lets say u just met a woman recently...why do some of yall get upset/offended when a woman tells you she isn't comfotable having u come over yet
I never understood this...its not like u cant come over...just not right now
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I think it depends on when you tell a man about your comfort level of him visiting your home. Of course, if you just met someone and went out a few times, then he should be understanding about not being able to come over to your house, however, if you two have been dating for a month or two and you still have reservations about inviting him over to your house, then I can see him feeling a certain way about it. It really depends on the level of rapport, attraction and whatever else that is keeping you two to deal with each other.
Some women use a risk averse type approach to dating which may prevent her from making a true connection with men. The best thing for you to do is let your intentions be know up front and let a man that you are interested in know that you want to get to a certain comfort level before taking things to the house. It doesn't have to be said on the first date, but definitely after a few dates and see how he reacts. That way if he decides to continue dealing with you, then there will be no confusion. You may very well have a drastic change of comfort, especially if the chemistry is strong between you two. If not, then maybe you are not into him enough and may want to friend zone him or better yet leave him alone.
Someone who likes you, respects you and mature will work with you(for a finite period of time). Just deal with men who is on your level and have fun.
