No Oral Action...

[bigirl]

Since I was born with out an oral receptor gene, I could care less if my partner gives me oral, ofcourse I don't mind giving it. One thing I've never understood was why is oral so important to alot of people, it seems like it takes on a role much larger than just sexual gratification.

To me, its kind of a respect thing. I mean, how the hell I gonna be sucking your dick yet you refuse to eat my pussy? Makes me feel real fucked up. Then when it gets to the point I am at which is ok he wont eat my pussy so I wont suck his dick, SEX IS WACK. I bet he eat his "baby mamas" pussy

 

[Duece]

To me, its kind of a respect thing. I mean, how the hell I gonna be sucking your dick yet you refuse to eat my pussy? Makes me feel real fucked up. Then when it gets to the point I am at which is ok he wont eat my pussy so I wont suck his dick, SEX IS WACK. I bet he eat his "baby mamas" pussy

drop the mothafucka.

 

[watchin]

Since I was born with out an oral receptor gene, I could care less if my partner gives me oral, ofcourse I don't mind giving it. One thing I've never understood was why is oral so important to alot of people, it seems like it takes on a role much larger than just sexual gratification.

Just curious what you mean by no oral receptor. Does this mean you don't enjoy it? Or its rather no big deal to you? And I do agree oral shouldn't be the litmus test on whether a relationship survives. That said:

I so do enjoy both the giving and receiving and would feel saddened and probably a bit deprived if I fell for a man who did not enjoy it. Or did not engage in it whatsoever

 

[Duece]

Just curious what you mean by no oral receptor. Does this mean you don't enjoy it? Or its rather no big deal to you?

It has no effect on me and as I get older somewhat of a turn off. So you can say I don't enjoy it, atleast looking down, I'd rather look up, if you get what I'm saying.

 

[Rudey]

To me, its kind of a respect thing. I mean, how the hell I gonna be sucking your dick yet you refuse to eat my pussy? Makes me feel real fucked up. Then when it gets to the point I am at which is ok he wont eat my pussy so I wont suck his dick, SEX IS WACK. I bet he eat his "baby mamas" pussy

lol @ a respect thing.

Yet you cannot respect or accept the fact that a man won't go down on you.

You need some hard fuck inside your hole to calm you down.

 

[watchin]

It has no effect on me and as I get older somewhat of a turn off. So you can say I don't enjoy it, atleast looking down, I'd rather look up, if you get what I'm saying.

Ah! I was curious, because I knew a man like this as well. I never knew what to call it. No oral receptor gene is a good way to put it.

Do you let your women indulge if they choose? I only ask because some women find the act of giving an extreme turn on. And as long as you like looking up yourself its probably a win-win situation.

 

[Duece]

Ah! I was curious, because I knew a man like this as well. I never knew what to call it. No oral receptor gene is a good way to put it.

Do you let your women indulge if they choose? I only ask because some women find the act of giving an extreme turn on. And as long as you like looking up yourself its probably a win-win situation.

I have yet to run across a woman who finds giving oral an extreme turn on, most of the broads I run across are of the "I'm too cute to suck dick" ilk and honestly if I were to run across one that did, I don't know how I'd get around that.

 

[watchin]

I have yet to run across a woman who finds giving oral an extreme turn on, most of the broads I run across are of the "I'm too cute to suck dick" ilk and honestly if I were to run across one that did, I don't know how I'd get around that.

No disrespect but do you think perhaps that could be why you do not enjoy it? I know I wouldn't enjoy a man who did it begrudgingly. That's not sexy.

 

[Duece]

No disrespect but do you think perhaps that could be why you do not enjoy it? I know I wouldn't enjoy a man who did it begrudgingly. That's not sexy.

I don't think so I've gotten it plenty of times before, I'm kinda red in the face because this one girl tried her hardest to get me to come, actually she wanted to swallow me and while it did help me maintain an erection it didn't even get me close coming. Mostly the Jackie-come-lately's in my life have been on that shit. Maybe I am tuning it out, but I've always like giving, honestly my first experiment with sex was in 2nd grade with my face in my (puppylove) girlfriend's cunt. So from a little boy to grown man I've always wanted to and liked to give.

 

[watchin]

I don't think so I've gotten it plenty of times before, I'm kinda red in the face because this one girl tried her hardest to get me to come, actually she wanted to swallow me and while it did help me maintain an erection it didn't even get me close coming. Mostly the Jackie-come-lately's in my life have been on that shit. Maybe I am tuning it out, but I've always like giving, honestly my first experiment with sex was in 2nd grade with my face in my (puppylove) girlfriend's cunt. So from a little boy to grown man I've always wanted to and liked to give.

Wow! 2nd grade? Im scarda you! That does appear as if you like what you like and always have. And know what you don't. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Duece]

Wow! 2nd grade? Im scarda you! That does appear as if you like what you like and always have. And know what you don't. Nothing wrong with that.

Yeah 2nd Grade, moral of the story, don't let the little kids watch the teenagers when there are no grown people around. I'm pretty sure I did to her what I watched a (then) teenager do his girl.
I think the control issue might play a factor, when I'm going down, I'm in control, I'm using my ears to stimulate myself because the moans in the starp breaths and to a degree the squirming is whats getting me hard. If I let a woman go down on my I'm in a state where I'm not controlling my own stimulation and that may give a mental block, not that I'm selfish in bed with either the tongue or the dick I just have that issue, but is a benign issue so I dont pay it much mind if it starts effecting my sexual performance then I'd have to fix it.

 

[Duece]

The dude I'm sexing now says that he sometimes prefers giving oral sex over regular vaginal sex. He is not the first dude I have had to say that. However, I abhor RECIEVING oral sex and I am very fickle about who's dick I suck...its like most men don't do it for me enough for me to just naturally wanna give them head...but I give this particular dude head ALL the time...I think about giving him head A LOT. Yet I never let him go down on me...should I just grin and bear it for his sakes? Being that he is a "giver"?

If you really like him you need to open your legs and let him goto work, I know you hate it but he's only trynna make you feel good and if his skills are up to par you are gonna be in love.
Try to relax and close your eyes and get your mind off oral sex and think of something you think is sexy while he's doing it.

 

[Duece]

We had a discussion a few weeks back and I confided that recieving oral is like submission and I HATE feeling like I have no control. Basically, I don't trust him enough to let my guard down. I know thats fucked up and selfish, but that coupled with the fact that oral doesn't do much for me on a physical plane = no go. I'm already infatuated (not in love) with his ass, so too late for that one.

We aren't exclusive yet (he knows I don't fuck around) so he could be doing oral on somebody else, but he knows how I feel about men who do it to random women (with the juices and all) and I'd be looking at him crosseyed if I found that out. I have a complex about men being sexually submissive and I see it as a selfless and submissive act...not something a man should do at random. But thats just me.

I think the block you have on oral is the same for me. I dont like losing control, the cowgirl position for me is strictly for me to regain some wind during sex, or for the woman to show me how she likes to get did. Men like to look and being up close and personal with your pussy is probably majorly pleasurable for him. If yall get exclusive maybe you and him can play around and find some compromises, if I was him, as a giver I'd just find other parts of your body that I can use to orally stimulate you. Nipples, neck, thighs, stomach what ever works and doesn't turn you off.

 

[CybaCipha]

The dude I'm sexing now says that he sometimes prefers giving oral sex over regular vaginal sex. He is not the first dude I have had to say that. However, I abhor RECIEVING oral sex and I am very fickle about who's dick I suck...its like most men don't do it for me enough for me to just naturally wanna give them head...but I give this particular dude head ALL the time...I think about giving him head A LOT. Yet I never let him go down on me...should I just grin and bear it for his sakes? Being that he is a "giver"?

Peachey,
What about sitting on his face? You will be in a dominant position and he'll still get his oral on!

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

I have yet to run across a woman who finds giving oral an extreme turn on, most of the broads I run across are of the "I'm too cute to suck dick" ilk and honestly if I were to run across one that did, I don't know how I'd get around that.

*raises hand*

 

[charlie dark]

I have yet to run across a woman who finds giving oral an extreme turn on, most of the broads I run across are of the "I'm too cute to suck dick" ilk and honestly if I were to run across one that did, I don't know how I'd get around that.

You've been unfortunate my friend!!!!

 

[P.L.]

If she just won't do there is a problem, if she does not do as often as i might want, i guess i would have to deal with it if the relationship was good otherwise.

 

[bluskyII]

This may be a dumb question. However, did you ask him why he does not like it. Maybe he had a bad experience in the past. Maybe he is unsure about himself in that arena.

Can an old dog learn new tricks? Absolutely. He may have to be retrained. The training and sharing should create a special bond between the two of you and a great deal of fun and exploring.

Just ask him - why or why not?

 

[PrincessC]

Well, the compromise would have to be anal, cuz I get off on that...but he says he can live without it. He was a pre-med biology major, so I think he has a germophobe complex about the dookie shoot if you know what I mean, but the way he feels about ass play is the way I feel about him putting his tounge inside a WET pussy...germs, germs, germs!!! LOL!!! It gives us both the creeps.

I can relate to this. Anyone who knows me personally knows that I am really weird about germs and cleanliness...and his germophobe complex hits home with me directly...everything has germs!! the keyboard you're touching, the door handle, your steering wheel, etc etc. Even your mouth has germs so if you use that logic you shouldn't even kiss. I'm just saying from one germophobe survivor to you that you can't let that the fear of germs stop you from living, or else you'll need one of those bubble things. I've seriously come a long long way. I don't like oral because I don't like the way it makes me feel though, not because of the potential of spreading germs.

 

[sean69]

*raises hand*

 

[SinaminDelite]

No oral = no relationship. I like to receive as well as give, so if he won't eat it, he can go.

 

[GET YOU HOT]

That type that doesn't eat pussy and/or doesn't like to kiss, is not going to be the type of man, you want to involve yourself with. If you want something like oral or kissing, to be satisfied and your partner is not willing to do it, especially, if he wants oral, then dump him...

-AND

Tell him to go fuck himself

 

[followup]

He doesn't have to like it, but he's gotta do it since I like it. And same for me

 

[younguzi]

an OLD SCHOOL MACK ONCE TOLD ME..TO NEVER TRUST A WOMAN THAT WOULD NOT GIVE YOU HEAD. BECAUSE SHE IS NOT FULLY DOWN FOR YOU.

I LIVE BY THAT ADVICE TO THIS DAY.

 

[furlough]

this sig is dope​

 

[mime]

sorry..that relationship will be short
blame ppls Ex's for that! some good head is a must...even if she aint the best...i'm willing to teach!
cause i in turn love to go down on my woman once she's clean and proper down there..i will eat u outta house and home!

 

[kjxxxx]

I think you are being selfish and you still maintaining control with the sex. You think you are being submissive at home when you give head but that is something that also pleasures you. While you say you don't cum from it he gets pleasure from trying. So let him try. That would be you being submissive. You giving up the control.

I have never thought of my pleasuring a woman orally as me being submissive. I always thought of it as me pleasing her and that brought me joy in much the same way as you giving him head brings you joy.



If I am in a relationship and we have kids or married and she decided she didn't want to do it anymore then I would treat it differently than if I am starting a new relationship or one with no other committment. I have been there and would rather not go on with the relationship if we are going to have a problem with oral sex from the onset.

I see where you are coming from, but I just don't get off on my man's face being all up in my pussy...no power trip for me. I don't want him submissive to me PERIOD. With him, he tells me how he likes his dick sucked or he guides the back of my head farther down to try to make me "swallow" it and I GET OFF ON IT, but only with him cuz I'm totally feeling him!!! I'm one of those chicks thats super dominant at work and in school but at home I'm submissive as hell. It balances me out. Make sense?

 

[Stumpy1]

Fucks no! I prefer women that get off to sucking dick (especially mine lol).

 

[TEE HEE]

Decide whether you need it in your life, or if you can go on with out it. If not an option, Move on.

 

[Mo-Better]

He doesn't have to like it, but he's gotta do it since I like it. And same for me

I love this response and of course that goes both ways.