Men..help me understand

DeSiRe said:
lets say u just met a woman recently...why do some of yall get upset/offended when a woman tells you she isn't comfotable having u come over yet

I never understood this...its not like u cant come over...just not right now

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lotta thirsty ass niggaahz running around!
they dnt have any money to take you anyplace
they dnt know where to take you
they think a date is chilling @ ya house trying to fuck & smoke weed!
they dnt realize they are busters! :lol::lol::lol:
 
trick ass niggaahz like to use the money they spend or have spent to factor into how or when they should be able to come over...... fuck..:smh::lol::lol::lol::smh:

grown men do not do this! :smh:
 
My guess would be that he thought he had you all ready to fuck and then you hit him with the curve ball and it fucked him up.

He probably took it as a shot to his ego.

"Oh my game wasn't tight enough? I wasn't nice enough? I wasn't aggressive enough? I didn't spend enough money?"

If you don't give him a specific reason why he can't come up (not a general answer like "I'm not ready", "it's too soon" "not right now"), he's probably going to have thoughts like that, and it can only go bad from there.

Sounds like you got yourself an egomaniac.
 
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Mrfreddygoodbud said:
Be honest, because its easy to come up

here and play the choir girl,

but no need to lie, its all homies now..


When you first met him?

where you

A. dressed like a lady?

or

B. In full thot wear?
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The most recent one for me?I was dressed like a lady...dress and heels

My homegirls current bf got salty when she made him wait to come over

I went on a date with a guy awhile back...dressed like a lady and he got in his feelings he couldnt come over after the date

Black A. Camus said:
If you haven't known him long then you know the answer. He's just trying to fuck. He doesn't see you as relationship material, at least not yet.

I can understand him pestering you about it, hoping you'll give in. But if he loses interest in you because of it, and stops calling and dating you because of it, then you should move on.
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Thanks for the insight

clitsational said:
i have a first date fuck rule

don't care where it happens

long as it does

:cool:​
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Lol

Kaotic said:
This ^^^^

Depends on your definition of "recently".. If you talking a month or two, then kick rocks..It a shortage out here in our favor.:yes: If you are talking a few days or even with a couple weeks time frame, dude getting upset can pretty much be sum up in one of two scenarios:

1. He thought you were an easy jump-off from the start, and had no intention of investing any meaningful time to get the pussy.

2. You are probably moments away from ending up at the station filling out a report as why you stabbed/shot dude, or talking to a counselor on a victim crisis line somewhere. All because you didn't heed the signs and invited an overly thursty cat in, even after he exposed himself to you.

Disclaimer -
Scenario #1 is more often than not brought on by mixed signals dude received from the female while at the club, bar, etc... vying for free drinks and a plate of hot wings, or that slutty "come fuck me" dress you were wearing when you gave him the digits. :lol::lol::lol:
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Well recently=last Saturday...and dude was 40 something years old..not no young buck...i didnt want a relationship with him either...barely knew the dude...well we talked for a long time when we met but i wasnt very sober so i dont remember much

I honently trying to have a sober conversation to make sure he was sane before i did give up any cookies


Again this isnt the first time this has happened to me or women i know

Scenario #2 is the exact reason i dont want someone i know very well in my home



melonpecan said:
Oh good gosh

Yalls answers...
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Hay girl hay!

phonetic said:
Either your place is a disaster or you have a dude at home...either way...there's always room at my place.
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Lol

(0_0)..l.. finger said:
Just move on if you don't like the way he acts:confused: Why put too much thought on it:confused: Some woman always make a simple situation so complex.
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Im not trippin.....save me some trouble with wasting my time with a fuckboy...tdude isnt even my type...im just curious on why this phenomenon happens to women and what makes men feel a certain way
 
Question... is he the guy that got ROASTED on twitter a couple days ago for showing up for the date in his Xfinity work truck and then got TIGHT when baby girl ordered a $17.99 entree? :lol:
 
That never bothered me. When she's ready for me to come over she's ready. I'm not gonna sweat it.


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DeSiRe said:
lets say u just met a woman recently...why do some of yall get upset/offended when a woman tells you she isn't comfotable having u come over yet

I never understood this...its not like u cant come over...just not right now

:confused:
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Because y'all act like groupies around some thug negro but trip when a brother with a job wants to come over.
 
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DeSiRe said:
Dont matter if money was spent
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See this is where women get it fucked up. Ya'll fail to realize that every relationship no matter what its nature, is an exchange. This for that. Women seem to think that being in their presence constitutes something equal in value to someone else's labor (money). You're wrong. My presence is just as valuable as yours so when a man spends money he has an expectation of something of value in return. If you don't want men to have that expectation pay for your own shit and maintain the balance. Relationships only get fucked up when the balance is off.
 
It never bothered me if hoz don't want me over to their crib. There are plenty of women who do and that's exactly where I'll be until this new chick gets comfortable enough to let me come by. But that door swings both ways. I won't let her know where I stay either. That will give me extra time with my other women until I feel like letting her over.
 
I'm gonna create my own thread:

"My girl keeps on pressuring me to marry her. I don't understand why she's being so pushy."

"How long have you been with her?"

"It doesn't matter how much time I've spent."

:hmm:
 
DeSiRe said:
I mean i get yall trying to fuck but damn not tonite doesnt mean no like how some men act



Its like yall get real deep in ur feelings about this

Dont matter if money was spent
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Actually, "not tonight" DOES mean no! :angry:. When you want to come over or fuck, any answer she gives other than "yes" is merely a nice way of saying "no". And if a bitch don't want you coming to her house, that cuz she sked that you might see the nigga she fucking will be coming out the doh while the waitin ass nigga buyin dinners that she brings home to feed the nigga she already fukkin. :smh::smh:

Yall mullafuckis bettah wake the fuck up and listen to this damn Islam! :rolleyes:
 
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yureeka9 said:
See this is where women get it fucked up. Ya'll fail to realize that every relationship no matter what its nature, is an exchange. This for that. Women seem to think that being in their presence constitutes something equal in value to someone else's labor (money). You're wrong. My presence is just as valuable as yours so when a man spends money he has an expectation of something of value in return. If you don't want men to have that expectation pay for your own shit and maintain the balance. Relationships only get fucked up when the balance is off.
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Stop spendin money on hoes and bitches while on dates. If that bitch is not willing to come out her pockets and pay for her self or come up out her damn panties. Don't pay for shit for a bitch even if it means that she lose interest. The best way to keep a bitches attention is for her to know that you are willing to cut her ass off and to have her understand that you value the money you work for far more than you value her used up pussy, pussy that some other mf is already hittin, that you likely won't even get to fuck with anyway.
 
DeSiRe said:
lets say u just met a woman recently...why do some of yall get upset/offended when a woman tells you she isn't comfotable having u come over yet

I never understood this...its not like u cant come over...just not right now

:confused:
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If a dude is pressing that hard, you might need to re-evaluate any thoughts on moving forward.
It really doesn't matter if money was spent. You definitely do not want to invest any emotion into a man that thinks sex is just another financial transaction.
 
POSTERBOY said:
Question... is he the guy that got ROASTED on twitter a couple days ago for showing up for the date in his Xfinity work truck and then got TIGHT when baby girl ordered a $17.99 entree? :lol:
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that's HIS $17.99 that he worked hard for. If a bitch ain't willing to spread her legs for HIM, then he don't need to be spreading his wallet for her. Treat your wallet with her the same way a bitch treats her pussy with you.
 
DeSiRe said:
lets say u just met a woman recently...why do some of yall get upset/offended when a woman tells you she isn't comfotable having u come over yet

I never understood this...its not like u cant come over...just not right now

:confused:
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so if y'all just met do you go dutch?:lol:


but for real if we just met i probably don't want you at my house
 
A woman needs to understand that most men know you got a maintenance dude smashing it on the low until you come up on a simp to wife or cuff. We know that you aint going months or years without dick even if you're single. So we KNOW somebody getting up in that ass that isn't putting in half the hustle we are to get to know you. So, if you aren't comfortable with my stepping inside your front door, don't be so comfortable eating the food or letting me cop New Edition tickets. Consider your home/pussy my wallet and make the comfort levels equal. I value my money, job, effort and self just as much as you, so don't let me extend, exert or spend when you are on the fence. Wait to go out with me when you're sure.
 
bgbtylvr said:
A woman needs to understand that most men know you got a maintenance dude smashing it on the low until you come up on a simp to wife or cuff. We know that you aint going months or years without dick even if you're single. So we KNOW somebody getting up in that ass that isn't putting in half the hustle we are to get to know you. So, if you aren't comfortable with my stepping inside your front door, don't be so comfortable eating the food or letting me cop New Edition tickets. Consider your home/pussy my wallet and make the comfort levels equal. I value my money, job, effort and self just as much as you, so don't let me extend, exert or spend when you are on the fence. Wait to go out with me when you're sure.
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she has what you want playa, not the other way.
 
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