Three years for nothing/Dumped on Sweetest day (Colin Powell)

[Brother Blues]

I don't understand this. I went through this kinda shit in High School.

wtf am i the only nigga on bgol that isn't a fucking simp? fuck that good for nothing black bitch. she's 100% getting fucked by that nigga shes texting. did you say you were monogamous for 3 1/2 yrs???? lmfbao... a nigga being monogamous???? hahahahahahahahahaha you are fucking gay nigga.... just hang it up

 

[DolphinBoy]

Y'all still bumping this shit up? I ain't know y'all cared.

Update on my situation:

I've since been over the shit, I actually 'd at her ass for telling me she would call the cops on me if I dropped off more of her shit at her house without announcing myself (lol wtf), and I'm starting to date again... Slowly. I've been trying to get at this one cute ass Rican chick, and a couple of Sistas from my job have been trying to get at me... But I'm keeping my mind mainly focused on getting my money right now, seeing as I've been out of the "dating game" for a while now... Might as well keep to what I know best and get that money.

I threw a party two weeks before Thanksgiving, met new people, got to know more about others... All in all, life isn't as bad as it seemed within the first week of my predicament.

Lost 30 MORE pounds, which is something that I wanted to do before the year went out. I'm trying to slowly ween myself off of cigarettes, and working is doing that for me. Its just those damn off days is where I fuck up. I'm telling Santa I want the muhfuckin' PATCH for x-mas!

I was able to find work, been working since the last week of October. I'll drop by the Board once in a while, scroll thru the 1st page, click a few threads, leave a few one-worded comments then bounce.

Been chatting online & through text with the Rican chick I mentioned earler... Things might blossom between us... Don't know for sure, and at this point, it could go either way. Doesn't matter to me if we stay cool friends or grow into something more.

The ex has been trying to contact a brother, though... From leaving messages on my MySpace blogs, to calling me, leaving messages like "Hey... That's all I wanted to say... Just calling to see how you're doing... Talk to you later.."--END OF MESSAGE. I shit you not, the shit pisses me off sometimes. I'm thinking, "Why the fuck are you worried about me NOW? You didn't want anything to do with me when I was yours, NOW you want to know how I'm doing?! WTF kind of ass-backwards poppycock bullshit are you on??"

But before I even get to the point of responding to her, I chill, listen to some music, smoke a cig and laugh at it. I'm over it. I'm over her. I've shed my tears, wrote how I feel, said how I felt, and now, I'm in the transition of moving on with my life. She fucked up, not me. Now, I guess the whole salty, soggy, old gray-haired balls in her mouth isn't what she thought it was cracked up to be, so I'm straight.

In closing, Thanks to all the advice givers, and the people who clowned me. The clowners because, by y'all clowning me, you let me know that you've lived a hollow life where you've never invested emotional feelings into something then had it taken away. You all are fucking awesome. Infallible, even. Bravo, bitches. Bra-fucking-vo.

Peace

Good to hear that shit my fam. Don't even give her the time of day. Even if shes on that "lets be friends" bullshit b/c she knows she fucks up and shes hoping she can eventually get back together with you. FUCK THATTTTT

 

[VegasGuy]

""Put faith in God." Fuck him and his "divine plan." If me going through this type of heartache is in his plan, he can go fuck himself."

When you put it that way...it's pretty clear what she saw with you and where you are headed.

-VG

 

[Brown Bear]

UPDATE 2.0!!!!!

I JUST GOT OFFERED A PROMOTION YESTERDAY!

There's going to be a pay-raise, more GUARANTEED hours, and by my calculation, I'll be able to cop a new car by early March! Man, hearing that shit damn near made me hug that muhfuckin' manager. I'll be fully promoted in January, until then, I'm still doing me. Showing them that I'm not getting cocky just because I was offered a promotion.

Fuck, man... I'm doing a whole fucking LOT better now!


Oh, and Vegas Guy.... I'm an Atheist and a straight-forward (read: Asshole) type of person. When both of those clashed, that statement was born. She knew my standpoint on "religion" long ago, she accepted it back then and could have left then but didn't. So.... Your statement is moot.

And tell your god I said fuck him up his zombie-jew ass. If he's got anything to say about it, he knows where to find me. Me and you are still cool tho, right?

 

[Brother Blues]

UPDATE 2.0!!!!!



And tell your god I said fuck him up his zombie-jew ass. If he's got anything to say about it, he knows where to find me. Me and you are still cool tho, right?

 

[water]

 

[spicykjun]

u were expectin loyalty ???? nigga this is 09 fuck love get $$$


neva put your heart out there cuz it will definitely get stomped on


take it from a nigga who fuck married bitches (real women dont hav to lie) on a regular they will neva b satisfied one way or anutha they gonna find a fuckin problem (its like it is their fuckin callin in life "BITCH THE PROBLEM HUNTER") they dont wanna b happy they want control of EVERYTHING.



hope this experience has hardened your heart enuff to the point where u pay attention to yourself and your needs and realize when sum1 is jus playin u for their material needs



pay attention nigga life goes by fast will u keep up or will u b left beaten and bloodied on the sidelines cuz u too ignorant/stupid to pay attention to signs that r there to help to transition n2 to the proper lanes smoothly

 

[Scarecrow]

damn bro, to be blunt it sounds like she just got tired of being with a jobless, carless, computer nerd who doesn't like to smoke weed with her or take her out to hit the club every now and then. Thus the text messages from her new 40 something sugar daddy. You probably are a good dude but this chick probably wants a guy who can take her out and buy her nice things and right now in your current situation it seems like you cant do that.

 

[bigjayler]

sorry to hear that chief...just find another chick it'll happen

 

[Leeeeeee]

IN REMEMBRANCE

 

[DollarDay]

we need another update playa

 

[rikdicoulesmarv]

 

[BDR]

This turned out to be sort of a rant, but please, hear me out.

Okay BGOL/SOL, here's the deal:

I've been in a LONG 3 1/2 year monogamous relationship with a woman, we've been having problems ever since July (as far as I know), and we even almost split up back then. What kept us together was the fact that neither of us wanted to just "give up" on three years. Last week, we had another falling out, which made me leave her house @ 4 in the morning.

On this past Wednesday, I walked from my house in the hundreds (around 103rd street & Cottage Grove) to her house (around 71st & Morgan), just to talk to her face to face before she left for work. Within the conversation, she stated that she "didn't know who I was anymore," and that she was in the middle of the road as to whether or not she wanted to continue on. I told her I was willing to fight for this relationship, and that I still wanted to eventually marry her. At the end of the conversation, I told her "although you may think I've changed into another person, I'm still the man you fell in love with. I'm still the man that wants to do right by you." She said that she would see how things went from there.

Side note: I looked through her cell phone's text history, and saw a few messages from some guy who she says she's just friends with, and happens to be in his mid to late forties. She's 26, I'm 27. Also, the only arguments we had been having were arguments about her smoking weed, either around me, or period, because she told me she would stop two years ago and hasn't done anything about it since.

Thursday I had a job interview to go to, and she didn't call me that day or Friday to see how it went.

Saturday, Sweetest day, I had planned to cook some Chinese food and catch the bus over to her house with it, seeing as we were still at least "considered" a couple. Around 2pm she called me, but I was taking my afternoon jog around the parking lot, so when I got back in, I checked the caller ID and called her back. This is how the conversation went:

Brown Bear: Hello?
Her:Hey, how'd your job interview go?
BB: Short, the guy only asked me four questions then told me the store manager would be in contact with me.
Her: Ah. *silence*
BB:Hello?
Her: yea I'm here
BB: Was that all you called for?
Her: Yeah, to see how your interview went, that is the *friendly* thing to do, right?(emphasis on "friendly")
BB:*Silence* .... Is that what we are now?
Her: (Sharply) Uh, yeah.
BB: Is that all we are now is friends?
Her: Yeah.
BB:Are you breaking up with me?
Her: (Sharply, again) Uh, yeah.

I ask her why, and every time I rephrase the "why" and get a little more in detail, she gives a different answer.

"Because I feel like you aren't trying to be with me, so why should I try?"

I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO BE WITH YOU! THERE HAVE BEEN WEEKS ON END THAT I'VE WENT WITHOUT CIGARETTES JUST TO SCRATCH UP ENOUGH MONEY TO CATCH THE BUS TO COME SEE YOU! I'VE DONE FAVORS FOR PEOPLE SO THAT THEY CAN GIVE ME A RIDE OVER TO YOUR HOUSE! I'VE PAID PEOPLE TO TAKE ME TO YOU! YOU'RE THE ONE THAT DOESN'T VISIT ME!

"You don't do anything."
WERE YOU JUST LISTENING?? I DO PLENTY. I'VE BEEN DOING PLENTY. EVERY DAY SINCE JULY 1ST, I'VE FILLED OUT AT LEAST 4 JOB APPLICATIONS AT ANY AND EVERY PLACE I COULD IMAGINE EXCEPT FAST FOOD!

"You're not there for me."

WHEN YOU WENT IN FOR SPINAL CORD SURGERY, I WAS THERE HOLDING YOUR HAND BEFORE AND AFTER! WHEN YOU WERE GOING FOR REHABILITATION, I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS TAKING YOU THERE! WHENEVER YOU NEEDED A SHOULDER TO CRY ON OR JUST AN EAR TO BEND, I WAS THERE! WHEN YOU NEEDED AN "ESCAPE" WHEN YOU WERE LIVING WITH YOUR MOTHER, WHO'S DOOR WAS ALWAYS OPEN?! WHEN YOU NEEDED CIGARETTES AND DIDN'T WANT TO PAY IL PRICES, WHO DROVE ALL THE WAY TO YOUR MOTHER'S HOUSE, THEN TOOK YOU TO INDIANA, AND BACK? ME! I WAS THERE TO DO THOSE THINGS FOR YOU!

About 8-10 minutes go by, where she tells me that she doesn't feel like I'm doing anything in this relationship at all, and says she'll have to call me back later. Well, here it is Sunday, and my phone still hasn't rung. Another thing, I tried calling her back on both of her phones, and she wouldn't answer either.


I don't know if I've been a great man, but I know I'm far from a bad man. I never hit her, called her out of her name, called her stupid, didn't cheat on her, and never, EVER disrespected anyone in her family (although there were times when it would've been justified). I always told her "I Love You" when we talked. I always told her "I Love You" during sex. I just simply always told her "I Love You."


Why do I deserve this? After three whole years? Three years of happiness, around 4 months of arguments, and now I'm thrown out like "Your services are of no use to me anymore."


It wouldn't hurt as much if I knew why. I could accept a honest, viable reason, but the reasons she's giving don't hold water. The only thing that is popping up in my head is that she was cheating on me, and is a coward for not admitting it.

The real question is how am I supposed to find someone else that will accept me for who I am? I mean, fuck. I'm almost 30 years old, I don't like children if they aren't related to me, I play MMORPGs, I live in a "hood"-assed neighborhood, but I don't have any of the qualities of my surroundings (don't talk in slang mostly, don't have any kids, don't smoke weed or deal drugs), I like watching porn, I don't listen to rap music or most of today's R&B, I don't like the "club" atmosphere (I'd rather get drunk @ home), I don't like talking on the phone, and I'm into computers. There's not a lot of women out there that can accept/deal with that kind of man, especially in my neighborhood.

The only goals I had in life were to make her happy, and to get a job and climb my way up until I paid of my student loans, then go back to school, and somewhere between there get another car. Since no one has called me back since July for anything other than "Temp" service, I was happy just being with her. Now that I don't have a job I can focus on, OR a woman to help me through these troubled times, what am I supposed to do? And please, don't say "Put faith in God." Fuck him and his "divine plan." If me going through this type of heartache is in his plan, he can go fuck himself.

Sick of mama screaming that "Get a job, nigga"
Pressed to the limit, got to rob me a nigga
Simple and plain, my man scooped me in a hooptie
Whispered in his ear "This is what we got to do, G"
Got to bang a nigga and bang a nigga good
So I can cop a Benz and drive the fuck out the hood
Cause baby-mama screaming "Your daughter 12 months"
Can't live life swinging rocks and smoking blunts
Hanging wit the niggas dont pay the bills
And being broke and 30 give a nigga the chills
So what we gotta do is creep and see a sweet vic
Yo, you see that shit? (Hell yeah, I seen that shit)

 

[DjMorpheus]

glad to see shit worked out for you playa. u might need to update the first post because cats ain't gonna read thru 5 pages to see how things turned out. But yo old girl will be one of them bitches in a few years lookin for her "Barack Obama" and wonderin why she can't find a "good man"

 

[sirrcharrles]

Count your blessings brother and keep it moving. She is really a hinderance that you do not need. You are now free to explore your options and relocate if it is required. Focus on getting yourself straight first. When you get established believe me you will not be able to keep the bitches away!