Three years for nothing/Dumped on Sweetest day (Colin Powell)
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Do what I do go get your hair done, nails done, a massage, eyebrows done, and a new pair of heels... and you will feel 100% better 
*thinkin* actually I do that on the reg anyway...
well I am saying this to say... hmmm you don't have a job so you can't go do those things above....
Dude why are you here on BGOL worrying about a chick when you have no job!!!
log off bgol and go to CAREER BUILDER NOW!!!!!!!~~~~~> LINK
*thinkin* actually I do that on the reg anyway...
well I am saying this to say... hmmm you don't have a job so you can't go do those things above....
Dude why are you here on BGOL worrying about a chick when you have no job!!!
log off bgol and go to CAREER BUILDER NOW!!!!!!!~~~~~> LINK
neither have I, I just thought it was his anniversary or something.
Same here. I'm like sweetest day
WTF
Do what I do go get your hair done, nails done, a massage, eyebrows done, and a new pair of heels... and you will feel 100% better
*thinkin* actually I do that on the reg anyway...
well I am saying this to say... hmmm you don't have a job so you can't go do those things above....
Dude why are you here on BGOL worrying about a chick when you have no job!!!
log off bgol and go to CAREER BUILDER NOW!!!!!!!~~~~~> LINK
"I got ya back playa"
use this as an opprotunity to reinvent yourself, do not sit and feel sorry for yourself too long, its ok and normal for a day or so..
but life is passin you by... while you are sulkin...
I know everyone doesnt have it like that, but maybe you can try to get second job and save some loot and travel... dude there are sooooo many chicks out there.. sometimes we lock in on one and if that dont work we
think we failed or something, dude there are tons of women with all types of personalities, one is bound to suit yours, just because this one didnt...
use the extra time to get into you, like you said you run, maybe you can incorporate a little boxing with that...
its ok to be hurt everybody gets hurt....... you only a bitchified motherfuckin pussy if you stay hurt..
flip that energy and use it to become a better you..
sorry about your loss....
but between me and you.....
You can do much Better than that, once you beleive you can.
but life is passin you by... while you are sulkin...
I know everyone doesnt have it like that, but maybe you can try to get second job and save some loot and travel... dude there are sooooo many chicks out there.. sometimes we lock in on one and if that dont work we
think we failed or something, dude there are tons of women with all types of personalities, one is bound to suit yours, just because this one didnt...
use the extra time to get into you, like you said you run, maybe you can incorporate a little boxing with that...
its ok to be hurt everybody gets hurt....... you only a bitchified motherfuckin pussy if you stay hurt..
flip that energy and use it to become a better you..
sorry about your loss....
but between me and you.....
You can do much Better than that, once you beleive you can.
your problem is you were too nice real talk. i was going to clown you but thats a mistake that happens in most men life.
theres going be more chicks out there and after that 40yr old guy sluts her out and is finished with her. Be a real man and tell her to kiss your ass when she comes back with i made the mistake, lol dont be a simp
also get off the video games, get off bgol, go out and meet chicks, dont cry them a river about your ex, say you tried your best but it wasn't enough for her. Put in more job applications.
no car, temp work = not attractive to chicks. not stable or mobile = not popping. Also if you arent in shape instead of buying food to cook for her, spend that money on weights/gym membership get yourself looking decent, buy some nice cologne and keep it pimping.
leave the silly chicks alone, you don't know it yet, but real talk getting rid of an unappreciating chicks is best move you can ever do. thank God you didnt marry her or have kids by her.(that be a whole different hell situation) you just got the biggest break in your life.
Find a chick who appreciates you and dont do that Mr nice guy stuff shit is played out like blacks who do rock n roll
theres going be more chicks out there and after that 40yr old guy sluts her out and is finished with her. Be a real man and tell her to kiss your ass when she comes back with i made the mistake, lol dont be a simp
also get off the video games, get off bgol, go out and meet chicks, dont cry them a river about your ex, say you tried your best but it wasn't enough for her. Put in more job applications.
no car, temp work = not attractive to chicks. not stable or mobile = not popping. Also if you arent in shape instead of buying food to cook for her, spend that money on weights/gym membership get yourself looking decent, buy some nice cologne and keep it pimping.
leave the silly chicks alone, you don't know it yet, but real talk getting rid of an unappreciating chicks is best move you can ever do. thank God you didnt marry her or have kids by her.(that be a whole different hell situation) you just got the biggest break in your life.
Find a chick who appreciates you and dont do that Mr nice guy stuff shit is played out like blacks who do rock n roll
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Sorry about your pain bro but love aint no joke. Regardless of what day it happens breakups hurt. Get used to that shit, it's life. Don't let it turn you off all women, just THAT woman. Like someone else said, do you really want an unsupportive weed head as a wife; one who couldn't keep her word about quitting?
If a woman doesn't have your back when you're trying to come up then don't shed a tear over her. You WILL find the woman you're supposed to be with at the right time. Your ex aint her!
Reading your story gave me one strong impression: that you were putting more energy into her happiness and the relationship than you were putting into yourself. You then expected the same from her.
Always do you and emphasize YOUR life and goals before you emphasize someone elses happiness. You came off needy and unchallenging to her and she lost respect for you. She lost respect for you over the job thing because you put it in her head that you would scrap up your last dime to help her. Unfortunately you aint got that many dimes so that just put you in a trick bag.
Fuck that shit! If you're trying to come up she should have been trying to help YOU more. Especially if you all were talking marriage!
So move on now. Stop trying to call her, that just makes you look weaker in her eyes and breaks YOU down. Hit the gym, hit the books, spend time with your boys for awhile and LET THEM SUPPORT YOU THROUGH THIS. This is what the fellas are for! Put your energy into putting your life together. Especially if you're trying to go back to school. Don't try to jump into another relationship cause your ass ain't ready. Find a jumpoff if you want but leave the emotional stuff alone.
Learn from this situation and let it make you stronger. Do that and you'll be alright.
If a woman doesn't have your back when you're trying to come up then don't shed a tear over her. You WILL find the woman you're supposed to be with at the right time. Your ex aint her!
Reading your story gave me one strong impression: that you were putting more energy into her happiness and the relationship than you were putting into yourself. You then expected the same from her.
Always do you and emphasize YOUR life and goals before you emphasize someone elses happiness. You came off needy and unchallenging to her and she lost respect for you. She lost respect for you over the job thing because you put it in her head that you would scrap up your last dime to help her. Unfortunately you aint got that many dimes so that just put you in a trick bag.
Fuck that shit! If you're trying to come up she should have been trying to help YOU more. Especially if you all were talking marriage!
So move on now. Stop trying to call her, that just makes you look weaker in her eyes and breaks YOU down. Hit the gym, hit the books, spend time with your boys for awhile and LET THEM SUPPORT YOU THROUGH THIS. This is what the fellas are for! Put your energy into putting your life together. Especially if you're trying to go back to school. Don't try to jump into another relationship cause your ass ain't ready. Find a jumpoff if you want but leave the emotional stuff alone.
Learn from this situation and let it make you stronger. Do that and you'll be alright.
Bruh, after reading all of that, 2 things occurred to me:
1) It wouldn't have matter what you said or did, she'd already decided that she was outta there.
2) It sounds like she's got her eye on a BBD. (that "friend")
I'm going to let you in on a secret; coming from an older cat, I've seen MANY older cats become friends with a younger chick who has a boyfriend. Afterwards, they start planting bullshit in the broad's head, thus fucking up her relationship. First it starts out as "advice", then they start pointing out the boyfriend's bad points and giving her bullshit "signs to look out for", always followed by "I'm older and I've been there before". The girl ALWAYS falls for it! I've seen it too many times. May not be the case with your girl, but I wouldn't doubt it. It's kinda like some ol' pimpshit. Think about it: look back on your conversation with her. How many REAL answers did she give you? NONE! Just being honest.
100.00 says that she'll call you when you feel that you've moved on and the BBD ain't working out. Here's the question for you:
If you have "moved on", and she calls you, are you going to stop your progress, and go back into that situation? My answer would be no. She's too old to be this flaky. Keep it moving. I know it's easier said than done, but do it.
1) It wouldn't have matter what you said or did, she'd already decided that she was outta there.
2) It sounds like she's got her eye on a BBD. (that "friend")
I'm going to let you in on a secret; coming from an older cat, I've seen MANY older cats become friends with a younger chick who has a boyfriend. Afterwards, they start planting bullshit in the broad's head, thus fucking up her relationship. First it starts out as "advice", then they start pointing out the boyfriend's bad points and giving her bullshit "signs to look out for", always followed by "I'm older and I've been there before". The girl ALWAYS falls for it! I've seen it too many times. May not be the case with your girl, but I wouldn't doubt it. It's kinda like some ol' pimpshit. Think about it: look back on your conversation with her. How many REAL answers did she give you? NONE! Just being honest.
100.00 says that she'll call you when you feel that you've moved on and the BBD ain't working out. Here's the question for you:
If you have "moved on", and she calls you, are you going to stop your progress, and go back into that situation? My answer would be no. She's too old to be this flaky. Keep it moving. I know it's easier said than done, but do it.
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^^^Dude there's nothing wrong with venting to get rid of tension so you don't have to apologize for anything.
^^^^Apart from the "wanting to make her happy" bit most of your other goals were/are viable and solid. It's not your job to make anyone happy other than yourself, so that's just one little area here you fucked up.
As far as the job angle, you should really be focusing on actively going out there to find a career that works for you. Look for something where you'll be able to put your personal strengths and assets to good use on the job and you'll be much happier.
No need to diss God because your "woman" has gotten dazzled by some 40 year old man.
Just man up and handle your business. Forget about this chick and get on with getting your personal/work/education game tight for your own psychological well being as well as to ensure that legitimate scrilla makes its way into your pockets.
Women have a funny way of twisting things around to justify their sucking the next niggas dick at your expense when the mood takes them so there's really no need for you to be disrespecting God because your ex chick has no faith in your ability to be a man.
Move on and up and like somebody else said, she'll be back to try and get with you again.
Just make sure that you've upgraded to a more loyal chick when that time comes around because there's nothing worse than a chick finding you in a worse state than you were in before she moved on.
Peace.
TRUTH
My man, I can picture you all weepy eyed, and not from the onions, woking up some Chinese while searching the couch cushions for some change to jump on the bus with your lil greazy paper bag full of Chinese food, funking up the bus and shit.
Sorry, but the picture is
BTW: that 40 year old dude is married and she don't even give a fuck
you know she's cheating on you right? do the math fam.
be easy.....everything works itself out.
you need to worry more about valuing yourself as a man rather than keeping her happy. success is the best revenge.
i went thru some shit like this........my girl cheated on me and i dumped her. she got with the dude she cheated on me with...............and he dumped her.
DAMN.....it made me feel like i won the lottery. hahahahahahah! revenge is sweet.
but keep ya head up fam. get a hobby and lose yourself in it. thinkin about it will only make it worse. i know...
be easy.....everything works itself out.
you need to worry more about valuing yourself as a man rather than keeping her happy. success is the best revenge.
i went thru some shit like this........my girl cheated on me and i dumped her. she got with the dude she cheated on me with...............and he dumped her.
DAMN.....it made me feel like i won the lottery. hahahahahahah! revenge is sweet.
but keep ya head up fam. get a hobby and lose yourself in it. thinkin about it will only make it worse. i know...
Every man gotta go through this...makes you smarter, tougher, & a better dude. Most, like myself, go through it in college. Hurt my nigga, feel the pain, but learn from it & get you a real woman.
Stay on the job search bro, stay working on getting yourself right. Study or read books and stay busy. Find projects to do. Happiness comes mainly from accomplishing things. Even small things. If you can find a project to do, even if small and few hours only you'll find yourself getting through it.
I am going through a break up too man so I can kinda relate. I am at my moms house with gramps and my brothers and old friends so that makes it a lot better for me. I got a whole lot a love around me.
I am going through a break up too man so I can kinda relate. I am at my moms house with gramps and my brothers and old friends so that makes it a lot better for me. I got a whole lot a love around me.
Clown all you want, I could care less. I guess I needed to vent, couldn't stay asleep or call anyone to talk to, so I reached out here. My fucking bad.
I've seen others in need of help in their lives reach out on here, and get good responses and advice, so that's why I posted here.
No FTP worries here, I've been here far too long to fuck around like that, Fam.
AMENthat was the saddest shit i've read in a minute!
man, get you some new pussy and keep it moving.
and get ya ass in front of somebody's grill and start flipping burgers!
oh boo-hoo-hoo.
it's time to man up, sugarpants.
it's time to man up, sugarpants.
No you can't get a summary, but you can get this...
cosign. i hate these non reading ass, no attn span having mufukas.
i'm not gonna start bashing homegirl cuz here are 3 sides to every story BUT from what you posted...all imma say is sketchy, very sketchy
be appreciative of the fact that you got to see how she acts in hardship before you put the ring on her finger.
Question, it seems like you are very into her and doing for her but was she doing something comparable for you? I mean was it all good until 4 months ago? Maybe possible that she may feel that you are doing too much for her and not for yourself. Were you heavily impacted by the loss of employment (mind, body, spirit, behaviors, activities and so on).
Also, it was not a wasted 3 years. With break ups, yeah they hurt on varying levels but there were good times as well as not so good times. You learned about urself, experienced things, and spent it with someone that you cared for...chalk it up as a learning experience.
Lastly, maybe you shouldn't be worried about focusing on anyone else, its should be ALL ABOUT YOU. You stabilizing your situation, computer and games less, job hunting, resume correction, interviewing, side jobs more.
Also, if you do end up with someone that has behaviors that you don't really care for like smoking weed..be VERY cautious about that because it is very unlikely they will stop, especially if they are an avid smoker.
Anyway, now its time to redirect your effort. All that effort and extra steps you put into being with and doing for her, put into improving your situation.
I wish you well
be appreciative of the fact that you got to see how she acts in hardship before you put the ring on her finger.
Question, it seems like you are very into her and doing for her but was she doing something comparable for you? I mean was it all good until 4 months ago? Maybe possible that she may feel that you are doing too much for her and not for yourself. Were you heavily impacted by the loss of employment (mind, body, spirit, behaviors, activities and so on).
Also, it was not a wasted 3 years. With break ups, yeah they hurt on varying levels but there were good times as well as not so good times. You learned about urself, experienced things, and spent it with someone that you cared for...chalk it up as a learning experience.
Lastly, maybe you shouldn't be worried about focusing on anyone else, its should be ALL ABOUT YOU. You stabilizing your situation, computer and games less, job hunting, resume correction, interviewing, side jobs more.
Also, if you do end up with someone that has behaviors that you don't really care for like smoking weed..be VERY cautious about that because it is very unlikely they will stop, especially if they are an avid smoker.
Anyway, now its time to redirect your effort. All that effort and extra steps you put into being with and doing for her, put into improving your situation.
I wish you well
Dont try to get her back. Fuck that hoe, move on.
Brown Bear
At this point you need to move on. By moving on I am not saying you should drop all contact with her and not speak. By moving on I mean...stop making her the center of attraction.
Read between the lines. When a woman says we are just "Friends" now that means she is seeing someone else or other people. She does not want to cut you entirely off but she does not want you to go either.
When you do speak don't speak about the relationship. The one thing a woman can't stand is when you place them in the friend zone. Don't chase her period. Nothing good will come of chasing her. She will be back trust me.
At this point you need to move on. By moving on I am not saying you should drop all contact with her and not speak. By moving on I mean...stop making her the center of attraction.
Read between the lines. When a woman says we are just "Friends" now that means she is seeing someone else or other people. She does not want to cut you entirely off but she does not want you to go either.
When you do speak don't speak about the relationship. The one thing a woman can't stand is when you place them in the friend zone. Don't chase her period. Nothing good will come of chasing her. She will be back trust me.
yo doggz have u ever cheated on her?
if u ignore this i'll take that as a yes!
therefor ur relationship been over, since u cheated
if u ignore this i'll take that as a yes!
therefor ur relationship been over, since u cheated
BB. Life may seem like shit right now but, give it time and things will work themselves out. it sounds frustrating but its true. Keep doing what you do. At one point in my life I lost my girl, wrecked my car, and lost my job, all in the same six month. after some time shit worked out for me. All i'm saying is to "keep on keeping on", set some personal goals, you're into pc's , can you fix em, program, author websites, or are you a photoshop champ? Maybe you should use this time to sharpen up some skill, maybe take on freelance work online. Good luck.
Nigga you better count this as a blessing in disguise. It is obvious that you couldn't get your shit together while in a relationship so by not having a girl you should have more time to focus on you. Women rarely leave guys who have something going for themselves, so get something going for yourself career wise. A lot of niggas say fuck the bitch but the bitch did the best move for HER and most likely for you too so don't get too mad at her for leaving a chump. You are probaly lucky she stayed wit you for that long.
Sorry about your pain bro but love aint no joke. Regardless of what day it happens breakups hurt. Get used to that shit, it's life. Don't let it turn you off all women, just THAT woman. Like someone else said, do you really want an unsupportive weed head as a wife; one who couldn't keep her word about quitting?
If a woman doesn't have your back when you're trying to come up then don't shed a tear over her. You WILL find the woman you're supposed to be with at the right time. Your ex aint her!
Reading your story gave me one strong impression: that you were putting more energy into her happiness and the relationship than you were putting into yourself. You then expected the same from her.
Always do you and emphasize YOUR life and goals before you emphasize someone elses happiness. You came off needy and unchallenging to her and she lost respect for you. She lost respect for you over the job thing because you put it in her head that you would scrap up your last dime to help her. Unfortunately you aint got that many dimes so that just put you in a trick bag.
Fuck that shit! If you're trying to come up she should have been trying to help YOU more. Especially if you all were talking marriage!
So move on now. Stop trying to call her, that just makes you look weaker in her eyes and breaks YOU down. Hit the gym, hit the books, spend time with your boys for awhile and LET THEM SUPPORT YOU THROUGH THIS. This is what the fellas are for! Put your energy into putting your life together. Especially if you're trying to go back to school. Don't try to jump into another relationship cause your ass ain't ready. Find a jumpoff if you want but leave the emotional stuff alone.
Learn from this situation and let it make you stronger. Do that and you'll be alright.
C/S
awww damn
well the good news is there are women out there who wont...who will treat u better...and fuck u better than that jezebel
hmmmm..
would u happen to be one of those women?
You can't dwell on the past. Shift your focus on to getting your career and other personal matters on the right track. You only have one life to live, so take care of yourself and the rest shall follow. Hence, keep a "me first" mentality right now.
Your goals in life shouldn't have been "to make her happy". That is something that should just come natural to you if its someone you care about. Otherwise, if that "goal" fails, whether by you or by your partner, you'll keep questioning yourself time and time again trying to figure out why it failed. The deed is done. Time to move on to bigger and better things.
Your goals in life shouldn't have been "to make her happy". That is something that should just come natural to you if its someone you care about. Otherwise, if that "goal" fails, whether by you or by your partner, you'll keep questioning yourself time and time again trying to figure out why it failed. The deed is done. Time to move on to bigger and better things.
REAL TALK, it sound like you was dating one of my EX's..
But for real chief, stop cryin' like a bitch and man up. It's almost 2009 and If your as real of a nigga as your tryin to make yourself sound, then chalk up the lost. You ain't the first nigga to invest way to much time in a broad who ain't really feelin' you. What you need to do is get you a new broad 5x better than the previous one. New pussy will change your perspective. And please believe... She's riding "NEW DICK" as I type this shit. Bitches always rebound first... so go out there and get your Rodman on as well.
But straight up... You sound kinda simpish my nigga.. I suggest you CHECK FOR that nigga TARIQ "King Flex" NASHEED.
Someone hit his nigga with a T.N. link.
But for real chief, stop cryin' like a bitch and man up. It's almost 2009 and If your as real of a nigga as your tryin to make yourself sound, then chalk up the lost. You ain't the first nigga to invest way to much time in a broad who ain't really feelin' you. What you need to do is get you a new broad 5x better than the previous one. New pussy will change your perspective. And please believe... She's riding "NEW DICK" as I type this shit. Bitches always rebound first... so go out there and get your Rodman on as well.
But straight up... You sound kinda simpish my nigga.. I suggest you CHECK FOR that nigga TARIQ "King Flex" NASHEED.
Someone hit his nigga with a T.N. link.
...geah i said it.
Your Problem: 1) youre in your late 20s not gainfully employed, and have no viable assets.
yet u talkin about marrying this bitch??
2) u have no backbone- u argue about her smokin too much weed,
yet u still with her when she doesnt stop.
3) you got female tendencies- goin thru her cell phone checkin her texts? HOMO SHIT.
cryin (to BGOL
) about some weedhead, cancerstick-smokin hoodrat who kicked u to the curb to hop on some grampa balls is MO HOMO SHIT. Just Do It.
..and u know what i mean bitchboy.
cosign. i hate these non reading ass, no attn span having mufukas.
Yeah man i really hat that shit. i summed up that that fucker to lazy to read. Nigga's i tell you.
She's fucking that older nigga that has cake and playing you short because you are broke. I know the shit is tough but its better it happenned now rather than later.
Immediately forget about this bitch, go find some new pussy and avoid ALL CONTACT with her for awhile. In about a month or so, she's gonna come looking for you wanting to give things another try (which means shes gonna want to fuck you and then play with your emotions some more) At that point you should just fuck her some more and keep it moving. Lose all feelings you have for this bitch, trust me man.
Immediately forget about this bitch, go find some new pussy and avoid ALL CONTACT with her for awhile. In about a month or so, she's gonna come looking for you wanting to give things another try (which means shes gonna want to fuck you and then play with your emotions some more) At that point you should just fuck her some more and keep it moving. Lose all feelings you have for this bitch, trust me man.
Do what I do go get your hair done, nails done, a massage, eyebrows done, and a new pair of heels... and you will feel 100% better
*thinkin* actually I do that on the reg anyway...
well I am saying this to say... hmmm you don't have a job so you can't go do those things above....
Dude why are you here on BGOL worrying about a chick when you have no job!!!
log off bgol and go to CAREER BUILDER NOW!!!!!!!~~~~~> LINK
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