Love on your sons

[nawlinsn931]

Yall know I been dealing with a lot of mental issues as well as my oldest son. He’s in a facility now getting the help he needs. Long story short it was just revealed to me that some things have taken place And his mother has kept from me and told him and our other children not to tell me
All I’m gone say is be there for them and listen
Once I told my son I wouldn’t look at him any different and I’m here for him he finally checked himself in

 

[Lexx Diamond]

Family is everything.

 

[Hey Julian!]

Yeah, that’s something I need to work on is letting my kids know they can tell me anything. Wasn’t like that when I was growing. It was be seen and not heard type shit. Not on no abuse shit, but there was a clear line between what I could and couldn’t talk to my parents about and that probably still holds true even as an adult. Talking to my sisters there a lot of family trauma that I just don’t know about that she went through. It’s hard to not be a product of how you were raised but you gotta try when you know better.

 

[keone]

Good

 

[PsiBorg]

Bruhs, tell your children that you love them everyday.

I lost my eldest son in 2020. I know for a fact that he knew he was loved. That's one thing that never enters my mind.

 

[dtownsfinest]

This is truth.

I grew up never getting a hug or a kiss from my parents. I didn’t even know I was suppose to until a female i dated asked me…when I told her that she broke down crying. I didn’t even understand the ramifications of that.

But long story short…..what I didn’t get I give my kids. Your little girls need that to so they can know what the standard is. Especially from a man. Break them generational curses fellas. We don’t have to be our parents.

 

[jack walsh13]

This is truth.

I grew up never getting a hug or a kiss from my parents. I didn’t even know I was suppose to until a female i dated asked me…when I told her that she broke down crying. I didn’t even understand the ramifications of that.

But long story short…..what I didn’t get I give my kids. Your little girls need that to so they can know what the standard is. Especially from a man. Break them generational curses fellas. We don’t have to be our parents.

Some of the relalist shit you ever wrote D.

 

[nawlinsn931]

Question,
Do yall still kiss your sons on the forehead?
I know I do. Hug on em like crazy too and they 19 16 and 15

 

[dtownsfinest]

Question,
Do yall still kiss your sons on the forehead?
I know I do. Hug on em like crazy too and they 19 16 and 15

You got big kids lol…mine still young i for sure do. And gonna do it until they stop wanting them. From someone who never got them that shit is important. That too cool for hugs and tough guy shit damaging.

 

[EchoCrash]

Question,
Do yall still kiss your sons on the forehead?
I know I do. Hug on em like crazy too and they 19 16 and 15

I don’t kiss my 15 YO, but I tell him every day that I love him and I try to check in with him daily. Though I don’t, I see no issue with it.

 

[BlackGoku]

This is truth.

I grew up never getting a hug or a kiss from my parents. I didn’t even know I was suppose to until a female i dated asked me…when I told her that she broke down crying. I didn’t even understand the ramifications of that.

But long story short…..what I didn’t get I give my kids. Your little girls need that to so they can know what the standard is. Especially from a man. Break them generational curses fellas. We don’t have to be our parents.

I never understood why it was so easy for me to tell my son that I love him but I couldn't tell my father this unless it was a special occasion. I tell my son I love him all the time, but I just started like in the last 3 weeks telling my father that. I can't remember what we were talking about but he said it and now I say it every time we get off the phone or in person, even if he doesn't say it. Growing up we never said it to each other every day, but I knew that my parents loved me. We hug more and stuff, but we just never verbalized in that way and it's not like my pops is rigid or anything, we just never said it.

 

[dtownsfinest]

I never understood why it was so easy for me to tell my son that I love him but I couldn't tell my father this unless it was a special occasion. I tell my son I love him all the time, but I just started like in the last 3 weeks telling my father that. I can't remember what we were talking about but he said it and now I say it every time we get off the phone or in person, even if he doesn't say it. Growing up we never said it to each other every day, but I knew that my parents loved me. We hug more and stuff, but we just never verbalized in that way and it's not like my pops is rigid or anything, we just never said it.

I feel that. That’s my mom. She ain’t like rough or like you said rigid. She just never displayed affection to me that I found out women do do. Pops same way. But as an adult I see why. My grandparents was the same way:

 

[TIMEISMONEY]

This is truth.

I grew up never getting a hug or a kiss from my parents. I didn’t even know I was suppose to until a female i dated asked me…when I told her that she broke down crying. I didn’t even understand the ramifications of that.

But long story short…..what I didn’t get I give my kids. Your little girls need that to so they can know what the standard is. Especially from a man. Break them generational curses fellas. We don’t have to be our parents.

I think most of us grew up like this, me included.

 

[mk23666]

Reading through this thread makes me think, If we can make it through this present moment in time ... maybe there IS hope for a better future.

 

[dtownsfinest]

I think most of us grew up like this, me included.

Man I honestly didn’t know. Because I’ve never had these talks with dudes it’s always females. They seemed to get it which I guess because you feel as little girls they needed it. With boys you focus on the other toughness…

 

[g0nbad real bad]

No kissing but I do hug him a lot and tell him I love him and dap him up a lot.

 

[nawlinsn931]

No kissing but I do hug him a lot and tell him I love him and dap him up a lot.

I get it
Me and my sons each have our own handshakes

 

[nawlinsn931]

It’s up to us to break these generational curses
I love on my sons as much as I can

 

[BlackGoku]

No kissing but I do hug him a lot and tell him I love him and dap him up a lot.

I know it's cliched, but its kind of an insult when someone says "did you not get hugged as a child?" but it's true. This is why you got these incels running around here hating on women. They weren't shown love in the proper way and then they become allergic to physical touch.

 

[godofwine]

I know it's cliched, but its kind of an insult when someone says "did you not get hugged as a child?" but it's true. This is why you got these incels running around here hating on women. They weren't shown love in the proper way and then they become allergic to physical touch.

It's crazy, I didn't get a lot of them. I haven't had the luxury or pleasure of having kids of my own, but if I did I would love on my kids the way I should have been loved on

 

[RoadRage]

Family is everything.

Yeah, if you're lucky.

 

[Lexx Diamond]

Yeah, if you're lucky.

Life is work. Fuck luck. Be kind and loving to your family and everyone else.

 

[Lexx Diamond]

Tonight I taught my 14 year old son how to tie a tie. It was a magnificent experience for me. I learned how to tie a tie from Dr. H W Brindle, while attending JHS 142 in the 80s. Rest in peace to the late great Dr H W Brindle.

 

[YoBitchChoseMe]

 

[RoadRage]

Life is work. Fuck luck. Be kind and loving to your family and everyone else.

I get what you are saying, but some of us were raised without family support. I worked in group homes and saw some really sad stories, plus after my mom died, my siblings and I were basically on our own, I basically grew up unsupervised since 16.
So from my perspective if you have family that's there for you considered it a blessing because not having it ain't it.

 

[nawlinsn931]

I’m excited as hell, tmw night me and my middle son (my profile pic) get to play together semi pro basketball (we lied about his age lol)

I already told him because I pay child support I’m not passing him the ball

 

[nawlinsn931]

Well, we got to play semi pro basketball in Nashville together
We only got to play a half because he got elbowed in the face and needed stitches
I’m proud of my son though, at 15 he held his own against grown men
He was upset and crying and wanted to finish playing
I said “son they will be more games it’s ok”
He said “yeah but how much longer are you able to play and how often does anyone get to play on the same court as their father”
So now we both crying

 

[yasky777]

Question,
Do yall still kiss your sons on the forehead?
I know I do. Hug on em like crazy too and they 19 16 and 15

Mine are 22 and 14 and hug and kiss them on their foreheads everytime I can. They know their father breaks bricks for them and no matter what have their backs.

 

[yasky777]

Tonight I taught my 14 year old son how to tie a tie. It was a magnificent experience for me. I learned how to tie a tie from Dr. H W Brindle, while attending JHS 142 in the 80s. Rest in peace to the late great Dr H W Brindle.

Was on vacation and taught my 14 year old over the phone via FaceTime , he’s so hard on himself to get it right. He was clean as shit for his 8th grade dance. He mastered it about a week later. Size 13 shoe 6ft and I’m already hitting him with custom suits, it’s cheaper than off the rack after alterations and he gets to design fine details.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

Well, we got to play semi pro basketball in Nashville together
We only got to play a half because he got elbowed in the face and needed stitches
I’m proud of my son though, at 15 he held his own against grown men
He was upset and crying and wanted to finish playing
I said “son they will be more games it’s ok”
He said “yeah but how much longer are you able to play and how often does anyone get to play on the same court as their father”
So now we both crying

Your son has a great mindset. It’s refreshing to hear he was frustrated about the experience being cut short, as he wanted more time out there on court hoopin’ with you. That’s a mature take on his part.

Gonna see my pops today and tomorrow. 50th bday dinner for cousin tonight, and dinner and watching shows with pops tomorrow.

 

[godofwine]

This is truth.

I grew up never getting a hug or a kiss from my parents. I didn’t even know I was suppose to until a female i dated asked me…when I told her that she broke down crying. I didn’t even understand the ramifications of that.

But long story short…..what I didn’t get I give my kids. Your little girls need that to so they can know what the standard is. Especially from a man. Break them generational curses fellas. We don’t have to be our parents.

I feel you. I had to beg for hugs. Like ask for it, and it still holds true.

The last time I saw my mother, and remind you she still is living, it was at my cousin's wedding. We went to his house afterward and before she left she hugged everybody, everybody. Everybody except me.

Now I'm standing less than 15 ft away and she's putting on her coat. I saw her see me when she put on her coat and she put on her coat and was about to walk out the door.

I went up to her, and I hugged her. But I didn't hug her like a son hugs his mother, I hugged her like Michael hugged Fredo. I'm done.

I'm past the Will Smith, "Why don't she love me man?" But I feel that. I do. Now I had some of my father's demons that I had to deal with, but I wasn't a horrible person, I am not a horrible person.

My mother has been at my house Just one time since I got divorced. I had a roommate for 6 years after I got divorced, and after he moved out my mother has been to his house like a dozen times.

I've already decided, I'm going to go to her funeral whenever that is. I'm going to sit in a second to last row, like a guest. I ain't paying for shit. I'm not paying for a damn thing. I ain't sitting in the limo. None of that. I'm done

I probably should talk to her, but I don't know if I want to know the answer and I don't know if she'll be honest. I like to know why she doesn't like me. Why she doesn't call me. She asks my cousin how I'm doing, like my number don't work.

When her final brother passed, it was on my birthday in 2020. My brother called me and said that Sylvester was probably going to die today. I said, say less. I'm on my way. He told me I probably shouldn't come cuz Mom was there.

Fast forward to the next week, I go to his funeral (He had already been cremated), They had a celebration of life and my mother had some friends of hers from work come and she was introducing me all smiles, fake smiles, her usual, "This is my oldest boy" "This is my oldest boy"

Wild shit we had to deal with

 

[Gods_Debris]

I feel you. I had to beg for hugs. Like ask for it, and it still holds true.

The last time I saw my mother, and remind you she still is living, it was at my cousin's wedding. We went to his house afterward and before she left she hugged everybody, everybody. Everybody except me.

Now I'm standing less than 15 ft away and she's putting on her coat. I saw her see me when she put on her coat and she put on her coat and was about to walk out the door.

I went up to her, and I hugged her. But I didn't hug her like a son hugs his mother, I hugged her like Michael hugged Fredo. I'm done.

I'm past the Will Smith, "Why don't she love me man?" But I feel that. I do. Now I had some of my father's demons that I had to deal with, but I wasn't a horrible person, I am not a horrible person.

My mother has been at my house Just one time since I got divorced. I had a roommate for 6 years after I got divorced, and after he moved out my mother has been to his house like a dozen times.

I've already decided, I'm going to go to her funeral whenever that is. I'm going to sit in a second to last row, like a guest. I ain't paying for shit. I'm not paying for a damn thing. I ain't sitting in the limo. None of that. I'm done

I probably should talk to her, but I don't know if I want to know the answer and I don't know if she'll be honest. I like to know why she doesn't like me. Why she doesn't call me. She asks my cousin how I'm doing, like my number don't work.

When her final brother passed, it was on my birthday in 2020. My brother called me and said that Sylvester was probably going to die today. I said, say less. I'm on my way. He told me I probably shouldn't come cuz Mom was there.

Fast forward to the next week, I go to his funeral (He had already been cremated), They had a celebration of life and my mother had some friends of hers from work come and she was introducing me all smiles, fake smiles, her usual, "This is my oldest boy" "This is my oldest boy"

Wild shit we had to deal with

There is a lot to hate about this world, more and more everyday now it seems but I hope you have or will be afforded the stillness and lighted relief of peace unburdened by the wickedness and cruelty you have endured.

 

[dtownsfinest]

I feel you. I had to beg for hugs. Like ask for it, and it still holds true.

The last time I saw my mother, and remind you she still is living, it was at my cousin's wedding. We went to his house afterward and before she left she hugged everybody, everybody. Everybody except me.

Now I'm standing less than 15 ft away and she's putting on her coat. I saw her see me when she put on her coat and she put on her coat and was about to walk out the door.

I went up to her, and I hugged her. But I didn't hug her like a son hugs his mother, I hugged her like Michael hugged Fredo. I'm done.

I'm past the Will Smith, "Why don't she love me man?" But I feel that. I do. Now I had some of my father's demons that I had to deal with, but I wasn't a horrible person, I am not a horrible person.

My mother has been at my house Just one time since I got divorced. I had a roommate for 6 years after I got divorced, and after he moved out my mother has been to his house like a dozen times.

I've already decided, I'm going to go to her funeral whenever that is. I'm going to sit in a second to last row, like a guest. I ain't paying for shit. I'm not paying for a damn thing. I ain't sitting in the limo. None of that. I'm done

I probably should talk to her, but I don't know if I want to know the answer and I don't know if she'll be honest. I like to know why she doesn't like me. Why she doesn't call me. She asks my cousin how I'm doing, like my number don't work.

When her final brother passed, it was on my birthday in 2020. My brother called me and said that Sylvester was probably going to die today. I said, say less. I'm on my way. He told me I probably shouldn't come cuz Mom was there.

Fast forward to the next week, I go to his funeral (He had already been cremated), They had a celebration of life and my mother had some friends of hers from work come and she was introducing me all smiles, fake smiles, her usual, "This is my oldest boy" "This is my oldest boy"

Wild shit we had to deal with

Whewww…..thanks for sharing man. Man I feel this on so many levels…..that fake shit to me as an adult is still so damaging smh….to this day.

 

[Helico-pterFunk]

There is a lot to hate about this world, more and more everyday now it seems but I hope you have or will be afforded the stillness and lighted relief of peace unburdened by the wickedness and cruelty you have endured.

Well said, GD.

 

[nawlinsn931]

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