How old were you when you became a father?

[Darrkman]

Did you feel you were late in the game of raising children? I mean if you could do it all over again would you chose to have at 37 and 41 or you would opt for a younger time of your life? The reason I am asking is because I hope to have two children I just dont know how late that will be. the wife says we have to raise the first one first before discussing a second one

We a lot of my choices were based on my life at the moment.

My wife and I waited until she finished med school before we got married. It's hard to deal with the stress of a family while trying to finish.

Second, back in my early 30s I wouldn't of been mature enough to be a good father.

In a perfect world I would say 31 - 34 is a good age to have kids.

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[SaKem]

Had my son at 16...now iam 32 he's 18...and its great..

Yall are the same age

 

[^SpiderMan^]

ok this may sound like a stupid question so don't laugh. one thing i notice is that when dudes get older that they lose a little bit of their willingness/ability to appear affectionate to children. i saw that with my dad at least. usually if there is a little kid in the house (say a visitor's child), everyone is real gentle/playful/affectionate etc. but sometimes i notice that the older cats sometimes seem even repulsed. now i dont know if that's just a symptom of the whole "everyone gets crankier with age" thing, but it's something ive seen. so to OP, if you find yourself acting that way just know that you will have to go out of your boundaries as far as acting in that way since children demand (and even deserve) it.

anyone else know what im talking about tho? like my dad, we could be in a room full of little kids and whereas the other people are like "awww s/he is cute," my dad is like "get away from me, u booger eating shitty pants, now knowing where ur hands been all day azz nigga!" (ok not in those words but u get my drift)

Damn....thats real shit.I notice that as I've gotten older I've gotten alot more impatient with people.This shows in my attitude with kids as well.I never play that fantasy shit or baby voice shit,but basically treat them kind of like adults emotionally.

 

[Artist Monk]

ok this may sound like a stupid question so don't laugh. one thing i notice is that when dudes get older that they lose a little bit of their willingness/ability to appear affectionate to children. i saw that with my dad at least. usually if there is a little kid in the house (say a visitor's child), everyone is real gentle/playful/affectionate etc. but sometimes i notice that the older cats sometimes seem even repulsed. now i dont know if that's just a symptom of the whole "everyone gets crankier with age" thing, but it's something ive seen. so to OP, if you find yourself acting that way just know that you will have to go out of your boundaries as far as acting in that way since children demand (and even deserve) it.

anyone else know what im talking about tho? like my dad, we could be in a room full of little kids and whereas the other people are like "awww s/he is cute," my dad is like "get away from me, u booger eating shitty pants, now knowing where ur hands been all day azz nigga!" (ok not in those words but u get my drift)

Have to be able to be foolish with and for your kids.

 

[SaKem]

Damn I turn 22 at the end of the month and couldnt even imagine having a kid

There are a lot of losers on BGOL. It's funny how much people talk shit about the black community on here, and most of them had kids in their teens and early 20's and didn't make much of shit of themselves if anything. They are the people they hate.

 

[Darrkman]

Have to be able to be foolish with and for your kids.

Very true. Just yesterday my son and I wiped out an infestation of aliens in my garage. The fact that the aliens were invisible made it a little tough but we killed the alien leader in time for the Heat game.

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[streetdreamer]

31 when I had my first kid. Was careful, girlfriend was on birth control, I just broke up with her... pregnant. Moved in together, worked graveyard, saturdays, took care of the kid all day ignoring sleep while she was gone all day or harrassing me so I couldn't sleep.

I swear, the only hard thing about a baby and toddler is the fact you have to put up with her mom's antics.

 

[^SpiderMan^]

Excellent thread....
Im 35 with no kids yet.I've always been active with kids(coaching and mentoring) and all my life I looked forward to parenthood.A few weeks ago I went to one of my homie's kid's games and wished it was my kid's.That said,I've always been ultra careful with protection.Almost always used protection once got a chick pregnant and we didn't have it.I was always scared of having a kid out of wedlock where my kid wouldn't be getting what I thought he/she would need to be as successful as I would like him/her.Now I am worrying about getting too old.I want to be able to play sports with my kid and semi relate to them.Im currently in a big brother program and have a 10 year old.Im in fairly good shape,but this mfer wears me the fuck out.Playing racquetball,basketball,racing etc.I wonder how well I'll keep up at 45.Ideally I do want to have one child and adopt another as well.

 

[KW13537]

23 with the first, 36 with the last!

 

[The Jamaican]

29 and 32

 

[BlackIce05]

I inherited my daughter at 27 and became a father to my biological son at 30. Both with the same woman, my wife.

 

[carsun1000]

23 with the first, 36 with the last!

how many in between though? (just kidding)

 

[SamSneed]

Very true. Just yesterday my son and I wiped out an infestation of aliens in my garage. The fact that the aliens were invisible made it a little tough but we killed the alien leader in time for the Heat game.

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[carsun1000]

Excellent thread....
Im 35 with no kids yet.I've always been active with kids(coaching and mentoring) and all my life I looked forward to parenthood.A few weeks ago I went to one of my homie's kid's games and wished it was my kid's.That said,I've always been ultra careful with protection.Almost always used protection once got a chick pregnant and we didn't have it.I was always scared of having a kid out of wedlock where my kid wouldn't be getting what I thought he/she would need to be as successful as I would like him/her.Now I am worrying about getting too old.I want to be able to play sports with my kid and semi relate to them.Im currently in a big brother program and have a 10 year old.Im in fairly good shape,but this mfer wears me the fuck out.Playing racquetball,basketball,racing etc.I wonder how well I'll keep up at 45.Ideally I do want to have one child and adopt another as well.

Good read,
It always amazes me that some people are either having kids way too early or don't want to have children at all. The way I see it, children are part our life cycle. While I dont advise anyone to have children if they cant man up 24/7, I dont see a reason why any one with a decent life shouldnt have one. It is all a question of whether you want a child with a girlfriend or wife.

 

[MOBLiveLife]

26 & 29 when he/she comes Dec 2011..

 

[Darrkman]

Hey, it was difficult at first but my son and I had the right tools for the job.

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[^SpiderMan^]

Good read,
It always amazes me that some people are either having kids way too early or don't want to have children at all. The way I see it, children are part our life cycle. While I dont advise anyone to have children if they cant man up 24/7, I dont see a reason why any one with a decent life shouldnt have one. It is all a question of whether you want a child with a girlfriend or wife.

IMO alot of it has to do with selfishness.We are alot more selfish nowadays.Raising a kid is a tremendous sacrifice.You basically make another human being a priority over yourself.Most of the couples that I know that refuse to have kids are very selfish and it shows in their reasons."Its much easier to travel","We have alot more time","we have alot more money","A baby would wreck my body",etc etc. I don't knock them because kids aren't for everyone,but I just feel like my life would be incomplete without raising a child.I look forward to raising another human being to be even better than I am.That starts with choosing the right mother and having the right environment to raise him/her in.

 

[The Untouchable GDFOLKS]

I meant successful. I had two women pregnant at once when I was 21 and I guess God knew I wasnt ready for that or I was drinking too much cause both of them had miscarriages.

 

[daking181]

2 at 30

 

[305]

I lost my only child.

Ever since then ive vowed that when i do have kids again (35 now), and if i have a son that he not wait to be as old as me and have as many as he can. I have yet to come close to the happiness that my child brought me. I would want my son to not make the mistakes i made by waiting.

 

[J.A.]

19 I'm now 24

 

[J.A.]

Me and the mother did it our way. Ignored the people saying y'all should get married and all the other bullshit.... 5 years we engaged and everything is going very well. I wouldnt have it any other way. Son is active in football,basketball, and track . He is happy as hell.. Fuck what you hear about "wedlock" this judgemental ass world . My son never has wanted for anything! What I have he has . I get some shoes he gets some. He drops points in bball I tell him pick out anything he wants and he gets it. I love it. Funny thing is the kid is a natural athlete at 4 running point guard and playing qb. I told him me and his mother would be getting married and he said ughhh I don't want y'all too. Ball of energy man. I wouldn't have it any other way

 

[KA$H]

30 my daughter...want more....need 2 get my son(s) here!

 

[SamSneed]

Hey, it was difficult at first but my son and I had the right tools for the job.

i'm glad my girls like zombie movies like i do, everywhere we go we talk about how we'd get away if an outbreak were to happen.

 

[Chiyo]

There are a lot of losers on BGOL. It's funny how much people talk shit about the black community on here, and most of them had kids in their teens and early 20's and didn't make much of shit of themselves if anything. They are the people they hate.

Adam proved that

 

[Chase Bannon]

Excellent thread....
Im 35 with no kids yet.I've always been active with kids(coaching and mentoring) and all my life I looked forward to parenthood.A few weeks ago I went to one of my homie's kid's games and wished it was my kid's.That said,I've always been ultra careful with protection.Almost always used protection once got a chick pregnant and we didn't have it.I was always scared of having a kid out of wedlock where my kid wouldn't be getting what I thought he/she would need to be as successful as I would like him/her.Now I am worrying about getting too old.I want to be able to play sports with my kid and semi relate to them.Im currently in a big brother program and have a 10 year old.Im in fairly good shape,but this mfer wears me the fuck out.Playing racquetball,basketball,racing etc.I wonder how well I'll keep up at 45.Ideally I do want to have one child and adopt another as well.

WoW brotha. Your story sounds so identical to mine until it's insane. I joined the big brother program. I ended up with a 14 year old. The youngster looks up to me. He has 3 other brothers. So when I take him places it's hard for me to leave his brothers at home. Now I have 4 littles. I coach a boxing class which 2 of my littles are in. What's cool is I have now become a big brother to all the kids in my boxing class.

 

[Duece]

14.

 

[J.A.]

14??

Deuce how old are u

 

[AtomAnt]

14.

14??

Deuce how old are u

c/s waiting for an answer from Duece Did he just say 14?!? Must be a typo or something

 

[Duece]

14??

Deuce how old are u

27 why?

 

[Chase Bannon]

I'll freak you guys out. I have a friend who was a father at the age of 15. Then he was a granddad at the age of 31 or 32.

 

[Shotta042807]

21, and bm was 20... Sad thing is we were both in college and had to drop out. Sadder thing is babymoms had 3 more kids and is a bum at 24 today..... I have custody of my son tho

 

[gman2k4]

19 & 30 im 38 now ...

 

[jae_one]

I'll freak you guys out. I have a friend who was a father at the age of 15. Then he was a granddad at the age of 31 or 32.

Have a photo, in the photo my daughter is 6, Im 27, mommy is 43, grandmother is 59, and great grandmother is 80... Five generations should NOT be in the same damn photo... But thank good good parenting and a work ethic was passed down. OH yeah, two of the four were married for the birth of the children...

 

[Bone Daddy]

I was 26 when I became a father and he's going to be 19 soon, no more since then I made it a strict policy to strap up and not to trust a woman to handle birth control.