the FRIENDZONE

[infamous-online]

If a woman aint feeling you, there is nothing you can do.​

You are on point, but not all the times is the door closed. I've seen girls who weren't feeling you at first, all of a sudden open the door for you when you least expect it.

Sad to say, that most men have blown opportunities like this, including myself. Now if I had the knowledge I have now back then, then I would banking on those missed opportunities.

However there are some that once you're labeled "friend" then there is nothing you can do like you said, however that's why you don't invest all of your stock in just one just incase this scenario happens.

 

[femmenoire]

You are on point, but not all the times is the door closed. I've seen girls who weren't feeling you at first, all of a sudden open the door for you when you least expect it.

Sad to say, that most men have blown opportunities like this, including myself. Now if I had the knowledge I have now back then, then I would banking on those missed opportunities.

However there are some that once you're labeled "friend" then there is nothing you can do like you said, however that's why you don't invest all of your stock in just one just incase this scenario happens.

That's because the best mates are usually your best friends.

 

[BrownTurd]

Funny I got a card from a "friend" that said.....Thanks for being so
nice to me and not wanting nothing in return."
I laughed to myself I was thinking she cant be serious.

then she kicked in a nice lil' designer gift with the card.
Shit through me way off. I've been helping ol girl out.... picked her up from the airport when her girls left her hangin. helped fix stuff in her house etc.....
I got her going with a back and neck massage one night shorty was zonein
really was trying to relax her up..... she stop me. I end up going home
empty handed I text her.."you know I got u moist quit frontin"

she sent me a text talking about "don't you know I went a year
without a man?"...she was like "I can handle this end"
(bascally she holds toy party's and got a gang of toys)

I was like" them toys can't keep you warm though"...... she then replied.....
"depends on which one I choose? damn see I can't win here.

I've cut waaaaay back on our interaction. . I have lost a great deal of
interest in her. She wants me to be a friend and wants to tease me too
oh hell to the naw

Fool she stopped you because she was feeling you. You messed up everything when you texted her about her getting moist. All you had to do was leave and be quiet. She would have started to think about you and what it would be like to sleep with you.

 

[Eva Hornae]

How Does a man get in the friendzone?

a) The woman wasn't attracted to him from the jump. (But this can be changed through other assets such as personality, attitude, humor, "good game", etc..)

b) Being a simp aka "Puts the pussy on a pedastle"... giving too much effort.... putting all your cards out too fast.


How to get out of the friendzone?

a) charge it to the game and keep it moving. No one is ever "too important". There's alot of woman out there... don't treat her like "she is legend"... the only one.

b) Put her in the friendzone. Like Chris Rock said, everyone woman has been offered dick since when they can remember. If you appear to not "want to fuck her", then it throws her off. Woman want and are use to that attention. Space out your calling habits. If you call her everyday, call her once a week. Keep the convo short and always make like you have to get off to do something more important. Getting her to the point where she's like "Wtf?" and then starts calling you. Also, instead of "hey sexy", "hey luv", "hey there".. or whatever normal way you address her, start referring her as "hey buddy!" or "hey homie!"... treat her like she's one of your boys. Start talking about other girls your talking to. Tell her about a date you had the night before. If you ain't talking to no one or didn't have a date, make one up. Just don't appear desperate. By putting her in the friendzone, she'll get her shit together and try to reclaim her pedastle... but the point is don't put her on a pedastle. She might think she's on it, but actions speak louder then words... YOU DON'T PUT HER ON IT. If she still doesn't snap out of it after all of this, fuck it. Keep it moving. You need a girl that ain't about the bullshit... move on to the next one and learn from your mistake. But seriously, this whole concept of reversing the friendzone has always worked for me.



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When I was younger (back in high school), I was put in the friendzone a few times. Nowadays, NEVER! If I see myself swaying to it... I just switch it up a bit and then I'm on the upperhand again.

For example.. my last "backsliding"


True story... I met this DIME before I moved to Houston (met her back at home). Now when I mean by DIME.. she was gorgeous, banging body, cooks, luxury apt., audi A4, growing career, "classy" appearance... the whole package. Well we exchanged numbers one of the times I went back for a weekend.. I bumped into her at a club. I plan on a moving back... so I was trying to keep her on hold. So we would call each other... got along great. Then I actually caught myself slipping... calling her little too much (yes I was feeling her). Like 10% simping actions. Then I started notice she was taking advantage of it. So I was like fuck this... drew back a little. Stop calling. When we spoke.. I treated her like a "Friend". So now she texts me like every 2-3 weeks asking the same question every time..... "So when you coming back?" I either a) don't reply or b) reply at my own time. She still texts...


If you see yourself slipping (and we all do now and then), get yourself out quick as possible. Sooner the better... The more deep you get in the friendzone, the harder it is to get out......... But you can get out. All those girls that put me in the friendzone in high school, I either fuck them years later or they be on my shit.

some times the "reverse psychology" that you are playing can BACKFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!

meaning, trying to manipulate a woman by doing all those unnecessary bullshit when you know you want her and she's feeling you can get you in that said "friendzone" you are so desperately running away from.

Stop it, thats a coward move, if shortie is feeling you and you feeling her, go for it and stop frontin...

if it was meant to be, it will be, if not, then call it a lesson learned and move on simple.

tricks are for kids... as a poster stated, if a girl aint feeling you, there is nothing you can do about it.

 

[silkyblue]

What if she is feeling you? She has admitted it and she begans to act like you in the zone all of a sudden. What then?

 

[Bigmario23]

Fool she stopped you because she was feeling you. You messed up everything when you texted her about her getting moist. All you had to do was leave and be quiet. She would have started to think about you and what it would be like to sleep with you.

oh ok so my text messed it up for me
I might take your words seriously but you screen name
would suggest to me that you are full of shit.

 

[BrownTurd]

oh ok so my text messed it up for me
I might take your words seriously but you screen name
would suggest to me that you are full of shit.

Remember every person man or female wants sex. You aren't any different from the guys she has given it to. You turned her on when you gave her the massage. That is why she told you to stop. Asking her or telling her she got moist was a bad move. Women like for it to seem as if it just happened. Believe me when I say this. She has thought about having sex with you before and what it would be like. All you had to do was be quiet like nothing happen. She would have been on fire and would start to seriously think about what it would like to sleep with you. Think about it.....why wouldn;t she give it to you. She TRUST you because you are her FRIEND.

 

[Eva Hornae]

Fool she stopped you because she was feeling you. You messed up everything when you texted her about her getting moist. All you had to do was leave and be quiet. She would have started to think about you and what it would be like to sleep with you.

damn you man. this is so fucking tru.

 

[Eva Hornae]

Remember every person man or female wants sex. You aren't any different from the guys she has given it to. You turned her on when you gave her the massage. That is why she told you to stop. Asking her or telling her she got moist was a bad move. Women like for it to seem as if it just happened. Believe me when I say this. She has thought about having sex with you before and what it would be like. All you had to do was be quiet like nothing happen. She would have been on fire and would start to seriously think about what it would like to sleep with you. Think about it.....why wouldn;t she give it to you. She TRUST you because you are her FRIEND.

omfg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


what is your field of profession?

you know too much about women

MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please take notes!!


*gives you a peck on the cheek* !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ronney]

This is a Good Topic. But at the end of the day We Men and Women Play TOO much. People fear of Vulnerability forces them to try and create cookie cutter methods for dealing the opposite sex, I have to admit some of the shit really works. But as stated earlier If a Women does not like you and believe me yall will know when she doesnt dont force the issue and dont act like a punk when faced with rejection. Brothers I am Married but for those of you Black men that are not there are estimate 6 to every 1 man in the free world keep fishing. On serious note though know what you are looking for and please treat our women with respect and no I AINT NO SIMP or PIMP. Peace

 

[lilsexii]

What if she is feeling you? She has admitted it and she begans to act like you in the zone all of a sudden. What then?

She prolly met somebody else.

 

[femmenoire]

What if she is feeling you? She has admitted it and she begans to act like you in the zone all of a sudden. What then?

Then she's just not THAT into you.

 

[sj808]

some times the "reverse psychology" that you are playing can BACKFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!

meaning, trying to manipulate a woman by doing all those unnecessary bullshit when you know you want her and she's feeling you can get you in that said "friendzone" you are so desperately running away from.

Stop it, thats a coward move, if shortie is feeling you and you feeling her, go for it and stop frontin...

if it was meant to be, it will be, if not, then call it a lesson learned and move on simple.

tricks are for kids... as a poster stated, if a girl aint feeling you, there is nothing you can do about it.

How is pulling away desperate? Its desperate if you're chasing and chasing and gets no where. Now if you put her to the side and keep it moving, subconsciously or not... the woman will come to you most of the time.


As far as my story, the reason why the situation was so "childish" because we was in different states. I don't know about you... but "going for it" when yall just met and being in different states is a dumbass move. That's more childish then anything. When I pulled away, it was half intentional and half not. Either way, it was to the point that it didn't matter what the outcome was. Like I said, I don't call her or text her no more... she does.


And one thing I forgot to add to my whole thing. I was trying to be general but went into some details but also missed out on alot of details to support the ones I stated............... (my friendzone post can very much go with the ones I stated here: http://www.bgol.us/board/showpost.php?p=3242123&postcount=46). All of it goes hand and hand. And as you can see, this attitude is very far from desperate.

OPTIONS. "A desperate man is a man with no options". Options can be alot of things.... other women, work, recreation, etc... But don't ever make the woman a "priority". Not All, but most take of advantage of it. Shit, humans in general are self absorbed. Majority of them take it too far.

 

[london]

I don't even waste my time with this type of women
I remember this girl she wanted to play the friend game with me
I said no fucking way, my only female friends are family member.

Long story short 2 years later I met her by accident
apparently she was living with boyfriend and everything.
We talk a little bit. The funny thing is, now she's telling me how she was not happy with boyfriend
saying she always loved me, you know the rest
conclusion
some women are full of shit
they want you as friend just to keep a good guy around in case

by the way she sucked my dick I spitted in her mouth
and she went back to her boyfriend the same evening

 

[BrownTurd]

What if she is feeling you? She has admitted it and she begans to act like you in the zone all of a sudden. What then?

If she is feeling you and then suddenly backs away that means she was thinking about having a sexual relationship with you. She also really likes you. It is easier for a woman to give it up to a guy who poses no threat....meaning she knows 100% that she would not get attached emotionally. She has not pulled back from you. She is afraid of the emotional attachment she may have. You just have to confirm things would not change between you. You can voice that directly to her or indirectly. For directly just come out and tell her whats up(depends on the woman this can kill it for good) Indirectly make up a story of how you and another woman were friends and had sex after a while and are still cool. But she lives in a different city now.

 

[BrownTurd]

How is pulling away desperate? Its desperate if you're chasing and chasing and gets no where. Now if you put her to the side and keep it moving, subconsciously or not... the woman will come to you most of the time.


As far as my story, the reason why the situation was so "childish" because we was in different states. I don't know about you... but "going for it" when yall just met and being in different states is a dumbass move. That's more childish then anything. When I pulled away, it was half intentional and half not. Either way, it was to the point that it didn't matter what the outcome was. Like I said, I don't call her or text her no more... she does.


OPTIONS. "A desperate man is a man with no options". Options can be alot of things.... other women, work, recreation, etc... But don't ever make the woman a "priority". Not All, but most take of advantage of it. Shit, humans in general are self absorbed. Majority of them take it too far.

Pulling away is a desperate move. Pulling away is what women do. Always remember that. Since pulling away is what women do she detected what you were doing right away. She lured you right into her game. She was going to fuck you regardless. She just manipulated you. You showed your weakness and allowed her to gain control. The text messages are simple her stoking your male ego.

What makes a man sexy is when a woman can't fully READ him. This creates a mystery about you. The curiosity of what you are thinking and what is on your mind would draw her closer to you. For example. You could have went out late with her... Told her you where to tired to drive home or to drunk and crashed at her house. You could have cuddle with her while you went to sleep. She would have woke up wondering "why did he cuddle with me but not try anything".

 

[Eva Hornae]

Pulling away is a desperate move. Pulling away is what women do. Always remember that. Since pulling away is what women do she detected what you were doing right away. She lured you right into her game. She was going to fuck you regardless. She just manipulated you. You showed your weakness and allowed her to gain control. The text messages are simple her stoking your male ego.

What makes a man sexy is when a woman can't fully READ him. This creates a mystery about you. The curiosity of what you are thinking and what is on your mind would draw her closer to you. For example. You could have went out late with her... Told her you where to tired to drive home or to drunk and crashed at her house. You could have cuddle with her while you went to sleep. She would have woke up wondering "why did he cuddle with me but not try anything".

get out of our thought, you brown piece of turd


so damn true.


real talk babes, real talk.

 

[onyxfemme]

Answering this question will put my ass right in a trick bag...
Nope I am out...(heads for the next thread)But there is some good advice here especially on the 1st page.

 

[silkyblue]

If she is feeling you and then suddenly backs away that means she was thinking about having a sexual relationship with you. She also really likes you. It is easier for a woman to give it up to a guy who poses no threat....meaning she knows 100% that she would not get attached emotionally. She has not pulled back from you. She is afraid of the emotional attachment she may have. You just have to confirm things would not change between you. You can voice that directly to her or indirectly. For directly just come out and tell her whats up(depends on the woman this can kill it for good) Indirectly make up a story of how you and another woman were friends and had sex after a while and are still cool. But she lives in a different city now.

It almost happened a few times but we stopped before it went to far. We both agreed at that time we wanted to wait to get married before we took it to that level. Her girlfriend told me she was really feelin me but is scared because our relationship is new to her. She never had a guy open doors, start her car in the mornings when its cold (she stays about 4 miles away), and actually listen to her. She is real cool but it seems all of the sudden she spends more energy trying to force me away then to go with whats been good. We have talked and she has said that she is scared because this is new. She will say things like she wants us just to be friends but wants me to do boyfriend things. You can even see her trying so hard to push me away but shes not good at being fake.

 

[silkyblue]

Then she's just not THAT into you.

Her best friend says otherwise. She talks to her mother, grandmother about me. Her mom even told me I was the first guy she ever introduced to her family. So I don't think she was lying when she told me she loved me.

 

[BrownTurd]

It almost happened a few times but we stopped before it went to far. We both agreed at that time we wanted to wait to get married before we took it to that level. Her girlfriend told me she was really feelin me but is scared because our relationship is new to her. She never had a guy open doors, start her car in the mornings when its cold (she stays about 4 miles away), and actually listen to her. She is real cool but it seems all of the sudden she spends more energy trying to force me away then to go with whats been good. We have talked and she has said that she is scared because this is new. She will say things like she wants us just to be friends but wants me to do boyfriend things. You can even see her trying so hard to push me away but shes not good at being fake.

The question is if u really want her. You can have her if you wanted to

 

[Black Limey]

Just wanted to contribute

I have rarely been put into the friend zone . This is because when I know that I fancy (wanna hit) a female I make it clear without being crude

Real talk. I have got out of the friend zone by being upfront and sending sexy text messages. We, Brits are text mad

A little face to face flirting- followed up with texts

Don't know how American women react to this kind of approach. But, it worked for me

I am not talking about texting "I wanna shag ya luv"

I keep it poetic and erotic. Blows their minds

Then they blow me



If, that does not work- move on! Tell them it's hard and they made it so

 

[AlexandMorgan]

Much has been said and it is all true because each and every person is an individual and their actions will match different scenarios.

Lets talk about cars. You see the 2008 model of the car you have always wanted and you can afford it but when you go to get it the dealer lets you know that you will have to go on a list to get it because of its high demand and the fact that there is only one remaining.

Months pass and the people on the list ahead of you buy the car but for some reason do not keep it so it is traded back in over and over again. Each owner adds their little history. Scuff marks, a dent here or there, upholstery is cut up and the engine needs overhaling and bodywork is necessary to get it back to a decent condition.

Dealer calls you months later and lets you know the car is now available since the other ???? number of people ahead of you are no longer interested in it so it is yours if you want it.

You look at the car, your dream car and despite the work done you can still see the blemishes. Would you still buy it?

My ass is going to another dealer for sure but hey you can have it. I deserve a new car dammit.

 

[dray]

some times the "reverse psychology" that you are playing can BACKFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!

meaning, trying to manipulate a woman by doing all those unnecessary bullshit when you know you want her and she's feeling you can get you in that said "friendzone" you are so desperately running away from.

Stop it, thats a coward move, if shortie is feeling you and you feeling her, go for it and stop frontin...

if it was meant to be, it will be, if not, then call it a lesson learned and move on simple.

tricks are for kids... as a poster stated, if a girl aint feeling you, there is nothing you can do about it.

Real talk.

 

[HoneyDip]

I always that was the layaway plan...I assume MOST women have a few dudes on layaway.

I wouldn't call it layaway though... more like collectin interest