Trust?

[actinanass]

I was listening to the radio earlier, and they were talking an issue where the main host *skip cheetam* had an argument with his wife about him keeping his phone lock with a pass code. Of course, the women on the show thinks that he should let his wife have the code just to keep peace. My issue *with many other people* was, why do you have to have EVERY little piece of a man's privacy?

I mean damn, no woman wants to talk about their college hoe years with their men, so why should you wanna know who contacts us on a regular? Seriously, what good comes out of making an issue out of it?

How do trust play into the situation? In my world, once you ask something like the situation I stated, all trust is out the window for the simple fact that you are questioning my loyalty. If you feel that I'm cheating, arguing don't solve shit, and create tears. I say this because if I was cheating, I'm going to JODY the situation. *the "I love you, but I fuck other bitches because you bitch ass don't have a sex drive worth shit"* I mean seriously, do any woman wants to hear that?

so discuss...

 

[sean69]

I say this because if I was cheating,

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Interesting...

I saw an episode of Bones (great way to start out a discussion right) where they were investigating a murder at this really elite college for smart kids. All of them were like the top minds in their fields. So since they were "elevated" they saw love and monogamy as non-rational. They saw trust and honesty as the way to go so they just fucked any and everybody they wanted and as long as everybody knew that they were fucking everybody it was cool. So if I fuck this girl today and fuck her freind tomorrow it was expected and actually encouraged as the true way for monogamous people to be.

Now obviously one of these muthafuckas ends up killing on of the other over some of this shit otherwise it wouldn't be Bones but...the concept blew my mind. If we were truly "honest" would you be able to hold a relationship together?

 

[dHustla]

So since they were "elevated" they saw love and monogamy as non-rational. They saw trust and honesty as the way to go so they just fucked any and everybody they wanted and as long as everybody knew that they were fucking everybody it was cool. So if I fuck this girl today and fuck her freind tomorrow it was expected and actually encouraged as the true way for monogamous people to be.

If we were truly "honest" would you be able to hold a relationship together?

This is how I expect all my relationships to go. None of the girls seem to be able to handle my brutal honesty. I tell 'em that "you shouldn't feel threatened just because I fuck somebody else. What I do w/ that girl has no bearing on what happens between us."
I lose most of 'em that way.

 

[jucurious]

hahahaha I was thinking the same thing but anyway,

I don't dot the whole go thru the phone thing BUT I will admit, that does look suspicious as hell, especially him being married.

that is all

 

[doggish_098]

why can't the phone be locked for security reasons If your other is making a big deal out of your phone being locked they don't trust you in the first place. If you unlocked the phone then they would come up with other "trust" issues.

 

[jucurious]

why can't the phone be locked for security reasons If your other is making a big deal out of your phone being locked they don't trust you in the first place. If you unlocked the phone then they would come up with other "trust" issues.

security reasons around his wife? hmmm ok

i mean maybe he got a reason to do that...we'll never know or maybe he's hiding something....like I said...we'll never really know

it just seems a lil suspicious

 

[doggish_098]

security reasons around his wife? hmmm ok

so a person who has security features on their phones are suppose to turn them off when they get around their other to show that they trust them

 

[jucurious]

so a person who has security features on their phones are suppose to turn them off when they get around their other to show that they trust them

hahahaha not saying that...and there was no mention of turning it off completely..they talked about sharing codes

ok...unless they are newly weds, this prolly has been an issue w/ her for a while and she is just now bringing it up

see this is what happens when u get 1 side of a story

possibility 1:
-his wife is trippin

possibility 2:
-he has suspicious behavior around his phone that has peeked her curiousity

 

[doggish_098]

hahahaha not saying that...and there was no mention of turning it off completely..they talked about sharing codes

ok...unless they are newly weds, this prolly has been an issue w/ her for a while and she is just now bringing it up

see this is what happens when u get 1 side of a story

possibility 1:
-his wife is trippin

possibility 2:
-he has suspicious behavior around his phone that has peeked her curiousity

There has to be some lack of trust already there... How do they know there is a code on the phone if they have not already tried to check it? Like you said is this something that has been there for a while maybe from past relationships of is this something new that has sparked the suspicions?







On another note if i gave someone my code to my cellphone they would have to code to everything in life.

 

[LoneStar29]

I wouldn't lock my phone cuz I aint got nothing to hide from him so I don't see why he would need to lock his

Also I wouldn't go through his phone cuz if I don't trust him then we don't need to be together and I wouldn't expect him to go through mine

Him going out of his way to lock me out would make me think maybe he has something to hide

 

[jucurious]

There has to be some lack of trust already there... How do they know there is a code on the phone if they have not already tried to check it? Like you said is this something that has been there for a while maybe from past relationships of is this something new that has sparked the suspicions?

D you CAN'T be serious. I mean they are married and maybe they live together.

I know that plenty of ppl who have codes on their phone b/c I saw them put it in to unlock their phone to make a call Especially if it's a side kick.

Shit one day, maybe she did try to use his phone to make a call and couldn't and he was like oh I got it, unlocked it and gave the phone back to her...who knows. We don't have to assume she tried to crack his phone to know that he got a code.


Wow was that really the first thing that came to your mind? I hope all guys don't think like that it's all making sense

 

[doggish_098]

D you CAN'T be serious. I mean they are married and maybe they live together.
Shit one day, maybe she did try to use his phone to make a call and couldn't and he was like oh I got it, unlocked it and gave the phone back to her...who knows. We don't have to assume she tried to crack his phone to know that he got a code.

sounds like a set up. she already knew it was a code so she just wanted to see if he would give it to her or just remove it on his own.

 

[jucurious]

sounds like a set up. she already knew it was a code so she just wanted to see if he would give it to her or just remove it on his own.

a set up?

wtf...see that type of thinking is suspicious lol

in my experience, ppl who jump to conclusions like you have first prolly are hiding somethin lol

yeah Doggish, it was a set up

 

[bigirl]

I trust no man period so I don't even need to be bothered with having to see his phone or anything else I just take it as fact that there are other women and he will never tell and proceed accordingly

 

[jucurious]

I trust no man period so I don't even need to be bothered with having to see his phone or anything else I just take it as fact that there are other women and he will never tell and proceed accordingly

damn

is that b/c u have / have had ppl on the side or is this something that you believe for all men period?

 

[bigirl]

damn

is that b/c u have / have had ppl on the side or is this something that you believe for all men period?

I just seen too much shit I seen and heard it all I 38 years old and EVERY SINGLE ONE has fucked around and made up all kinds of stories plus what I hear and see from my boys so like I said I don't even trouble myself with none of that I did not drink the kool aid and don't believe in fairy tales

 

[Iron]

Honesty will save u alot of time money and energy lol. I f u still gotta hide shit from some one u dating then u shouldn't be in a relationship.

Now My phone is locked.

1. because i do like a bit of privcay but i have no qulam feelings about giving her the pass or unlocking it for her. hell she also has my password for my computer.

2. because i keep it in my pocket and i aint tryna lean against nothing or sit down on it and make a phone call to france.

3. My phone is a little expensive and uncommon and it deters theft.


Having his phone locked isn't suspcious but I do agree if he guards it and acts funny about it...

Anyway if your with someone quit wasting peoples time if you're gonna fuck around be single.

 

[Iron]

I just seen too much shit I seen and heard it all I 38 years old and EVERY SINGLE ONE has fucked around and made up all kinds of stories plus what I hear and see from my boys so like I said I don't even trouble myself with none of that I did not drink the kool aid and don't believe in fairy tales

It's hard to come pass honest people. but there are some out there. lol it takes alot to win my trust.

Guilty until proven innocent.

 

[actinanass]

BTW, I do think that making an issue out of locking the phone only makes a good thing seems really bad. I think the real question is this, do some people need some sort of drama in their life to fill a void?

 

[actinanass]

Honesty will save u alot of time money and energy lol. I f u still gotta hide shit from some one u dating then u shouldn't be in a relationship.

Now My phone is locked.

1. because i do like a bit of privcay but i have no qulam feelings about giving her the pass or unlocking it for her. hell she also has my password for my computer.

2. because i keep it in my pocket and i aint tryna lean against nothing or sit down on it and make a phone call to france.

3. My phone is a little expensive and uncommon and it deters theft.


Having his phone locked isn't suspcious but I do agree if he guards it and acts funny about it...

Anyway if your with someone quit wasting peoples time if you're gonna fuck around be single.

hey I feel ya on most of the shit.

First and foremost, I'm not giving ANYONE any passwords to stuff like Myspace, or whatever. Reason being, hell, I'm halfway on myspace in the beginning. Plus, we have pictures together ON my myspace/facebook. If she still have questions about that shit, then she isn't the one for me.

Secondly, its all about communication anyway. I'll tell my girl she can call ANYONE on my phone, and they would acknowledge that I claim her.

 

[Timbuk]

I feel that

 

[p5ych3]

Interesting...

I saw an episode of Bones (great way to start out a discussion right) where they were investigating a murder at this really elite college for smart kids. All of them were like the top minds in their fields. So since they were "elevated" they saw love and monogamy as non-rational. They saw trust and honesty as the way to go so they just fucked any and everybody they wanted and as long as everybody knew that they were fucking everybody it was cool. So if I fuck this girl today and fuck her freind tomorrow it was expected and actually encouraged as the true way for monogamous people to be.

Now obviously one of these muthafuckas ends up killing on of the other over some of this shit otherwise it wouldn't be Bones but...the concept blew my mind. If we were truly "honest" would you be able to hold a relationship together?

If you into fiction based on real world possibilities check out "For us the
living" Its premise is about a world without poverty and neither is there
a love for money or wealth. It also touches on what that Bones episode
covered.

 

[jucurious]

Honesty will save u alot of time money and energy lol. I f u still gotta hide shit from some one u dating then u shouldn't be in a relationship.

Now My phone is locked.

1. because i do like a bit of privcay but i have no qulam feelings about giving her the pass or unlocking it for her. hell she also has my password for my computer.

2. because i keep it in my pocket and i aint tryna lean against nothing or sit down on it and make a phone call to france.

3. My phone is a little expensive and uncommon and it deters theft.


Having his phone locked isn't suspcious but I do agree if he guards it and acts funny about it...

Anyway if your with someone quit wasting peoples time if you're gonna fuck around be single.

all of that makes PERFECT sense

where have you been? come back!! lol

 

[Mo-Better]

I was listening to the radio earlier, and they were talking an issue where the main host *skip cheetam* had an argument with his wife about him keeping his phone lock with a pass code. Of course, the women on the show thinks that he should let his wife have the code just to keep piece. My issue *with many other people* was why do you have to have EVERY little piece of a man's privacy?

I mean damn, no woman wants to talk about their college hoe years with their men, so why should you wanna know who contacts us on a regular? Seriously, what good comes out of making an issue out of it?

How do trust play into the situation? In my world, once you ask something like the situation I stated, all trust is out the window for the simple fact that you are questioning my loyalty. If you feel that I'm cheating, arguing don't solve shit, and create tears. I say this because if I was cheating, I'm going to JODY the situation. *the "I love you, but I fuck other bitches because you bitch ass don't have a sex drive worth shit"* I mean seriously, do any woman wants to hear that?

so discuss...

You may have hit on a point. Those years in college, hitting the clubs when everyone was just wild with it. Many make comparisons based on their own past.

But a locked phone sets off a woman's alarm automatically. (Logically all phones should be locked.) Women can be the most insecure creatures on this planet. It matters not how much time you spend with them, how long you've been together, some women are just insecure. Doesn't seem to matter how dedicated you are some are just suspicious by nature.

 

[actinanass]

You may have hit on a point. Those years in college, hitting the clubs when everyone was just wild with it. Many make comparisons based on their own past.

But a locked phone sets off a woman's alarm automatically. (Logically all phones should be locked.) Women can be the most insecure creatures on this planet. It matters not how much time you spend with them, how long you've been together, some women are just insecure. Doesn't seem to matter how dedicated you are some are just suspicious by nature.

When a woman becomes extra suspicious like that, that should give you a reason to check up on what SHE is doing. Women tends to feel guilty when they "accidentally" rode the wrong dick....

 

[jucurious]

wtf

 

[actinanass]

wtf

I don't know why you "wtf" me. I mean, if it makes YOU feel better to know your man's pass code then you really have insecurity problems. If a man wants to cheat, you think you knowing his pass code would stop him? If you catch him, yet love him, you will actually leave him? Lets be serious here, women tend to put themselves in a lose lose situation. Nothing comes out this situation in a positive manner. Ju, you could not fuck with me because you would forever be mad, and horny....

 

[sean69]

I just seen too much shit I seen and heard it all I 38 years old and EVERY SINGLE ONE has fucked around and made up all kinds of stories plus what I hear and see from my boys so like I said I don't even trouble myself with none of that I did not drink the kool aid and don't believe in fairy tales

38 fucked up years.

 

[jucurious]

I don't know why you "wtf" me. I mean, if it makes YOU feel better to know your man's pass code then you really have insecurity problems. If a man wants to cheat, you think you knowing his pass code would stop him? If you catch him, yet love him, you will actually leave him? Lets be serious here, women tend to put themselves in a lose lose situation. Nothing comes out this situation in a positive manner. Ju, you could not fuck with me because you would forever be mad, and horny....

ummmm ok let me go step by step

1. the wtf was directed at both your last comment above mine and mo's. it seems that no matter how many people have posted that YES, if she is acting insecure out of no where that is bad BUT if homie is giving her a reason to act suspicious then it may be justified yall are still focusing on her being insecure

2. i never said anything about wanting my guys passcode...in fact, go back and read what I stated

3. and yes I could not fuck w/ you b/c I would be doing something that wouldn't make sense and that I didn't like. I wouldn't always be angry either, if I saw that as a forming pattern, I'm out. lol

 

[Mo-Better]

When a woman becomes extra suspicious like that, that should give you a reason to check up on what SHE is doing. Women tends to feel guilty when they "accidentally" rode the wrong dick....

The kind of pettiness your describing kills a relationship. I'm a firm believer that you don't do wrong for wrong. To "check up on what SHE is doing" is only going to lead to harsh feelings. If she's doing wrong there will be signs there's no reason to go looking for more.

Understand this, "checking up on your significant other will not stop that person from cheating." If you feel you need to check up on the other person its already time to split.

 

[UrBoSS]

I wouldn't lock my phone cuz I aint got nothing to hide from him so I don't see why he would need to lock his

Also I wouldn't go through his phone cuz if I don't trust him then we don't need to be together and I wouldn't expect him to go through mine

Him going out of his way to lock me out would make me think maybe he has something to hide

COULDNT HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF!!

 

[bigirl]

38 fucked up years.

go choke on semen

 

[jucurious]

go choke on semen

 

[UrBoSS]

I just seen too much shit I seen and heard it all I 38 years old and EVERY SINGLE ONE has fucked around and made up all kinds of stories plus what I hear and see from my boys so like I said I don't even trouble myself with none of that I did not drink the kool aid and don't believe in fairy tales

wise words for the young'ns... ^^^
they all the same.... including the ones that say "we're not all the same" "im not him" ...story of my life