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How many don't communicate with their parents?
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Fuzzy_McNut
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It all makes sense now.... Would slap a bitch chuck
Always talked to my parents a couple times a week at least..used to talk to my mom because she always answered the phone.didn't always talk to my father cause he sas always on the move.
Now that she passed I talk to my father .
Hope your people straighten it out cause once they die you can't get that missef time back
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I speak to my mom a few times a week, visit her on the weekends. My father is dead, and I'm the only son, so I keep that connect. My mom is a good woman, no complaints.
I talk to my parents every chance I get. I sometimes go over to their house to check on them. I stay in the same city as they do so if ever something happens I'm already there instead of being in Utah and having to book a flight and what not. My sister treats my parents like shit. I think its because she was adopted but I told her recently the next time I see or hear you talking bad to my parents I'm choking the shit out of you
I still don't talk to my mother. I blocked her number.
Recently, I had a sister I ain't never knew about contact me on facebook and say we have the same father, I never knew him and just found out his last name.
Shortly after, I deleted my facebook account because I kinda felt like she was sharing all my pics with her side of the family and I'm not ok with being an open book to muhfuckas that ain't never (as far as I know
) reached out to be a part of my life. I'm only sharing shit with folks that I think deserve to be privy to it/me.Her and I talked for a few months until it fizzled out, she seems to not quite understand where I sit as a product of a bad mother and an absentee father
Some stuff she just couldn't relate to. She's his oldest child(39 w/ 5 kids), and I'm his first son. I found out I have 1 other older sister & 3 younger brothers(1 by his wife, 2 by one of his sister's best friends). I talked to one brother on the phone, he's cool, he 22 and wanna come scope out ATL for a possible move.New sister informed me that her father wanted to contact me and she told him that she'd have to ask me before giving him my number. I thanked her, I'm not sure I'm ready to talk to or meet him... still processing some thoughts. I would... I do.. I guess want to know, one day, exactly what happened between him and my mother. Maybe I would understand some stuff, behavior, whatever, a lil more.
She said he was working with a counselor to have a sit down session with all his kids on Dec. 20th because he wants to work on "his legacy" (she forwarded the text he sent her about it). That's part of why he was trying to contact me. I thought about it, but decided against it. Not sure that would have been a good first meeting/experience and I don't think that would have benefited me in the way I probably need/want.
After some recent events in my personal life, I realize that I was/am being very judgmental towards him, especially considering I didn't/don't know much about him. How could I judge this man when I done damn near been just like him in a situation not too unlike how I came about? And would probably be exactly like him if circumstances hadn't turned out in my favor.
Tip's verse about his daddy...
Due to some beef trying to be squashed I was led back to this thread...which I forgot about it...but wow!!!!
After reading this, I'm sure some have passed on, but I'm hoping some have made amends. As for me right now...this is the longest I've ever gone without to talking to my sister, and I don't feel bad about....I'm trying to, but it's causing riff between my mom & dad and myself.
I want to reach out to her because I have pneumonia, and I need advice but I refuse....
I just refuse to be there for everyone when I can't get the same, and my pockets aren't that deep anymore.
Man so much has changed for me since I made this thread.
After reading this, I'm sure some have passed on, but I'm hoping some have made amends. As for me right now...this is the longest I've ever gone without to talking to my sister, and I don't feel bad about....I'm trying to, but it's causing riff between my mom & dad and myself.
I want to reach out to her because I have pneumonia, and I need advice but I refuse....
I just refuse to be there for everyone when I can't get the same, and my pockets aren't that deep anymore.
Man so much has changed for me since I made this thread.
I still don't talk to my mother. I blocked her number.
Recently, I had a sister I ain't never knew about contact me on facebook and say we have the same father, I never knew him and just found out his last name.
Shortly after, I deleted my facebook account because I kinda felt like she was sharing all my pics with her side of the family and I'm not ok with being an open book to muhfuckas that ain't never (as far as I know
Her and I talked for a few months until it fizzled out, she seems to not quite understand where I sit as a product of a bad mother and an absentee father
New sister informed me that her father wanted to contact me and she told him that she'd have to ask me before giving him my number. I thanked her, I'm not sure I'm ready to talk to or meet him... still processing some thoughts. I would... I do.. I guess want to know, one day, exactly what happened between him and my mother. Maybe I would understand some stuff, behavior, whatever, a lil more.
She said he was working with a counselor to have a sit down session with all his kids on Dec. 20th because he wants to work on "his legacy" (she forwarded the text he sent her about it). That's part of why he was trying to contact me. I thought about it, but decided against it. Not sure that would have been a good first meeting/experience and I don't think that would have benefited me in the way I probably need/want.
After some recent events in my personal life, I realize that I was/am being very judgmental towards him, especially considering I didn't/don't know much about him. How could I judge this man when I done damn near been just like him in a situation not too unlike how I came about? And would probably be exactly like him if circumstances hadn't turned out in my favor.
Tip's verse about his daddy...
Funny we posted at the same time.
All bullshit aside. Unblock her number, you still need to know when something is wrong with your mom. It's still her loss, but don't go to that extent.
Talked to my Pops maybe twice in the last twenty years. My sister speaks to him about once per month.
Hit or miss with Moms.
Once went 2 years without speaking to her over money (go figure)
A brief update.
I called my Mom to check on my Dad because I heard he was sick. Mom told me he passed away a few weeks earlier.
I called my sister and asked her why she didn't tell me, and she said Mom's wanted to tell me.
He had actually passed away months ago, but my Mom forgot to tell me.
She said she thought she did.
I believe Mom's is now in the beginning stages of dementia, so I try to call her at least once per week.
Pops and I were not very close, but it still stung knowing he passed away without me saying goodbye or ever meeting my son
Oh wow..I guess I was right when I said some have passed.A brief update.
I called my Mom to check on my Dad because I heard he was sick. Mom told me he passed away a few weeks earlier.
I called my sister and asked her why she didn't tell me, and she said Mom's wanted to tell me.
He had actually passed away months ago, but my Mom forgot to tell me.
She said she thought she did.
I believe Mom's is now in the beginning stages of dementia, so I try to call her at least once per week.
Pops and I were not very close, but it still stung knowing he passed away without me saying goodbye or ever meeting my son
Sorry you didn't get to say bye or him meet his grandson. Praying for your mom, a friend of my mom is showing the early signs too.
Funny we posted at the same time.
All bullshit aside. Unblock her number, you still need to know when something is wrong with your mom. It's still her loss, but don't go to that extent.
for all of you who are close to your mother and father I say
but try to remember
not all parents are good parents
consider yourselfs lucky.
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just got off the phone with my mom...she ran into one of my old girlfriends.
i NEVER brought no broads around my moms. cause my moms acted like i was gonna marry any chick she saw me with.
but this one? i was in between apartments (literally, the new one wasn't ready, the old one was in the hood, i said fuck it and got a new apartment before i broke my lease) and had this broad meet me at my moms. fucked up on two fronts, moms was crazy and this broad was CRAZIER.
and this broad was Black with natural blonde hair and hazel eyes. bish puts you in the mind of Melrose Foxx. my moms took one look at her and thought "this bish will make us some pretty babies".
so a few months later, after i had kicked Rhonda to teh curb my mom asked me what happened to her. i told her she couldn't learn how to shut her mouth, and i was at the point of whoopin her ass. my mom did not miss a beat and said maybe you should have. maybe thats the only way she'll learn to respect you.
i think my mom wanted me to be a pimp.
anyway...back to the stories.
i NEVER brought no broads around my moms. cause my moms acted like i was gonna marry any chick she saw me with.
but this one? i was in between apartments (literally, the new one wasn't ready, the old one was in the hood, i said fuck it and got a new apartment before i broke my lease) and had this broad meet me at my moms. fucked up on two fronts, moms was crazy and this broad was CRAZIER.
and this broad was Black with natural blonde hair and hazel eyes. bish puts you in the mind of Melrose Foxx. my moms took one look at her and thought "this bish will make us some pretty babies".
so a few months later, after i had kicked Rhonda to teh curb my mom asked me what happened to her. i told her she couldn't learn how to shut her mouth, and i was at the point of whoopin her ass. my mom did not miss a beat and said maybe you should have. maybe thats the only way she'll learn to respect you.
i think my mom wanted me to be a pimp.
anyway...back to the stories.
strange that this old ass thread popped up when i was online.
Someones been on my mind that i havent spoke to in months.
this has become a repetitive thing over the last 3 years.
for some reason ive been hesitating to call her until after New Years.
But deep down i know i should be calling right now.
Anyways.....
Pop been dead for a while. but when i was a shorty we talked a lot. Even after he moved to Alabama. Ive gone a few weeks without talking to my Moms. But not too long tho. But during that time i always talked to my SIster, i.e. someone who i knew spoke with her almost everyday. So if something happened...i'd hear about it.
Im honesty not a "phone person"....nor do i like chatting online. I like face to face interactions the most for some reason. other times I just be in my own little world.....standoffish....but other times things may happen that make me turn away sooner . Like someone asking me for money every single day....or just talking too much about nothing.
Ive gone months...sometimes over a year when it pertains to cousins, aunts, a Grandmother (via my Mom's first marriage) etc etc. Nothing personal. some of them know that im not trying to be funny...but some get caught in their feelings and take shit personal. they cant respect my need for space. but theyll get over it.
another thing....
folks go through things in life with certain people that make them keep their distance.
these people dont try to change.....stuck in their ways for 20+ years.
almost feel like life long liabilities.
they always seem depressed, always talking loud and arguing/complaining about dumb shit , begging for money....
family or not..sometimes you just get tired of dealing with certain people.
you just get tired.....
you can feel their sad depressed energy when you walk into a room.
i cant find compassion for people that i know are bullshitters's.
already standoffish...then folks go do shit that make me want to move further away.
My skin is thick.....but i like taking the out of sight out of mind approach sometimes.
if you aint talking about shit.....and is basically on the same shit that youve been on all your life...we really aint got shit to talk about. Im not gonna call you and just talk about my life for 30+ mins...im more so of a listener....so whats the point of calling you???
Someones been on my mind that i havent spoke to in months.
this has become a repetitive thing over the last 3 years.
for some reason ive been hesitating to call her until after New Years.
But deep down i know i should be calling right now.
Anyways.....
Pop been dead for a while. but when i was a shorty we talked a lot. Even after he moved to Alabama. Ive gone a few weeks without talking to my Moms. But not too long tho. But during that time i always talked to my SIster, i.e. someone who i knew spoke with her almost everyday. So if something happened...i'd hear about it.
Im honesty not a "phone person"....nor do i like chatting online. I like face to face interactions the most for some reason. other times I just be in my own little world.....standoffish....but other times things may happen that make me turn away sooner . Like someone asking me for money every single day....or just talking too much about nothing.
Ive gone months...sometimes over a year when it pertains to cousins, aunts, a Grandmother (via my Mom's first marriage) etc etc. Nothing personal. some of them know that im not trying to be funny...but some get caught in their feelings and take shit personal. they cant respect my need for space. but theyll get over it.
another thing....
folks go through things in life with certain people that make them keep their distance.
these people dont try to change.....stuck in their ways for 20+ years.
almost feel like life long liabilities.
they always seem depressed, always talking loud and arguing/complaining about dumb shit , begging for money....
family or not..sometimes you just get tired of dealing with certain people.
you just get tired.....
you can feel their sad depressed energy when you walk into a room.
i cant find compassion for people that i know are bullshitters's.
already standoffish...then folks go do shit that make me want to move further away.
My skin is thick.....but i like taking the out of sight out of mind approach sometimes.
if you aint talking about shit.....and is basically on the same shit that youve been on all your life...we really aint got shit to talk about. Im not gonna call you and just talk about my life for 30+ mins...im more so of a listener....so whats the point of calling you???
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You live in your sisters house mella.
Yep
A few times a week
A few times a week
didnt i tell you to kill yourself a few months ago.,
Why are you stil here?
Lord Vicious
Rising Star
Damn,and i thought i was the only one who had a messed up relationship with their
mom.I mean,i thought there was others but never really thought about how many.
Shit is crazy.
Peace
mom.I mean,i thought there was others but never really thought about how many.
Shit is crazy.
Peace
didnt i tell you to kill yourself a few months ago.,
Why are you stil here?
Soon as you find stable employment and move out your sisters crib I will, deal?
With success comes the dumbass thought that I need to support my entire family, so no, I don't talk much to my fams.
I want to reach out to her because I have pneumonia, and I need advice but I refuse....
I just refuse to be there for everyone when I can't get the same, and my pockets aren't that deep anymore.
Man so much has changed for me since I made this thread.
You need someone, not the other way around! Hope you get better!
A brief update.
I called my Mom to check on my Dad because I heard he was sick. Mom told me he passed away a few weeks earlier.
I called my sister and asked her why she didn't tell me, and she said Mom's wanted to tell me.
He had actually passed away months ago, but my Mom forgot to tell me.
She said she thought she did.
I believe Mom's is now in the beginning stages of dementia, so I try to call her at least once per week.
Pops and I were not very close, but it still stung knowing he passed away without me saying goodbye or ever meeting my son
Good luck.
just got off the phone with my mom...she ran into one of my old girlfriends.
i NEVER brought no broads around my moms. cause my moms acted like i was gonna marry any chick she saw me with.
but this one? i was in between apartments (literally, the new one wasn't ready, the old one was in the hood, i said fuck it and got a new apartment before i broke my lease) and had this broad meet me at my moms. fucked up on two fronts, moms was crazy and this broad was CRAZIER.
and this broad was Black with natural blonde hair and hazel eyes. bish puts you in the mind of Melrose Foxx. my moms took one look at her and thought "this bish will make us some pretty babies".
so a few months later, after i had kicked Rhonda to teh curb my mom asked me what happened to her. i told her she couldn't learn how to shut her mouth, and i was at the point of whoopin her ass. my mom did not miss a beat and said maybe you should have. maybe thats the only way she'll learn to respect you.
i think my mom wanted me to be a pimp.
anyway...back to the stories.
Gem of truth...I don't advocate violence...but if a woman see's something in another female...it's usually right on the nose.
I can go days without talking with moms...which is weird. We can't have long convos cause we get into it. Normally it's because she doesn't understand something I said or cause I'm tired of repeating what I said for the fourth time cause she's not paying attention to me but she wants me to repeat it again. Most of the time I feel like she doesn't want to talk. But I love her. I tried to be someone I was not to connect better with her...didn't work. So I just take our relationship for what it is.
Dad is my twin. Same birthday, same likes, same attitude. We rarely argue or have disagreements but when we do it's pretty heavy, but we get over it.
I'll stop there before I get emotional. I just hope that me and moms can have a REAL conversation before I get too old and my patience runs out. Maybe she can teach me about sex.
i haven't in about three years (I'm 33) mom was a crackhead almost overdosed. my first memory is dude holding her had to a stove (i stabbed his calf with a fork, might have been four). she used to have a great job, an Italian sports car all that shit was gone by the time i was two. partying with capitol hill crowd turned her on to that shit, she didn't come back to earth till i was about 14.in the meantime court sent me to live with my firefighter dad who never acknowledged me till he was made to. he married rich and felt like i was fucking up his come up. now I'm grown with a family i adore and take care of, both parents desperate to get back. my wife tries to make me listen but i hate them both, all they taught me was to do the opposite of everything they did with a kid perhaps they'll be ok.
This is exactly what I would have expected of a tramp like you. There is a proverb that
says "Charity begins at home". Someone eager to disrespect the parents of the others
habituated the disdain for parents on her own. The thing is that people like this reap
their own reward, and your son will probably abuse and slap your ass before he reaches
the age of 25.........
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you ain't the only one, partner. moms did me dirty. Never really was too close to her, but when I got married my ex wife and I came around a lot. I didn't realize until later that my mom wanted to see her and not so much me. since my divorce 2 years ago my mother has only been over my house for the Super Bowl party last year.
My ex told her that she was going to divorce me a month and a half before my ex told me and yet my mom said nothing to me. When I found out later she told me that she didn't want to break her (my ex's) confidence.My mother invited my ex to Christmas dinner 1 month after our divorce, completely oblivious to the fact that I was heartbroken.
while we were going through the divorce my mother told me that she was mad at me for taking her out of our lives again. Not our like mine, our like hers. I would cuss her out and never speak to her again but if I did so my sister and brother would never speak to me again even though that bitch would deserve every bit of it. I called her on Christmas only because I didn't want to cause a strain between my brother and my sister.
they always take her side. 11 years ago on Christmas I was forbidden to come over. I saw my sister on the bus and I asked her if I could come, though my mother told me that I could not. I told my sister that it was her place and she could overrule my mother if she wanted to. My sister told me "no. I couldn't do that to mom"
my mother and I have never gotten along, and being around her for any period of time irritates me. I look like my dad and she hates my dad for beating her when they were together when we were kids, so she hates me I guess. I can't say that I would cry at her funeral if I even go. I would only be mad that I never told her to fuck off. maybe I will one day. I was in a talent show earlier this year and my mother said that she could not come to cheer me on because Scandal was on. she did come to the final performance even though I did not invite her.
my father was a combination of Ike Turner and Hitler. He beat on everybody but my sister. I saw him throw my mother down the stairs, run down after her and punch her in the mouth at the bottom of the stairs knocking out her front tooth. He abused my brother and I every chance he got, or whenever he felt like it. I haven't seen him since 2001. I saw him in an unemployment office. He let me borrow 800 dollars so I would not get evicted from my apartment at the time. He said he wanted his money back and didn't want to hear about what he didn't do for me as a kid (he hadn't pay child support since I was 12 when he lost custody to my mother)
needless to say he never saw that money from me
He has called me a few times over the past couple years, and we've talked but he hasn't changed. He still the same asshole that thinks that I should stay in my place as his kid. I can't respect him. I became Who I am in spite of my parenting and not because of it. I will become even greater once a few things I'm working on pan out. right now I don't need either one of them and have achieved more than either one of them. it's a shame that I can't share my success with my parents. I hope neither one needs my help when they get older because they won't get any help this way.my mom has my brother and my sister, and my father has pissed off every member of my family. I just started my own business and can't see me needing anything from them in the future
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You need someone, not the other way around! Hope you get better!
Good luck.
Gem of truth...I don't advocate violence...but if a woman see's something in another female...it's usually right on the nose.
I can go days without talking with moms...which is weird. We can't have long convos cause we get into it. Normally it's because she doesn't understand something I said or cause I'm tired of repeating what I said for the fourth time cause she's not paying attention to me but she wants me to repeat it again. Most of the time I feel like she doesn't want to talk. But I love her. I tried to be someone I was not to connect better with her...didn't work. So I just take our relationship for what it is.
Dad is my twin. Same birthday, same likes, same attitude. We rarely argue or have disagreements but when we do it's pretty heavy, but we get over it.
I'll stop there before I get emotional. I just hope that me and moms can have a REAL conversation before I get too old and my patience runs out. Maybe she can teach me about sex.
Yeah this thread really makes you think. I hope you and your mom does mend, but I can someone relate.
And Thanks!
I'm glad you've found happiness and are able to love and be there for your kids in spite of.
It's obvious your crybaby ass didn't read, because you all off the grid here, but usually bitches are.
You're troubled and the board knows it....go hug your mom crazy.
LoneStar29
Banned
I'm close to and speak to both my parents regularly
This thread is sad though and explains certain things about this board
I'm sorry to hear that some of you didn't have the best relationship with your parents
Happy New Years
And may the new year renew some of these relationships. It's never too late. I'm hoping for the best for all of you
This thread is sad though and explains certain things about this board
I'm sorry to hear that some of you didn't have the best relationship with your parents
Happy New Years
And may the new year renew some of these relationships. It's never too late. I'm hoping for the best for all of you
Last time I talked to my father I was about 11 or 12. Even before the I only saw him every once in a blue moon. I really don't mess with anybody from that side of the family to tough. Last few years he's tried to contact me, I think he'd sick or something. I'm just not interested
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