Question to the ladies. Who is responsible for your orgasms, your mate or you?

[Mo-Better]

Just spinning some questions off of Peachey_sweet's "When He Feels Inadequate" thread.

So ladies who's responsibility is it when it comes to you having an orgasm?

Do you expect the man to get you off?

If he doesn't is it his fault or could you have done something to help yourself get there? BE HONEST!

Or do you take control of matters to ensure your own orgasms?

 

[femmenoire]

Just spinning some questions off of Peachey_sweet's "When He Feels Inadequate" thread.

So ladies who's responsibility is it when it comes to you having an orgasm?

Do you expect the man to get you off?

If he doesn't is it his fault or could you have done something to help yourself get there? BE HONEST!

Or do you take control of matters to ensure your own orgasms?

If I have to help myself get there, what do I need him for? I could just use that dildo and hit the spot myself.

The way I see it. I am here to get him off and he is here to get me off. Or else we could just sit at home jackin our own selves off.

 

[bigirl]

If I have to help myself get there, what do I need him for? I could just use that dildo and hit the spot myself.

The way I see it. I am here to get him off and he is here to get me off. Or else we could just sit at home jackin our own selves off.

COSIGN!

 

[Pussy Krook]

If I have to help myself get there, what do I need him for? I could just use that dildo and hit the spot myself.

The way I see it. I am here to get him off and he is here to get me off. Or else we could just sit at home jackin our own selves off.

You know what I was going to say she is responsible but I cannot dispute this response.

 

[Mo-Better]

Come on ladies These responses almost remind me of a Barney jingle.

You do me, I'll do you we're just here to really screw...

If an orgasm is the main reason for being there Femme your right you may as well grab a vibrator. Judging from the responses so far the responsibility belongs solely on the man. Even though a simple change in position, or a little communication telling the man "yes that's it or more to the left" could ensure your satisfaction. Yet you elect to drop the responsibility solely on the man. Really? The responsibility of satisfying each other should be mutually shared. Both people should want share in obtaining orgasms. With a new partner you may not know what's right. So you both need to communicate.

Femme you say your there to get him off, what if you don't? He's there, he's ready but he's just not feeling what your putting down. Is that too his fault? Don't get me wrong that's my approach too but sometimes that approach just doesn't work.

Sex is supposed to be intimate time shared by people. Where they physically express their feelings for one another. The orgasm is a byproduct of the sexual experence. Not the reason for being there. Even in this day people there's people who have sex because they love each other.

BTW Whatever happened to sexual intimacy? Did it go the way of platform shoes? No one speaks of it anymore.

 

[MTL]

We both are. I get off watching my partner's reaction, hearing him. I'd like to think that my reactions trigger his. I am easy to cum, so usually if he isn't even doing a good job, i give myself a helping hand

 

[Mo-Better]

We both are. I get off watching my partner's reaction, hearing him. I'd like to think that my reactions trigger his. I am easy to cum, so usually if he isn't even doing a good job, i give myself a helping hand

Thank you! At last a woman whose looking to get the most out of her sexual experence. From what I'm reading your a rare breed.

 

[xfactor]

We both are. I get off watching my partner's reaction, hearing him. I'd like to think that my reactions trigger his. I am easy to cum, so usually if he isn't even doing a good job, i give myself a helping hand

So would you say that you have a premature ejaculation problem?

If I have to help myself get there, what do I need him for? I could just use that dildo and hit the spot myself.

The way I see it. I am here to get him off and he is here to get me off. Or else we could just sit at home jackin our own selves off.

Can't dispute that...

 

[bigirl]

Thank you! At last a woman whose looking to get the most out of her sexual experence. From what I'm reading your a rare breed.

sometimes no matter what you tell him or how you move the vibes aint right and it will not work. that situation is nobodys fault just what it is.

sometimes you tell him and he is fumbling at everything.

then if you just take care of yourself he get vex

 

[Mo-Better]

sometimes no matter what you tell him or how you move the vibes aint right and it will not work. that situation is nobodys fault just what it is.

sometimes you tell him and he is fumbling at everything.

then if you just take care of yourself he get vex

In a case like that I have to agree. So you do try if he's not getting it done.

 

[bigirl]

In a case like that I have to agree. So you do try if he's not getting it done.

of course i do!
what do you think i lay there like a dead fish?

 

[Mo-Better]

of course i do!
what do you think i lay there like a dead fish?

Of course not but to listen to some it sounds like he's expected to get it done. He should know what to do and that is rarely the case. A certain touch that worked last night may be a total turn off today. Every experence is different.

BTW I'm waiting on the Stax CD you were missing. (my source was MIA) When I get it I'll send you the link via PM.

 

[bigirl]

BTW I'm waiting on the Stax CD you were missing. (my source was MIA) When I get it I'll send you the link via PM.

Thanx! I will start posting music again sometime soon too. My head just ain't been there the last few months. Too much going on....

 

[Mo-Better]

Thanx! I will start posting music again sometime soon too. My head just ain't been there the last few months. Too much going on....

Same here plus I'm still having ISP problems.

 

[femmenoire]

Come on ladies These responses almost remind me of a Barney jingle.

You do me, I'll do you we're just here to really screw...

If an orgasm is the main reason for being there Femme your right you may as well grab a vibrator. Judging from the responses so far the responsibility belongs solely on the man. Even though a simple change in position, or a little communication telling the man "yes that's it or more to the left" could ensure your satisfaction. Yet you elect to drop the responsibility solely on the man. Really? The responsibility of satisfying each other should be mutually shared. Both people should want share in obtaining orgasms. With a new partner you may not know what's right. So you both need to communicate.

Femme you say your there to get him off, what if you don't? He's there, he's ready but he's just not feeling what your putting down. Is that too his fault? Don't get me wrong that's my approach too but sometimes that approach just doesn't work.

Sex is supposed to be intimate time shared by people. Where they physically express their feelings for one another. The orgasm is a byproduct of the sexual experence. Not the reason for being there. Even in this day people there's people who have sex because they love each other.

BTW Whatever happened to sexual intimacy? Did it go the way of platform shoes? No one speaks of it anymore.

If he's not feeling what I'm putting down, it may very well be my fault. Maybe I'm lazy. Maybe I'm not into what he's into. Maybe I'm not energetic enough, flexible enough, enthusiastic enough.

But if I want to get him off, then I'll do what it takes.

 

[onyxfemme]

Just spinning some questions off of Peachey_sweet's "When He Feels Inadequate" thread.

So ladies who's responsibility is it when it comes to you having an orgasm?

Do you expect the man to get you off?

If he doesn't is it his fault or could you have done something to help yourself get there? BE HONEST!

Or do you take control of matters to ensure your own orgasms?

I take control of my own orgasms. But I tell my husband (and when I was single the men I dated) what I wanted and I did what I needed to in order to cum. I have never been a timid lover, I want it to be good for me as well and for my man. And luckily I have never had a problem. When you say who's responisibility though, I think it falls on both people to let the other know what they want and need in the bed to have an orgasm....Therefore it becomes the responisibility of the oneself to speak up so they can get what they want.
Does this make sense? My flight to Denver was delayed and I am a little frustrated so I may be rambling....

 

[Mo-Better]

That's what I'm saying if your willing to do what is necessary to satisfy him, then why wouldn't you assist him in helping you getting yours? This is why I thought Peachey's thread wasn't making any sense. Your in bed together why not work together.

 

[femmenoire]

That's what I'm saying if your willing to do what is necessary to satisfy him, then why wouldn't you assist him in helping you getting yours? This is why I thought Peachey's thread wasn't making any sense. Your in bed together why not work together.

Well I guess in her case she can't magically add inches.

 

[HoneyBerry]

He's responsible for putting in work. But I didn't say I wouldn't help

 

[Eva Hornae]

Just spinning some questions off of Peachey_sweet's "When He Feels Inadequate" thread.

So ladies who's responsibility is it when it comes to you having an orgasm?

Do you expect the man to get you off?

If he doesn't is it his fault or could you have done something to help yourself get there? BE HONEST!

Or do you take control of matters to ensure your own orgasms?

both of "US" are responsible for my/his/our orgasms.

 

[Mo-Better]

I take control of my own orgasms. But I tell my husband (and when I was single the men I dated) what I wanted and I did what I needed to in order to cum. I have never been a timid lover, I want it to be good for me as well and for my man. And luckily I have never had a problem. When you say who's responisibility though, I think it falls on both people to let the other know what they want and need in the bed to have an orgasm....Therefore it becomes the responisibility of the oneself to speak up so they can get what they want.
Does this make sense? My flight to Denver was delayed and I am a little frustrated so I may be rambling....

Makes sense to me. So you are in agreeance that women should take active roles in order to cum. That both people should be working together in bed. Not one expecting the other to "make them cum."

Sorry about your flight. After we chatted yesterday I thought you there by now.

 

[onyxfemme]

Makes sense to me. So you are in agreeance that women should take active roles in order to cum. That both people should be working together in bed. Not one expecting the other to "make them cum."
Sorry about your flight. After we chatted yesterday I thought you there by now.

Exactly

 

[sexynbi976]

Just spinning some questions off of Peachey_sweet's "When He Feels Inadequate" thread.

So ladies who's responsibility is it when it comes to you having an orgasm?

Do you expect the man to get you off?

If he doesn't is it his fault or could you have done something to help yourself get there? BE HONEST!

Or do you take control of matters to ensure your own orgasms?

My two cents...

Its on me and on him...50/50. For me, a lot of the time its mental. Plus, he has to be putting it down. But just like most women here on the board, I know how to get myself off even if he doesn't.

 

[blackmouth]

If I have to help myself get there, what do I need him for? I could just use that dildo and hit the spot myself.

The way I see it. I am here to get him off and he is here to get me off. Or else we could just sit at home jackin our own selves off.

well why do you want/need a man at all?

most women fail on this point: you EXPECT a man to KNOW how to get you off WITHOUT telling/instructing/communicating with him to help you.

i expect my partner to educate me in the ways of her body, to ASSIST her in getting off. then, once i learn her and learn what she likes/needs, she doesn't need to communicate it to me so explicitly. as a man, i should pick-up on the lessons and do my job.

but to lay there and expect the man to just know. well, that would mean that all women are the same, and that's not true. some women like direct stimulation; some like indirect. some can only have clitoral orgasms, some can have vaginal.



teach & talk. let me know. then, lay back and enjoy.

btw, OP, this is an AWESOME question. lots of women expect guys to know their bodies while they refuse to talk about what they want/need.

 

[bigirl]

well why do you want/need a man at all?

why do you want/need to post under different user names?

 

[blackmouth]

why do you want/need to post under different user names?

post up my IP address and the IP address of anyone else you think i am.

scratch that. you know what. i responded to this thread and didn't talk any shit to you.

you obviously want to start shit and femme already has it out for me.

fuck it... i'm leaving. y'all won. have a girl's night out on me.

but post those IP addresses since it seems to get y'all off.

 

[HoneyDip]

We both are. I get off watching my partner's reaction, hearing him. I'd like to think that my reactions trigger his. I am easy to cum, so usually if he isn't even doing a good job, i give myself a helping hand

CO-SIGN!!! If the dude isn't hittin it right then I start to back it up a lil harder tryin to motivate him so we can both cum. I dont have a problem helpin

 

[sexylegz33]

Honestly, ME. I know what it takes to make me cum. If he isn't getting me there, it's my responsibility to show/tell him how he can get me there. But I already know if I ride him I'm gonna cum, or if it's missionary position, exactly how to move my hips so he's hitting the spot and I can explode. When his head is between my legs, if he's missing it I can show him with my fingers where I want him to be or tell him and when he's gettin it react accordingly.

Just a couple of my girlfriends say they can't cum when having sex, and in their cases it's my opinion that they are focusing too hard on making sure he feels good. I say if I feel good, he's gonna feel good! Cause my pussy will get weter and warmer by the second, and I'll move in accordance and it's gonna drive him crazy. So, I focus on getting mine. I'm not selfish with it, but if you are too worried about what's jiggeling, or if you look fat, or does he like it like this; then you can't concentrate on getting your shit off.

So, knowing my body and what gets me off...and then communicating with my man is MY RESPONSIBILITY.

 

[tripleds3]

I think we both are responsible. Me and my man just have this connection since day one. We vibe sexually, it's unexplainable. We hold nothing back. Our main goal is to satisfy one another and we don't rest until the other person is satisfied. I know I puts it down in all areas of our sex life and he does the same. It's been like this for over seven years now and we still can't get enough of each other.

 

[sexylegz33]

I think we both are responsible. Me and my man just have this connection since day one. We vibe sexually, it's unexplainable. We hold nothing back. Our main goal is to satisfy one another and we don't rest until the other person is satisfied. I know I puts it down in all areas of our sex life and he does the same. It's been like this for over seven years now and we still can't get enough of each other.

GO HEAD GIRL! THAT'S BEAUTIFUL!

 

[blackmouth]

Honestly, ME. I know what it takes to make me cum. If he isn't getting me there, it's my responsibility to show/tell him how he can get me there. But I already know if I ride him I'm gonna cum, or if it's missionary position, exactly how to move my hips so he's hitting the spot and I can explode. When his head is between my legs, if he's missing it I can show him with my fingers where I want him to be or tell him and when he's gettin it react accordingly.

Just a couple of my girlfriends say they can't cum when having sex, and in their cases it's my opinion that they are focusing too hard on making sure he feels good. I say if I feel good, he's gonna feel good! Cause my pussy will get weter and warmer by the second, and I'll move in accordance and it's gonna drive him crazy. So, I focus on getting mine. I'm not selfish with it, but if you are too worried about what's jiggeling, or if you look fat, or does he like it like this; then you can't concentrate on getting your shit off.

So, knowing my body and what gets me off...and then communicating with my man is MY RESPONSIBILITY.

wow. this is grown woman talk right here.

damn. speak on it.

 

[Sunny B]

my man gets me off every time. he knows the right spot to hit. matter fact, i'm goin get some in a few.

 

[GET YOU HOT]

When each one of us takes responsibility for one another, it's a beautiful thing. Makes everything flourish and the relationship grows in many ways...

 

[lilsexii]

Honestly, ME. I know what it takes to make me cum. If he isn't getting me there, it's my responsibility to show/tell him how he can get me there. But I already know if I ride him I'm gonna cum, or if it's missionary position, exactly how to move my hips so he's hitting the spot and I can explode. When his head is between my legs, if he's missing it I can show him with my fingers where I want him to be or tell him and when he's gettin it react accordingly.

Just a couple of my girlfriends say they can't cum when having sex, and in their cases it's my opinion that they are focusing too hard on making sure he feels good. I say if I feel good, he's gonna feel good! Cause my pussy will get weter and warmer by the second, and I'll move in accordance and it's gonna drive him crazy. So, I focus on getting mine. I'm not selfish with it, but if you are too worried about what's jiggeling, or if you look fat, or does he like it like this; then you can't concentrate on getting your shit off.

So, knowing my body and what gets me off...and then communicating with my man is MY RESPONSIBILITY.

Co-sign! The better he feels, the better I feel. There are times when I focus on the guy on purpose and I may not cum that time, but that was my choice too, so it's no biggie.

how woman base their "relationships" off of sex and then think niggas should take them seriously is unbeknownst too me.

I don't think that's what she meant - it's about the intimacy and the connection between two people. When you have a great sex life in a relationship, it does help the relationship grow.

 

[lilsexii]

that's how yall chicks keep ending up in dumpsters, fucking off with serial killers cuz he piped you. logical thinking may save your life oneday

Why are you always on here shittin on everybody's thread with bullshit about hurting and killing women? Are YOU a serial killer? Do the MODs need to turn your IP address in to the authorities? GTFOH