Older lonely females at the job, Brothers I have a question regarding their need for male attention.....

[doe moe]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

 

[BlackGoku]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

This has been going on for 4 years and she hasn't caught the hint yet? Has she ever asked you to go to lunch or do anything with just the two of you?

 

[ViCiouS]

Got this older black woman at the job in her mid 60's about to retire in a few months.

Over the last 4 years, she wants to talk all the time, calling my office mobile number after work hours and chatting while in the office. She doesn't have my personal cell number just my work cell.

There is zero going on between us sexually and nothing has ever gone down between us. No, she is not attractive, but she is not hideously ugly. Just nothing I would ever consider taking on a tizzy tour. I've known her for 17 years now.

Her husband passed away years ago, her children are all adults with their own children ie, her grandchildren.

I try to be kind and respectful but got damn..... She has begun repeating the same ole stories about her church, grandchildren, visits to social security office, car issues and lots of other stuff.

I think she is using me as her emotional tampon. Its gotten to the point, I will not answer her calls outside of business hours.

Anyone else going through this, with lonely women they know who want to emotionally dump on you?

been there
keep in mind - you do not need to always answer her phone calls
create some of your own problems to relay to her

 

[Da Backshot Champ]

Give her what she needs, probably been through menopause too. You can flood the club up.

 

[BlackGoku]

been there
keep in mind - you do not need to always answer her phone calls
create some of your own problems to relay to her

That can be a recipe for disaster because it will keep the conversation going. Sounds like he's trying to cut her off, but doesn't want to be rude about it. After 4 years though, he may just have to be an asshole and be like...

"Look, why don't you call Gertrude and tell her about the social security office. I'm about to get some ass. Bye" and hang up the phone

 

[Database Error]

If the head ain't good report her ass to h.r.

 

[4 Dimensional]

Man, set your boundaries. If you not for absorbing her emotional needs, then gracefully fallback. That’s ok to do. How to do it? Be honest with her and yourself.

 

[HellBoy]

Bruh, I have a neighbor like this. For a while, her equally old sister was living with her, but now she is alone again. I didnt understand it, but one day I stopped looking at it as a chore and really listened to her. I can see in her face that she is lonely and has no one to talk to. Its all pent up conversations, so when she finds someone to listen... she goes all out. She is retired and recently joined a church but that isn't enough social interaction to make her happy. I purposely go over (drag my kids too) to check on her periodically. If she has stuff to say, I let her talk.

*And yes some stories are repeats.

 

[BGLR1212000]

Been there. Its going to happen again, because I'm mostly a friendly and professional guy.

 

[^SpiderMan^]

Man, set your boundaries. If you not for absorbing her emotional needs, then gracefully fallback. That’s ok to do. How to do it? Be honest with her and yourself.

This is good advice. She should be talking to a Therapist. Time is a non renewable resource. Protect it and your peace of mind.