.

Peace,



Damn.

That’s some callous shit. It’s obviously a lot more complicated than that. These are children, not discarded party favors.

Women are in relationships before you meet them. Some of them produce children as a result of being in those relationships. A lot of cats get women pregnant then (for whatever reason) split, leaving women to bear the burden of raising kids that a lot of those dudes emotionally and physically abandon.

Driven in large part by the same callousness exhibited in your post, a lot of brothers only want to blame the women but don’t want to take responsibility for the critical part that men play in these situations.

Relax guys.
These cats are actually taking relationship advice from Oshay Duke Jackson of all people!!!!

You know it's bad when dudes take relationship advice from a no pussy gettin', White woman promoting, self hating dude who WANTS to be the next Tommy Sotomayor!!!!


These 3 clowns form a major part of a of a pathetic, (albeit ) vicious, multi headed, self hating serpent on YouTube who are hostile to and openly HATE Black women...

So; you know any so called "Black man" on BGOL who cosigns their bullshit and who posts their videos here as proof of their particular brand of "wisdom", is himself one of their closeted, pathetic disciple/followers and not worth your time. (or energy)
And MORE importantly, they expose themselves for being the sick haters of Black women that they truly are...

 

[Mo-Better]

Another thread about knocking black women.

I thank God I never had this issue, but who's leaving these black women with this kids that supposedly need a step-dad??? Black MEN.

It's times like this I hate yall because we keep shifting blame when some of you very niggas that take this stance are the ones that left or deny your own and kids are not taking care of what you left behind. Do your part and no one would have to STEP in.

But let's not be so quick to point fingers, these women are not getting pregnant by themselves. At the very least it proves (both sexes) still won't protect themselves sexually. That alone indicates the fault in most cases is shared.

Its a tough situation to step into. You maybe looking for "a friend" instead you end up with a family. If you think about it not many women would even consider that situation acceptable unless the guy has a lot of game and some long cash and still many would still say no.

Its not an easy choice suddenly the man is dealing this new woman, a child and in many instances the child's father is still connected. For a man not to consider alternatives would at the least seem foolish. They've wrote songs on this subject.

 

[0utsyder]

Cause of crazy ass dudes like this!!!

 

[Naha-Nago]

Relax guys.
These cats are actually taking relationship advice from Oshay Duke Jackson of all people!!!!

You know it's bad when dudes take relationship advice from a no pussy gettin', White woman promoting, self hating dude who WANTS to be the next Tommy Sotomayor!!!!


These 3 clowns form a major part of a of a pathetic, (albeit ) vicious, multi headed, self hating serpent on YouTube who are hostile to and openly HATE Black women...

So; you know any so called "Black man" on BGOL who cosigns their bullshit and who posts their videos here as proof of their particular brand of "wisdom", is himself one of their closeted, pathetic disciple/followers and not worth your time. (or energy)
And MORE importantly, they expose themselves for being the sick haters of Black women that they truly are...

Huh????

I think most men are saying that they shouldn't be guilt tripped because they don't want to be involved with a woman with kids.

What's wrong with that?

*two cents*

 

[MisterT]

Relax guys.
These cats are actually taking relationship advice from Oshay Duke Jackson of all people!!!!

You know it's bad when dudes take relationship advice from a no pussy gettin', White woman promoting, self hating dude who WANTS to be the next Tommy Sotomayor!!!!


These 3 clowns form a major part of a of a pathetic, (albeit ) vicious, multi headed, self hating serpent on YouTube who are hostile to and openly HATE Black women...

So; you know any so called "Black man" on BGOL who cosigns their bullshit and who posts their videos here as proof of their particular brand of "wisdom", is himself one of their closeted, pathetic disciple/followers and not worth your time. (or energy)
And MORE importantly, they expose themselves for being the sick haters of Black women that they truly are...

Man the shit you spewed..... that sounds dumb as motherfuckin' hell. So if you dont like a mufuka then he suddenly becomes wrong all the time no matter what he says? So, a man you don't respect cant be right sometimes? Even a busted clock is right twice a day. That's a dumb ass way to go through life but if it works for you, then rock on.

 

[LSN]

Cause of crazy ass dudes like this!!!

LOL!

 

[moblack]

PROBLEMS WITH BEING THE NEW BABY DADDY....

1) A NIGGA THAT NEVER SHOWED UP FOR NOTHING...SUDDENLY SHOWING UP....ALL THE FUCKING TIME...EVEN FROM THE PROVERBIAL GRAVE...NOW WANTING TO BE A DADDY...

2) KIDS AIN'T CALLIN YOU DAD.......IT'S WHAT EVER YOUR FIRST NAME IS........AND WITH THE MOFO'S THES DAYS...IT'S GONNA BE NIGGA...

3) DISCIPLINING THE KIDS.......MOM ALWAYS GONNA HAVE SOME SHIT TO SAY BOUT IT.....NO MATTER HOW BAD THE KIDS ARE...

4) GETTING COCK BLOCKED 24/7....NO BABY SITTER AVAILABLE...WE CAN'T....THE KIDS WILL HEAR...

5) BECOMING VERY FAMILIAR...WITH THIS PHRASE HERE...."YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO...YOU AIN'T MY DADDY...I HATE YOU!!!"...



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Bro that line has me crying from laughing

 

[roots69]

Stop playing with me. I was being sarcastic since we keep wanting to go to our own lil spot but we'll mess that up too.

Damn soul sista, I was just messin with ya!!

 

[CptMARVEL]

Man the shit you spewed..... that sounds dumb as motherfuckin' hell. So if you dont like a mufuka then he suddenly becomes wrong all the time no matter what he says? So, a man you don't respect cant be right sometimes? Even a busted clock is right twice a day. That's a dumb ass way to go through life but if it works for you, then rock on.

Yeah.
Uh, huh.
And by YOUR "logic", if David Duke, Richard Spencer and Donald Trump were to all say; "Traditionally, Black men are lousy fathers because they're all oversexed, irresponsible and in prison. But there sure are a lot of them in the NBA.", would you cosign them because you agree with part of what they said ...?

And that's the kind of twisted "logic" you're defending when you cosign those types of assholes because they hate on Black women...

"Busted clock, my ass..."

 

[MisterT]

Yeah.
Uh, huh.
And by YOUR "logic", if David Duke, Richard Spencer and Donald Trump were to all say; "Traditionally, Black men are lousy fathers because they're all oversexed, irresponsible and in prison. But there sure are a lot of them in the NBA.", would you cosign them because you agree with part of what they said ...?

And that's the kind of twisted "logic" you're defending when you cosign those types of assholes because they hate on Black women...

"Busted clock, my ass..."

That is so far away from being a correct analogy it's just mind numbing! I agree with Oshay, how did Trump, Duke and Spencer get in this? I agree with Oshay's video here. And not a word of it was hating on black women. Not one word!

 

[M.H.C.]

I wholeheartedly agree. Not my kid not my problem. Some men can do it, Not me.

As someone said, being a stepdad is like being asked to clean up after a party you weren't invited to. If it's a package deal, I don't want that package.

The woman I'm dating right now it's 29, I'm 41, and neither one of us have any kids. After using condoms for the past month-and-a-half she just went on the patch... Tapping that ass Raw tonight.

These bitches running around not using birth control and not giving a fuck about the consequences. A very high percentage of them aren't even getting child support from their child's father. A high percentage of them have multiple kids by multiple guys.

Now, after one or two fuck ups with proof, oh, now they want a good man. Now they want me. My good government job, my 2500 sqft 4 bedroom, 2.5 bath house in the suburbs on 0.6 acres of land.

Bitch please.

Your child's father doesn't even come pick up the kid, so on top of not getting child support from the piece of shit, your kids are there 427 days a year. I get no break from them and no time alone with you.

These little motherfuckers want to come sleep in your bed. How am I supposed to get some pussy?

I will not fuck with a single mom I don't care how either the pussy is. I don't want them in the car, I don't pick them up at a bar. I don't talk to them on a bus. I don't want them anywhere near us.

I do not like them Sam-I-Am. I don't date no single mam.

The fact that you called a kid a "piece of shit" shows that at 41, you're passed the "kid stage" and should never date a single mom anyway.

 

[godofwine]

The fact that you called a kid a "piece of shit" shows that at 41, you're passed the "kid stage" and should never date a single mom anyway.

What I said was:

Your child's father doesn't even come pick up the kid, so on top of not getting child support from the piece of shit, your kids are there 427 days a year. I get no break from them and no time alone with you.

On top of not getting any child support from the piece of shit, meaning the child's father

But, I'm still not dating a single mom

 

[Mt. Yukon]

Honestly fellas this goes both ways. Women don’t get pregnant by themselves. If men can go on to find love after having a child a female should have the same rights as well

Black men have become the ones with the most excuses to not be responsible. And it's really sad. Yall will be the same niggas to go to Wakanda fuck everything and claim you can't find a good woman.

I'm sick of the BS from us now.

Yeah... But... I ain't go no damn kids... You know how much will power you gotta have to pull out, even if she's on BC??? I went above and beyond to make sure I didn't have any damn kids... So... Yeah, I can talk shit, cause I'm not responsible for another dudes kids that stayed busting in chick's raw... Now I'm supposed to raise them fuckers??? For who??? For what??? Why I gotta let them cheat off my paper to pass, when them ninjas were the ones that didn't study???...

I'm not talking about ALL BLACK WOMEN... Just the single mom's that have the expectation of another dude "maning up" and taking care of her kids. What kind of Jedi mind shit you trying to pull here???

 

[M.H.C.]

What I said was:

Your child's father doesn't even come pick up the kid, so on top of not getting child support from the piece of shit, your kids are there 427 days a year. I get no break from them and no time alone with you.

On top of not getting any child support from the piece of shit, meaning the child's father

But, I'm still not dating a single mom

Damn. My fault fam. People without kids have all the reason in the world to not be stepdad or stepmom. It's the ones with kids that don't date other people with kids that confuse me.

 

[Naha-Nago]

For who??? For what???

*two cents*

 

[godofwine]

Damn. My fault fam. People without kids have all the reason in the world to not be stepdad or stepmom. It's the ones with kids that don't date other people with kids that confuse me.

Its alright, fam.

That ain't nothing but people being selfish and ridiculous. That's like a girl working minimum wage not dating a guy unless he makes six figures.

How are you going to be expecting more than you're giving? And if you have kids and only date people without kids you're expecting more than you're giving.

 

[YoungSinister]

Huh????

I think most men are saying that they shouldn't be guilt tripped because they don't want to be involved with a woman with kids.

What's wrong with that?

*two cents*

nothing is wrong with it
some niggas are programmed to defer to women. the type of nigga who thinks that being a man is all about living a hard life

 

[CptMARVEL]

That is so far away from being a correct analogy it's just mind numbing! I agree with Oshay, how did Trump, Duke and Spencer get in this? I agree with Oshay's video here. And not a word of it was hating on black women. Not one word!

Yeah.
I can see now; if you're agreeing with Oshay Duke Jackson, then I can completely understand why you have difficulty with critical thinking...

 

[Flawless]

if she is a good woman and the kids aren't bad I do not see a problem.

 

[Naha-Nago]

if she is a good woman and the kids aren't bad I do not see a problem.

I agree.

I also see no problems with a man not wanting to be with a woman because she has kids as well.

It's the man's prerogative; he doesn't owe that woman, or any woman, anymore than the decency one person would like another person to give themselves.

But for some odd reason, a man not wanting to take on an 'instant family just add hubby' is an issue for some asinine reason.

*two cents*

 

[4 Dimensional]

This thread is entertaining

 

[bgolweb]

I didn't watch the video and my view won't change..

There are fewer stepdaddies, male role models, father figures than in years past because there are more selfish people today.

More people concerned only with their own well being.

There are fewer people who will go knock on an elderly neighbors door after a snowstorm to check on them.

There are horror stories but that doesn't make them the rules

And we have people who have never had a bad experience who will refuse to step up based on something they heard happen to somebody else.

Funny they know all the horror stories but don't speak to all the success stories. the men who made a difference the men who become daddy even if they aren't the father.

If that isn't how you choose to role then just keep it moving but don't make excuses and videos trying to get cosigners. If you thought you were right you wouldn't need any.

This is about predatory single mothers seeking out men with no kids, and then trying to get those men to save them. Even shaming us when we won't commit to them - trying to get us to clean up their mess. This is not about the actual fathers of the single mother's children. That's a different story, bruh.

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

Pure comedy in here lol.
If you want to be a step dad then do it. If you don't then don't it's hella simple

If you want to be a step mom do it if you don't then don't
Hella simple

The only fault lies with the people who created the children
Not the 3rd party

 

[ballscout1]

This is about predatory single mothers seeking out men with no kids, and then trying to get those men to save them. Even shaming us when we won't commit to them. This is not about the actual fathers of the single mother's children. That's a different story, bruh.

Predatory women seeking out single men with no kids.

Obama is a Muslim born in Kenya who eats pork chop sandwiches

 

[MisterT]

Pure comedy in here lol.
If you want to be a step dad then do it. If you don't then don't it's hella simple

If you want to be a step mom do it if you don't then don't
Hella simple

The only fault lies with the people who created the children
Not the 3rd party

THANK YOU! Its just that simple.... I got some woman acting man attacking me cause I'm supposedly tainting woman by posting this. Its as simple as take it or leave it. Don't know why some people are taking this so hard. Too much argument for such a simple premise. If it don't suit them why don't they just move on? I really don't care how many rug rats the dude adopts, thats on him. Thanks!

 

[yaBoi]

i did it... but I GET IT

it's not for everyone

i raised a daughter that wasn't mine... even after me and her mom divorced....hell when i left i took my kids AND my stepdaughter..

 

[bgolweb]

Predatory women seeking out single men with no kids.

Obama is a Muslim born in Kenya who eats pork chop sandwiches

http://www.revolucionantifeminista..../06/lawrence-shannon-the-predatory-female.pdf

 

[ZuluSam]

I married a woman with boys 7 and 11. Their father didn't abandon them. It just worked out that he and their mother couldn't be married to each other. We fish, camp and talk shit together. That was 9 years ago. Their pops has never missed a visit unless he and their mom decide to switch days..... He is a football ref on the side, so he asked me to coach the youngest one's pee wee football team with him so when he was traveling to ref, I would be there......

Just grown up folk, being grown up....

And although I would never wish divorce on anyone, SINCE he takes his boys for EVERY visitation, plus Monday and Wednesday, me and the wife have free time for date night EVERY other weekend and during the week. It is a helluva a break for parents who NEVER get a break....

Shit, camping in the RV when we got the boy and traveling on weekends when we don't....

 

[totto]

Relax guys.
These cats are actually taking relationship advice from Oshay Duke Jackson of all people!!!!

You know it's bad when dudes take relationship advice from a no pussy gettin', White woman promoting, self hating dude who WANTS to be the next Tommy Sotomayor!!!!


These 3 clowns form a major part of a of a pathetic, (albeit ) vicious, multi headed, self hating serpent on YouTube who are hostile to and openly HATE Black women...

So; you know any so called "Black man" on BGOL who cosigns their bullshit and who posts their videos here as proof of their particular brand of "wisdom", is himself one of their closeted, pathetic disciple/followers and not worth your time. (or energy)
And MORE importantly, they expose themselves for being the sick haters of Black women that they truly are...

agree and this shyt isn't healthy for the mind. Shyt needs to stop, getting on youtube and talking mess about women all day, this bro shyt has to go.