To stay, I'd suggest galleria area. Central to everything. The woodlands is nice too, but can be a bit too white.
Food wise, if it's soul food then it's 2 places I'm crazy for: Mickey's on the sw side and alfreda's in the Trey. Galleria is fairly close to all of this.
Bars, I'm a mixed crowd person. So I'll hit up anywhere in midtown. I love baker street pub. It's nice mixed bar. And they're all over Houston. 3 i believe. If you looking for predominately black, others may have to chime in.
I heard it mentioned before that Chacho's is still jumping. I know when i was going, there was no better place in Houston that was fucking with Chacho's as far as black women go.
Matt Schaub sucks....that is all