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[onyxfemme]

What is the most romantic thing a woman has or could do to you??


Now think for a minute. Romance can and will in most cases equal sex. I want you to forget about porn and sexual gratification, but think on a intimate mind stimulating level....

Ok now back to the original question:​

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What is the most romantic thing a woman has or could do to you??​

**Artwork by Merrill Robinson-Paradise**

 

[Mo-Better]

What is the most romantic thing a woman has or could do to you??


Now think for a minute. Romance can and will in most cases equal sex. I want you to forget about porn and sexual gratification, but think on a intimate mind stimulating level....

Ok now back to the original question:​

​

What is the most romantic thing a woman has or could do to you??​

**Artwork by Merrill Robinson-Paradise**

The evening started with a warm kiss at the door with a hint of her body oil. As I settled in she poured me a nice glass of wine. Miles Davis playing on the stereo. The house had the scent of the meal were going to enjoy, New Orleans style gumbo. (my favorite)

She already knew she had set the mood, she was a little more playful than usual. Between the wine, dinner, the jazz and her presence, our time that night was going to be something very special and very memorable. She knew she had me to herself and I didn't care.

When a particular evening stands out in a man's mind as that one did, you better believe She made it the perfect evening. She nailed the romantic setting and the dinner. Got my mind into a relaxed state so the rest of that evening was nothing less than fantastic.

As for my thoughts on this matter when a lady does it like that her number goes on speed dial.

She don't know it yet but I've got one in store for her, coming up real soon.

 

[CT's Finest]

Good thread. I'm not sure how to answer right now, but I'm sure I will be able to at some point in the (near) future. Whatever the case, I think the ladies should see the value of being romantic for their men. Sure, flowers and candy don't do the same things for us, but I think women should find a way to create similar feelings inside men. Pay attention to us ladies, and find the way to make us feel loved and appreciated...

 

[onyxfemme]

This sounds so nice-Sometimes the simple things make a major difference Would you agree that her taking an interest to do this for you is what made the difference?
**Side note**Gumbo sounds delicious at this very moment

The evening started with a warm kiss at the door with a hint of her body oil. As I settled in she poured me a nice glass of wine. Miles Davis playing on the stereo. The house had the scent of the meal were going to enjoy, New Orleans style gumbo. (my favorite)

She already knew she had set the mood, she was a little more playful than usual. Between the wine, dinner, the jazz and her presence, our time that night was going to be something very special and very memorable. She knew she had me to herself and I didn't care.

When a particular evening stands out in a man's mind as that one did, you better believe She made it the perfect evening. She nailed the romantic setting and the dinner. Got my mind into a relaxed state so the rest of that evening was nothing less than fantastic.

As for my thoughts on this matter when a lady does it like that her number goes on speed dial.

She don't know it yet but I've got one in store for her, coming up real soon.

Thats the feedback I am talking about
I look forward to your direct answer in the near future.

Good thread. I'm not sure how to answer right now, but I'm sure I will be able to at some point in the (near) future. Whatever the case, I think the ladies should see the value of being romantic for their men. Sure, flowers and candy don't do the same things for us, but I think women should find a way to create similar feelings inside men. Pay attention to us ladies, and find the way to make use feel loved and appreciated...

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Good question...Well this one time this girl...nah that was sexual...Ok this one time a girl showed up dressed in whip cream...nah, nah that was sexual too...

Aight I got it. One time this girl bought a sexy lingere and she cooked me breakfast but before we could even eat we...shit.

Aight I went to Disney World with this one girl and we was in the Magic Kingdom and she know I like Mickey Mouse so there was this store and she bought me a Mickey Mouse and we walked around the corner and she showed me she had bought some Mickey Mouse underwear and I said gone put them shits on and she was putting them on and...FUCK. This shit is hard!

I'll be back!

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Aight I feel a coming from Onyx so I figure I better answer for real.

I've never really had a female do anything romantic for me. I'm usually the romantic one.

But I did have my ex take me out one day for our anniversary to Papadeaux and afterwards she had got a hook-up on a Double Tree hotel which was right down the street. She didn't tell me about either plan she just said come on let's go.

Got to the room and she had one of those big purses and it was filled with baby oil and candles and bubble bath. Drew me a bath, gave me a sensual massage on the bed afterwards and YES we fucked like rabbits the rest of the night but it kind of struck a good warm fuzzy place in my heart that she went through all that trouble.

Too bad we not together for this anniversary though. Stupid ass...oh I'm fucking it up again ain't I!

 

[SamSneed]

yet to happen

 

[Naha-Nago]

Understanding... That although I love her very much I am a man and do not see the world as she does... and that is ok.



Just because it's different doesn't make it wrong.


Alot of women fail to grasp that concept and wonder why they can only keep a man for a season.


*two cents*

 

[P.L.]

, i'll get back to you

 

[sean69]

let me lay my head in her lap while I read a book

wake me up with kisses

rub my shoulders when I get back from taekwondo practice and actually give a fuck about how my day went

take me out for a random middle of the week suprise dinner or lunch ... anywhere, doesn't have to be fancy or anything

cook together

and finally ...

 

[Mo-Better]

To simplify this question, men require mind stimulation too. Meaning as CT's Finest stated pay attention to us. Don't take us for granted. If you know a man likes Sam Adams Beer don't buy him Budweiser. That Bud's for you, believe me he don't want it.

Onyx the most romantic thing a woman can do is stimulate a man's mind. You get into a man's head and everything else becomes secondary. The scenario I posted above worked because she knew what I liked and how I liked it. She paid attention.

Don't assume we like A,B & C, know that's what we like. It will make a difference.

 

[smoove2k6]

It had been a rough couple of months at work, hell the relationship at home wasnt going all that smooth either. So one saturday she deceided to slow things down a little bit. She bought me an outfit, laid it out on the bed, told me to shower and get dressed. Mind you its only like 6pm. So im dressed, we in the car, she driving, She told me that tonight is just a night to relax. We head to downtown ATL. Nice little resteraunt that i would never have found on my own. Im not talking Olive garden or no place like that, This place has no menu, just the daily specials which are read to you by the waiter. (its one of those places where if you have to ask how much something costs...you cant afford it). So after dinner we head to a nice little hotel in which she has already reserved a room. (again, not the motel 6 or days inn, they have valets to park your car at this hotel.) We head up to our room to drop our bags off. If you know anything about ATL this hotel is right down the street from the FOX Theater. Its a nice night out so we deceided to walk to our destination. We walk around downtown, by passing the club and find a nice quiet sports bar, we sit at the bar, order drinks, and just talk. Mind you I have been married to this woman for the past 5 years, but this is not husband/wife talk, its more like two people out on a second date kinda talk. We laugh, have fun, get tipsy and just relax. When we left the bar we just walked around ATL talking. finaly we made our way back to the hotel. We showered where she washed me up and dried me off, and contrary to where everyone thinks this story is going, we just laid down, cuddled and went to sleep. This may seem simple to some. But when your in a world of chaos like i was at the time. Moments like this is the best thing you can do for you significant other.

 

[Mo-Better]

It had been a rough couple of months at work, hell the relationship at home wasnt going all that smooth either. So one saturday she deceided to slow things down a little bit. She bought me an outfit, laid it out on the bed, told me to shower and get dressed. Mind you its only like 6pm. So im dressed, we in the car, she driving, She told me that tonight is just a night to relax. We head to downtown ATL. Nice little resteraunt that i would never have found on my own. Im not talking Olive garden or no place like that, This place has no menu, just the daily specials which are read to you by the waiter. (its one of those places where if you have to ask how much something costs...you cant afford it). So after dinner we head to a nice little hotel in which she has already reserved a room. (again, not the motel 6 or days inn, they have valets to park your car at this hotel.) We head up to our room to drop our bags off. If you know anything about ATL this hotel is right down the street from the FOX Theater. Its a nice night out so we deceided to walk to our destination. We walk around downtown, by passing the club and find a nice quiet sports bar, we sit at the bar, order drinks, and just talk. Mind you I have been married to this woman for the past 5 years, but this is not husband/wife talk, its more like two people out on a second date kinda talk. We laugh, have fun, get tipsy and just relax. When we left the bar we just walked around ATL talking. finaly we made our way back to the hotel. We showered where she washed me up and dried me off, and contrary to where everyone thinks this story is going, we just laid down, cuddled and went to sleep. This may seem simple to some. But when your in a world of chaos like i was at the time. Moments like this is the best thing you can do for you significant other.

There's some who will never understand this but I do. You became friends again. Relationships are as much mental as they are physical.

 

[onyxfemme]

Andy...........You tried Hon.....

Aight I feel a coming from Onyx so I figure I better answer for real.

I've never really had a female do anything romantic for me. I'm usually the romantic one.

But I did have my ex take me out one day for our anniversary to Papadeaux and afterwards she had got a hook-up on a Double Tree hotel which was right down the street. She didn't tell me about either plan she just said come on let's go.

Got to the room and she had one of those big purses and it was filled with baby oil and candles and bubble bath. Drew me a bath, gave me a sensual massage on the bed afterwards and YES we fucked like rabbits the rest of the night but it kind of struck a good warm fuzzy place in my heart that she went through all that trouble.

Too bad we not together for this anniversary though. Stupid ass...oh I'm fucking it up again ain't I!

Believe me I realize this..And I appreciate your post I really do.

Understanding... That although I love her very much I am a man and do not see the world as she does... and that is ok.



Just because it's different doesn't make it wrong.


Alot of women fail to grasp that concept and wonder why they can only keep a man for a season.


*two cents*

Why do you think it hasnt

yet to happen

You too?? This is hard for me to believe

, i'll get back to you

1st-I wanna eat that Lasagna...Seriously
Also I think your responses are sweet and it is those are things that many men would take for granted and a lot of things that women would not even think that some men would enjoy.

let me lay my head in her lap while I read a book

wake me up with kisses

rub my shoulders when I get back from taekwondo practice and actually give a fuck about how my day went

take me out for a random middle of the week suprise dinner or lunch ... anywhere, doesn't have to be fancy or anything

cook together

and finally ...

Thank you as always for your insight and I hope any ladies that read that will take note as I will.

To simplify this question, men require mind stimulation too. Meaning as CT's Finest stated pay attention to us. Don't take us for granted. If you know a man likes Sam Adams Beer don't buy him Budweiser. That Bud's for you, believe me he don't want it.

Onyx the most romantic thing a woman can do is stimulate a man's mind. You get into a man's head and everything else becomes secondary. The scenario I posted above worked because she knew what I liked and how I liked it. She paid attention.

Don't assume we like A,B & C, know that's what we like. It will make a difference.

You...............

You just like for me to hit you dont you....You want me to commit random acts of violence against you then not remember I did it later....

It had been a rough couple of months at work, hell the relationship at home wasnt going all that smooth either. So one saturday she deceided to slow things down a little bit. She bought me an outfit, laid it out on the bed, told me to shower and get dressed. Mind you its only like 6pm. So im dressed, we in the car, she driving, She told me that tonight is just a night to relax. We head to downtown ATL. Nice little resteraunt that i would never have found on my own. Im not talking Olive garden or no place like that, This place has no menu, just the daily specials which are read to you by the waiter. (its one of those places where if you have to ask how much something costs...you cant afford it). So after dinner we head to a nice little hotel in which she has already reserved a room. (again, not the motel 6 or days inn, they have valets to park your car at this hotel.) We head up to our room to drop our bags off. If you know anything about ATL this hotel is right down the street from the FOX Theater. Its a nice night out so we deceided to walk to our destination. We walk around downtown, by passing the club and find a nice quiet sports bar, we sit at the bar, order drinks, and just talk. Mind you I have been married to this woman for the past 5 years, but this is not husband/wife talk, its more like two people out on a second date kinda talk. We laugh, have fun, get tipsy and just relax. When we left the bar we just walked around ATL talking. finaly we made our way back to the hotel. We showered where she washed me up and dried me off, and contrary to where everyone thinks this story is going, we just laid down, cuddled and went to sleep. This may seem simple to some. But when your in a world of chaos like i was at the time. Moments like this is the best thing you can do for you significant other.

 

[doggish_098]

left me the fuck alone while the football games were on

 

[P.L.]

They usually want me to do everything. It's like they think a man doesn't need or want this kind of treatment. Sad, but the closest thing i can say would be to cook for me and then their job is over. That's where the problem lies, they all want something in return, so it messes up the mood.

 

[shywriter]

Romantic? Ha. I'll settle for respect first.

 

[sean69]

left me the fuck alone while the football games were on

Romantic? Ha. I'll settle for respect first.

she doesn't respect you? then wtf are you still doing with her? leedabishalown.

 

[shywriter]

I'm not with any chick right now Sean. I'm just saying women are disrespectful to me in general, that's all.

 

[doggish_098]

I'm not with any chick right now Sean. I'm just saying women are disrespectful to me in general, that's all.

 

[onyxfemme]

Never tolerate a woman being disrespectful to you. If a woman can not respect her man then she needs to leave him. 2 rules that although I am NOT perfect I do live by:
1-Never disrespect your man.
2-Never demean his manhood.

I'm not with any chick right now Sean. I'm just saying women are disrespectful to me in general, that's all.

Cooking is overrated


Ok but for real-I have issues w/ that. If you are the type of man that likes to romance his girl or show her love and affection than she should give it back tenfold.
Beware of the "gimme gimmie" chick...She is super spoiled.

They usually want me to do everything. It's like they think a man doesn't need or want this kind of treatment. Sad, but the closest thing i can say would be to cook for me and then their job is over. That's where the problem lies, they all want something in return, so it messes up the mood.

 

[Big Preme]

Pay my cellphone bill.

 

[JofromthaNO]

Damn, it's kinda disappointing reading men say that they haven't received a romantic gesture from a woman...

Maybe you guys are thinking TOO grand when it comes to being romantic OR, yeah, maybe a woman has never been romantic with you...

I remember, with an ex, he tried to surprise me the night of my very special awards banquet in college. Little did he know, since the banquet was also the same day as his birthday, I had a planned scavenger hunt for him, which eventually led him to the place we first made love in freshmen year...

I know Onyx asked the question to the guys already, but, seriously, what romantic gesture WOULD YOU LIKE to see from a lady you are feeling?

 

[onyxfemme]

Now that was sweet

Damn, it's kinda disappointing reading men say that they haven't received a romantic gesture from a woman...

Maybe you guys are thinking TOO grand when it comes to being romantic OR, yeah, maybe a woman has never been romantic with you...

I remember, with an ex, he tried to surprise me the night of my very special awards banquet in college. Little did he know, since the banquet was also the same day as his birthday, I had a planned scavenger hunt for him, which eventually led him to the place we first made love in freshmen year...

I know Onyx asked the question to the guys already, but, seriously, what romantic gesture WOULD YOU LIKE to see from a lady you are feeling?

 

[sean69]

I'm not with any chick right now Sean. I'm just saying women are disrespectful to me in general, that's all.

OK.

I know Onyx asked the question to the guys already, but, seriously, what romantic gesture WOULD YOU LIKE to see from a lady you are feeling?

Read the replies.

 

[THE DRIZZY]

Cooking a favorite meal of mine with all the trimmings is always a plus.

 

[P.L.]

Damn, it's kinda disappointing reading men say that they haven't received a romantic gesture from a woman...

Maybe you guys are thinking TOO grand when it comes to being romantic OR, yeah, maybe a woman has never been romantic with you...

I remember, with an ex, he tried to surprise me the night of my very special awards banquet in college. Little did he know, since the banquet was also the same day as his birthday, I had a planned scavenger hunt for him, which eventually led him to the place we first made love in freshmen year...

I know Onyx asked the question to the guys already, but, seriously, what romantic gesture WOULD YOU LIKE to see from a lady you are feeling?

i think the difference between the ladies on SOL and the ones we deal with is, y'all think more like us men.

 

[smoove2k6]

I know Onyx asked the question to the guys already, but, seriously, what romantic gesture WOULD YOU LIKE to see from a lady you are feeling?

If i have to give her ideas, then it is not romantic. i dont want my woman to do something for me just cause I told her. I want her to come up with something on her own and do it cause she wants too. That is what makes it special.

 

[shanebp1978]

She cooked catfish on the day she knows I always get catfish every week, but was on a plane all that day. It was a very successful dinner. She was great that weekend, really went out her way to relax into a great time! I mean real sharing time.

But that one thing was thoughtful. Cared enough to put in some work for something I really like.

 

[JofromthaNO]

i think the difference between the ladies on SOL and the ones we deal with is, y'all think more like us men.

Could be that

Or, it could just be that many of the ladies who post on SOL are more in tune with their wants and desires, as a woman and as a sexual beast

Therefore, it makes us easier in understanding the wants and desires of our counterparts...

If i have to give her ideas, then it is not romantic. i dont want my woman to do something for me just cause I told her. I want her to come up with something on her own and do it cause she wants too. That is what makes it special.

I'm not asking for a prescription, per se, but I wonder, as a whole, if men are just seeking similarities in what they find romantic from their partners...

Already, from previous posts, in seems like men just want to feel appreciated and for a woman to put some nice thought into a gesture or evening for it to be "romantic" in their eyes...

I feel that, as a woman, and think that, in that capacity, men and women are very alike when it comes to their ideas in romance: we all just want to be feel special and thought about

 

[maddcat]

Could be that

Or, it could just be that many of the ladies who post on SOL are more in tune with their wants and desires, as a woman and as a sexual beast

Therefore, it makes us easier in understanding the wants and desires of our counterparts...



I'm not asking for a prescription, per se, but I wonder, as a whole, if men are just seeking similarities in what they find romantic from their partners...

Already, from previous posts, in seems like men just want to feel appreciated and for a woman to put some nice thought into a gesture or evening for it to be "romantic" in their eyes...

I feel that, as a woman, and think that, in that capacity, men and women are very alike when it comes to their ideas in romance: we all just want to be feel special and thought about

I feel like a cheese machine but I love the way you think.

 

[sean69]

C
I feel that, as a woman, and think that, in that capacity, men and women are very alike when it comes to their ideas in romance: we all just want to be feel special and thought about

Woah woah woah there Florence Nightingale. True we are crave some level of affection but "very alike" is a stretch.

Scenario A

Male: "awww baby, that was so sweet of you, you didn't have to ..."

Female: "... It's because I love you. Anything to please my man."

Male: "well then, I say we cap off the night with movie. Why don't you check what's on On Demand and i'll go make some popcorn."

THE END


Scenario B

Female: "awww baby, that was so sweet of you, you didn't have to ..."

Male: "... It's because I love you. Anything to please my girl."

Female: "so ... "

Male: "hmm?"

Female: " sooooooooooooooooooo..... *giggling*

Male: "what baby?"

Female: "so, why did you do it?"

Male: "what? I just told you, it's because I-"

Female: "Do you love me?"

Male: "Of course I .. wait, what?"

Female: "... what are you thinking right now?"

THE (beginning of) END ...

 

[Andeyhollawho]

Andy...........You tried Hon.....

Is that Chrisette?

Wow do I want to fuck that girl so bad!

 

[JofromthaNO]

I feel like a cheese machine but I love the way you think.

Don't make me blush

Woah woah woah there Florence Nightingale. True we are crave some level of affection but "very alike" is a stretch.

Scenario A

Male: "awww baby, that was so sweet of you, you didn't have to ..."

Female: "... It's because I love you. Anything to please my man."

Male: "well then, I say we cap off the night with movie. Why don't you check what's on On Demand and i'll go make some popcorn."

THE END


Scenario B

Female: "awww baby, that was so sweet of you, you didn't have to ..."

Male: "... It's because I love you. Anything to please my girl."

Female: "so ... "

Male: "hmm?"

Female: " sooooooooooooooooooo..... *giggling*

Male: "what baby?"

Female: "so, why did you do it?"

Male: "what? I just told you, it's because I-"

Female: "Do you love me?"

Male: "Of course I .. wait, what?"

Female: "... what are you thinking right now?"

THE (beginning of) END ...

I said very alike in our ideas of romance, NOT in the way we communicate...

We (not just black men, but black women too!) got a lot of work to do in that department, trust me...

 

[onyxfemme]

Dang
I cant lie I have been known to act like this before.

Woah woah woah there Florence Nightingale. True we are crave some level of affection but "very alike" is a stretch.

Scenario A

Male: "awww baby, that was so sweet of you, you didn't have to ..."

Female: "... It's because I love you. Anything to please my man."

Male: "well then, I say we cap off the night with movie. Why don't you check what's on On Demand and i'll go make some popcorn."

THE END


Scenario B

Female: "awww baby, that was so sweet of you, you didn't have to ..."

Male: "... It's because I love you. Anything to please my girl."

Female: "so ... "

Male: "hmm?"

Female: " sooooooooooooooooooo..... *giggling*

Male: "what baby?"

Female: "so, why did you do it?"

Male: "what? I just told you, it's because I-"

Female: "Do you love me?"

Male: "Of course I .. wait, what?"

Female: "... what are you thinking right now?"

THE (beginning of) END ...