She saw that he was failing but assumed he was doing okay cause they moved him up anyway. She didn't assume something was wrong?
Mother blames School for her son only passing 3 classes in 4 years.
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She saw that he was failing but assumed he was doing okay cause they moved him up anyway. She didn't assume something was wrong?
She has 3 children and works 2 jobs she says.
The same place you are....gone. lol
Stop nuttin in these hoes
Missing a bunch of school days usually means there's something that's an issue at home. It's one of the first warning signs for child services.
Nah you're reaching with that.
I'll be the first to say how BGOL has issues with Black women but no one is talking about anything except school systems and this women specifically.
This is one of the reasons why my son did not want to teach in this country.
Bullshit. Major bullshit. A kid has failed and missed hundreds of days of class and the mother is blaming the school system (yes they failed too) but the audacity of this woman not accepting ANY blame is mind-boggling and a major oddity. <--that's the cruch of the story.
If she were white I'd of made the same damn post.
This is what's frustrating!! We can not begin to fix the problem until we start acknowledging the problem and all of the roles of the stakeholders.
This thread has been really good about not going in on the morher about having three kids and no father in the home. This is a whole other but related issue. Very little was said about her actually admitting she knew he was failing, but did nothing. She didn't even care if he could read, write, or do basic math. In three years she obviously hasn't helped with one homework assignment, if she did, she would have seen he couldn't do the work.
Yes, the father is also culpable. But, the child lives with the mother. So the onus falls on her. We've heard the stats over and over, 70% of black children are being raised by single black mothers. This is not attacking black women, this is just stating a fact. As a whole, our children are falling behind. I love my black women, but the data supports the idea that black women can not properly raise black children on their own.
However, many of these fathers were raised by single mothers as well and not being in the home with the child or even being in the child's life has been normalized.
i know public school systems are a joke and some blame should be throwed their way. But this shit on the momma and kid. Lol she really said her son feels embarrassed and like a failure.....he is. And so is she. Dam kid really thinking passing 3 classes in 4 years and he gonna graduate is bad comedy . And the momma sticking up for her son is admirable but being a parent .......you know your kids. Whether their goal oriented or lazy as fuck, smart or dumber than a bag of rocks. She needs to accept some things really quick. They both gonna have to either get to work or just move on.
You could be right, but up until this reply did I ever think this situation had anything to do with anyone beyond the kid, the parents of the kid and the school.
We have similar stories. My grades were shit because I pretty much did exactly what I needed to do to graduate, however all my test scores were among the top of my class (ACT, SAT, ASVAB). My home life was far from ideal. I was a financial burden and I knew it. I joined the military because I knew that as soon as I turned 18, I was on my own.
If she was your baby mama, you'd be just as responsible for his failure as she is.
i understand moms gonna take brunt of the blame..but what about her son..nigga 17..he knew he was failing them damn classes..talking about he is shocked and embarrassed..lmao
The state will never be able to force people to value education. It is what it is.
deadbeat nxggas need to stop having children with women who are incapable parenting a child on their own - especially when the deadbeat nxgga knows that he is a deadbeat nxgga.
Man, I can’t wait to get out the education sector. I be passing mofos like it’s nothing. Too much is tied to teachers on the success of people’s education.
Its nearly the equivalent of blaming the Coach for a player doing something on the court. Everyone isn’t meant for school.
But in this case, this isn’t about that kid that probably can’t read the value menu at Burger King. This is about a school that got more issues than they know how to deal with and teachers trying to make a living by any means. Do not underestimate the desperation of people becoming teachers just to live while dealing with a group of kids already struggling outside the school.
Teaching is a thankless profession that is severely under paying and folks wants us to do everything under the sun while the powers that be tells us to met certain metrics or we get fired.
Its nearly the equivalent of blaming the Coach for a player doing something on the court. Everyone isn’t meant for school.
But in this case, this isn’t about that kid that probably can’t read the value menu at Burger King. This is about a school that got more issues than they know how to deal with and teachers trying to make a living by any means. Do not underestimate the desperation of people becoming teachers just to live while dealing with a group of kids already struggling outside the school.
Teaching is a thankless profession that is severely under paying and folks wants us to do everything under the sun while the powers that be tells us to met certain metrics or we get fired.
The son has a singing career waiting for him.
1st song - dedicate to his Momma.
I'm sure she thinks she's Superwoman, so...
♪ ♫ Where were you when I needed you? ♫ ♪
1st song - dedicate to his Momma.
I'm sure she thinks she's Superwoman, so...
♪ ♫ Where were you when I needed you? ♫ ♪
How often are the people on the front lines dealing with things daily asked for their input and perspective?
-AND HAVE IT TAKEN SERIOUSLY!!??
He passed 3 classes his 9th grade year (a 60/D in English I, a 67/D+ in Art, and an 85/B in Health).
They were probably kids themselves (or at least young as fuck) when they had him. You don't have that much self reflection when you're just trying to get a nut.
Hardly ever, fam. And administration has the audacity to ask more from their teachers every year.
This. Everyone isn’t meant for school, and some people shouldn't be teaching.
No one would EVER say this publicly. Teachers unions and politicians would jump on you faster than a bodyguard at a love and hip-hop reunion show. They'd rather tell kids that showing your work in math is "white supremacy" if that keeps the paychecks coming in.
Agreed.
But, as educators, we know that passing is just a matter of just showing up and putting in minimum effort.
Right. I swear I start every term with the statement you made.
Here's a good post from someone who's lived the system in a Facebook group I found
I mean, how do you fix this shit when they the system is screwed on multiple levels? One thing is for sure that lack of personal responsibility combined with government policies that are well meaning, but destructive in practice are fucking a disaster.
I mean, how do you fix this shit when they the system is screwed on multiple levels? One thing is for sure that lack of personal responsibility combined with government policies that are well meaning, but destructive in practice are fucking a disaster.
true. but, where is his daddy now..? he's 30-40 years old at this point. why he ain't check the report card? why he ain't check the attendance..? parenting is a team effort.
School and capitalism are connected. Poverty must exist in order for capitalism to work. Those that fall along the poverty lines also lacks access to decent schools and resources for education.
The education in the modern age is an assembly line.
Here's a good post from someone who's lived the system in a Facebook group I found
I mean, how do you fix this shit when they the system is screwed on multiple levels? One thing is for sure that lack of personal responsibility combined with government policies that are well meaning, but destructive in practice are fucking a disaster.
Yep. The system is education system is overwhelmed. The steady increase in population isn’t being met with the amount of teachers needed for a good student to teacher ratio.
Inner city education is extremely complex. The easiest fix would be to pay the fuckin’ teachers. They need some type of motivation to want to do well. State government pumps so much money in city fixtures like roads, highways, and parking decks that they don’t disperse enough money to pay their teachers and provide the necessary resources for schools.
Still, there is a whole family dynamic problem going on as well that is an independent issue to what the state is doing for their schools.
After reading the article, I felt like the mom was just looking for someone to blame. However, after watching the news story I can understand how the system failed her and her son (although that doesn't exonerate her from her responsibility in the matter). Somehow he kept getting promoted on to more advanced courses when he failed the prerequisites for those courses. He failed Spanish I, Algebra I and English II but ended up in Spanish II, Algebra II and English III the following year. So as far as she was concerned everything was okay. She doesn't seem to be the type of parent that cared whether he was making A's or D's as long as he was passing (or as long as she thought he was passing). So when she got hit with "He's only earned 2.5 credits in 4 years." during his senior year, she didn't understand how that could happen. As someone said earlier in the thread, there is enough fail to go around.
As we dig deeper into her son’s records, we can see in his first three years at Augusta Fells, he failed 22 classes and was late or absent 272 days. But in those three years, only one teacher requested a parent conference, which France says never happened. No one from the school told France her son was failing and not going to class.
This lady can eat a fucking dick. She failed as a parent. It's a teacher's job to provide knowledge, it's a parent's duty to make sure your kid is motivated and equipped to retain that knowledge.
I'm sending this story to my mom so she can rage at irresponsible parents.
You are a good fucking parent...this lazy cunt didn't give a single fuck about her kid's education
I think because school can be fucked up. LEARNING ISN'T. Kids are curious and naturally want to learn, but the indoctrination farms known as schools kill that shit a lot of times. Damn I remember how I LOVED learning until I started school. Then it's
Shut the fuck up!! Piss when we tell you. No water. So what you know your shit and finish tests 15-20 minutes before others, sit there and wait!!" "Class isn't on that chapter yet!!"This shit isn't setup for certain personalities. And it's up to PARENTS to know that shit. Parents must control the education of their children. That really starts on planning before the kids are here. But it also means that what works for one kid might not work for the other. Leaving shit up to these schools is just lazy.
Teachers can only work with students that have education prioritized and reinforced at home. You can push a student, but if they go home and their parents are pieces of shit, all that gets wiped away.
The school not following up on these kids is definitely a system failure. As outlined in the story, there are protocols that are supposed to be in place socially to assist these cases because they are far too common to ignore and leave everything up to parents. Baltimore City's school system is one of the worst in the country, regardless of the amount of money pumped into it. It's essentially turned into a money pit. At some point, the State needs to take it over.
However, does the mother even able to read the report cards? The report cards don't just show grades, they show days absent. None of that was a red flag? Didn't raise any questions? Just couldn't wait to be able to have a graduation party and show off the pictures of you and your son on social media that you ignored every possible red flag that could be raised? I don't think this poor kid ever had a chance...all kids need to be taught responsibility and accountability and there's so little chance of that in single parent homes where one parent works multiple jobs. It can be done...I know a couple people who had the single parent working multiple jobs upbringing, and their parents still found ways to get in that ass if they fucked up like this. But it's an enormous disadvantage his entire childhood to grow up in a home where it sounds like he wasn't getting raised, he was just getting a roof over his head and food on the table and little to no other support at home.
However, does the mother even able to read the report cards? The report cards don't just show grades, they show days absent. None of that was a red flag? Didn't raise any questions? Just couldn't wait to be able to have a graduation party and show off the pictures of you and your son on social media that you ignored every possible red flag that could be raised? I don't think this poor kid ever had a chance...all kids need to be taught responsibility and accountability and there's so little chance of that in single parent homes where one parent works multiple jobs. It can be done...I know a couple people who had the single parent working multiple jobs upbringing, and their parents still found ways to get in that ass if they fucked up like this. But it's an enormous disadvantage his entire childhood to grow up in a home where it sounds like he wasn't getting raised, he was just getting a roof over his head and food on the table and little to no other support at home.
It's better to take that L and immediately start to work on raising that grade. Hiding it only makes things worse.
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