SOL's Questions for parents thread...

[CT's Finest]

I just posted this in Random Thoughts, but figured it might deserve its own thread. I also wanted to open things up for any other folks who don't have kids (yet) to ask the brothas and sistas who do. Here are my questions, parents, please answer them. Non parents feel free to ask your own questions...

OK, this is pretty random, but valid. For some reason a thought just came to mind while I was in the (public) bathroom in this building at work. As I said, it's pretty random, yet something real and I'd like to ask a couple questions to the parents on the board...

How do you handle the situation when you're alone and your opposite sex child has to use the bathroom in public? Let's say you're a woman and it's just you and your son at the mall (e.g. no other friends or fam came with you, it's just you, lil man, and a mall full of strangers). He's about 2-3 years old and if not already, on his way to being potty trained. So you're walking with him and he says "mommy I have to use the bathroom". Remember he's pretty young, and not old enough to just go to the men's room by himself. Do you A) take him to the women's bathroom, B) see if anyone is in the men's room, if not go in with him, or C) look for a unisex bathroom? What about the men who are in the same situation with their daughters?


Another question is about potty training a child from the opposite sex. How do you handle that if you're a single parent, or for some reason your man/woman isn't home at the time? Let's use the same woman who was at the mall in the last question. Let's say she's married, but her husband is out of town on a business trip for a couple days. They're potty training the little boy, but since dad is gone it's now up to mom to handle things until he gets back. Does she A) show him how to stand in front of the pot and pee even though she doesn't have the same "equipment" he has, or B) well shit, if not A, ladies how would you do it? ...and for the Fathers, how do you show your daughters how to use the pot?


...If the answers to these are obvious, please forgive my ignorance. I'm not a dad yet, but more than likely I will be in the next couple years. I want boys and girls (2 sons and a daughter if possible), so if/when that happens these issues will come up for wifey and I in the future. Thanks in advance for taking time to read and answer these...

 

[Andeyhollawho]

You're not serious are you?

Ok I see the semi-appology in the last few lines.

It's just a toilet man.

Just because it has a label on it don't mean shit. I piss in the ladies room all the time if no one is in there.

I have a son but if I had a daughter I would take her to the men's room and take her in a stall and pull her panties down for her and tell her to go squat. It's simple? Because it's a toilet! I would check first to make sure nobody has their pants down when I walked in but that's not a problem. Boys wouldn't have a problem in the women's bathroom because it's all stalls. I'm sure women do that all the time.

As far as potty training it's the same thing. If I had a daughter I know women piss and shit sitting down so I would pull the daughter's panties or pamper down and tell her to squat.

Women know that we piss standing up. Shit it really don't take that long to train a boy on that if he see a man pissing in the pot but if it's just a single woman I'm sure she can pull his pants down and walk him to the pot.

 

[ladyscorpio]

If a child has to go a child has to go. Take the child to the bathroom that you would use. First off it makes more sense and also its the safer thing to do.

Its not hard to train them CT however little boys will have to learn to aim their little bit at the bowl and not all over the place. lol
The hardest part is the transitioning for some kids as they have grown accustomed to the diaper/pamper, but most want to be big kids so they get over it sooner rather than later.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

C/sing the previous posts.

You're overthinking it. Don't.

That's the best advice I can give to any new or prospective parent.

 

[CT's Finest]

Wow, people give 1 Star on SOL now?
















Anyway, thanks to those whoa answered the questions...

 

[melonpecan]

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If you in public you take them in the restroom. The one of your sex, not the child. You just gotta do the best you can, line the toilet or hold them up if it's a boy. Just don't try to teach the girl to squat - I can't remember how may times I wet my pants doing the squat over the toilet when I was three.


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Get one of those children step stools and one of those things that sit on the toilet. If it's a boy have them sit on the toilet until he old enough to aim.

 

[CT's Finest]

^^^ Thanks Mel. Good info for those who may need it.

 

[CT's Finest]

bump

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Why are you bumping this? lol there's not going to be any parent who disagrees with what's already been said.

 

[LoneStar29]

You dont let a 2 or 3 year old go into a washroom on their own wether boy or girl ... you bring them with you to the washroom

And you show him how to pee like how a boy does cuz he is a boy

 

[CT's Finest]

Why are you bumping this? lol there's not going to be any parent who disagrees with what's already been said.

Just for the hell of it. You never know, someone may have another question they want to ask the parents of the board.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

You should ask another question. lol

 

[sean69]

Just for the hell of it. You never know, someone may have another question they want to ask the parents of the board.

 

[LoneStar29]

Just for the hell of it. You never know, someone may have another question they want to ask the parents of the board.

 

[CT's Finest]

You should ask another question. lol

Ok smarty pants...

Parents, when (e.g. age or maturity level) and how do you think topics like sex, drugs and alcohol should be addressed with kids? Speak about it from how you have or will discuss these things with your kid(s)...

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Parents, when (e.g. age or maturity level) and how do you think topics like sex, drugs and alcohol should be addressed with kids? Speak about it from how you have or will discuss these things with your kid(s)...

As a parent you know your children best. You know how they respond to things(you should). And so saying that? Each kid will be different. Our oldest daughter was explained alot of things because she was exposed to alot more things than our younger ones. She can handle alot more things and is capable of understanding things.

Different kids will have different heads. She had it drilled into her pretty early about the dangers and certain things, and it was explained to all of them about 5 years old. Nothing too detailed. You do that as they grow older and you've made them comfortable with coming to you asking you questions.

 

[CT's Finest]

As a parent you know your children best. You know how they respond to things(you should). And so saying that? Each kid will be different. Our oldest daughter was explained alot of things because she was exposed to alot more things than our younger ones. She can handle alot more things and is capable of understanding things.

Different kids will have different heads. She had it drilled into her pretty early about the dangers and certain things, and it was explained to all of them about 5 years old. Nothing too detailed. You do that as they grow older and you've made them comfortable with coming to you asking you questions.

Good answer. Thanks for replying. I hope more parents come in and answer that one. Here's another question for the parents of SOL...


What qualities and/or traits do your kids have from you? What is it you see in them that makes you say damn, that's me right there? What about the other parent? What do you see in them from their mother/father?


I think seeing those things will be one of the most interesting things about being a parent for me when the time comes. Seeing what they got from me, and from her.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Good answer. Thanks for replying. I hope more parents come in and answer that one. Here's another question for the parents of SOL...


What qualities and/or traits do your kids have from you? What is it you see in them that makes you say damn, that's me right there? What about the other parent? What do you see in them from their mother/father?


I think seeing those things will be one of the most interesting things about being a parent for me when the time comes. Seeing what they got from me, and from her.

I skipped the last question because LI kilt it with her answer. Can't improve on the perfect answer.

My kid has my lack of patience with stupidity and can be very abrupt, direct, and short with people, that he gets from me. Unlike me, he doesn't have almost 40 years of honing the skill and learning when to ease off. To us and close family like my mother, it's hysterical but I see the looks on people's faces when he shits on them (unintentionally of course. He never intends to be rude).
Example
My mother asked him, jokingly, if he would help take care of her when she got old. His answer, "You're already old, grandma." Straight face, not kidding at all.
That's my kid.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

All of my boys and oldest daughter are like their dad. Different aspects of him. His, patience and kindness. His anger. My 2nd youngest daughter tho...ALLLLL me. She's the princess of the posse. Just horrible. Stuck up. Mean. lol Our youngest baby tho she's just 2. But she's just like her mama.

 

[CT's Finest]

I skipped the last question because LI kilt it with her answer. Can't improve on the perfect answer.

My kid has my lack of patience with stupidity and can be very abrupt, direct, and short with people, that he gets from me. Unlike me, he doesn't have almost 40 years of honing the skill and learning when to ease off. To us and close family like my mother, it's hysterical but I see the looks on people's faces when he shits on them (unintentionally of course. He never intends to be rude).
Example
My mother asked him, jokingly, if he would help take care of her when she got old. His answer, "You're already old, grandma." Straight face, not kidding at all.
That's my kid.

All of my boys and oldest daughter are like their dad. Different aspects of him. His, patience and kindness. His anger. My 2nd youngest daughter tho...ALLLLL me. She's the princess of the posse. Just horrible. Stuck up. Mean. lol Our youngest baby tho she's just 2. But she's just like her mama.

Thanks for replying.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Thanks for replying.

Anytime, any question.