Need some advice Fam. Dating a lady with 3 kids. (sorry no porn)

[XXMANOFARMSXX]

Hey fam, I know there is alot of knowledge here and you all have very strong opinion on thangs. I have a situation where I am currently dating a women with 3 kids from a previous marriage. She was married for 15 Years!!! That is extremely rare in this day and age! She is a professional black women (software engineer) she is extremely friendly, nice and drama free!!! She is 34 and has a body to die for and she is fine as all get out. You can tell this lady has taken care of herself after 15 years of marriage. I am 31 never married, no kids.

I'm thinking either to things are gonna happen.

1. Stay with here long enough, stab and be out.

2. Stay with this good marriage minded black women deal with kids, and just be in a relationship with her for a while and stab for a while.

I mean everything was perfect, but there is always a catch. I said in my mind "this woman is too good to be true, then she tells me by the way "I have 3 kids". Oh well.

She was born and raised in Iowa too.

What do you all think fam.

Hell I mat just stab and be out, but who knows, life is funny sometimes and ya never know what's in store for you.

 

[Thick Johnson]

So many factors.

Play it by ear...right now you have the freedom to leave.

 

[EPDC]

how long before she told you how many kids she has?

 

[hart]

I was never the type to deal with women with kids.

You know them buggers gonna come before you...

If u in it to hit it
cool
do you

but other than that

you 31 not 51

get you a chick without kids

build your own family not be the caretaker to someone else's stuff

 

[DaElite1]

dont block your blessings. she could be a great catch for you and the kids may be cool....let it play out!

The Chef

 

[bellsbreaker]

jet now while u can

 

[Wootten Hathaway]

Unless her ex-husband is dead, that woman would be off limits to me. We could be friends and maybe hang out every now and then, but that would be it.

She already have lives to worry about.

Maybe if it was 1 child and the baby daddy is dead.





Wootten Hathaway

 

[hustle]

run nucca run

 

[Jam_Jam]

She may be the right woman for you. Don't try to figure anything out now, unless of course you don't like kids and/or can't handle someone elses. Just see how things work out. If you like her and she likes you then what's the problem? If the kids are well-behaved and respectful then the situation may not be too bad. If on the other hand, the kids are brats with no respect for authority you may want to jump ship before things heat up.

 

[Peanutbutta]

Maybe I don't understand but I did not really see a mature question in that story. If you are asking for advice on what to do Nigga you 31 time to start making grown up choices and decisions. Why add to this woman's burden by running some game on her to smash why not try the honest approach. Tell her that because of the three kids from a previous marriage and the fact that you don't have any at all you have some serious reversations about entering into any type of emotional relationship with her, but if she just wanted to do a friends with benefits type of arrangement then you would not have a problem with that. Worse thing you could do is lead her on just to get the pussy it just ain't worth it.

 

[realcbreeze]

Dat bitch shit outta luck, run nigga

 

[Muddy Waters]

 

[mercy0132]

you 31 not 51

get you a chick without kids

build your own family not be the caretaker to someone else's stuff

I agree with this perspective.

 

[darth frosty]

You aint hit yet?!? C'mon dude get the hell out of the situation. There is a reason her husband of 15 years left.

 

[Capt. Cutty]

She may be the right woman for you. Don't try to figure anything out now, unless of course you don't like kids and/or can't handle someone elses. Just see how things work out. If you like her and she likes you then what's the problem? If the kids are well-behaved and respectful then the situation may not be too bad. If on the other hand, the kids are brats with no respect for authority you may want to jump ship before things heat up.

i say you play this one by ear and just see what happens. if she got three kids from a previous marriage, but got a good job and shit, she still bringin somethin to the table, pimpin. . . don't just run away cuz of the kids.

you might grow to love them lil niggas!!





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[bookman]

I think you should find out why her and her man broke up? Were you talking to her while she was with him? If you were then you can count on her to be wit another nigga while she with you. If everything is good just accept the kids. Its worth it if its a good woman. All her keids with one man, she ain ho'in around got a career.

Sometimes you gotta play that fuckit card.

 

[lostsoul]

If she just got out of a long relationship more than likely she doesn't want to be in a serious relationship anyway. You need to find out what she wants from you. She might just want you to be a fuck buddy.

 

[Gloom]

Not good, bro. Keep her as a friend and keep on looking. P.S. don't forget to SMASH IT

 

[BS2011]

Hey fam, I know there is alot of knowledge here and you all have very strong opinion on thangs. I have a situation where I am currently dating a women with 3 kids from a previous marriage. She was married for 15 Years!!! That is extremely rare in this day and age! She is a professional black women (software engineer) she is extremely friendly, nice and drama free!!! She is 34 and has a body to die for and she is fine as all get out. You can tell this lady has taken care of herself after 15 years of marriage. I am 31 never married, no kids.

I'm thinking either to things are gonna happen.

1. Stay with here long enough, stab and be out.

2. Stay with this good marriage minded black women deal with kids, and just be in a relationship with her for a while and stab for a while.

I mean everything was perfect, but there is always a catch. I said in my mind "this woman is too good to be true, then she tells me by the way "I have 3 kids". Oh well.

She was born and raised in Iowa too.

What do you all think fam.

Hell I mat just stab and be out, but who knows, life is funny sometimes and ya never know what's in store for you.

Leave this woman alone.

 

[BS2011]

Maybe I don't understand but I did not really see a mature question in that story. If you are asking for advice on what to do Nigga you 31 time to start making grown up choices and decisions. Why add to this woman's burden by running some game on her to smash why not try the honest approach. Tell her that because of the three kids from a previous marriage and the fact that you don't have any at all you have some serious reversations about entering into any type of emotional relationship with her, but if she just wanted to do a friends with benefits type of arrangement then you would not have a problem with that. Worse thing you could do is lead her on just to get the pussy it just ain't worth it.

Exactly!

 

[YH Dafirm Diplomat]

Leave this woman alone.

the first time i directly agree with blood seed.

mark this shit down in history.

besides that, he's right. and most of the people in this thread are correct as well. leave her ass alone. ALL THE DAMN WAY.

you fuck her once, then have twins, you gon try to kill yoself

 

[stonelove_mvmt]

Hey fam, I know there is alot of knowledge here and you all have very strong opinion on thangs. I have a situation where I am currently dating a women with 3 kids from a previous marriage. She was married for 15 Years!!! That is extremely rare in this day and age! She is a professional black women (software engineer) she is extremely friendly, nice and drama free!!! She is 34 and has a body to die for and she is fine as all get out. You can tell this lady has taken care of herself after 15 years of marriage. I am 31 never married, no kids.

I'm thinking either to things are gonna happen.

1. Stay with here long enough, stab and be out.

2. Stay with this good marriage minded black women deal with kids, and just be in a relationship with her for a while and stab for a while.

I mean everything was perfect, but there is always a catch. I said in my mind "this woman is too good to be true, then she tells me by the way "I have 3 kids". Oh well.

She was born and raised in Iowa too.

What do you all think fam.

Hell I mat just stab and be out, but who knows, life is funny sometimes and ya never know what's in store for you.

Let it go dude, one is cool, two is pushing it, but three? Especially when you don't have any of your own? Just chalk it up to the game

 

[XXMANOFARMSXX]

The board never fails! Thanks guys!

From the responses I know what I need to do. I am always open to opportunites and I can usually tell shit from gold. Imma gonna chart the waters and let life happen, that's what I'm gonna do, just let life happen. And while I let life happen, I will sure take out some life insurance, I ain't no fool!

 

[XXMANOFARMSXX]

how long before she told you how many kids she has?

She told me on the first date. I just met this woman, known her for 3 days. She seems really into me, and I into her. She is a really attractive woman, and let me put it this way, kids or no kids, any sane man that will turn her down is gay!

And I'm not just thinking with you know what, I'm being very alert and cautious about the whole thang

 

[jblaque]

Are You Crazy?

 

[destrehan]

has a body to die for and she is fine as all get out. .

this muthafucka's white. somebody delete this thread.

 

[ironfist88]

Hey fam, I know there is alot of knowledge here and you all have very strong opinion on thangs. I have a situation where I am currently dating a women with 3 kids from a previous marriage. She was married for 15 Years!!! That is extremely rare in this day and age! She is a professional black women (software engineer) she is extremely friendly, nice and drama free!!! She is 34 and has a body to die for and she is fine as all get out. You can tell this lady has taken care of herself after 15 years of marriage. I am 31 never married, no kids.

I'm thinking either to things are gonna happen.

1. Stay with here long enough, stab and be out.

2. Stay with this good marriage minded black women deal with kids, and just be in a relationship with her for a while and stab for a while.

I mean everything was perfect, but there is always a catch. I said in my mind "this woman is too good to be true, then she tells me by the way "I have 3 kids". Oh well.

She was born and raised in Iowa too.

What do you all think fam.

Hell I mat just stab and be out, but who knows, life is funny sometimes and ya never know what's in store for you.

Take her as a second wife no joke

 

[XXMANOFARMSXX]

this muthafucka's white. somebody delete this thread.

Naw man I ain't white, I just live in Iowa and it's starting to rub off on me

 

[DiamondDeuce]

Maybe I don't understand but I did not really see a mature question in that story. If you are asking for advice on what to do Nigga you 31 time to start making grown up choices and decisions. Why add to this woman's burden by running some game on her to smash why not try the honest approach. Tell her that because of the three kids from a previous marriage and the fact that you don't have any at all you have some serious reversations about entering into any type of emotional relationship with her, but if she just wanted to do a friends with benefits type of arrangement then you would not have a problem with that. Worse thing you could do is lead her on just to get the pussy it just ain't worth it.

Realist post in the thread.
By the time you come on a porn board to seek advice..you have too many reservations. Best to be honest with the woman...and see how shit flows. Don't get the woman's hopes up...and don't fuck over the innocent seeds.

 

[elchoccolatte]

Play like Carl Lewis and go the Lap...

 

[yourreplacement]

Don't do it! Too soon! Reconsider! Read some liter-ature on the subject!

But if you sure you know BGOL got yo back nigga, fuck it.

 

[INVICTUS3RD]

"3 kids...3 sets of problems"...Let Alonzo tell ya...Remember this...She HAS to be nice...to find a good black man, in Iowa, that will deal with a woman that has THAT many kids, is a HARD, VERY HARD find...so go slow, very slow and watch your ass...and listen to her and everything she says...that will tell the tale.

 

[DAYNE]

I was never the type to deal with women with kids.

You know them buggers gonna come before you...

you 31 not 51

get you a chick without kids

build your own family not be the caretaker to someone else's stuff

CO-SIGN

 

[BDR]

Leave this woman alone.

 

[hussla's paradice]

ask yourself this.

1. can you see yourself 20 years from now with her?
2. can you see yourself having a successful life with her?
3. can you see yourself having a child with her?

base decisions offa that. not her having a body to "die" for and her being fine as "all getout"

I understand ya' bru... it's hard up there in


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