If in ALL your 38 years, EVERY SINGLE man you dealt with has cheated on you? IF that's true, and not your paranoid delusions, you need to change the TYPE of man you deal with. Stop blaming other people for your problems. And PLEASE, use punctuation.
You still crying?
My phone stays locked. No one messes with my phone cept my nephews and nieces, and even then it's locked. Want to make a phone call? SURE. Want to know my code? No. I have client info, credit card info, contacts, calendar info etc in my phone. I lose phones on a regular basis. Can't risk someone getting that info.
A little privacy is needed in every relationship. Some PEOPLE ( men would love to believe that ONLY women act like that, but that's b.s. ), feel that they need to know everything about their partner. AND, any undisclosed information is cause for suspicion.
Like the fool who asks his girl how many partners she's had, and when she don't answer accuses her of being a whore. ( I seen it happen ). Privacy is needed. Lock your phone. Have his and hers safes, etc, etc. Keep your personal info separated.