Food for thought: Did/do you feed guests dinner in your household?

[phanatic]

And that’s love. This is what community and togetherness is all about. This is what you wanna be around 24-7. Food is how we learn about other people and their cultures and to deny that to someone in the name of “rugged individualism”.. man gtfoh. Drop the charade and vibe with people.

Here’s my thing also: I get white AMERICANS food is many times bland, unseasoned, unappetizing and head scratching. This we can all agree on I think.

But when it comes to ITALIAN whites … that’s different class. For me, that’s top tier, top shelf, elite cuisine unrivaled and unmatched and me and my African ass father would argue about this all the time.

Shit I may go over to voluntarily cut the grass of an old Italian Nonna just to get a taste of whatever leftovers she got cause you know it’s gon hit!

The only white Americans that can cook are southerners that bbq and have signature rubs that they'd kill you over. Some white lady from Vermont though...she isn't making any tasty.

 

[p5ych3]

I was doing the VOIP for a Dominican car shop that was connected to the house they owned, and dude comes up to me and says, "my wife is almost done making lunch." Really not knowing what to say, I just tell him "buen provecho" and keep working. He tells me I have to eat, and nods to the window...his wife is standing there, staring at us like Jason Vorhees at the front of the cabin. She really put some work into that food. A great beef stew and some really good rice and beans.

Yeh, i feel weird having ppl working at the house and it's time to eat. I think one time a couple cablevision workers saw the rum and were content with a couple shots and water. No lie. Also notice that appliance workers run out fast instead of waiting for a tip. I figure a tip helps with issues later on down the road.

 

[woodchuck]

They would make you wait in a different room while they ate dinner

Wait, what?!

 

[knightmelodic]

Never even thought about it. Was raised to come home before dinner unless parents okayed staying. When I got older and on my own, always offered anyone who was there a plate; was always offered a plate as far as I remember in Black households. Can't remember white households not offering but I wouldn't be in any white household that wouldn't.

 

[DJCandle]

Wait, what?!

Hand to the man son.

When I look back on it, it really gave, “it’s not my job to feed your kid.“

And it always struck me as, if that were the case, when can I expect a light bill or a AC bill for having been in your house, playing with your kid for an hour?

 

[West Endian]

My buddy's Italian "Aunt D" was so aggressive and she took it personal if she offered you food and you didn't want to eat. He was at his aunt's house and I had to drop off the golf club he let me borrow. The plan was just to hand it to him and leave, but she pushes him out of the way and tells me to stop standing outside like I'm not invited. I was supposed to drop off a golf club and I was there for four hours. It was honestly a good time, and she makes an awesome tiramisu.

It's damn near sacrilegious if you don't eat or drink when offered by nonna, mamma or tia.

 

[phanatic]

Yeh, i feel weird having ppl working at the house and it's time to eat. I think one time a couple cablevision workers saw the rum and were content with a couple shots and water. No lie. Also notice that appliance workers run out fast instead of waiting for a tip. I figure a tip helps with issues later on down the road.

That's exactly why they bounced so quickly. They don't know what type of tipper you are. You could be the cool dude that tosses them a $20, or you could be the psycho that calls them at 10PM at night wanting them to come over and fix a problem.

 

[phanatic]

It's damn near sacrilegious if you don't eat or drink when offered by nonna, mamma or tia.

Asians are like this too. They'll just hand you an open beer, so you gotta drink it. Then the roast pork skewers start coming out, then more beer, then it's karaoke. They slowly add things like a beef bourguignon.

 

[dHustla]

I'm a grown ass man, I don't have an issue with it one way or the other. If someone offers, that's cool. If not, I know where to find food or how to go home and eat my own.

Personally, if I don't have enough to share in some way, I probably just won't eat until you leave. Mainly because I rarely cook extra like I used to, and a lot of meals I prep are specifically for the number of people I expect.

This. I grew up in a household that didn't have guests, it was rare and even then it was short lived.

When she got a car, it was common for my older sister to only bring home food for herself and eat in front of me. I thought nothing of it until a few years ago I saw how Ethiopians all ate together.

I even had to learn in my 20's that I'm supposed to offer to share my food when eating around others that I know.

Now, I'm sensitive to people eating/drinking up all my shit then leaving, so I only invite certain people to my house. I came up around ungrateful, inconsiderate, and selfish people.

 

[dHustla]

This was the standard growing up. My parents were the King and Queen of hospitality.

Damn. I'm realizing a lot of "home training" I just didn't get.

 

[lightbright]

If you were at our house at dinner time, you ate with us.

You gotta have one fucked up family to have a guest over at dinner time and not offer them eats...


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[Dannyblueyes]

My dad always feeds people when they come to his house. It's something he can brag about or use for leverage later

 

[phanatic]

My dad always feeds people when they come to his house. It's something he can brag about or use for leverage later

"I've been feeding Danny's lazy ass friend's since they were 15."
For real, that shit makes people family. Food is the one thing that people can bond over. It's why people should go on first dates to a meal, because you have to talk and feel each other out.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

"I've been feeding Danny's lazy ass friend's since they were 15."
For real, that shit makes people family. Food is the one thing that people can bond over. It's why people should go on first dates to a meal, because you have to talk and feel each other out.

If that meal consists of vodka, edibles, and clit then it's a date!

Let the bonding begin

 

[34real]

8 Siblings so if you were at my house you ate whatever we were having specially on Fridays & Saturdays when is where we ate out,fast food,grilled food, whatever.

My old man would go into Mcdonalds and spend 100 bucks,4 large pizzas,or 2 sheet pizza's,...ect.That's how he was and my friends,cousins,aunts,uncles knew this so fri-sat my house was the hangout.

 

[the artist]

Definitely, my wife would insist

 

[ghoststrike]

It's basically a topic of a loving household vs a selfish household

To the ones mentioning seeing families eat in front of them and not even offering the option, aint no way in hell I'd remain as a guest for one second longer.

Asians are like this too. They'll just hand you an open beer, so you gotta drink it. Then the roast pork skewers start coming out, then more beer, then it's karaoke. They slowly add things like a beef bourguignon.

Visited an married Vietnamese colleagues' house to study when I was in college. She looked so sad when I told her i wasn't hungry after she offered to make me a plate. I looked at her puppy dog eyes and said, on second thought, I'll take a small plate. Her face lit up with happiness so fast

Then her husband looked at my plate and said said "wow, she cooks better for you than me!!"



Her native cooking was delicious