Steve Harvey Reflects on Heated Argument with Mo'Nique: 'I've Got to Slow Down When I'm Talking'

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Steve Harvey Reflects on Heated Argument with Mo'Nique: 'I've Got to Slow Down When I'm Talking'

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Steve Harvey and Mo'Nique clashed over her claims she was shut out of Hollywood after winning an Oscar in 2010

By
REAGAN ALEXANDER

and AURELIE CORINTHIOS

February 18, 2019 11:23 AM
Almost a week after a heated argument between Steve Harvey and Mo’Niqueunfolded on-air, the host is reflecting on his choice of words.

“I’ve got to slow down when I’m talking,” Harvey, 62, told PEOPLE on Sunday at a Celebrity Family Feud event in Los Angeles. “I can’t get into heated discussions, and I’ve got to just guard my words more carefully.”

During an interview on Harvey’s Steve talk show on Wednesday, Harvey and the 51-year-old comedian and actress clashed over her claims she was shut out of Hollywood after winning the Academy Award for best supporting actress in 2010. Mo’Nique said she and her husband and manager, Sidney Hicks, “got labeled as difficult” for pushing back when the producers of Precious asked her to do more Oscar campaigning, while Harvey suggested that she should put her integrity aside when there is money on the table.

“I take full responsibility for it, it came out my mouth, so I can’t say that I didn’t say it,” Harvey told PEOPLE. “But to people that really know me, I have lived my whole life as a man of integrity. So when I was referring to ‘integrity’ in that interview, I was talking about the method in which things were being done, and that is all it was.”

“I never questioned anybody’s principles or anybody’s causes,” he continued. “I was merely questioning, for the 50-minute interview, the method that she chose going about doing it — and I regret that looking back at it now, because that was a bad choice of words.”

Harvey said he hopes his young fans will understand where he’s coming from.

“I shouted out and it happened, I regret it, but I want young people, the kids that come to my camps, the young people that I mentor, the fans that really respect me, to know to just charge that one to my head and not to my heart,” he said. “Because in my heart, that is not what I have asked anyone to do. I have lived my whole life as a man of integrity, and I will stand on that, but I was really just talking about the method that they went about doing what they did, and that was it.”

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Mo’Nique’s comments came nine years after she refused to campaign for a scene-stealing role as an abusive mother in Precious during awards season and was criticized by director Lee Daniels for her “demands.” After winning the Oscar for the film, she began her acceptance speech by saying, “First, I would like to thank the Academy for showing that it can be about the performance and not the politics.”

Despite her victory, Mo’Nique has long maintained she was punished for her actions, telling The Hollywood Reporter in 2015 that she was “blackballed” for refusing to “play the game.”

Last week, Mo’nique said she felt betrayed when Harvey publicly criticized her without speaking to her first, pointing out that he and other prominent African Americans in Hollywood had not stood by her publicly. Harvey said he hoped the pair could put their differences behind them.

“I hate what’s happening to you,” he said. “I hate what they’re saying that’s not true. I want them to know that you’re caring, that you’re a great mother, that you’re an incredible talent. I don’t like the fact that you’ve been blackballed. You’re too talented to have to worry about all this.”

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Mo'Nique and Steve Harvey
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The host offered to help the actress repair bridges she may have burned.

“I’m going to try and arrange — I’m going to do my best — to get the conversations that need to be had between you and these people so you can hear from them,” he told her. “I’m going to then ask them will they say it publicly, for the benefit of everybody, so you can get the release that you need. Then I’m going to ask you to tell these people and apologize for some bashing [that you did]. When everybody can come to that, that’s a chance for us to move [forward].”

In the years since the controversy, Mo’Nique has found success away from the movie business, becoming the first black female comedian to score a residency in Las Vegas at the SLS Hostel and Casino.

https://people.com/tv/steve-harvey-reflects-monique-argument/
 
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DjMorpheus

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He spoke his truth. Everybody see who he is. He feelin the heat. Now he wanna try and walk it back.

Just be who you are bruh. If you about the money then just be about the money.

That pic where he was standin next to Trump...the look in his eyes...that's the real Steve. Sad and scared.
 

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Stop it.

What he said is no different than what we all have to tell our kids


It's not what monique wanted but how she went about it that he had a problem with.
No disrespect, but maybe you tell your kids different than I tell mines.
To me, there's no difference between telling someone "Money over integrity" while citing props and scenery as a distraction from the actual core of the belief. Steve believed privately what she was saying. But shit on her publicly.

There are only two things in the world: The way it is and the way it should be. He trying to walk the line between the two, while seeming to lean towards Dwight's point of view a smidgeon more. He made a woman, who is his friend, not know where the fuck he was coming from. Wack shit.

Dude aint solid in his convictions.

A MAN is solid in his convictions.
 

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Steve a goddamn liar! You haven’t lived your whole life full of integrity you sambo used car salesman motherfucker! Out here got ignorant bitches asking us to tell them our 5 year plan or to withhold sex for 90 days when your cooning ass was cheating on your wife. My five year plan is to fuck you and fuck all yo friends bitch! Somebody needs to beat your bitch ass. Sell out motherfucker
 

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Steve a goddamn liar! You haven’t lived your whole life full of integrity you sambo used car salesman motherfucker! Out here got ignorant bitches asking us to tell them our 5 year plan or to withhold sex for 90 days when your cooning ass was cheating on your wife. My five year plan is to fuck you and fuck all yo friends bitch! Somebody needs to beat your bitch ass. Sell out motherfucker
:lol::lol::lol:
^^^Whether we agree or not, that's a man solid in his convictions. :lol::lol::lol:
 

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Steve a goddamn liar! You haven’t lived your whole life full of integrity you sambo used car salesman motherfucker! Out here got ignorant bitches asking us to tell them our 5 year plan or to withhold sex for 90 days when your cooning ass was cheating on your wife. My five year plan is to fuck you and fuck all yo friends bitch! Somebody needs to beat your bitch ass. Sell out motherfucker

:lol::lol::lol:
 

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He spoke his truth. Everybody see who he is. He feelin the heat. Now he wanna try and walk it back.

Just be who you are bruh. If you about the money then just be about the money.

That pic where he was standin next to Trump...the look in his eyes...that's the real Steve. Sad and scared.

 

BitchI'llKillYa

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Bottom line you cant.yhrow a tantrum to get your way.

You cant seek to embarrass your desired employer and expect to get a job

Her behavior turned fans and potential investors in her career OFF.

And I am sure as much of a coon you think Steve harvry is , you didnt cancel your Netflix in support.

And yes I teach my kids strategy and tact when they feel like they arent being treated fairly.... insure hope you do as well.


No disrespect, but maybe you tell your kids different than I tell mines.
To me, there's no difference between telling someone "Money over integrity" while citing props and scenery as a distraction from the actual core of the belief. Steve believed privately what she was saying. But shit on her publicly.

There are only two things in the world: The way it is and the way it should be. He trying to walk the line between the two, while seeming to lean towards Dwight's point of view a smidgeon more. He made a woman, who is his friend, not know where the fuck he was coming from. Wack shit.

Dude aint solid in his convictions.

A MAN is solid in his convictions.
No disrespect, but maybe you tell your kids different than I tell mines.
To me, there's no difference between telling someone "Money over integrity" while citing props and scenery as a distraction from the actual core of the belief. Steve believed privately what she was saying. But shit on her publicly.

There are only two things in the world: The way it is and the way it should be. He trying to walk the line between the two, while seeming to lean towards Dwight's point of view a smidgeon more. He made a woman, who is his friend, not know where the fuck he was coming from. Wack shit.

Dude aint solid in his convictions.

A MAN is solid in his convictions.
 

BitchI'llKillYa

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Steve a goddamn liar! You haven’t lived your whole life full of integrity you sambo used car salesman motherfucker! Out here got ignorant bitches asking us to tell them our 5 year plan or to withhold sex for 90 days when your cooning ass was cheating on your wife. My five year plan is to fuck you and fuck all yo friends bitch! Somebody needs to beat your bitch ass. Sell out motherfucker
You would be surprised just how.kuch honesty works.

Leading the chic on is bitch shit.
 

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This shit had nothing to do with Monique's integrity. She lose integrity if anything. She handled the shit wrong and it hurt her pocket hard. She fucked up and turned on the people that helped her. I understand what Steve was trying to say but his character is questionable as well.
 

BitchI'llKillYa

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And just like you say there's a way to do things, there's also a way to disagree with somebody. Monique aint the type of black woman that's gonna back down in public.
To her own detriment.

I agreed with Steve til he got to the integrity part... he did what a lot of do in those situations... so eager to be right, we step on our own point while heated.

Remove the integrity line and his advice is correct.

You cant move the way she did and expect any other outcome. You dont go public with that shit and expect that company to want to do business with you...


You cant get on social media like
'Ayooooo McDonald's has rats in the kitchen... 'then expect them to hire you lol
 

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Bottom line you cant.yhrow a tantrum to get your way.

You cant seek to embarrass your desired employer and expect to get a job

Her behavior turned fans and potential investors in her career OFF.

And I am sure as much of a coon you think Steve harvry is , you didnt cancel your Netflix in support.

And yes I teach my kids strategy and tact when they feel like they arent being treated fairly.... insure hope you do as well.

I gotta agree with you here.

You can't yell "fuck all y'all", then complain that these folk wont hire, or work with you.

Once she said it, She need to move on and create her own independent lane.

She need to perfect the art of the corporate diss, "as per my previous email...."
 

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Stop it.

What he said is no different than what we all have to tell our kids


It's not what monique wanted but how she went about it that he had a problem with.
whats the best way to go about it then??

How would YOU handle these issues? Mind you you have 20+ years in the career, DON'T HAVE A HISTORY OF BEING DIFFICULT, performed your contractual obligations and was told by people you thought would deal with any conflict that you were not wrong....then those same people turn thier backs when the rumors start flying.

here's her netflix deal


According to the terms presented in the contract Netflix offered Mo’Nique, it would own the copyright of the program and control all exhibition rights. It would own all audio rights. And basically? It would own Mo’Nique.

For 12 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be allowed to tape or negotiate another comedy special with anyone else. When that 12 months was up, Netflix would have dibs on her next comedy special, and she would be able to do one with someone else (HBO, for example) only if Netflix passed first.

For 24 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be able to crack any of the jokes she did in the Netflix special anywhere else, and when the 24 months were up—Netflix would have first dibs on those jokes, too.
https://thegrapevine.theroot.com/mo-nique-wasn-t-lying-netflix-tried-to-play-her-1822647579
 

geechiedan

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To her own detriment.

I agreed with Steve til he got to the integrity part... he did what a lot of do in those situations... so eager to be right, we step on our own point while heated.

Remove the integrity line and his advice is correct.

You cant move the way she did and expect any other outcome. You dont go public with that shit and expect that company to want to do business with you...


You cant get on social media like
'Ayooooo McDonald's has rats in the kitchen... 'then expect them to hire you lol
but your missing one point...in this analogy mcdonalds also asked you to work for free then come in on your scheduled day off then when you refused spread a rumor to all the other fast food places that your a bad worker. Remember she was TOLD she was blacklisted before she shot any shot..

so before she said ANYTHING about ANYONE they had already affected her career...so telling mofos to suck her dick AFTER they pushed the button to fuck her over isn't going to change anything...the ONLY thing they want at that point is to see her broken and apologetic for standing her ground.

so again...how do you make moves under THOSE circumstances???
 

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whats the best way to go about it then??

How would YOU handle these issues? Mind you you have 20+ years in the career, DON'T HAVE A HISTORY OF BEING DIFFICULT, performed your contractual obligations and was told by people you thought would deal with any conflict that you were not wrong....then those same people turn thier backs when the rumors start flying.

here's her netflix deal


According to the terms presented in the contract Netflix offered Mo’Nique, it would own the copyright of the program and control all exhibition rights. It would own all audio rights. And basically? It would own Mo’Nique.

For 12 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be allowed to tape or negotiate another comedy special with anyone else. When that 12 months was up, Netflix would have dibs on her next comedy special, and she would be able to do one with someone else (HBO, for example) only if Netflix passed first.

For 24 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be able to crack any of the jokes she did in the Netflix special anywhere else, and when the 24 months were up—Netflix would have first dibs on those jokes, too.
https://thegrapevine.theroot.com/mo-nique-wasn-t-lying-netflix-tried-to-play-her-1822647579


Just say "no". Or don't respond. and move on.
 

BitchI'llKillYa

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LOL
Monique doesnt have a history of being g difficult?

Fuck outt here


And I would not do business with someone that doesnt value my 20+ years and my skillset.

I would either create my own or shop my product elsewhere...

I would negotiate a deal I can agree with and feel like pays me what I'm worth, or u would continue touring and hit up outlets that value my product

I would not call for a boycott because I don't like what I was offered. It would make me look weak.

whats the best way to go about it then??

How would YOU handle these issues? Mind you you have 20+ years in the career, DON'T HAVE A HISTORY OF BEING DIFFICULT, performed your contractual obligations and was told by people you thought would deal with any conflict that you were not wrong....then those same people turn thier backs when the rumors start flying.

here's her netflix deal


According to the terms presented in the contract Netflix offered Mo’Nique, it would own the copyright of the program and control all exhibition rights. It would own all audio rights. And basically? It would own Mo’Nique.

For 12 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be allowed to tape or negotiate another comedy special with anyone else. When that 12 months was up, Netflix would have dibs on her next comedy special, and she would be able to do one with someone else (HBO, for example) only if Netflix passed first.

For 24 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be able to crack any of the jokes she did in the Netflix special anywhere else, and when the 24 months were up—Netflix would have first dibs on those jokes, too.
https://thegrapevine.theroot.com/mo-nique-wasn-t-lying-netflix-tried-to-play-her-1822647579
 

BitchI'llKillYa

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If you dint like the terms, dont take thenjob...

But you think for a moment that Burger King wants someone that is willing to post about rats in thenkitchen of a competitor.... you're a fuckin fool.

Once you burn the bridge, you can be surprised if others raise their bridges to protect them.

but your missing one point...in this analogy mcdonalds also asked you to work for free then come in on your scheduled day off then when you refused spread a rumor to all the other fast food places that your a bad worker. Remember she was TOLD she was blacklisted before she shot any shot..

so before she said ANYTHING about ANYONE they had already affected her career...so telling mofos to suck her dick AFTER they pushed the button to fuck her over isn't going to change anything...the ONLY thing they want at that point is to see her broken and apologetic for standing her ground.

so again...how do you make moves under THOSE circumstances???
 

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Bottom line you cant.yhrow a tantrum to get your way.

You cant seek to embarrass your desired employer and expect to get a job

Her behavior turned fans and potential investors in her career OFF.

And I am sure as much of a coon you think Steve harvry is , you didnt cancel your Netflix in support.

And yes I teach my kids strategy and tact when they feel like they arent being treated fairly.... insure hope you do as well.
I agree with you a thousand percent about the employer part.

Can't say the same about her fans. Hollywood/black Hollywood won't give anyone a chance to see her. No one knows what the reaction would be. However, I will say black folks would look at her like a winner if she got a legit project. It would look like she beat the man at his own game.
 

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whats the best way to go about it then??

How would YOU handle these issues? Mind you you have 20+ years in the career, DON'T HAVE A HISTORY OF BEING DIFFICULT, performed your contractual obligations and was told by people you thought would deal with any conflict that you were not wrong....then those same people turn thier backs when the rumors start flying.

here's her netflix deal


According to the terms presented in the contract Netflix offered Mo’Nique, it would own the copyright of the program and control all exhibition rights. It would own all audio rights. And basically? It would own Mo’Nique.

For 12 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be allowed to tape or negotiate another comedy special with anyone else. When that 12 months was up, Netflix would have dibs on her next comedy special, and she would be able to do one with someone else (HBO, for example) only if Netflix passed first.

For 24 months after the special premiered, Mo’Nique would not be able to crack any of the jokes she did in the Netflix special anywhere else, and when the 24 months were up—Netflix would have first dibs on those jokes, too.
https://thegrapevine.theroot.com/mo-nique-wasn-t-lying-netflix-tried-to-play-her-1822647579



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Their conversation was between a tactful person who lacks intergity (Steve) trying to explain tactics to a person of integrity (Monique) who lacks tact.

-Monique had the heft to create her own lane out right but lacked the tact to strike while the iron was hot.

-Steve is a sound tactition but needs to shut the fuck up on all things that have anything to do with integrity and character.

Nobody was going to learn anything that day.

*two cents*
 
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