Older lonely females at the job, Brothers I have a question regarding their need for male attention.....

[doe moe]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

 

[BlackGoku]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

This has been going on for 4 years and she hasn't caught the hint yet? Has she ever asked you to go to lunch or do anything with just the two of you?

 

[ViCiouS]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

been there
keep in mind - you do not need to always answer her phone calls
create some of your own problems to relay to her

 

[Da Backshot Champ]

Give her what she needs, probably been through menopause too. You can flood the club up.

 

[BlackGoku]

been there
keep in mind - you do not need to always answer her phone calls
create some of your own problems to relay to her

That can be a recipe for disaster because it will keep the conversation going. Sounds like he's trying to cut her off, but doesn't want to be rude about it. After 4 years though, he may just have to be an asshole and be like...

"Look, why don't you call Gertrude and tell her about the social security office. I'm about to get some ass. Bye" and hang up the phone

 

[Database Error]

If the head ain't good report her ass to h.r.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Man, set your boundaries. If you not for absorbing her emotional needs, then gracefully fallback. That’s ok to do. How to do it? Be honest with her and yourself.

 

[HellBoy]

Bruh, I have a neighbor like this. For a while, her equally old sister was living with her, but now she is alone again. I didnt understand it, but one day I stopped looking at it as a chore and really listened to her. I can see in her face that she is lonely and has no one to talk to. Its all pent up conversations, so when she finds someone to listen... she goes all out. She is retired and recently joined a church but that isn't enough social interaction to make her happy. I purposely go over (drag my kids too) to check on her periodically. If she has stuff to say, I let her talk.

*And yes some stories are repeats.

 

[BGLR1212000]

Been there. Its going to happen again, because I'm mostly a friendly and professional guy.

 

[^SpiderMan^]

Man, set your boundaries. If you not for absorbing her emotional needs, then gracefully fallback. That’s ok to do. How to do it? Be honest with her and yourself.

This is good advice. She should be talking to a Therapist. Time is a non renewable resource. Protect it and your peace of mind.

 

[Moving Target]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

been there
keep in mind - you do not need to always answer her phone calls
create some of your own problems to relay to her

create some of your own problems to relay to her <<<<<this right here is the answer. tell her you are short on money and dont have the ability to pay it back. put yourself in dire straights an then see how she respond. if she a friend, ask her for money.....nothing shys away people faster than when you ask for money....not small money either.....tell her you cant pay it back either. ....if she give it to you then use, invest it. if she knows she is not getting it back then at least she is paying for your time.
many women just want companionship esp if they are older....hell if she can cook, she'll be glad to feed your ass. if she cant add something tangible for you to the friendship then yes , you are being the emotional tampon.
at least get something for your time. or stop answering the damn phone.

 

[Mask]

Bruh, I have a neighbor like this. For a while, her equally old sister was living with her, but now she is alone again. I didnt understand it, but one day I stopped looking at it as a chore and really listened to her. I can see in her face that she is lonely and has no one to talk to. Its all pent up conversations, so when she finds someone to listen... she goes all out. She is retired and recently joined a church but that isn't enough social interaction to make her happy. I purposely go over (drag my kids too) to check on her periodically. If she has stuff to say, I let her talk.

*And yes some stories are repeats.

Yep, this lady yard I tend to does the same

Been the same story for a year now, her niece came and stole some stuff(dishes, spoons and pots) now it’s the money

So a couple of time she was short on the payment.
I think she’s like 75

I been listening for years now ans I realized all
She have to worry about is her grass

 

[big enos burrnet]

That can be a recipe for disaster because it will keep the conversation going. Sounds like he's trying to cut her off, but doesn't want to be rude about it. After 4 years though, he may just have to be an asshole and be like...

"Look, why don't you call Gertrude and tell her about the social security office. I'm about to get some ass. Bye" and hang up the phone

absolutely correct, gives that old bird a reason to trauma bond with bitch be talmbout what happen,, how can i help..he needs to do some YN type of shit and she will back off quick..

 

[WattDogs]

Meemaw just wants you to make her feel goooood!!

Be a stand up dude & stand up in it!

 

[Coldchi]

it wont be long before u go from being her emotional tampon to her emotional dildo

 

[mailboxpimp]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

id never answer her calls...... fohwtbs. too much story..... + too many younger hoes runnign around. im cool on the old pussy.

 

[World B Free]

C'mon man, stop being so difficult and sing her this song:

 

[Moving Target]

id never answer her calls...... fohwtbs. too much story..... + too many younger hoes runnign around. im cool on the old pussy.

i agree with this statement. adding that old pussy got sugar mamma potential. women understand paying for their time these days.

 

[dHustla]

Man, set your boundaries. If you not for absorbing her emotional needs, then gracefully fallback. That’s ok to do. How to do it? Be honest with her and yourself.

This. Be slow to respond to her calls & texts, create distance. You don't have to be so accessible.

 

[Simply Sickenin']

create some of your own problems to relay to her <<<<<this right here is the answer. tell her you are short on money and dont have the ability to pay it back. put yourself in dire straights an then see how she respond. if she a friend, ask her for money.....nothing shys away people faster than when you ask for money....not small money either.....tell her you cant pay it back either. ....if she give it to you then use, invest it. if she knows she is not getting it back then at least she is paying for your time.
many women just want companionship esp if they are older....hell if she can cook, she'll be glad to feed your ass. if she cant add something tangible for you to the friendship then yes , you are being the emotional tampon.
at least get something for your time. or stop answering the damn phone.

That advice could be applied across multiple social situations. If there is an annoying person in your life and you need them gone, just ask them to borrow some money.

Nothing thins out a crowd more than asking to borrow money.

 

[yureeka9]

Next time she calls tell her you're out with your girlfriend. That should fix it.

 

[phanatic]

This has been going on for 4 years and she hasn't caught the hint yet? Has she ever asked you to go to lunch or do anything with just the two of you?

No. Women are fucking inept when it comes to social cues. They care more about talking than having a conversation. The movie Last Action Hero made fun of this when Jack Slater played the recording of him saying "uh huh, yep, yeah yeah yeah" to his wife on the phone.

 

[bgbtylvr]

been there
keep in mind - you do not need to always answer her phone calls
create some of your own problems to relay to her

 

[bgbtylvr]

Widowed, about to lose her only purpose to get up in the morning. For the first time she will have ABSOLUTELY nothing to do, no where to be and not needed. Seeing the finish line is hard. A good reason many never retire is they have no purpose outside or work. All their daily interactions take place there. She’s getting her last water cooler chats in. That or..

“Nah hol’ still chile! Yessss.Lawid..”

 

[meilmarc]

id never answer her calls...... fohwtbs. too much story..... + too many younger hoes runnign around. im cool on the old pussy.

Your cool on any type of pussy faggot

 

[Mask]

Meemaw just wants you to make her feel goooood!!

Be a stand up dude & stand up in it!

 

[doe moe]

Good news, she is retiring a few days before christmas!

Only a few more weeks to go!

 

[Goingmark40]

lol use the wife or girlfriend. nothing works like making them the bad guy. she ready to go my favorite....lol.

 

[Dr. Truth]

Yuck

 

[Temujin]

Three word's and two that's crazy's should do the trick.

Lady Blah Blah Blah
You: Word
Lady Blah Blah Blah
You Word
Lady Blah Blah Blah
You That's Crazy
Lady Blah Blah Blah
You that's crazy

Should be done after that. It is socially acceptable to walk away from someone after three words and two that's crazy.

 

[A to Dah K]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

I can relate. A family friend. I answer when i am in a good enough mental state to give my time. I had to learn to stop engaging her in conversations and just letting her talk, i found myself getting irritated at times and didn’t want my tone to come off rude, so i just let her talk and every now and again go “mm hmm” “yea”. Sometimes i even remove the phone from my ear while shes going on and on about the same things she was going on and on about every other time, then i tune back in time for another “mmm hmm”

 

[doe moe]

I can relate. A family friend. I answer when i am in a good enough mental state to give my time. I had to learn to stop engaging her in conversations and just letting her talk, i found myself getting irritated at times and didn’t want my tone to come off rude, so i just let her talk and every now and again go “mm hmm” “yea”. Sometimes i even remove the phone from my ear while shes going on and on about the same things she was going on and on about every other time, then i tune back in time for another “mmm hmm”

I feel you 100% on this!!

That shit can be exhausting.

I guess that's what females call "Emotional Intelligence"

 

[Z MONSTER]

This could be you.

 

[A to Dah K]

I feel you 100% on this!!

That shit can be exhausting.

I guess that's what females call "Emotional Intelligence"

If i feel myself getting drained “im getting an important call i gotta talk to you another time”

 

[34real]

It can be annoying and look at it as someone you might need a favor from in the future cause a lot of them older people are dependable and might help point you in the right direction.

She might see things in you that remind her of her husband.

You'll never really understand but hopefully we'll all get to that age and will need someone to talk to.Just be respectful