Ladies, how often do you get holla'd at?

[PrettyToney]

How often do men holla at/approach you?

How often do you give out your number?

What places do you typically get holla'd at most often (other than the club/bar)?

In what ways (verbally and nonverbally) do you personally reject a dude that hollas if you're not feelin him?

 

[Digital Angel]

How often do men holla at/approach you?
Whenever I have to go somewhere outside the house (never anyone cute though)

How often do you give out your number?
It's been years

What places do you typically get holla'd at most often (other than the club/bar)?
the gym, grocery store, gas station, court house, on the street, at a light, library, post office, Worst place was about 10 years ago I filled out an app for a nursing position at an STD clinic this guy approached me with a bag of prescriptions for his diseases. And without shame tried to holla. I've had bums ask me for change then try to ask for my numeber SMH.

In what ways (verbally and nonverbally) do you personally reject a dude that hollas if you're not feelin him?
I usually say I have a boyfriend and he is kinda crazy.

 

[militantmidget]

How often do men holla at/approach you?
Whenever I have to go somewhere outside the house (never anyone cute though)

How often do you give out your number?
It's been years

What places do you typically get holla'd at most often (other than the club/bar)?
the gym, grocery store, gas station, court house, on the street, at a light, library, post office, Worst place was about 10 years ago I filled out an app for a nursing position at an STD clinic this guy approached me with a bag of prescriptions for his diseases. And without shame tried to holla. I've had bums ask me for change then try to ask for my numeber SMH.

In what ways (verbally and nonverbally) do you personally reject a dude that hollas if you're not feelin him?
I usually say I have a boyfriend and he is kinda crazy.

I don't mean to derail the thread OP, but DA you are really looking good in that pic girl. How much weight have you lost?


And oh yeah women get hollered at everyday by I'd say at least 5 to 6 dudes depending on how she look when she steps outside the house. I know I holla at about 2-3 chicks a week just off of GP. Sometimes it makes for good conversation. Sometimes I just want to keep my approaching skills sharp. Never kno when I might need it.

 

[phatkitty]

How often do men holla at/approach you?

How often do you give out your number?

What places do you typically get holla'd at most often (other than the club/bar)?

In what ways (verbally and nonverbally) do you personally reject a dude that hollas if you're not feelin him?

Holla, almost daily/approach is less because I'm usually on some fast walking, don't make eye contact I ain't got time for bs flow.

Don't give out my #since I've been with my guy a little over 2 years

the funniest thing is that dudes will holler when I feel I'm looking like a bum. Sweats, hat low,sneakers doing laundry and dude is like yo ma,what up ma can I talk to you?

Depending on the approach I may ignore all together, if complimented I will say thank you maybe chit chat and then let him know I am involved

 

[shafty]

Holla, almost daily/approach is less because I'm usually on some fast walking, don't make eye contact I ain't got time for bs flow.

Don't give out my #since I've been with my guy a little over 2 years

the funniest thing is that dudes will holler when I feel I'm looking like a bum. Sweats, hat low,sneakers doing laundry and dude is like yo ma,what up ma can I talk to you?

Depending on the approach I may ignore all together, if complimented I will say thank you maybe chit chat and then let him know I am involved

Cool. At what point on ur relationship did you stop giving out ur number??

 

[Mack10]

Holla, almost daily/approach is less because I'm usually on some fast walking, don't make eye contact I ain't got time for bs flow.

Don't give out my #since I've been with my guy a little over 2 years

the funniest thing is that dudes will holler when I feel I'm looking like a bum. Sweats, hat low,sneakers doing laundry and dude is like yo ma,what up ma can I talk to you?

Depending on the approach I may ignore all together, if complimented I will say thank you maybe chit chat and then let him know I am involved

That's because some men like women from around the way who don't look like they're high maintenance. It shows you in your natural state not all made up which makes us feel more comfortable about approaching you.

 

[PrettyToney]

Great responses so far...one more question:

Do you actually LIKE gettin holla'd at, even when you're not feelin the dude?

 

[Digital Angel]

Great responses so far...one more question:

Do you actually LIKE gettin holla'd at, even when you're not feelin the dude?

if he is polite about it; yes

 

[LoneStar29]

Everyday ... this is not a difficult task for ANY woman regardless of what she looks like IMO

I dont give out my number ... I usually tell guys I already have a man cuz I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now especially not bm

Funny cuz I dont get apporached at clubs or bars usually ... I usually get approached just doing every day other things like going to work, grocery store stuff like that

I'm ALWAYS nice to the guys who try to pick me up ... I just thank them for the compliment and smile then tell them I have a man and keep it movin

I dont like getting hollered at by dudes I dont like cuz its just a waste of both of our times since I already know I aint feelin him and they can be extra annoying ... but I wont be rude to him

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Most women get approached by men everyday. In some kind of way. She will get a comment. Or she'll get direct advances. I have never ever given out my number. I don't think it's safe. There are no typical places to be approached. Just being out and about a woman is prone to this.

I say no thanks. And quickly turn and leave. When asked anything.

 

[Fuzzy_McNut]

So how many times a day....as in a number range

 

[phatkitty]

Cool. At what point on ur relationship did you stop giving out ur number??

Well I didn't give out my number often to beging with because I would much prefer to meet someone through mutual friends or an organization rather than just a random person on the street. When I hooked up with my guy I wasn't seeing anyone else prior to that not even casually so once we connected and things seemed to be going well I didn't really entertain anyone else (im not much of a juggler lol)

Great responses so far...one more question:

Do you actually LIKE gettin holla'd at, even when you're not feelin the dude?

I do if the guy is polite or funny.

 

[Mack10]

Everyday ... this is not a difficult task for ANY woman regardless of what she looks like IMO

I dont give out my number ... I usually tell guys I already have a man cuz I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now especially not bm

Funny cuz I dont get apporached at clubs or bars usually ... I usually get approached just doing every day other things like going to work, grocery store stuff like that

I'm ALWAYS nice to the guys who try to pick me up ... I just thank them for the compliment and smile then tell them I have a man and keep it movin

I dont like getting hollered at by dudes I dont like cuz its just a waste of both of our times since I already know I aint feelin him and they can be extra annoying ... but I wont be rude to him

Good play! You'll save yourself a lot of drama going about it this way.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

2 - 4 times. Depending. I also think it's according to region as well. In Florida i didn't get nearly as many advances as i do where i'm at now.

 

[Dyasha_Devine]

How often do men holla at/approach you?

How often do you give out your number?

What places do you typically get holla'd at most often (other than the club/bar)?

In what ways (verbally and nonverbally) do you personally reject a dude that hollas if you're not feelin him?

I'm approached every time I go out the house. I never give my number out, but back in the day when i was single I would give out a friends number just for laughs

I try to move fast and avoid eye contact to avoid the situation...but sometimes that doesn't work, so I kindly say I'm engaged and no thank you. But even then, some guys think thats a hint to continue a conversation

 

[PC Freak]

I'm approached every time I go out the house. I never give my number out, but back in the day when i was single I would give out a friends number just for laughs

I try to move fast and avoid eye contact to avoid the situation...but sometimes that doesn't work, so I kindly say I'm engaged and no thank you. But even then, some guys think thats a hint to continue a conversation

Just by you speaking to them even if it's negative they still think they have hope in convincing you otherwise.

 

[PrettyToney]

Everyday ... this is not a difficult task for ANY woman regardless of what she looks like IMO

I dont give out my number ... I usually tell guys I already have a man cuz I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now especially not bm

Funny cuz I dont get apporached at clubs or bars usually ... I usually get approached just doing every day other things like going to work, grocery store stuff like that

I'm ALWAYS nice to the guys who try to pick me up ... I just thank them for the compliment and smile then tell them I have a man and keep it movin

I dont like getting hollered at by dudes I dont like cuz its just a waste of both of our times since I already know I aint feelin him and they can be extra annoying ... but I wont be rude to him

 

[Rick Ronson]

Get chosen...any other way is too much work

 

[Rossini]

Everyday ... this is not a difficult task for ANY woman regardless of what she looks like IMO

I dont give out my number ... I usually tell guys I already have a man cuz I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now especially not bm

Funny cuz I dont get apporached at clubs or bars usually ... I usually get approached just doing every day other things like going to work, grocery store stuff like that

I'm ALWAYS nice to the guys who try to pick me up ... I just thank them for the compliment and smile then tell them I have a man and keep it movin

I dont like getting hollered at by dudes I dont like cuz its just a waste of both of our times since I already know I aint feelin him and they can be extra annoying ... but I wont be rude to him

stop being picky, you probably done missed out on a good nigga, then you wanna come on here complainin about niggas.

 

[Flawless]

of you have a girl with a facebook or myspace just peep her friend requests

 

[militantmidget]

I'm approached every time I go out the house. I never give my number out, but back in the day when i was single I would give out a friends number just for laughs

I try to move fast and avoid eye contact to avoid the situation...but sometimes that doesn't work, so I kindly say I'm engaged and no thank you. But even then, some guys think thats a hint to continue a conversation

Is this only with men you're not interested in? What if you actually like the guy who approaches you? Or is that such a rare occurrence that you rarely even bother?

And with this being said, when do you meet men that you are interested in?

 

[militantmidget]

Everyday ... this is not a difficult task for ANY woman regardless of what she looks like IMO

I dont give out my number ... I usually tell guys I already have a man cuz I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now especially not bm

Funny cuz I dont get apporached at clubs or bars usually ... I usually get approached just doing every day other things like going to work, grocery store stuff like that

I'm ALWAYS nice to the guys who try to pick me up ... I just thank them for the compliment and smile then tell them I have a man and keep it movin

I dont like getting hollered at by dudes I dont like cuz its just a waste of both of our times since I already know I aint feelin him and they can be extra annoying ... but I wont be rude to him

Soooooooooo how do you think you're going to meet a guy if you always turning them down? Maybe I'm missing something.

 

[melonpecan]

Depends on where I am when I'm out.


Usually at least one but a lot of dudes will walk up to me and tell me to smile so maybe my usual pissed off look deters people.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Soooooooooo how do you think you're going to meet a guy if you always turning them down? Maybe I'm missing something.

You are.

Everyday ... this is not a difficult task for ANY woman regardless of what she looks like IMO

I dont give out my number ... I usually tell guys I already have a man cuz I'm not interested in meeting anyone right now especially not bm

Funny cuz I dont get apporached at clubs or bars usually ... I usually get approached just doing every day other things like going to work, grocery store stuff like that

I'm ALWAYS nice to the guys who try to pick me up ... I just thank them for the compliment and smile then tell them I have a man and keep it movin

I dont like getting hollered at by dudes I dont like cuz its just a waste of both of our times since I already know I aint feelin him and they can be extra annoying ... but I wont be rude to him

 

[LoneStar29]

You are.

LOL yeah that shit went right over his head

I have no interest in dating right now ... I'm working on building myself back up first

but when I'm done I still wont be dating black men ... they are a constant and consistent disappointed and I am over them ... I have zero faith in them and dont want to waste my time on them cuz they are users and NEVER bring anything but pain to my life

 

[largebillsonlyplease]

lmao

 

[LoneStar29]

Laugh all you want at me ... I expect nothing less AND I dont give a fuck

Its no loss to bm if I dont fuck with ya'll...it aint like there are any out here who want more than pussy or money from me anyways so its no biggie

 

[militantmidget]

Laugh all you want at me ... I expect nothing less AND I dont give a fuck

Its no loss to bm if I dont fuck with ya'll...it aint like there are any out here who want more than pussy or money from me anyways so its no biggie

I see what you wrote, but then you talk about bm not wanting bw yet you turn down all bm that approach you. You're like self prophesied against bm. You say they don't want you which you don't like, yet when they approach, you turn them all down. I can understand you taking a break, but what if you're missing out on some quality guys.

And I'm not bashing you or anything. I would ask the same thing to bm who say sistas are all stuck up, loud, and gold diggers, but will not approach an elegant looking sista to save his life. But will swear lil ms. Suzy snow white is just perfect. It's like we keep missing out on one another. Sometimes I wish black american men and women could just love each other more instead of all the back and forth shit.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Sometimes I wish black american men and women could just love each other more instead of all the back and forth shit.

How old are you?

 

[militantmidget]

How old are you?

26. Why?

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

26. Why?

Old jaded ladies like me finds stuff like that cute. The sitting and wishing how things were.

 

[militantmidget]

Old jaded ladies like me finds stuff like that cute. The sitting and wishing how things were.

LOL...we can't build a nation if the male and female of the species are against one another. The children learn from that and the cycle of self hate continues. I need to just move to Africa and say to hell with it all here.

 

[melonpecan]

LOL...we can't build a nation if the male and female of the species are against one another. The children learn from that and the cycle of self hate continues. I need to just move to Africa and say to hell with it all here.

Something...about this...

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

LOL...we can't build a nation if the male and female of the species are against one another. The children learn from that and the cycle of self hate continues. I need to just move to Africa and say to hell with it all here.

That may be the answer. American black men are, in the words of my beloved; "not what that izzzz". The 2 just don't seem to be right for each other.

 

[LoneStar29]

I see what you wrote, but then you talk about bm not wanting bw yet you turn down all bm that approach you. You're like self prophesied against bm. You say they don't want you which you don't like, yet when they approach, you turn them all down. I can understand you taking a break, but what if you're missing out on some quality guys.

And I'm not bashing you or anything. I would ask the same thing to bm who say sistas are all stuck up, loud, and gold diggers, but will not approach an elegant looking sista to save his life. But will swear lil ms. Suzy snow white is just perfect. It's like we keep missing out on one another. Sometimes I wish black american men and women could just love each other more instead of all the back and forth shit.

Why should I give them my number so they can lie and front and use me for sex and or money

Fuck bm I'd rather entrust my heart and vagina to a pack of fuckin wolves... at least the wolves will be more gentle when they rip me apart