Right that's why you deal with what they say and hold them to that. If something they say sounds racist it's best to hold them on that than to blatantly call them a racist, it strengthens your position against them. Because when you call them a racist you are giving them a way out. Then they can deny lie or whatever because you don't know them personally to say that. Then you end up looking stupid when they pull out the magic black friend from their hat.
No calling them a racist is too easy when folk don't know the true meaning of how racism is applied.. However you can call them bigots that's gets under their skin..
To be a racist means you have the ability to deny financial and educational opportunities for the sole purpose of having the wrong skin color..
See I don't call these inbred yokels racist they dont have that power to deny me an opportunity but the cacs who hold the power to hire to approve loans to approve leases those are the racist