Sean Connery on slapping women.

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Maybe those women need to make better choices in mates...

Or learn to shut the fuck up and not rattle the tiger's cage (most women know they man and no what buttons to push)...

Cause everybody don't play by the "don't hit a woman ever" rule.


I'm.Just.Saying.


*two cents*

Yes because you males are raging unpredictable animalistic children who can't control yourselves. Those silly dames.

*A whole Dime.*

 

[Naha-Nago]

Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten. * Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family. * Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than care accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. * Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually. * Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup. * Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

Maybe those women need to make better choices in mates...

Or learn to shut the fuck up and not rattle the tiger's cage (most women know their men and know what buttons to push)...

Cause everybody don't play by the "don't hit a woman ever" rule.


I'm.Just.Saying.


*two cents*

 

[Mt. Yukon]

Yes because you males are raging unpredictable animalistic children who can't control yourselves. Those silly dames.

*A whole Dime.*

Well I mean if youre gonna play that card, are you females incapable of minding your tongue when your emotions run high??? I mean if youre at the mercy of your primal urges... Youre every bit of a beast as my dog...

 

[Naha-Nago]

Yes because you males are raging unpredictable animalistic children who can't control yourselves. Those silly dames.

*A whole Dime.*

Yes because you females are raging upredictable animalistic children who can't control yourselves...your tongue...and hide behind daddy law cause of it.

Those silly dames indeed my lady.



For the record I'm not an advocate of hitting women for popping off at the mouth. I'm not an advocate for hitting anybody who has not hit me. But not all people play the "don't hit women game" and if I see a person rattle a tiger's cage and moments later get their arm ripped off my first question is going to be...

Why did you rattle the cage?


Silly dames indeed...


*two cents*

 

[followup]

fuck all the bs ,me nah go sidestep nuthin.some bitches need a good slap sometime,and even yall bitches know it.you want a man to be strong give you good dick have some paper and be in charge.even the ones typin dat bs know dey need a good ringing open handed slap in the face once in a while ..not abuse jus a reality check.real talk.

**just wanted to say** the only place I WANT a man to slap me is on my ass...when I'm getting it from behind...that is all Bitch

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Well I mean if youre gonna play that card, are you females incapable of minding your tongue when your emotions run high??? I mean if youre at the mercy of your primal urges... Youre every bit of a beast as my dog...

You can't have it both ways Mr. You either think it's ok to go around hitting women because of their words. Or you think it's not. It's not a card to be played. It's you either stand by your stance. Or you do not.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Yes because you females are raging upredictable animalistic children who can't control yourselves...your tongue...and hide behind daddy law cause of it.

Those silly dames indeed my lady.



For the record I'm not an advocate of hitting women for popping off at the mouth. I'm not an advocate for hitting anybody who has not hit me. But not all people play the "don't hit women game" and if I see a person rattle a tiger's cage and moments later get their arm ripped off my first question is going to be...

Why did you rattle the cage?


Silly dames indeed...


*two cents*

What i said before still stands. You can't keep your hands to yourself that's a problem you need to get help for. Or maybe the local authorities can help you with that with a little time away. Since those fellas can't keep their hands to themselves over words. Because they're such tigers and what not. Maybe they just need better cages then?

You're still talking about your lack of control. And the excuse for it.

 

[Mt. Yukon]

You can't have it both ways Mr. You either think it's ok to go around hitting women because of their words. Or you think it's not. It's not a card to be played. It's you either stand by your stance. Or you do not.

I see the sarcasm is lost on you... Furthermore I see you proudly embrace thee double standard, and are one of the very women I and others are talking about when we talk about the women who poke the bear, but cry to the park ranger when he bites.

No I dont think its fine to hit people who dont touch you, but not ALL men feel this way, as its clear that not all women believe in respecting a man as a PERSON. If you feel that you can say whatever you want with no recourse, then Im happy that youre married to man who has the discipline of a Buddhist monk, for if you ever hit the open market with your way of thinking you may very well meet one of the members of our species who dont share my stance on keeping his hands to himself...

How can you attempt to condemn someone else for their lack of control, yet say nothing about your own. Lack of control is lack of control, no matter the severity... If I dont speak to you in a disrespectful way, why is it ok for you to do so??? But Im not getting through to you... Proceed with you current way of thinking, I hope it never costs you your wellbeing...

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I see the sarcasm is lost on you... Furthermore I see you proudly embrace thee double standard, and are one of the very women I and others are talking about when we talk about the women who poke the bear, but cry to the park ranger when he bites.

No I dont think its fine to hit people who dont touch you, but not ALL men feel this way, as its clear that not all women believe in respecting a man as a PERSON. If you feel that you can say whatever you want with no recourse, then Im happy that youre married to man who has the discipline of a Buddhist monk, for if you ever hit the open market with your way of thinking you may very well meet one of the members of our species who dont share my stance on keeping his hands to himself...

How can you attempt to condemn someone else for their lack of control, yet say nothing about your own. Lack of control is lack of control, no matter the severity... If I dont speak to you in a disrespectful way, why is it ok for you to do so??? But Im not getting through to you... Proceed with you current way of thinking, I hope it never costs you your wellbeing...

My current way of thinking is due to having a grown man for a husband. I already said i didn't advocate wild behaviour from anyone. But words are words sir. And a man should control his actions. Just as a woman should. But words? Never need escalate into violence. You do it and you lose. Simple as that. You hit me, you go to jail, you get the Family Violence charge. You get the 3 years felony probation. If it's your first offense. You get the explaining on job resumes. And in interviews how you couldn't control yourself because of what SHE did.

I'm just talking about reality here brother. So don't you think it behooves you brothers more...keeping your hands to yourselves? Instead of trying to blame the females for your inability to control yourself?

 

[Mt. Yukon]

My current way of thinking is due to having a grown man for a husband. I already said i didn't advocate wild behaviour from anyone. But words are words sir. And a man should control his actions. Just as a woman should. But words? Never need escalate into violence. You do it and you lose. Simple as that. You hit me, you go to jail, you get the Family Violence charge. You get the 3 years felony probation. If it's your first offense. You get the explaining on job resumes. And in interviews how you couldn't control yourself because of what SHE did.

I'm just talking about reality here brother. So don't you think it behooves you brothers more...keeping your hands to yourselves? Instead of trying to blame the females for your inability to control yourself?

I dont currently deal with any women who cant control their words, thats a dealbreaker for me. Respect must be maintained by both parties at all times.

All that you said is correct if a dude takes shit too far... But arent the possibilities a little more grim for a female who didnt control her emotions??? Its no secret that its far more likely for two hotheads to be in a relationship than any other combo... Knowing this to be true dont you think it serves her own best interest to not be a slave to her emotions because the caveman shes in a relationship with more than likely cant control his temper??? I mean a slip of the tongue and she could very well lose her life, so why depend on Johnny Law to enforce what you couldnt???

Two wrongs dont make a right, but the second wrong is usually a reaction to the female being wrong in the first place and that is were the disconnect is... It all boils down to more females being held accountable for the shit they say and do. This is a societal issue and another whole can of worms...

 

[beof]

let a nigga try saying some shit like this on tv and he would never work in hollywood again. Sean Connery is my dude though

 

[Laughing Man]

Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten. * Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family. * Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than care accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. * Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually. * Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a breakup. * Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

Chose better mates

Dont take shit too far

And know when to shut the fuck up and back off

This is why cops dont like doing DV calls

How much of that shit is just the man reacting after being push way past his limits by some out of pocket female, but according to the law, if you lay hands on a female, you are dead wrong.

And females know this, and abuse this shit

 

[Laughing Man]

Are you talking to me specifically?

Wow, you just did an end round on everything the men were saying, and still insisting on acting like a petulant child when you want to.

I guess you dont believe in disciplining petulant children who get out of pocket.

You can say what ever the fuck you want, we have freedom of speech here, but there are some damn consequences when you run up on the wrong man, at the wrong time with some shit.

Why is that so hard to understand, just let it go, dont take shit that far?

Despite all of what we posted, you still insist on having the right to jap out, but suffer no consequences, calling the man weak for reacting, but no where do you think a real lady, dont do dumb shit like that

Women who chose better mates, women who are ladies dont get ass whooping at home

It s shit like that that's breaking up the family and causing diminished marriage rates

 

[Laughing Man]

Well I mean if youre gonna play that card, are you females incapable of minding your tongue when your emotions run high??? I mean if youre at the mercy of your primal urges... Youre every bit of a beast as my dog...

But yet, a man cant respond with his primal urges

Thats saying to me you ladies dont know how to control yourselves

 

[Naha-Nago]

I dont currently deal with any women who cant control their words, thats a dealbreaker for me. Respect must be maintained by both parties at all times.

All that you said is correct if a dude takes shit too far... But arent the possibilities a little more grim for a female who didnt control her emotions??? Its no secret that its far more likely for two hotheads to be in a relationship than any other combo... Knowing this to be true dont you think it serves her own best interest to not be a slave to her emotions because the caveman shes in a relationship with more than likely cant control his temper??? I mean a slip of the tongue and she could very well lose her life, so why depend on Johnny Law to enforce what you couldnt???

Two wrongs dont make a right, but the second wrong is usually a reaction to the female being wrong in the first place and that is were the disconnect is... It all boils down to more females being held accountable for the shit they say and do. This is a societal issue and another whole can of worms...

Chose better mates

Dont take shit too far

And know when to shut the fuck up and back off

This is why cops dont like doing DV calls

How much of that shit is just the man reacting after being push way past his limits by some out of pocket female, but according to the law, if you lay hands on a female, you are dead wrong.

And females know this, and abuse this shit

Wow, you just did an end round on everything the men were saying, and still insisting on acting like a petulant child when you want to.

I guess you dont believe in disciplining petulant children who get out of pocket.

You can say what ever the fuck you want, we have freedom of speech here, but there are some damn consequences when you run up on the wrong man, at the wrong time with some shit.

Why is that so hard to understand, just let it go, dont take shit that far?

Despite all of what we posted, you still insist on having the right to jap out, but suffer no consequences, calling the man weak for reacting, but no where do you think a real lady, dont do dumb shit like that

Women who chose better mates, women who are ladies dont get ass whooping at home

It s shit like that that's breaking up the family and causing diminished marriage rates

I see the sarcasm is lost on you... Furthermore I see you proudly embrace thee double standard, and are one of the very women I and others are talking about when we talk about the women who poke the bear, but cry to the park ranger when he bites.

No I dont think its fine to hit people who dont touch you, but not ALL men feel this way, as its clear that not all women believe in respecting a man as a PERSON. If you feel that you can say whatever you want with no recourse, then Im happy that youre married to man who has the discipline of a Buddhist monk, for if you ever hit the open market with your way of thinking you may very well meet one of the members of our species who dont share my stance on keeping his hands to himself...

How can you attempt to condemn someone else for their lack of control, yet say nothing about your own. Lack of control is lack of control, no matter the severity... If I dont speak to you in a disrespectful way, why is it ok for you to do so??? But Im not getting through to you... Proceed with you current way of thinking, I hope it never costs you your wellbeing...

But yet, a man cant respond with his primal urges

Thats saying to me you ladies dont know how to control yourselves

Ya'll need to shut the fuck up with all that sense your making. Thinking all rational and logical and shit.


*two cents*

 

[8SD8-retired_member]

I do not believe in hitting women.

I also do not believe in women hitting me.

If a woman is a 'hitter', it's just best that we do not deal with each other.

Some men take pleasure in hitting women. I mean, that's them. We don't all have the same values.

At the same time, some women take the shit too far, and cry foul when the man retaliates. That's very hypocritical, but double-standards benefit both genders.

This is a dangerous topic, 'cause it encourages some individuals to do things that are very much frowned upon in society. Every society has it's rules - written and unwritten - and it's just best to play the game the right way 'cause their are consequences to being a maverick.

I don't encourage men to hit women in the same way I wouldn't encourage a woman to sleep around as much as her heart desires. Fair or not, their are social consequences for a woman being too loose in the booty. Once you have that rep, good luck being treated as a respectable human being.

Alrighty, then...

...I'm out.

 

[Laughing Man]

You have the right in most states to bring an AR-15 to a political rally for the damn President of The united States, the question is........WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU?

It doesnt matter if you can, just why?

Why?

Why?

Legacy, you lucked out by marrying Kwai Chang Caine, but even guys like that have a breaking point

Honestly, why would you talk shit about me, my momma and grandma for?

For what?

If your words dont do shit, you're gonna escalate to see how far you can get

 

[Rudey]

What I find interesting is the large number of women that will still love a man after he physically abuse her.

 

[DJCandle]

What I find interesting is the large number of women that will still love a man after he physically abuse her.

That's just human nature. The want and need of something you don't have or aren't particulary used to.

It thrilling for these emotional women.

What's funny is when they're in court crying about having their ass whooped when she perfectly knew she was entering a dangerous situation.

 

[ouruko]

Is verbal insults abuse? Yes. I have never and will never hit a woman. I cannot count the many times I have walked away from a woman yapping and broken something on my way out. Many women who are always up in a man's (husband) face and the guy will not talk back (or hit back)do not realize that they might as well be bitchslapping him. I know enough guys who are emotionally scarred and disyfunctional after coming from such relationships.

Is it OK to hit a woman? No. But I understand why some men do. As someone her said before, if you realize you cannot rationally resolve issues without emotional battering, leave. One never realizes the damage done to oneself until its a little too late.

 

[True Real Info]

its not that women who believe in this are being illogical, they know what they are doin some bullshit, they doent care for the logic of it all, they just want to "win" and in their mind that means not being accountable in these situations... period


it also gives them a level of control...act out and get him to respond and spend the night in jail...using the law like a bad mother would a belt on a little boy when she can use him for narcissistic supply...women who have been in abusive relationships are damaged goods and women who support the double standard in this manner are also damaged goods...who all think they are the shit....

 

[Mt. Yukon]

its not that women who believe in this are being illogical, they know what they are doin some bullshit, they doent care for the logic of it all, they just want to "win" and in their mind that means not being accountable in these situations... period


it also gives them a level of control...act out and get him to respond and spend the night in jail...using the law like a bad mother would a belt on a little boy when she can use him for narcissistic supply...women who have been in abusive relationships are damaged goods and women who support the double standard in this manner are also damaged goods...who all think they are the shit....

 

[Naha-Nago]

its not that women who believe in this are being illogical, they know what they are doin some bullshit, they doent care for the logic of it all, they just want to "win" and in their mind that means not being accountable in these situations... period


it also gives them a level of control...act out and get him to respond and spend the night in jail...using the law like a mother would a belt on a little boy...women who have been in abusive relationships are damaged goods and women who support the double standard in this manner are also damaged goods...who all think they are the shit....

I remember a woman using that ultimatum on me...

I broke it down to her like this....

Let me leave....cause if by severe err in judgment on both parts that gets me to the point of hitting you I will not stop BECAUSE I am fully aware of the consequences that will follow suit; I will go to jail. If by the grace of god you are able to call the police as sure as I am black prior to them showing up I promise you I will make hell on earth before they arrive. Now do you really want to take that chance...



*two cents*

 

[True Real Info]

Ive had women try this fighting shit on me before....

Women like this will try their best to get you to fight them,especially if she thinks your gonna dump her or if you catch her cheatin, if that dont work they will give some space over weeks or months and hope that the man comes back, she may even apologize....but this is no daytime soap opera and dumping these women specifically releases the motherfuckin kraken out of them...they will go ham....

the thing is, women look for men they can try this shit on. they will never get with a man they KNOW will drop em in a river, they look for men who still have sympathy for her bullshit, they basically use him as a tool to act how she wants without being called a hoe or inferior to him in maturity (ie "i am so emotional")...they will purposely try to damage a mans mind so that he can never meet a better chick and be happy (ie bitter dudes here on bgol)...if they cant find him they will find a man who will whoop her ass and never ever ever step to him.....like a daughter would her father *ahem*

 

[Naha-Nago]

Ive had women try this fighting shit on me before....

Women like this will try their best to get you to fight them,especially if she thinks your gonna dump her or if you catch her cheatin, if that dont work they will give some space over weeks or months and hope that the man comes back, she may even apologize....but this is no daytime soap opera and dumping these women specifically releases the motherfuckin kraken out of them...they will go ham....

Fam how old are you...Cause you seem to speak from worldly experience...


*two cents*

 

[True Real Info]

none of the women who commented in this thread criticize mary j.blige for what she did to her husband....*ahem* typical *ahem*

 

[Mt. Yukon]

I remember a woman using that ultimatum on me...

I broke it down to her woman like this....

Let me leave....cause if by severe err in judgment on both parts that gets me to the point of hitting you I will not stop BECAUSE I am fully aware of the consequences that will follow suit; I will go to jail. If by the grace of god you are able to call the police as sure as I am black prior to them showing up I promise you I will make hell on earth before they arrive. Now do you really want to take that chance...



*two cents*

Im laughing... But thats some real shit... If youre goin to jail... Might as well make that asswhoopin worth it, would suck to be sittin in a cell with a soon to be record and she got off with slap I aint even mad at you.

 

[True Real Info]

Fam how old are you...Cause you seem to speak from worldly experience...


*two cents*

Im 22. I dated a woman like this and observed women like this in their natural environment in the hood and/or surrounded by simps/men with emotional issues. I also got schooled early on by my fam. Women like this can come from all backgrounds and ethnic groups, its really a character issue.

 

[True Real Info]

even capt save a hoes have their days

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

its not that women who believe in this are being illogical, they know what they are doin some bullshit, they doent care for the logic of it all, they just want to "win" and in their mind that means not being accountable in these situations... period


it also gives them a level of control...act out and get him to respond and spend the night in jail...using the law like a bad mother would a belt on a little boy when she can use him for narcissistic supply...women who have been in abusive relationships are damaged goods and women who support the double standard in this manner are also damaged goods...who all think they are the shit....

Thank you info. So who does it behoove to control themselves in this situation man? if i'm sitting there yacking my mouth who does it behoove to control themselves?

We're at that point now. This is the point where we're at with all of this. We're dreaming and making situations to fit our arguments here.

You have a woman who's raising caine...you know if you hit her you're going to jail? So .... what is in your BEST INTERESTS TO DO.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Wow, you just did an end round on everything the men were saying, and still insisting on acting like a petulant child when you want to.

I guess you dont believe in disciplining petulant children who get out of pocket.

You can say what ever the fuck you want, we have freedom of speech here, but there are some damn consequences when you run up on the wrong man, at the wrong time with some shit.

Why is that so hard to understand, just let it go, dont take shit that far?

Despite all of what we posted, you still insist on having the right to jap out, but suffer no consequences, calling the man weak for reacting, but no where do you think a real lady, dont do dumb shit like that

Women who chose better mates, women who are ladies dont get ass whooping at home

It s shit like that that's breaking up the family and causing diminished marriage rates

You keep pointing at women, saying why don't YOU... i'm saying be responsible for self. If you're a man i don't see how i can MAKE you do anything you don't want too.

Part of me really understands how you guys don't see this...but damn...i'm still a little amazed.

 

[Laughing Man]

You keep pointing at women, saying why don't YOU... i'm saying be responsible for self. If you're a man i don't see how i can MAKE you do anything you don't want too.

Part of me really understands how you guys don't see this...but damn...i'm still a little amazed.

You are in the belief women to have the right to engage in mental abuse of men, then get mad when shit gets physical.

I just want to know why do you want to do it.

And yes, I will keep pointing at women, because they are sometimes both the ones who start it, and the ones who get the automatic victim stamp

How about we dont abuse each other, understand each other, and stop doing shit for petty gains in power and control, you know, act like adults

 

[smoovejazz]

You keep pointing at women, saying why don't YOU... i'm saying be responsible for self. If you're a man i don't see how i can MAKE you do anything you don't want too.

Part of me really understands how you guys don't see this...but damn...i'm still a little amazed.

All of us seem to be going back and forth with this, so let me say this one more time...

No one is advocating wanton violence against women!

What you're NOT acknowledging is that you are seemingly giving a pass to women who knowingly push a man's buttons (i.e., that it is perfectly okay to do this because she is a woman, since she is emotional being by nature), which can lead to an unpleasant situation...

Let me say it one more time...

IT IS NOT OKAY TO HIT SOMEONE OVER WORDS, BUT IT IS ALSO WRONG TO TRY TO INSTIGATE A SITUATION WITH WORDS! IF WE TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT - WHICH MEANS NOT BAITING PEOPLE, SAYING SNIDE, RUDE, AND DISRESPECTFUL COMMENTS, ETC. - THERE WILL BE NO IMPETUS FOR VIOLENCE UNLESS THE PERSON COMMITTING THE VIOLENCE HAS STABILITY ISSUES. IF A PERSON WANTS TO BE DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU, LEAVE THAT PERSON ALONE!!!!!

Of course, if someone hits you, then you have the right to defend yourself...

I came across a good article about "fighting fair" in relationships...hope it helps anyone who needs it...

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/20

Thank you, and goodnight.

 

[SaKem]

I heard his rationale for his misogeny. I've seen it explained many times by males who abuse females. "She deserved it". "She got out of a pocket". It's a common thing to justify your actions in these things.

Bottomline, if you feel you need to hit someone? You probably shouldn't be with them.

That means 98% of women shouldn't be with men, because most women think it's ok to hit their partner. Ur sexist, call it both ways. If you ask me, I'm happy he's slappin these hoes and keepin these bitches in line. Thats why he's been/was married for decades with no problems

 

[Naha-Nago]

I came across a good article about "fighting fair" in relationships...hope it helps anyone who needs it...

http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/20

The "how to prevent your tongue from writing a check your ass can't cash" manifesto....

HOW TO FIGHT FAIR.

How you argue — especially how you end an argument — can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.

A primary requirement for any fight is to maintain control. You do not have the license to be childish, abusive or immature. If you have legitimate feelings, you are entitled to give a reasonable voice to those feelings in a constructive way. (That includes not being self-righteous or taking yourself too seriously.)

"Disagreements are going to occur," says Dr. Phil. "The question is, do you go into it with a spirit of looking for resolution or do you go into it with a spirit of getting even, vengeance, control? You'll never win if you do that. If you make your relationship a competition, that means your spouse has to lose in order for you to win. It's not a competition, it's a partnership."

Here are Dr. Phil's specific rules for fighting fair.

# Take it private and keep it private.
Fighting in front of your children is nothing short of child abuse. It can and will scar them emotionally — all because you don't have the self-control to contain yourself until you can talk privately.

# Keep it relevant.
Don't bring up old grudges or sore points when they don't belong in a particular argument. Put boundaries around the subject matter so that a fight doesn't deteriorate into a free-for-all.

# Keep it real.
Deal with the issue at hand, not with a symptom of the problem. Get real about what is bothering you, or you will come away from the exchange even more frustrated.

# Avoid character assassination.
Stay focused on the issue, rather than deteriorating to the point of attacking your partner personally. Don't let the fight degenerate into name-calling.

# Remain task-oriented.
Know what you want going into the disagreement. If you don't have a goal in mind, you won't know when you've achieved it.

# Allow for your partner to retreat with dignity.
How an argument ends is crucial. Recognize when an olive branch is being extended to you — perhaps in the form of an apology or a joke — and give your partner a face-saving way out of the disagreement.

# Be proportional in your intensity.
Every single thing you disagree about is not an earth-shattering event or issue. You do not have to get mad every time you have a right to be.

# There's a time limit.
Arguments should be temporary, so don't let them get out of hand. Don't allow the ugliness of an argument to stretch on indefinitely.


*Two cents*