Three years for nothing/Dumped on Sweetest day (Colin Powell)
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Bitch sounds to be on the cold side to me.
Once a bitch turns cold...that shit is old.
Once you sit there and tolerate it you lose a part of yourself
that you cant get back.
Thats why I learned as soon as a bitch starts trippin get the
pussy one good time and roll the fuck out. You will be proud
of yourself. Always remain in control cause a bitch can be
cold as fuck if you are in the bad position.
On point.
This is the 2nd most important, but the IMMEDIATELY MOST EFFECTIVE way to handle your break up. Do NOT for ANY reason deviate from this plan. You can't see it now, but when you distance yourself from the trees you will see the forrest.
The MOST important thing said is to ALWAYS chase the money.
The last is this: If you plan on marrying, do so with a woman who has more $ than you OR who was raised OUTSIDE the U.S. . . unless you get lucky
JG
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wow
do men REALLY try to operate by these rules? i mean no wonder some of yall have anger issues, are stressed the fuck out all the time and have problems connecting to people.
what is the POINT of being in a relationship, a SERIOUS relationship, with someone if you are gonna keep ur guard up like that.
i tell you, some men rules will be the DEATH of some men.
for some of yall to claim to be so free spirited and not give a fuck what others think u sure do operate in a real small box. so i guess ur roaming freely around in ur lil man box. 
Leeeeee, you know 4 laughs = a confession, right?
Was reading some old shit and just saw this.
My man, I can picture you all weepy eyed, and not from the onions, woking up some Chinese while searching the couch cushions for some change to jump on the bus with your lil greazy paper bag full of Chinese food, funking up the bus and shit.
Sorry, but the picture is
I mad @ everyone who bumped this thread... I came in here thinking dude updated us and told us he got a job now....
What are the chances he still stuck on pause waiting for ole girl to come back?! lolll
What are the chances he still stuck on pause waiting for ole girl to come back?! lolll
I mad @ everyone who bumped this thread... I came in here thinking dude updated us and told us he got a job now....
What are the chances he still stuck on pause waiting for ole girl to come back?! lolll
lolll = snickering
= lolDon't be scared to laugh, it's easy.........
lolll = snickering
Don't be scared to laugh, it's easy.........
I am trying hun... but I want him to have a job and be ok in this recession not worried bout some broad....
Damn, captain...that's some sad shit. Don't let this shit make you a cold, bitter person. Learn from it and move on.
Mine is on her way out, just came back from vacation and she's talking about her wanting to be romanced.....
Other female friend just came through with a bailout package costing 4K to a vacation spot
Have to layoff the current so you know i know about things like these......... cause I don't want to be worried/bothered bout "some broad"
I don't understand this. I went through this kinda shit in High School. 
wow
do men REALLY try to operate by these rules? i mean no wonder some of yall have anger issues, are stressed the fuck out all the time and have problems connecting to people.
what is the POINT of being in a relationship, a SERIOUS relationship, with someone if you are gonna keep ur guard up like that.
i tell you, some men rules will be the DEATH of some men.
Reread rule #2 "Never let her see you worried, scared, or frustrated." Those three traits are the CAUSE of anger issues and stress. If you display one you'll display the other. If you can't display those traits selectively then you lack the mental control needed to be in the company of a woman.
The whole point of being in a serious relationship is so that you can be more selective in the way you present yourself. Take a look at any man who's been single for more than a year and you'll see what I mean. Their clothes don't look right, their hygiene is off, their homes are fucked up and they get emotional at all the wrong times. A serious relationship can help you curb those negative impulses by forcing you to fit a certain mold.
As for these rules being the death of some men?
Following these rules in a relationship can save your LIFE! Once a woman loses enough respect for a man she might think nothing of setting him up to be killed. A true free spirit who doesn't care what other people think is one that operates completely free of the boundaries of society. In other words, it's that drunken bum pushing the buggy full of soda cans in front of your house. Not to knock the homeless, but how many sane women would want one as a life partner?
I gotta address three parties - the ladies who responded to this post, the brothers who are in clowning mode, and the original poster.
First of all, the ladies...not trying to call out the ladies, but...
It seems that you did focus on the material aspect of this relationship, and advising this brother to make himself more "marketable". Although I agree to a point, why can't this be a example of a woman simply being a materialistic bitch? I am saying a bitch because a woman who would take someone through changes like that after someone was there for them is not a woman in my book. A real woman would have a man's back while he is trying to get to that point...this woman will probably be dogged out by the man she ran to...karma is a bitch as well...
As for the brothers trying to clown this guy...this is a problem among brothers in our community...we can't talk about what happens to us among ourselves - if we do, we're considered soft. Although this is a porn board, people get a lot more out of this than that (music, politics, health, etc.), so obviously the brother felt that he could express his feelings...we as brothers should be about supporting one another instead of laughing at someone who obviously wanted some help. I admit, there is some funny stuff here, but sometimes we all need some help...this looks like one of those times...
As for the original poster...I know it's hard to not be angry or bitter, but this woman was obviously not for you. She has some issues that you do not need - be thankful that she is not in your life. Instead of looking at this relationship as a wasted 3 years, learn from this relationship. Try to see as many lessons in all of the experiences (good and bad). In the meantime, take some of the advice that you got here and take some time to get your mind and your personal and financial self right. Keep yourself busy with these pursuits. Continue to reach out for help with your plans. Lastly, do not change how you care for a woman...this woman may not have been able to see this strength, but someone will...by that time, your stuff will be straight (not saying that your stuff is not correct now, but everyone could stand a little improvement). Stay strong, and peace to you.
my homegirl told me something monday that made A LOT of sense to me.
when a woman is truly in love, she wouldn't in a million years be in a situation that would be so much as interepreted to cheating. when a woman is in love she will do anything to keep it together.
all of yall know that women are better cheaters than men because they notice little differences that men don't. so if you catch your girl in a suspect situation, it was on purpose.
move on.
when a woman is truly in love, she wouldn't in a million years be in a situation that would be so much as interepreted to cheating. when a woman is in love she will do anything to keep it together.
all of yall know that women are better cheaters than men because they notice little differences that men don't. so if you catch your girl in a suspect situation, it was on purpose.
move on.
Damn Kitty.....
You lonely too baby? Next time you are on your way from NY to CA swing through TX.....every country song isn't a sad song...I'll prove it to you....
Homie one thing I tell folks in situations like this is:
1. As some alluded to, dont call her back. infact Ill go more indepth and say to go to your cellie,press the phonelist button, scroll down to her number, and delete the shit. That way you can psychologically tell yourself you cant get in contact with her. Works like a charm. If she wants to talk she gotta call you. In the event she may call you, tell her you cant talk cause you have to go work (dont matter if you lying or not).
2. Give her the cold shoulder from there on out. I told my boy this once, if a chick wants to get back with you, she has to do everything in her power to earn your trust back. Dont and I mean absolutely dont do shit for her.
3. If finding work is that much of a problem, I tell folks all the time if push comes to shove go to your local military recruiter. Say what you want but guess what...you get a paycheck twice a gotdamn month. no ifs ands or buts about it.
Above all just find ways to enjoy your life. You already stated extracurricular shit you find enjoyment in. Go do you for a little while.
1. As some alluded to, dont call her back. infact Ill go more indepth and say to go to your cellie,press the phonelist button, scroll down to her number, and delete the shit. That way you can psychologically tell yourself you cant get in contact with her. Works like a charm. If she wants to talk she gotta call you. In the event she may call you, tell her you cant talk cause you have to go work (dont matter if you lying or not).
2. Give her the cold shoulder from there on out. I told my boy this once, if a chick wants to get back with you, she has to do everything in her power to earn your trust back. Dont and I mean absolutely dont do shit for her.
3. If finding work is that much of a problem, I tell folks all the time if push comes to shove go to your local military recruiter. Say what you want but guess what...you get a paycheck twice a gotdamn month. no ifs ands or buts about it.
Above all just find ways to enjoy your life. You already stated extracurricular shit you find enjoyment in. Go do you for a little while.
Bottom line somebody is and has been fucking your broad and that's how they act when you gotta go!
She did you a favor hopefully you'll see that or else simp your way into a fucking nervous breakdown.
She did you a favor hopefully you'll see that or else simp your way into a fucking nervous breakdown.
Right now, your pride is clouding your judgment. No one like rejection in any form, however this could also be looked at as a blessing for you.
For starters, you either recently realized her attention was being directed else where, If this was the case then, she more less been doing it for quite some time, and she just stop being discrete. Granted, someone is in her ear, and it could be the older cat, or someone in her circle of friends. Misery loves company. But, with everything it too it will pass.
She actually did you a favor, the holiday are around the corner, so that money back in your pocket. Keep in mind, this was all about sense of security, she, like so many weighed all her options, and you stated you don't have transportation, and possible the other dude did. But we also know looking from that view, someone said " hey what's the deal " and she went with the better option for her. Was it fair, no? Quite foul.
If I were you, I would focus on whatever things you may have placed on the back burner. This is what people " circling your wagons". It's going to be hard, but then that what emotionally growing is about. No on like's change when you are not in control.
She did you a favor, it's time the breathe bro. I would suggest not communicating with her, even though you'll be tempted too. Trust me, you feel better in the long run, as well as see things more clear down the road.
I wish you well.
For starters, you either recently realized her attention was being directed else where, If this was the case then, she more less been doing it for quite some time, and she just stop being discrete. Granted, someone is in her ear, and it could be the older cat, or someone in her circle of friends. Misery loves company. But, with everything it too it will pass.
She actually did you a favor, the holiday are around the corner, so that money back in your pocket. Keep in mind, this was all about sense of security, she, like so many weighed all her options, and you stated you don't have transportation, and possible the other dude did. But we also know looking from that view, someone said " hey what's the deal " and she went with the better option for her. Was it fair, no? Quite foul.
If I were you, I would focus on whatever things you may have placed on the back burner. This is what people " circling your wagons". It's going to be hard, but then that what emotionally growing is about. No on like's change when you are not in control.
She did you a favor, it's time the breathe bro. I would suggest not communicating with her, even though you'll be tempted too. Trust me, you feel better in the long run, as well as see things more clear down the road.
I wish you well.
This is all you need right here pimp........
WHACKJOBGRIM said it best:
"But What You Should Do Is Get Yourself Together, Get Your Paper Right. And I Assure You Someone Else Will Come Along.
You'll Always Lose Money Chasing Women, You'll Never Lose Women Chasing Money."
"But What You Should Do Is Get Yourself Together, Get Your Paper Right. And I Assure You Someone Else Will Come Along.
You'll Always Lose Money Chasing Women, You'll Never Lose Women Chasing Money."
Naw babe I got a Job and a Man... but I thought that song would help cheer him up!
Damn Kitty.....
You lonely too baby? Next time you are on your way from NY to CA swing through TX.....every country song isn't a sad song...I'll prove it to you....
job and pussy goes hand in hand(no pun intended)
Can't have one without the other...
Naw babe I got a Job and a Man... but I thought that song would help cheer him up!
Damn, you thought that would cheer him up.
Hope you don't ever decide to play a song to make him sad, or that fool is toast.
Y'all still bumping this shit up? I ain't know y'all cared.
Update on my situation:
I've since been over the shit, I actually
'd at her ass for telling me she would call the cops on me if I dropped off more of her shit at her house without announcing myself (lol wtf), and I'm starting to date again... Slowly. I've been trying to get at this one cute ass Rican chick, and a couple of Sistas from my job have been trying to get at me... But I'm keeping my mind mainly focused on getting my money right now, seeing as I've been out of the "dating game" for a while now... Might as well keep to what I know best and get that money.I threw a party two weeks before Thanksgiving, met new people, got to know more about others... All in all, life isn't as bad as it seemed within the first week of my predicament.
Lost 30 MORE pounds, which is something that I wanted to do before the year went out. I'm trying to slowly ween myself off of cigarettes, and working is doing that for me. Its just those damn off days is where I fuck up.
I'm telling Santa I want the muhfuckin' PATCH for x-mas!I was able to find work, been working since the last week of October. I'll drop by the Board once in a while, scroll thru the 1st page, click a few threads, leave a few one-worded comments then bounce.
Been chatting online & through text with the Rican chick I mentioned earler... Things might blossom between us... Don't know for sure, and at this point, it could go either way. Doesn't matter to me if we stay cool friends or grow into something more.
The ex has been trying to contact a brother, though... From leaving messages on my MySpace blogs, to calling me, leaving messages like "Hey... That's all I wanted to say... Just calling to see how you're doing... Talk to you later.."--END OF MESSAGE. I shit you not, the shit pisses me off sometimes. I'm thinking, "Why the fuck are you worried about me NOW? You didn't want anything to do with me when I was yours, NOW you want to know how I'm doing?! WTF kind of ass-backwards poppycock bullshit are you on??"
But before I even get to the point of responding to her, I chill, listen to some music, smoke a cig and laugh at it. I'm over it. I'm over her. I've shed my tears, wrote how I feel, said how I felt, and now, I'm in the transition of moving on with my life. She fucked up, not me. Now, I guess the whole salty, soggy, old gray-haired balls in her mouth isn't what she thought it was cracked up to be, so I'm straight.
In closing, Thanks to all the advice givers, and the people who clowned me. The clowners because, by y'all clowning me, you let me know that you've lived a hollow life where you've never invested emotional feelings into something then had it taken away. You all are fucking awesome. Infallible, even. Bravo, bitches. Bra-fucking-vo.
Peace
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