How women on this board are single?

[Mr.Bizkits]

I actually know who I want, but it's not going to happen.

Who specifically do you want? Why don't you think you can meet him?



how do you know it's not me?

 

[jucurious]

A disclaimer: Being single is a very good thing. It has given me time to get a lot of things accomplished. Being in a relationship or having a man is not the end-all, be-all goal of life, at least not for me. I do not feel that I'm missing out on anything. I'm content right now.

With that said, it's easy to date. I could be with one or multiple males, but I choose not to because it's a waste of time. I actually know who I want, but it's not going to happen. I don't feel like devoting energy/effort/time into someone who is just going to be a time filler until I get over not having who I want. Therefore, I have chosen to be single. Life goes on.

glad ur in a good place. being content is good. n true that on the time filler thing lol

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

glad ur in a good place. being content is good. n true that on the time filler thing lol

I wonder if she meant short-term good content??? Seemed like it to me???

 

[LeroyDibiase]

LMFAO @ Slimm Calhoun.
Was it that obvious I was talking about you LD? Damn, I tried to hold back. Maybe I need to be in the confessions thread.

PC I know just how to melt that cold heart of yours.

 

[jucurious]

I wonder if she meant short-term good content??? Seemed like it to me???

there is nothing to wonder about...she said "right now".

is there a problem w/ short term contentness?

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

there is nothing to wonder about...she said "right now".

is there a problem w/ short term contentness?

yeah...because if it's short term that means feeling good comes to an end.

I wonder what would it take for her to feel good long term? And I don't think marriage is the way to go...

 

[PrincessC]

Who specifically do you want? Why don't you think you can meet him? how do you know it's not me?

I know him already. We're physically in two different places.

I wonder if she meant short-term good content??? Seemed like it to me???

I live in the present. And right now, I am content. Tomorrow might be different. I'll cross that bridge if/when I get there.

PC I know just how to melt that cold heart of yours.

 

[jucurious]

yeah...because if it's short term that means feeling good comes to an end.

I wonder what would it take for her to feel good long term? And I don't think marriage is the way to go...

ummmm there are things in life that u will content w/ long term and short term

its ok if the feeling ends lol...its not the end of the world

we are human w/ high and lows

to be in a constant state of euphoria would be out of touch w/ reality

and who said she was thinking of marriage as a solution to long term contentness?

there u go again pushing ur agenda

let ppl be

 

[PrincessC]

ummmm there are things in life that u will content w/ long term and short term

its ok if the feeling ends lol...its not the end of the world

we are human w/ high and lows

to be in a constant state of euphoria would be out of touch w/ reality

and who said she was thinking of marriage as a solution to long term contentness?

there u go again pushing ur agenda

let ppl be

Once again, Ju and I are <<<<< here >>>>>.

Like I said in my first post, (for me) being in a relationship/having a man is not my ultimate goal in life, so obviously, there are more things that make me content.

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

I know him already. We're physically in two different places.

What is it about your guy that separates him from literally 3 billion guys to make him "special" and "the one"?

I can dig that

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

Once again, Ju and I are <<<<< here >>>>>.

Like I said in my first post, (for me) being in a relationship/having a man is not my ultimate goal in life, so obviously, there are more things that make me content.

So if it's not having a man that's your ultimate goal in life, exactly what is?



excuse myself if I'm becoming to personal.... my apologies

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

ummmm there are things in life that u will content w/ long term and short term

its ok if the feeling ends lol...its not the end of the world

we are human w/ high and lows

to be in a constant state of euphoria would be out of touch w/ reality

and who said she was thinking of marriage as a solution to long term contentness?

there u go again pushing ur agenda

let ppl be

I said marriage as for me personally. Not for anyone else. my agenda???


But anyway, I believe that all people are in a pursuit of happiness. And being in a constant state of euphoria is insane but it's literally the epitome/center of happiness.

I mean let me ask you... who's more important...

society or you?

 

[PrincessC]

What is it about your guy that separates him from literally 3 billion guys to make him "special"?

mental/emotional/intellectual connection that is unparalleled. he makes me laugh until my stomach hurts. he calls me on my bullshit and makes me want to be a better woman. that's huge.

So if it's not having a man that's your ultimate goal in life, exactly what is?

You ask a lot of questions. Answer this. Having a woman in your life is your ultimate goal?

 

[jucurious]

I said marriage as for me personally. Not for anyone else. And what the fuck is my agenda???


But anyway, I believe that all people are in a pursuit of happiness. And being in a constant state of euphoria is insane but it's literally the epitome/center of happiness.

I mean let me ask you... who's more important...

society or you?

i'm failing to see the relevance of that question...care to explain?

 

[jucurious]

mental/emotional/intellectual connection that is unparalleled. he makes me laugh until my stomach hurts. he calls me on my bullshit and makes me want to be a better woman. that's huge.



You ask a lot of questions. Answer this. Having a woman in your life is your ultimate goal?

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

that's the type of connection i look forward to one day. good stuff

and bwahahaha @ questioning the questioner.

i think he is giving me a run for my name....he is WAY more curious than i am

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

mental/emotional/intellectual connection that is unparalleled. he makes me laugh until my stomach hurts. he calls me on my bullshit and makes me want to be a better woman. that's huge.

Deep. But how many other guys do you think can be that? Do you think he's the only guy in the universe that can do that? Do you think there are other guys that can suit your needs better? How would you know? If you don't, why haven't you looked elsewhere if it's considered in your own words "huge"?


You ask a lot of questions. Answer this. Having a woman in your life is your ultimate goal?

Which explains my avatar... asking alot of questions allows me to get alot of answers. Getting alot of answers allows me to have know-how. Having alot of know-how in the end allows me to have alot of understanding

And No having a woman for me isn't my ultimate goal in life... I'm the shit w/ or w/o a woman. My ultimate goal in life is to always stand by my philosophy, codes, and word to maintain my happiness.

I'm kinda single right now. But it's hard finding a woman that stands out from society, that's not a robot. I'm a worldly kind of guy looking for a world kind of woman. Simple.

Alot of women are just trying blend in stead of blending out... that's what makes a woman special to me.

 

[owl]

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

that's the type of connection i look forward to one day. good stuff

and bwahahaha @ questioning the questioner.

i think he is giving me a run for my name....he is WAY more curious than i am

Insightful...

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

i'm failing to see the relevance of that question...care to explain?

Sure

You said in the earlier post that when you made your deep statement that when one reaches the end of their pursuit of happiness, they enter a state of euphoria which causes them to be out of touch with reality making them insane.

What I meant was that everything people do comes down to whether they are happy or not. Changing Relationships,Changing Careers, wanting more money to buy more things, etc, etc, etc.... which brings you more pleasure.

Now what I was asking was who's pleasure matter's more.... Your pleasure of euphoric happiness or society's pleasure of you blending in to it's own, in the end, bringing you displeasure?


If you don't blend in to society.... what exactly is it that you do which doesn't commend conformity? Why don't you take it a step further?

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Now what kind of man are you looking for now that was different from ex? And where are you looking?

I'm not really looking for anything, but if something happens, it happens.... and its not so much about being different from my ex..I won't say he is a horrible person, he's a nice, smart, good-mannered man and the connection we had was wonderful and is what still keeps us friends... it was other things-like trust that we lacked- and ultimately led us to not being together. If I met someone whom I could trust and we had a connection I think I would be with him...

 

[CT's Finest]

Yo, shit song was the shit!!!

PC I know just how to melt that cold heart of yours.

@ that picture PC...














*Still writing down info on the single ladies. He also takes a minute to jam to...*

 

[onyxfemme]

If nothing else this I can relate to...And to top it off daddy is fine for no reason....I never had anyone call me on my shit and make me actually care that I had done something....
Yeah..I love him
Sorry ya'll carry on...I forgot this is for the single ladies.
Just agreeing w/ a point made...

mental/emotional/intellectual connection that is unparalleled. he makes me laugh until my stomach hurts. he calls me on my bullshit and makes me want to be a better woman. that's huge.



You ask a lot of questions. Answer this. Having a woman in your life is your ultimate goal?

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

I'm not really looking for anything, but if something happens, it happens.... and its not so much about being different from my ex..I won't say he is a horrible person, he's a nice, smart, good-mannered man and the connection we had was wonderful and is what still keeps us friends... it was other things-like trust that we lacked- and ultimately led us to not being together. If I met someone whom I could trust and we had a connection I think I would be with him...

What is it that a guy has to do in order for you to trust him? Is it hard for you to trust?

I know it is for some people...

 

[owl]

If nothing else this I can relate to...And to top it off daddy is fine for no reason....I never had anyone call me on my shit and make me actually care that I had done something....
Yeah..I love him
Sorry ya'll carry on...I forgot this is for the single ladies.
Just agreeing w/ a point made...

And this is where the slow men die, and quicker ones grow...

Keep doing what you are doing SOL...I'm just being OWL...

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

If nothing else this I can relate to...And to top it off daddy is fine for no reason....I never had anyone call me on my shit and make me actually care that I had done something....
Yeah..I love him
Sorry ya'll carry on...I forgot this is for the single ladies.
Just agreeing w/ a point made...

What was it exactly that your man did that caused you to love him which no other man could do, to make him special?

 

[PrincessC]

Deep. But how many other guys do you think can be that? Do you think he's the only guy in the universe that can do that? Do you think there are other guys that can suit your needs better? How would you know? If you don't, why haven't you looked elsewhere if it's considered in your own words "huge"?

I'm sure there are others...but I don't want anyone else...and no one else would really be like him because I think everyone is unique.
If you have your mind set on someone, everyone else is just an imitation.

 

[onyxfemme]

I'll PM you...When I begin to talk about my ex versus my new love
it seems to bring out the hate & igorance.
I get enough attention as it is...I'll let some of the others shine....Since again this thread is really for the single ladies
I'll be here chilling in the cut on my man's lap....

What was it exactly that your man did that caused you to love him which no other man could do, to make him special?

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

I'm sure there are others...but I don't want anyone else...and no one else would really be like him because I think everyone is unique.
If you have your mind set on someone, everyone else is just an imitation.

ok tight tight... so what is it about him that seperates him from all men to make other men just an imitation....

and why did you let me go if he means that much?

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

I'm not really looking for anything, but if something happens, it happens.... and its not so much about being different from my ex..I won't say he is a horrible person, he's a nice, smart, good-mannered man and the connection we had was wonderful and is what still keeps us friends... it was other things-like trust that we lacked- and ultimately led us to not being together. If I met someone whom I could trust and we had a connection I think I would be with him...

ok

well obviously your opportunity is not just knock on your day and say here I am...

and what specifically does a guy have to do to earn your trust?

he's still the same guy he was when you just met him. Why wait days,weeks,years,etc etc, when he just could have asked you what it takes to earn your trust on the first day. What would you tell him?

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

I'll PM you...When I begin to talk about my ex versus my new love
it seems to bring out the hate & igorance.
I get enough attention as it is...I'll let some of the others shine....Since again this thread is really for the single ladies
I'll be here chilling in the cut on my man's lap....

Your input here is very much appreciated btw... it's good to have alternative information from both sides of the wall ya dig.

How did you meet your special guy, how long, and what took you so long to meet him, and what makes him special in which no other man could truly be before?

Please feel free to pm me... I'm very interested...

 

[DeSiRe]

where have you been looking?

dude are u about to help me find a man or something

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

dude are u about to help me find a man or something

just a question...

 

[JofromthaNO]

Either.

Now, are you happy is the question? And would you rather be with someone else. Because out of 3 billion men in this world, a good portion of them can be your Mr. Right. Now my question to you is.... what would you do if a better MR. Right comes along?

Would stay faithful to yourself... or your mate?

Sorry for the late response, but better late than never...

Yes, I'm quite happy with my mate. There is no one else that I would rather be with. I made a conscious decision to choose him over other suitors that, although good men, did not share the same passion and drive in their own personal and professional lives as I do. It may have been easier to even have relationships with these men for reasons relating to proximity, etc. However, my decision sticks and I am most happy with it.

Loyalty to a friend, and, particularly, to a boyfriend/husband is of utmost importance to me. I feel that, in a relationship, if either partner is feeling drawn to another person/bored/that they have strayed away from the relationship, communication is key in working through that BEFORE you make a heinous mistake (i.e., cheating). However, as the old saying says, "the grass is always greener on the other side." There are many good men I respect, but they just aren't the right good man for me.

 

[followup]

^^^^

 

[Mr.Bizkits]

Sorry for the late response, but better late than never...

Yes, I'm quite happy with my mate. There is no one else that I would rather be with. I made a conscious decision to choose him over other suitors that, although good men, did not share the same passion and drive in their own personal and professional lives as I do. It may have been easier to even have relationships with these men for reasons relating to proximity, etc. However, my decision sticks and I am most happy with it.

Loyalty to a friend, and, particularly, to a boyfriend/husband is of utmost importance to me. I feel that, in a relationship, if either partner is feeling drawn to another person/bored/that they have strayed away from the relationship, communication is key in working through that BEFORE you make a heinous mistake (i.e., cheating). However, as the old saying says, "the grass is always greener on the other side." There are many good men I respect, but they just aren't the right good man for me.

I can dig that.

husband or boyfriend? And are you guys going to live happily ever after?