Ad hominem attack. You sure showed me.
Sad you making it fun and games when there are women we all know who are sick and unhealthy there are stats that backs it up. These are our women, our counterparts. What you try to pin as an obsession I have is dishonest to the core
. Our women being unhealthy has consequences. Hell black people overall are suffering. I am suggesting better options, better education, better awarenes and all you go for me is I want one to lay up with? For them personally it shrinks the dating pool for black men who chose not to be with them. Yet they are still demanding men chose them while refusing to compete with a fit woman for the man they really want. We can continue to not give a fuck about each and watch our community slowly die. We can as a people pretend to remain in la la land when we see and live the results bad choices or we can get down and solve our issues. Any more jokes............Sorry my being serious is so damn offensive to you.
FOH. You are being extra Tresvant. I was
joking with you. Some dudes would've been like, "Cool bring on the big girl!" The only reason you took it as an ad hominem attack is because you are obviously repulsed by big women. Therefore, you can't play both sides of the fence and be honest. You can't be revulsed and insulted at the very notion of yourself being with a big woman but then be genuinely concerned about them out of love. That's being disingenuous. You just don't like em because they're big and that's not what appeals to you. I responded to what you said the way
I did because I'm getting tired of going back and forth with you on this when I made my points already. We see things differently and that's ok.
But I will address what you just typed to me.
You are making the assumption that plus-sized women are living unhappy lives that would be fulfilled if they were not heavy. Not necessarily so.
Health is about a lot more than the size of one's body. It's also about the condition of one's mind and emotional state. What you DON'T know is why some big women are the size that they are. If you really cared about them, you would be paying attention to that detail. Some people gain because of medication. Some as a result of anxiety, depression or trauma. Did you know that there are a lot of people who are overweight because it was a reaction against them having been raped or sexually molested? That because of that trauma, some of that group inwardly hope that gaining lots of weight will make them less appealing to potential rapists or molestors? That it makes them feel protected? If they lost that weight, yes, depending on how they lose it, they would probably be healthier
physically. But emotionally and mentally they'd still be quite unwell.
This is more complicated than losing weight to get dating partners. That rabbit hole is way deeper than what you've been talking about. You need to be slower in passing judgment. If you really give a shit about Black people like you purport, then be invested in healing the whole person, not just the skin they are in. Dating is secondary to all that. But you are coming off as inauthentic in your caring, because in all those messages you never addressed root causes or the therapy needed to overcome those obstacles just to be free of past trauma.
Your other assumption seems to be that large women are not getting the men that they really want. The reality that you're unwilling to accept is that many big women ARE dating and marrying. If they are finding people that they love who love them back, then that's enough. You don't seem to be able to fathom that there are men who like women like them and seek them out. That those men are not settling. They are with who they want to be with. Some are even big guys who like big women. Some are regular sized guys who like big women.It's the way of the world.
YOU do not validate big women and neither do I. I think it is childish and insecure to keep harping on big women the way you're doing. Their size seems to bother you. Then don't look! No one is making you. You don't have to date or marry them. Neither do I. Someone else will.
. People going through life thinking they automatically deserve better without putting in the work to do better but pointing that out is so offensive.
. I feel empathy because the american black women(ABA) don't get best healthcare to begin with and are the most unhealthy of all women. This is not a good thing for us as a people because if our women are sick we are all in the same boat.
