Need some advice Fam. Dating a lady with 3 kids. (sorry no porn)

[Osca Lee]

After 15 years of marriage.........divorce....3 kids......and you are telling us she is nice, and fun. Does she take any medication to suppress her thoughts and feelings? One would think she would be going through an emotional rollercoaster.........go figure

I have no advice to give, just use critical thinking skills.



Osca Lee

 

[Chicutie]

Riiiiickyyyyy!

soon as i finish writing/illustrating this e-book i'm gonna post it for ya son....

i'm up to page 4 right now....

 

[MagicMarvin]

Hey fam, I know there is alot of knowledge here and you all have very strong opinion on thangs. I have a situation where I am currently dating a women with 3 kids from a previous marriage. She was married for 15 Years!!! That is extremely rare in this day and age! She is a professional black women (software engineer) she is extremely friendly, nice and drama free!!! She is 34 and has a body to die for and she is fine as all get out. You can tell this lady has taken care of herself after 15 years of marriage. I am 31 never married, no kids.

I'm thinking either to things are gonna happen.

1. Stay with here long enough, stab and be out.

2. Stay with this good marriage minded black women deal with kids, and just be in a relationship with her for a while and stab for a while.

I mean everything was perfect, but there is always a catch. I said in my mind "this woman is too good to be true, then she tells me by the way "I have 3 kids". Oh well.

She was born and raised in Iowa too.

What do you all think fam.

Hell I mat just stab and be out, but who knows, life is funny sometimes and ya never know what's in store for you.

Unless you intend to marry her, ya better move on right now. More than likely, she thinks you're in this thing 'til marriage if you in it this long. Don't play with her mind, man. She's got a reputation to protect, kids to be a role model for, a need for a man who wants to be mature and do the right thing. If this ain't you, then go your separate ways now.

 

[andusay]

Question is, does she want more kids and do you want kids? If you want kids and she doesn't want anymore because she already has her kids, you should bounce. I would never date a woman with kids, too complicated to be honest. I did it before and it was always a little uncomfortable.

 

[tuckdog]

You already know the answer to your question. You don't want the answer to your question from a bunch of negroes on a porn site. I believe you are just waiting to see a response that goes along with what you feel in your heart. If you think shorty is good for you then handle your B.I. If not...do what you what you gotta do. Only you know whats best for you. Listen to yourself.

 

[dHustla]

Maybe I don't understand but I did not really see a mature question in that story. If you are asking for advice on what to do Nigga you 31 time to start making grown up choices and decisions. Why add to this woman's burden by running some game on her to smash why not try the honest approach. Tell her that because of the three kids from a previous marriage and the fact that you don't have any at all you have some serious reversations about entering into any type of emotional relationship with her, but if she just wanted to do a friends with benefits type of arrangement then you would not have a problem with that. Worse thing you could do is lead her on just to get the pussy it just ain't worth it.

Well stated.

And OP, don't take that choice away from her. Peanut is right, her burden is already heavy, don't add to it by getting her emotionally caught up in something that you have no intention of carrying out. Just my opinion.

Real playas tell women the TRUTH!!!

 

[XXMANOFARMSXX]

Wow 3 pages never thought I would get so much advise. Well update, so far we have been talking alot, and we been hanging out alot. When it comes down to it, she is no doubt a good person and it shows. Now she has been quite frank about how she doesn't need any n***** paying her bills and taking care of her kids cause she ain't about that (was very glad she was up front wit dat). She ain't trying to set me up to raise kids cause they already got a father and he is active in thier life.

She says she wants to have her freedom, freedom to date after 15 years of marriage. And right now she is digging me so I am not gonna pass up the opportunity and see where it goes. She says that the divorced stemmed from her hubby not giving her enough attention and she felt her hubby took her for granted. So she got tired, she got married young and now she just wants to experience life and the things she missed out on getting married at 20 yrs old. I'll keep y'all up to date on what's going on. wich me luck, I'm going in!

 

[checkcashing]

playboy just strap up and have fun wit her u aint gotta get serious....let us know how the buns was

 

[Damn Right]

dont block your blessings. she could be a great catch for you and the kids may be cool....let it play out!

The Chef

uh...no. unless you plan on making the type of cheese to pay for her kids to go to college, etc., then u may want to do sumthin else imo. it's hard to find a woman with NO kids nowadays, but to hook up with a woman with THREE? ulness you're in love, don't want kids of your own or just have a need for that 'family' feeling, u may regret hookin up long term