Concrete rules:
• Keep your options open
• Fake it till you make it.
• Know your end goal, know what you want out of this and learn game accordingly. If you want one night stands and a main wife, your game will be different than a man who is a bachelor with no wifee.
• This is not just about becoming an Alpha but it’s also about raising your standards and becoming a quality person
Caution!!!!:
• This [learning and practicing solid] game takes up a lot of time and may interfere with your work and school. People have dropped out of school over learning game.
House cleaning
• Travel!!!!! Work out, eat well, wear at least one interesting piece of clothing/jewelery (peacocking). Solve your inner conflicts, read. Be adventerous, go new places eat new foods, do thing you have never done before, persue your hobbies be passionate about something.
• This document may seem long and complicated, highly nuanced, and contextual but after a few months it becomes very simple and routine. You no longer begin to think about it but actually just do it.
• There are many styles and models of game. Swinggcat have a method, Bad Boy has a method which is primarily Cold/direct approach. Styles have the Annihilation method. Mystery have the mystery method (which is possibly the most complex) and is the indirect approach.
• Create an identity, if you are a student, that should not be your primary identity, that’s boring. But if you organize on campus that can be your primary identity. What do you do? “I am student organizer, sorta like MLK did back in the Civil Rights movement, you know? I teach people that there are strength in numbers through organization.”
• Write down and memorize your stories and openers, get like five solid ones of each.
• When on a date bounce from one place to a next, it communicates faster rapport and seems like you went on many dates. Try doing things she never done before (horse back riding, archery etc) search craigslist. (Always know your town.)
• Download MTV’s The Pickup Artist Season 1 & 2 and see some of these basics tactics in action because some of these tactics is hard to describe in words.
• Never tell her negative things about yourself; never complain about your problems.
• Get a kiss ASAP Do not wait until at the end of the date, worse time to get it.
• Get a kiss as soon as you can at the beginning of day two especially if you made out the first before that.
• She will shit test you, don’t fall for them. Example “you are such an ass hole”
Wrong response: “No I am not”
Correct response: I am bigger than an asshole, I am a whole ass *smile*
Example 3: You are such a pervert.
You: yes I am just like Quagmire, giddy giddy *make her laugh*
• Always frame her “attitude”/ behavior as cute, never get upset.
“Her you have no G”
Wrong answer: Yes I do!
Correct answer (You): You are so cute when you are trying to be mean, you reminded me of those mean girls in high school. You should teach me some game.
• Always calibrate( testing to see how far along you are). Look out for IOI (Indicators of Interest), hair brushing, stalling and standing around, scratching face, wrist, shoulders, licking lips, asking about you etc.
Openers (Obama and Chris Brown):
For example, you can utilize Obama openings on black women; I made these up myself, they work trust me, I tested them
Example: "Let me ask y’all a quick question, I only have a few minutes, I have to get back to my friends, Do you all think Obama is sexy? The reason I ask is because I heard my 15 year old cousin says she would sleep with him."
…or you can open with Chris Brown and Rihanna.
Caution: Don't forget to root your openers i.e. give a false time constraint ( I have to get back to my friends) and say why you are asking because you do not want them to ask "are you taking a survey” or in black women's case, they can say "what are you a cop?" Your Body language should communicate that you are about to leave the set during the opening. Therefore your body should be turned
Example: "Let me get y’all opinion on something, do you think it’s right for Rihanna to take back with Chris brown"? Because I was talking to a female friend of mine and she said, she would take him back if she loved him.
If she says: (No) “Don’t you believe in love and forgiveness?” or are (Yes) “Are you willing to sacrifice your bodily for harm for love, you know Oprah said if a man hits you once he will hit you again? Don't force the opener, if it dies and they go off topic fine, you already open them up. Start talking about he next thing that comes to mind. You must dominate the first five minutes of conversation, don’t let them (women)get distracted
I got this one from Styles aka Neil Strauss (Usher Opening):
Example: Quick opinion ladies, I have to go xxx place so I can’t stay long, but do you think it’s cool for a 19 year old girl to have a poster of Usher on her wall? (Don't wait for answer, stack forward/start talking/continue with the opener). Now what about a 19 year old boy? Well, the reason I am asking is because both my niece and nephew both have a poster of usher on their bedroom wall. Should I be worried? (If my nephew knew I used this few months ago, he would a kick me ...lol)
…then you can go with a neg (a disqualifier) for the target (woman you want to pick up).
Neg/Disqualifier: statement that disqualify one's self as a potential pursuant so it lowers her guards and seems like the PUA have no interest in her. Be Careful negs are not meant to insult her.
example of Negs for black women ( I made these up as I was typing this document):
• Is that your real hair? No, weaves are cute if you wear them right.
• Are those nails real, no? they looks so real.
• Nice shirt/skirt/jeans all the girls wear those. My aunt has one just like it. (I’d avoid saying my mother, cause she may neg back with “are you a mama’s boy”)
• Can you take a sincere complement? “You have crooked teeth/dark eye lids/ chubby cheeks but your imperfections make you beautiful. I dig that you are comfortable with that.
• Orange matches your skin nicely but why so many bright colors, it’s not spring yet.
Remember for the first 3-5 minutes, you will have to carry and dominate the conversation, and then get her participating.
Basic structure of Pick up (Mystery Method)
*Mystery Method is more complicated than this, it is rooted in phases and stages but here is a basic outline.
Open>>>then possible neg or use neg as an opener
>>>>then
DHV (demonstrate higher value) and you can also devalue her experience here too.
DHV through routines or stories about yourself that communicates a few 1 or 2 of the
5 main Alpha male qualities:
1. You are a leader of men (Tell a story that communicates this)
2. You are willing to emote (tell a story for example, you felt sad when you puppy died.)
3. You are preselected by other women (the time you and your ex girlfriend went to Jamaica together, yes talk about other women but not too much).
4. You are a protector of family (The time you thought your lil’ sis about the birds and the bees)
5. You are a successful risk taker (the time you went Bunji jumping...skying diving...racing down the high way at 120mph, the time you climb blue mountain, the time you walked around your neighborhood smashing mail boxes.)
Caution: Just tell real/true stories that congruent with your real life and personality.
Example of Devalue her experience:
Her: I went to the British museum of Art in Connecticut.
You: that’s cool, I went to the British Museum in London, it was amazing. You ever went to london.
Example 2
Her: I love the Chinese food, Wing Chungs have good chicken wings.
You: yeah, Wing Chungs is good, there is this really great chinese resurant in china town, my friends and I go there often. You cook your own food right at the table. Last time I went there I had the octopus. (
you show you have higher values than her and you are also adventerous by trying octopus)
then >>>
Routines (cube, strawberry fields, magic, palm reading, jokes, cold reading...etc...etc tease her, make her laugh. make up your own routeins.)
Example of some Routines: http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/In_the_Middle/EC/75.html
…..remember kino she her throughout all this (open with a kino(hand shake, tap on the shoulder):
KINO: means to touch. you must touch her as much as possible making it seem natural. If you can open by touching her then great.
START LMR (Last Minute Resistance): “Not to give you a big head, but when you left, I felt a void took place...I missed our convo, I wanted you to get your ass back here as fast as possible, but also keep in mind I have a short attention span. That’s a feeling I wanted to share with you. ”
Kino basics and Advance:
• Pinky swear
• Thumb wrestling
• Hold her and salsa spin her (A must!!)
• Pick her up
• Squeeze her hands gently, if she squeeze back she is attracted (A must)
• Give her a pound, pull her in close bump shoulders tickle her palms slowly/or rub palms slowly as you pull away.
• Fist bump like Obama and Michelle, open into spear fingers and make explosion sound.
• Hold her waist and ask for an excuse, if you are passing by.
• Claw her shoulder and turn her whole body towards you.
• High five, if she says something smart, high five, she pronounces your name correct. High five
• Salsa spin her and pretend you are slow dancing right there.
• Put your hand around her shoulder and point with your other hand and turn her whole body (“look at that”)
• She touches you, “hey that’s going to cost you” * slap her hands* “next time it’s going to be on the ass”
• High five, that was a weak high five, high five me like you are ass slapping, that was till weak, do it for real, turn around get her to slap you on the ass. (compliance test).
• Give me your hands (compliance test), tickle her palms. Play children’s games( anything hand game funy in junior school is funny on dates because you alredy set the frame you are a fun guy who knows when to be serious if he has to. Remember you are not a preforming clown, you are fun. women don't want to cuck the clown.)
• "Give me your hands" do a trust test. Squeeze her hands, lower your hands, if she lowers with you tell her she pasts. This can lead to a kiss close by putting her hands around your shoulders and yours around her waist, tell her “it’s a tension test.” *feel her lower back, tell her she is tense. You: "Are you impulsive?" Her: “No” You: "Well, I am." *kiss her. *
• Eskimo kisses
• Nuzzle her “I am trying so hard not to kiss you” push her away, don’t kiss her creates tension.
• Massage her hands and neck.
• If you receive a phone call, massage her hands while you are on the phone.
• Scratch the back of her neck.
• Pulls the back of her hair, close to her neck...say: "ok let’s slow this down"
• Hold her from the back, kiss her head. “Ok get off of me” push her gently off (creates tension)
Basic Body language
• Always appear smiley face and happy
• Always be charismatic
• Always be spontaneous in speech and actions.
• Your energy should always be higher or equal to hers. This will result in her being happy and energetic which she will associate with you (NLP)
• Stand tall, chest up, shoulders square.
• Sit and lean back, legs open, take up space.
• Never fold your arms
• Don’t put your hands in your pocket, only when you are doing cowboy stance and your fingers pointing downward to your genitals.
• When you are in a loud environment (club, bar, party) never lean in to talk, it communicates neediness, therefore talk loudly.
• Always take the anchor position in a set (the women you are talking to), e.g. stand against the wall and have women stand around you. “salsa spin one of the women out and take the anchor spot. Sit at the head of the table etc.
Then>>>>
Isolate her by herself
Then >>>
Qualification – now only reward her for good things. Make her demonstrate DHV’s (high values) to you. Qualification should not be like a job interview. It should be natural. Questions mixed in with fluff talk. Best way to qualify is to ask about things that you are generally looking for in a woman.
Some of my personal qualifications
• Coax her into telling stories about herself.
• Where are you from? "Trinidad? Really? Trini girls are trouble, I usually stay away from Trini girls" Let her justify that that’s a false concept (jumping through her hoop)
• Are you a loyal friend? Whats the most loyal thing you ever did for a friend. Reward her. “good job, that’s awesome”
• Can you cook? (“Yes I can,” (You: “kudos to you,” I dig that I can cook my ass off so any woman I am with has to be able to cook.”) What s your specialities?
• Are you fun loving person? What are some fun things you did lately?
• Are you adventurous? (Yes, tell me what make you adventurous? You are so fucking awesome, give me hug,” *hugs* “ok not too long, I will start charging you for feeling up the goods.”)<<push pull + reward.
• You are in school? Really? Are you smart or are you a party girl? What are your grades like, let me see if you are smart? (Jokingly: really? I did well in that class too(reward), now we are BFF we took the same class, now that we are BFF this does not mean you can call me all the time)<<< push pull. Or now jokingly say “now that we are BFF I am going to call you ever half an hour.” *smile*
• It is said that people learn things every day about themselves what have you learned about yourself today/Lately?
• Beauty is very common, her in NY, I meet a lot of beautiful women what are three things about you that would make me want to get to know you? (also a DHV i.e “I meet a lot of beautiful women.”)
• Beauty is very common, here in FL, but a great personality, a warm spirit is essential to a truly beautiful human being, what do you have going for you other than your beauty?
• What separates you from any other hole in the wall?
• What make you special other than your good looks?
• ***True story: pretty black girl comes up to me in a club and starts talking about how much funn she is having after she see me and my boy having loads of funn. Immediately, I say to her “And you are? And what makes you special?” She laughs, says her name and start to justify sell herself to me.
Structure of qualification:…qualify...fluff talk...fluff talk… qualify fluff talk...qualify.
Caution: to shoot qualification question one after another seems weird, like a job interview.
Bounce to a different location>>>
then >>>
Kino Escalation
>>>
Comfort Material: you like such and such? Me too, no shit! Give her a hug, then push her away, "get now get off me; don't get any ideas." (push-pull) *smile*
Show attraction to her – only when you ask specific DHV questions of her and she reveal higher value, then you reward her by showing attraction
• What do you want to be when you grow up; and please don't say like Lady Saw/Jill Scott/Destra/Zoelah/Bullfighter/ Race Car Driver/Princess/Beyonce? *she will laugh*
Her: "I am not sure what I want to be."
You: You know you are like a candle in the wind, like Kind David says.
Her: Who is King David?
You: You don’t know King David, the Trini reggae singer?
Her: No
You: He is from Trinidad, he sang the song “Candle in the Wind”
*You then create an open a loop of stories. Open loops keeps people locked in, it prolongs your material also and avoids dead air. You can start talk about King David and how Trini reggae has taken off recently in comparison to jamaican reggae. Then jump to talking about Trinidad, when you visited there or your best friend from there. Then return to King David and finish loop, then return to Trinidad finish loop, return to reggae finish loop. Then conclude by saying:
You: Yeah you are like a candle in the wind, but I am sure you will get it together. (that’s about 5-10 mins of material)
• You: What are some of your personal goals?
Her: they are……..
You: really, me too, I want to someday own my own business/ inspire people/ whatever (we have so much in common, this is really weird.)
*Perfect time to implement a routein*
Routein: “We never be together routein”
You: "You know we could never be together,”
Her: Why?
You: “We are too much alike, we would fight all the time, than have great make up sex, then fight again, the great make up sex again, then fight again untill we kill each other” *Smile* <<<---also push pull.
Kiss close/gambit:• First Kiss: Cup her face, holds the back of her neck, pay attention to how she wants to be kissed.
Calibrate to make sure she is ready and go in for the kiss.
Kiss Routine: You looking like you want to kiss me?
Her: No:
You: I did not say you could,( immediately start stacking forward/talking, so she does not have time to ask if you are upset.)
Her: Yes:
You: *Kiss her*
Her: Not here
You *Immediately go back into material* don’t bounce right away, bounce later, then kiss.
Her: I am not sure..then you kiss her.
• During tension test (see above): kiss her.
• Attempt to tell her something her in the ears, come close to her face, kiss her.
Sex (LMR)
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Definition:
LMR stands for Last Minute Resistance and is an emotional response that women get before they have sex with a new guy. When LMR kicks in her logical mind is debating whether or not this is a smart decision. Society has socially conditioned women to think that casual sex is wrong, and that if they allow themselves to partake in it, they will be labeled as a slut. Women in general do everything they can to avoid that feeling. LMR can also occur because she is evolutionarily hardwired to fear that you will get her pregnant, leave, and won't provide for her offspring. It does not matter if she logically knows that there is a gauntlet of birth control methods at her disposal to prevent pregnancy.
She also knows, whether she is aware of it or not, that if you leave her pregnant and alone, her chances of aligning with a male of value and status is significantly lowered. Most men (not all) don't like the idea of having to take care of another man’s child, and they view it as a burden.
It is also important to understand that women WANT sex more than men do. Why? Because it feels so damn good to them! A women’s body is designed to enjoy sex more than a man’s. However, women have to overcome a bunch of physiological barriers before they allow themselves the pleasure.
Women that are comfortable about their sexuality will usually display less LMR but if she isn't as sexually inhibited and comfortable with her sexuality, LMR is more likely to be triggered.
Common Mistakes Guys Make When Getting LMR
They Pressure her:
1) They beg her
2) They tell her it’s going to be so awesome.
3) They argue with her
Basically, most men try to use logic to convince women to have sex with them.
When the actions listed above occur, it’s makes you look like you are just out to get sex from her. You also come off very needy, and as we all know, that’s a major turn off for women.
Here is an example of a Logical Discussion.
Incorrect way:
Girl: We just met. I feel like I barely know you Roger.
You: Well, we spent the whole night talking. Were both attracted to each other and you know it. There’s no reason we shouldn’t continue. Come on it will feel good.
Correct way:
Girl: We just met. I feel like I barely know you Roger.
You: I know. I feel the same way. It’s crazy that we have such great chemistry. This never happens.
If you are able to get to the point were you are putting on a condom and she says:
Girl: What are you doing? Did you think that we were going to have sex tonight?
You: Nope, but I don't know you very well. I am just trying to be safe just in case.
LMR Prevention:
The best way to avoiding something, is to simply prevent it from occurring in the first place. To prevent LMR, simply strengthen the connection between you and her.
The more that you have built comfort, connection, and trust, the more likely she is to FEEL like you are not just going to change after you have sex. It helps tremendously if the woman feels safe with you.
Women have to convince themselves that you are NOT that creepy guy who’s going to get sex from her, change, and then leave.
Overcoming LMR:
One of the keys to surpassing LMR is to mix banter and teasing with emotional moments from your real life.
I could be at one moment talking about how much I miss being away from my family, then throw in something like, "you couldn't handle my family. They would eat you for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. That’s why this will never work."
….usually say all theses things while sexually escalating.
I have personally executed this countless times and have had major success with it.
This mix of emotions keeps the attraction spiked and builds comfort with her. As her emotional state skyrockets and she starts feeling really good, her logical mind will be overcome by that emotional state, thus lowering her LMR threshold. If you have executed this correctly, her perceived value of you has now become realized value, and she will let you proceed accordingly.
Basically, when she first met you she thought you were a certain way. But now after being with you and being able to observe you for a period of time, she has now realized that she was right about her perceived notions of you.
So when LMR kicks in:
1. Stop. Act cool and calm. Build more of a connection with her while spiking the attraction with teasing, kino escalation, role-reversal lines, and banter.
2. Then try escalating and see if you can get past the point were she resisted you the last time.
One of the paramount things is to be UNREACTIVE and show that sex doesn't matter that much to you.
And it shouldn’t because you have other women in your life!!!!
Additional things to say during LMR:
• She says: We should stop:
You: “I know we should stop, we certainly should, I certainly should not be doing this, bite her and make growling noises"
• I don’t want to steal the diamond between your legs, I just want to get to it so we can get pass it and have more fun.
Better Sex for Men (Brad P et al.)
During Sex: these are things men should do to women. N.B. Leading women in life is as important as leading them in the bedroom!
5 Techniques for Men
1. Direct Stimulation: touching, massaging, licking etc
2. Tension - create tension in the woman's body.
a. Stop-start your action, create build up of tension
b. Runs hands slowly along body.
c. Dirty talk
3. Mild Pain
a. Biting (thighs, nipples etc)
b. Pinching
c. Light slapping (ass)
d. Hair pulling
4. Mental stimulation
1. Dirty talk
a. "Your pussy is so wet"
b. You are making my cock so hard
c. Suck that shit till you get all that tussin out.
5. Lead up - Increase and decrease intensity
a. Start slow if you are in a relaxed environment then build up speed. If not in a relaxed environment (public rest room) go with the intensity.
b. Tell her when to cum (leading, her even in the bedroom.
General Sex, Mental, and Physical Tips
Leading: She says "fuck me like this or that," fuck her completely differently. Make her get use to your way, your method; your leadership in the bedroom is as important as it is in real life. She should not be leading; you should; additionally if you fuck her how she tells you, you are falling in line with some other man's program. Unless it’s your woman for years and you trained her.
1. When fingering and licking the vagina pay close attention to how she reacts. (Collaboration). In fact pay attention to her entire bodily reactions. Go with the move/lick/touch she reacts to best and continue with that. When your finger is in the vagina, massaging the G/deep Spot while you lick and feel that she tightens, continue with that lick.
2. If possible, like what they teach in massage techniques, keep touching her for the entire act of sex; never remove your touch until after "cuddling."
3. You should make her cum at least 1/3 times before she even sees your dick!
You can do this by touching/massaging her "G spot,” and/or firmly pressing on her deep spot, with your fingers, along with oral stimulation.
Finding the deep spot:
http://fastseduction.com/shade/2001-09-19a.shtml
4. When you are licking the vagina, if she ever tells you to speed up, never speed up; especially if you have already collaborated.
Better Vagina licking:
http://www.tube8.com/lesbian/nina-hartley-teaching-to-eat-pussy/65419/
5. Touching: Build up tension, touch and lick around the vagina and breast first before you actually touch/lick erogenous zones (sensitive parts.)
6. Massaging: Order some grape seed oil from online, do not use baby oil, baby oil takes days to wash out the vagina, it could lead to yeast infection. Grape Seed oil is light enough wash out the vagina on first try.
Penis Health
1. Wash and clean properly every day.
2. Shave, yes! It reduces smelling.
3. Lasting Longer: practice Kagles daily.
What is Kagles:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
4. Better ABS means better sex also work out your entire body!
5. Proper diet, no smoking means better penis health, no drugs.
6. Do not masturbate to porn, it’s not natural, it lowers your sex drive. And it fucks with your mentals.
7. If you must cum by yourself (masturbate), do it once or twice a month and not do it to porn! Practice the Joseph Stalin Methodology if you like to masturbate i.e. masturbate daily but do not cum.
8. If you take long to get back up, pulling out when you are cumming, this allows you to get back up faster.
9. Penis Enlargement: only natural method that seems plausible is "jelqing" -- invented by Arabs. I don't buy any of the enlargement methods; realize that size does not really matter. For pure intellectual purposes if you are interested…
Jelqing:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis_enlargement#Jelqing_and_clamping
Advance Techniques
1. Making her squirt:
http://xhamster.com/movies/11837/how_to_make_her_squirt.html
2. Anal: If she is new or a first timer, make her hold and ease your penis inside her at her own pace. Don't ram it in!
a. Cleaning her anus, she can use a douche bag with water to do so.
b. She must be warmed up, when she is warmed up, her anus relaxes.
c. Use Water Based Lubricants
3. Deep Throat: Watch out for her gagging reflexes, simply practice will makes perfect, a little at a time. Her esophagus curves at the back of the mouth, tilting the head back creates a straight pathway.