Need some advice, fellas

[jimmiewine]

I am having a hard time dealing with a relationship that ended on Christmas Day. I’m not gonna lie: It wasn’t the best and we had a lot of arguments. I’m feeling a bit guilty because I ended it but I had enough. I’m just asking my brothers for advice on dealing with a breakup. Thank you.

 

[Coldchi]

Don't look back.
Take some time and focus on yourself.

 

[REDLINE]

If you've had enough you did the right thing, because best believe if she had enough she would've ended it too without hesitation.

 

[850credit]

Every time I had a breakup things immediately started moving in my life. Why?

Because you're finally able to focus on YOUR development instead of worrying about someone else's wellbeing.

I graduated college, got a promotion, rebuilt my credit, got moving in business, pursued my dream of law school.

You'll have extra time and energy to devote to yourself so take advantage!

 

[MemphisNigga]

Don't look back.
Take some time and focus on yourself.

ditto

 

[Son Of Light]

go travel somewhere where there is women and it is warm

 

[850credit]

Also face the reality that girls always have a plan B,C, and D if things don't work out with YOU. My best relationship is married now...that's life.

SHE MIGHT BE LAYING UP WITH NEXT MAN RIGHT NOW while you're droopy eyed about the recent past.

Face that harsh reality so you can snap out of it.

Live your life cause she's not gonna stop living hers over you.

 

[bigdog_bx]

It's always tough to start over, but you have to look at the bright side, you are free. If I had to start over, I would do as Coldchi said and start working on yourself. Gym, finance, and personality traits to make you win in business, with women and yourself. Don't fucking sulk for 3 months, shit will stay the same. Take massive action and shoot for the stars. This could be your blessing in disguise. Good luck!

 

[850credit]

 

[tonydons2]

The biggest thing you are feeling is "attachment".

If you were together for a long time, it's hard to imagine life without that person.

But I promise you will be fine, with a good chance of being better

 

[Race Harley]

Time is on your side. It always feels this way in the beginning but your probably made the right decision. Take it day by day. Peace to you.

 

[BlackGoku]

Dang man..you been through a lot but yet you are still here with us. You gonna be fine fam because you're a survivor. Don't waste time thinking about what was lost; look at what you've gained. If you had enough, you had enough.

 

[TooTrilla]

Breaking up with toxic bitches is hard. Can't stand em but you miss they weak ass.

 

[vertigo]

Brother, now is the time to believe in and work on yourself. Believe that you made the right decision to end the relationship and understand that it will take time to get over her. You're human.
Tell yourself that one day, you will look back on this difficult time and laugh about it. Spend time working on yourself. Every time you get in a funk over her, do something productive- go to the gym, finish a book or an assignment- make it about you and not her. One day you'll wake up and realize you no longer care about what she is doing or who she is with.

 

[tallblacknyc]

At least 3.9 billion other females out there in the world.. so you have many other choices to have fun with or have relationships with.. if you had 3.9 billion diff food options and 1 of the items was bad do you go hungry? Or do you go with the other many options and enjoy your feast? This is my opinion

 

[Flawless]

Is the door open for her to be a fuck buddy? No point in burning bridges.

 

[Pack Rat]

Clean....

 

[TheFuser]

I am having a hard time dealing with a relationship that ended on Christmas Day. I’m not gonna lie: It wasn’t the best and we had a lot of arguments. I’m feeling a bit guilty because I ended it but I had enough. I’m just asking my brothers for advice on dealing with a breakup. Thank you.

Grieve. Sometimes we try to run from the feeling, but if you're feeling away, it's ok. It doesn't make you any less of a man. My last breakup I took time to grieve the failed relationship. I invested a lot into it so I grieved it. I grieved the person I once knew. She wasn't at all who I met so I grieved the jawn I once knew. I grieved the person I was when I was with her (the person I met). I really liked that guy. She had a son (first time I took a single mom seriously -- yea, nah!) and he was a good kid. I committed to being a good father figure for him so I grieved for him and myself. Go through the process. Allow yourself to feel. Because then you'll allow yourself to feel better. You got this bro.

 

[illdog]

Only upgrades...

 

[Temujin]

Is the door open for her to be a fuck buddy? No point in burning bridges.

I never burn bridges I can fuck almost every chick I ever Fucked. That's why when a bitch leave I know it's only temporary she just went out of orbit for a second she'll come back around the sun always shine.

 

[woodchuck]

Bruh, focus on your money now!!! Enjoy your present while focusing on your future. Does money buy happiness? Who knows, but it's a damn good distraction! All of that energy you put into that relationship, redirect it towards your finances! Fall in love with your financial future, and everything else will fall in line. Also, lie low until this holiday season ends. This is the most depressing time of the year. Use this time to map out your gameplan. Focus on "what's coming up", instead of "what was". "Was" means "it's done".

 

[CPT Callamity]

Every time I had a breakup things immediately started moving in my life. Why?

Because you're finally able to focus on YOUR development instead of worrying about someone else's wellbeing.

I graduated college, got a promotion, rebuilt my credit, got moving in business, pursued my dream of law school.

You'll have extra time and energy to devote to yourself so take advantage!

This. A few years ago I had some nasty work come my way and end up losing a few friends in the process. In actuality it was a sign that I needed to separate from certain people and spaces. I also lost a job around the same time.
Years later my next job got better, my money got better and everything just started clicking. Give yourself time to refresh your mind and focus on being better than you were.

 

[OmariAmaru]

go travel somewhere where there is women and it is warm

Sosua in the D.R. and Merida in Mexico are two of my favorites. All you gotta do is sit in the lobby of the hotel or sit at the bar. Chicks approach you. You are the prize and they love you long time

 

[Hey Julian!]

Don't look back.
Take some time and focus on yourself.

Need some more details. Kids? How long was y’all together? Living together? Otherwise, if none that applies what Coldchi said ultimately the best way to get over a break-up.

 

[southrue]

I am having a hard time dealing with a relationship that ended on Christmas Day. I’m not gonna lie: It wasn’t the best and we had a lot of arguments. I’m feeling a bit guilty because I ended it but I had enough. I’m just asking my brothers for advice on dealing with a breakup. Thank you.

Hit the gym and focus all your energy on your career or business. The more idle time you have the more it will hurt and you'll be doing stupid shit. Do not turn to other women or empty sex for comfort to pass the time, consequences are terrible.

 

[jimmiewine]

If you've had enough you did the right thing, because best believe if she had enough she would've ended it too without hesitation.

You’re right.

 

[jimmiewine]

It's always tough to start over, but you have to look at the bright side, you are free. If I had to start over, I would do as Coldchi said and start working on yourself. Gym, finance, and personality traits to make you win in business, with women and yourself. Don't fucking sulk for 3 months, shit will stay the same. Take massive action and shoot for the stars. This could be your blessing in disguise. Good luck!

Thank you. I don’t intend to sit around and sulk. My family told me to rest for a moment because I went through a lot of trauma as well. I actually got outside today and it felt good to get some fresh air.

 

[jimmiewine]

The biggest thing you are feeling is "attachment".

If you were together for a long time, it's hard to imagine life without that person.

But I promise you will be fine, with a good chance of being better

The biggest thing you are feeling is "attachment".

If you were together for a long time, it's hard to imagine life without that person.

But I promise you will be fine, with a good chance of being better

The more I think about it, it was more an attachment. It wasn’t really love.

 

[jimmiewine]

Dang man..you been through a lot but yet you are still here with us. You gonna be fine fam because you're a survivor. Don't waste time thinking about what was lost; look at what you've gained. If you had enough, you had enough.

It’s been a rough year. Probably the roughest of my life. I have had to endure a lot but I am a fighter. I really appreciate you brothers.

 

[jimmiewine]

Breaking up with toxic bitches is hard. Can't stand em but you miss the weak ass.

She was textbook toxic. God… I can write a book about it.

 

[Pimpslap Slim]

I am having a hard time dealing with a relationship that ended on Christmas Day. I’m not gonna lie: It wasn’t the best and we had a lot of arguments. I’m feeling a bit guilty because I ended it but I had enough. I’m just asking my brothers for advice on dealing with a breakup. Thank you.

That's one way to cover for not gettin her a gift.

 

[jimmiewine]

At least 3.9 billion other females out there in the world.. so you have many other choices to have fun with or have relationships with.. if you had 3.9 billion diff food options and 1 of the items was bad do you go hungry? Or do you go with the other many options and enjoy your feast? This is my opinion

I like that. Thank you.

 

[jimmiewine]

Is the door open for her to be a fuck buddy? No point in burning bridges.

Not interested anymore.

 

[4 Dimensional]

It’s ok to grieve the breakup.

But as brothers already mention, definitely focus on yourself. Get fit, healthy, and hobbies to occupy your mind. Don’t let it wonder unchecked.

 

[jimmiewine]

Grieve. Sometimes we try to run from the feeling, but if you're feeling away, it's ok. It doesn't make you any less of a man. My last breakup I took time to grieve the failed relationship. I invested a lot into it so I grieved it. I grieved the person I once knew. She wasn't at all who I met so I grieved the jawn I once knew. I grieved the person I was when I was with her (the person I met). I really liked that guy. She had a son (first time I took a single mom seriously -- yea, nah!) and he was a good kid. I committed to being a good father figure for him so I grieved for him and myself. Go through the process. Allow yourself to feel. Because then you'll allow yourself to feel better. You got this bro.

Wow. This is how I feel. She had a daughter who I tried to be a father figure for. I loved that kid like she was my own. I want to grieve but there is a part of me that is like “Uh uh… she ain’t worth the energy.” On the other hand, I hear a voice inside that says “It’s okay to feel it.” Thank you for sharing this affirmation.