How Nosey Is Your Chick?
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this such bullshit legacy and you know it
male or female, people who are untrustworthy dont trust anyone
its like the person who always accuses of you of cheating when youve done absolutely nothing
why because usually theyre the ones cheating themselves
so in this situation, her ass is searching for shit because she maybe hiding something herself
lol you dudes so worried about wives finding shit, need to stop doing shit for them to find.
Not at all. I leave all my shit wide open and ask her to go through it sometimes to keep her mind at ease. I've already let her see most of my embarrassing shit.... which is all on bgol. Good for me... she find no interest in this board so in free to roam around. I more worried about my customers recognizing me from this shit. 
Already had happen in public. Phantom ass niggas... but I digress.
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Already had happen in public. Phantom ass niggas... but I digress.
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Man trait. Not true for women in most cases. Women in most cases are unconscionable. Women scorned by 1 dude tho will carry that over to the next 20'11 relationships... lol
Not really her cheating... Suspicion doesn't mean i'm doing something... it can mean you're doing something to make me suspicious.
I caught my wife (well she told me) reading my text but I use a seperate phone for play so I let her be as nosey as she wants...
not always about the nosey person being untrustworthy. some people feel they have a reason not to trust...or carry emotional baggage.
if u cheated on her b4... she will prolly be nosey unless she's just super mature about the situation which 90% of chicks won't be.
if she's dealt with alot of cheating/lying in the past.... she will bring tht baggage into ur relationship unless she's done alot of self healing. u'll have to help her deal with it so it doesnt poison ur sitution... or if she's not worth the hassle... tell her to kick rocks early n save urself the time/headache.
Not very nosey
Don't have a lock on my phone and leave it face up when I'm around her.
She's got nothing to worry about
So I'm not trippin..
Me too. I got a good one with hips, ass, tits, and can cook so I don't need any "extras". Got me a one stop shop so I'm on my best behavior... shiiiddd I be like, "look all you want. Here's my email password too!"
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http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/12/14/confessions-of-a-crazy-chick/
I went through an epic breakup last year. I mean like catastrophic. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years, and thought I’d found my husband. We discussed engagement and relocation, but he was lying and cheating on me the entire time. I estimate he told me 1-3 lies every day.
I don’t believe in victims; I’m not one. I was complicit in the deception: I ignored my gut, blindly trusted, and developed this bizarre habit of asking him questions while making excuses. For example:
ME: Why didn’t you call me for the last three days? Was your phone dead, your charger broken and your landline attacked by pygmies?
Him: Uhh…yeah. That’s exactly what happened.
So, I was essentially lying to myself. When my suspicions mounted and the evidence became unavoidable, the “crazy chick” emerged. She crept in slowly at first, squelched by my better judgment. She’d eye his cell phone on the table. The answers are in there, she’d whisper. I’d silence her. Even when her whispers became shouts and nightmares, I refused to look through his shit.
Until…I eventually went through his shit.
I found [peter] pictures, emails to random women about vacation plans, and other things that are too effed up to mention. This dude had skeletons and demons all rolled into one. It was scary, but what scared me the most was my willingness to anchor my life to a dude I clearly didn’t know. For the first time in my life, I felt I couldn’t trust myself.
It is uncomfortable to admit this in public. This story, after all, doesn’t make me look good: I fell for the wrong guy, stayed in a relationship well beyond the expiration date, AND instead of trusting my gut, I went thru a man’s personal belongings. My mother always told me: if you have the urge to snoop, you already know the answer.
She was right, but sometimes you have to do hood rat things…
Needless to say, we ended our relationship, and I’ve recovered with no visible scars. For the most part, you wouldn’t know that this crazy thing happened to me.
Except… that the “crazy chick” lingers.
I’m at the beginning of a new relationship, and the “crazy chick” whispers more often than I’d like. I find I am fearful that New Boo will end up like the old one, that he’s always lying to me, and that he doesn’t really love me. Intuitively, I understand that I have to make peace with the “crazy chick” inside. She represents both the strongest and most broken parts of me.
And, I’ll be honest, I kind of love her.
The “crazy chick” got me out of horrible situations and held me together (with gum and shoelaces). In times of conflict she gets shit done. Her tactics are explosive and her weapons cause mass destruction, but if she didn’t exist, I’d still be in denial — somewhere in the Midwest miserable and engaged.
The “crazy chick” saved my life.
It is a daily struggle not to go thru New Boo’s belongings, and to trust that he is who he says he is. It’s a struggle to determine which part of my gut to trust: the part that thinks everyone is lying, or the part that believes in love? If we have any future, I have to make peace with my personal history. And I should probably understand that all men aren’t the same.
Still, the “crazy chick” lives in the bunker of my mind, with a helmet, some fatigues and a semi-automatic weapon.
I’m working out a way to tell her war is over, and that, no matter what happens, I’ll be okay.
Ladies, what about you? Do you have a “crazy chick” that you must make peace with? If you have already done so, give me some tips? Dudes, is it possible to aid in healing a woman’s “inner crazy”? What does a man’s crazy look like?
One of the realeast posts Ive read on here in a while. I salute you for being that honest and open about yourself.
LMAO...that's not my story. That's a post I came across on twitter. It made me think of this thread. If you peep the comments tho...that Adonis guy has to be a BGOL member....
You're adorable (which ever one you are)
Only women and bitch ninjas do this. Real men don't.
Every woman who I ever dated and turned out to be a lying bitch exhibited that type of behavior.
You're adorable (which ever one you are)
Only women and bitch ninjas do this. Real men don't.
Every woman who I ever dated and turned out to be a lying bitch exhibited that type of behavior.
Most every woman i've known who thinks her man was cheating was not cheating herself. That's wishful thinking and you guys' part to make yourselves feel better about being the cads and bounders you are.
lol shit... I never had this type of relationship, never, never ever had a closed relationship like that.. I don't get how u all can live with urselves.
All the hiding and dipping and getting extra phones and keeping side chicks and shit. Shit's exhausting from what i've seen. And stressful. And black men you'd THINK would want to limit stress. Not cause fuckin MORE.
Here's a bit of advice... Stop cheating. Or... Another idea ... Just thought it up! DONT GET IN RELATIONSHIPS!
You can be single and run about and be accountable to NO ONE!
*lightbulbs*
I've never understood it myself. The whole getting mad about what she'll find shit. If you not doing nothing, she won't find nothing. I mean damn. lol
It seems like the simplest thing to understand but dudes have the hardest time grasping it. Like children. Shit
Some women are insecure... you can peep an insecure woman within 5 minutes... Don't get involved with her. BOOM problem solved. Remember all the signs dudes talk about with us that we should see? But yet they never can see any themselves?
If you get and insecure woman... you CAN shore up her defenses by not giving her shit to feel insecure about when it comes to YOUR faithfulness.
Like I said, Adorable.
Sometimes women just don't believe you're:
A. Single
B. Have your own place
C. Have your own car
D. Don't have any baby mommas
E. Spent time in prison
F. Are not D-low
Shit like that is a red flag to some ladies, and they act like you're a unicorn or some shit.
Thats because you're a pussy and a beta male. No nigga I hang with explains shit to some god damn bitch. What the fuck do I look like explaining MY fucking receipt to some bitch? I can understand if she let me use her credit card, but no real man explains to some cunt what he's doing with his money...But what do we expect from you? You've been nothing short of a fucking pussy...Also you're a faggot who used to wear out your knee pads sucking dadons dick.
This. A broad I just met told me I heard you went to a strip club.
I was like so
I'm grown, I go wherever the fuck I please. You ain't my fucking woman. I silently thanked her monkey ass for revealing that to me plus she was a 5. I cut her off quick.
no wonder some of you dudes go thru a whole lot of unnecessary bullshit..
If youre just DATING a chick thats different..your a free agent. But if your in a full on relationship..livin together, mixing up money, giving her and people in general the impression thats YOUR woman.. then man the fuck up and follow thru.
you got cats on here talking about forgetting to delete messages, changes codes on their phones, joint AND separate accounts and if I do something with MY money its none of your business??
dudes in supposedly serious relationships still conducting their lives like theyre single..if thats the case then BE SINGLE dude
Or tell her you like various pussy from time to time and let her decide if she wants to stay and deal with your bullshit. In short just be honest with yourself and her. this is called flipping the script..its true that there are women who have baggage and issues but its also true that there are dude who ACTUALLY ARE DOING DIRT..the fact that cats on here can't even admit or consider that is very tellingDon't give your woman a reason to think your cheating..anyone ever consider that??
Don't give your woman a reason to think your cheating..anyone ever consider that??
read the story camille posted.
u think tht chick needs a reason? if ur cell is laying on the couch or ur laptop is open, she has to fight herself not to snoop... based on her emotional baggage. i think alot of people quietly fit into this category.
the wild thing is she could be the best chick in the world in ur eyes so u'd never even know she has the "crazy" side...
I totally get that..there are women who have baggage and issues..and if your clean then you have a choice on whether or not you want to deal with that..
but read the thread there ARE cats who actually are or have cheated but still act like insulted that she's suspicious of them
Like I said, Adorable.
Sometimes women just don't believe you're:
A. Single
B. Have your own place
C. Have your own car
D. Don't have any baby mommas
E. Spent time in prison
F. Are not D-low
Shit like that is a red flag to some ladies, and they act like you're a unicorn or some shit.
you basically seem to be saying lol "get married so u can pull chicks so chicks will believe you?"
I say stay single... i say marriage to most of today's people isn't viable... not the european way...I can't imagine a man fitting our standards for our daughters. Coming up out of this generation of kids... I just don't see it... My eldest is goin into her 2nd year at UT and she sees not a shred of black decency with them guys there.
I got a guy pal from my other board who's daughter just grad... and she's BEAAAUUTIFUL. And can't find a dude of proper standards....
Shit just don't work no more so why cause more pain to people who .......... really don't need it? Why do it to urself?
Just stay single man... You guys go out and have fun live your lives... Don't involve other people in ur crazy
My girl can "find" a receipt in the trash and cross reference the time on the receipt to where I said I was going to be that day. Got Damn Columbo.
Seriously she wouldn't be my chick very long. She's looking for trouble, can't have a relationship without trust.
My lady is not nosey at all, guess cause we respect each other.
I totally get that..there are women who have baggage and issues..and if your clean then you have a choice on whether or not you want to deal with that..
but read the thread there ARE cats who actually are or have cheated but still act like insulted that she's suspicious of them
If u give her time to trust u. She'll eventually have no choice BUT to trust you. It's a strange thing i see among these dudes... the concept of upholding values... and stickin to ur word is a very foreign concept to them.
The thing is, no one wants to be the crazy chick. You don't want to snoop. You want to trust unconditionally. The woman's experience I posted, she has her suspicions and evidence already. Snooping through the phone was just for confirmation. And when you are snooping, you don't want to be right. It calls into question your good judgement but no one wants the stress of having to wonder if your man is where he said he is, doing what he said he would be doing, or having to check behind someone. He wants to be greedy and have it all, instead of giving you the choice to be in a relationship with someone who wants to have multiple partners and if he isn't being careful, exposing you to who knows what std. They talk all this crap about if she goes though my stuff she can step, but if he didn't have a fear of losing her, he wouldn't sneak to begin with.
no wonder some of you dudes go thru a whole lot of unnecessary bullshit..
If youre just DATING a chick thats different..your a free agent. But if your in a full on relationship..livin together, mixing up money, giving her and people in general the impression thats YOUR woman.. then man the fuck up and follow thru.
you got cats on here talking about forgetting to delete messages, changes codes on their phones, joint AND separate accounts and if I do something with MY money its none of your business??
dudes in supposedly serious relationships still conducting their lives like theyre single..if thats the case then BE SINGLE dude
Don't give your woman a reason to think your cheating..anyone ever consider that??
Thank you!!They are actually screwing around. She can sense it, and they want to make her seem like she is crazy because her instincts are on point. "She can look but she won't find anything because I use a different phone to do my dirt." She's STILL right, and he's still DIRTY. It's hard to lay down with someone you can't trust. He will drive her nuts mentally and try to make it seem like its her fault. (Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they're not out to get you.) She doesn't have concrete evidence to hone in on, but she KNOWS.
I'd also be interested to know if these guys have no problem with HER stepping out. If you remember in THIS thread the OP saw a text on his wife's phone, which turned out to be innocent, and everyone was advocating he dump her before all the facts were even in. Y'all want to have it both ways. Male privilege. Must be nice.
Amen!!
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