Female posters: How would you react to the request to sign a Prenup.

[hgbdark]

I wouldn't have a problem with it but I wouldn't have much faith in him because it would mean he doesn't have much faith in our relationship.

A LONG TIME FRIEND OF MINE THAT IS ALMOST FAMILY CALLED ME TO INVITE ME TO HIS DAUGHTERS WEDDING TO ANTONIO MCDYSS. SHE HAS HAD A SUCCESSFUL CAREER BEFORE SHE MET HIM AND COULD BE 'VERY' COMFORTABLE ON HER INCOME AND INVESTMENTS. WHY BOTHER TO EVEN GET MARRIED IF THEIR IS NO REAL COMMITMENT. REMEMBER, THIS PRE-NUP SHIT IS RELATIVELY NEW AND FOR CENTURIES PEOPLE TOOK THEIR CHANCES........MEN GOT SCREWED AND SO DID WOMEN. MARRIAGE IS 'NOT' JUST SOME FINANCIAL ARRANGEMENT/CONTRACT BECAUSE IF IT WERE , LANGUAGE WOULD BE INCLUDED THAT WOULD OUTLINE AND DETAIL WHAT WAS EXPECTED IN EVERY FACET OF THE MARRIAGE. I GOT MARRIED ABOUT SIX YEARS AGO TO A SWEET WOMAN FRON SENEGAL AND I HAD SUBSTANTIALLY MORE THAT SHE DID TO CONTRIBUTE FINANCIALLY. IT WAS MY FIRST MARRIAGE AND I DIDNT CONSIDER A PRE-NUP BECAUSE I WANTED TO BE 'MARRIED' AND NOT IN SOME 'CONTRATURAL ARRANGEMENT' WITH THIS WOMAN. IT DIDNT WORK OUT AND SHE WILL WALK AWAY WITH MORE CASH THAN SHE BROUGHT....BUT SO FUCKING WHAT...BEING WITH MY ASS WAS NO BED OF ROSES FOR HER ALL THE TIME EITHER. I GUESS MY OPINION IS THAT ITS OK FOR THOSE THAT GO FOR IT.ITS JUST NOT FOR ME. I THINK THAT IT DEFEATS THE WHOLE SPIRIT AND PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE.....BUT WHO CARES WHAT I THINK....PROBABLY NOT ALOT OF MY FELLOW BOARD MEMBERS

 

[Adam Knows]

I'll tell you what. I have an elderly family friend and 2 elderly uncles in their late 70's who are sickly and dying. The last thing on their mind is the money they made trying to uphold a decent standard of living for their families. Because when you get married, your wife is your family. Any offspring as a result of your union is family.

The last thing they are thinking about is how much money they put into their relationships. They are thinking about how proud they are to be able to support their family and how the reciprocation of hard work aids them in making it another day.

I personally believe that many lack the confidence in finding that woman who will be there through thick and thin and through sickness and health.

TRU is right. Most are focusing on the wrong thing. Instead of focusing on what a woman is going to look like in 40 years, you should be focusing on trying to maintain a marraige for 40 years. And this goes for men and women.

Instead of focusing on a wallet, women should be focusing on whether or not she can stand being with a man through thick and thin with all of his faults and can he do the same with all her faults.

I'm really glad I can use my parents as an example of this. It is this level of integrity that I expect in my future mate.

I work, I own a home but ultimately I want to bring all that I've worked for into a relationship and build upon it...with love, dedication, loyalty and honor and I expect that in return.

1. you can't comare marriages of yesterday with those of today....
even the ashford and simpson scenario was a poor choice to use.


the number one reason of divorces in this day and age are due to finances.

either there isn't enough..
or the woman is trying to get more.

so yes, since you have all that stuff femm.....
do you want a judge telling you to liquidate it so you can split the difference with your ex? because that's what he's going to tell you to do.
say you own a store. Had it for years prior. judge tells you to close the doors and divvy up the profits/assets

your home the one you bought and paid for before the fact.....gone.
your assets you had before the fact....divided


and then on top of that femm, if you made considerably more then him, do you want to support him for the rest of his life? even after you moved on and started a new family?

when you can answer those honestly, then you'll begin to understand the concept of a prenuptial

 

[Adam Knows]

I myself have made no pro or anti prenup. I have stated what I would or would not do. What anyone else does is their biz.

What I have done is ask 2 questions

1. Why would you marry someone you do not trust? By demanding the other
sign a prenup.

2. Why would you marry someone that doesn't trust you? By demanding you
sign a prenup.

2 very simple and basic questions. Haven't got an answer yet.

any takers???

I already answered this question in other statements, but i'll happily answer them again.



1. a prenuptial does not mean you do not trust them. you can trust someone 500%, but it doesn't mean that they are going to change over time. In addition to that even if you get divorced and she doesn't want to take you to the cleaners, the lawyer can talk her otherwise. I've seen the women with the best intentions basically change overnight by their attorneys or family/friends

2. Yes, i would. again people put this as a trust issue when it isnt. If i was only making so much before the fact and had to go back to it so be it. there's nothing honorable about leeching off of someone else. I have my own two legs to stand on and do not have a problem of doing so.


there, your simple questions answered.

 

[harlem1nyc]

Not a fem, but this is the deal....

Prenups are not for marraige. Marraige is a sacrement under God.

HOWEVER!!!

You have to get a prenup, because God doesn't allow divorce! The state does and the state has raped many a man in its court rooms. A prenup is protection from the state, once your women has decided that God will not sort it out in the end....She wants half now, so she can spend it on the next fool!!!

Harlem...stand up!!!

 

[Italian&Sistah]

I dont plan on getting in a car accident, however I carry Car Insurance. I dont plan on getting Divorced but my Prenup is Marriage Insurance!!!!!!!!!!

Serious. When I married my wife we signed a prenup for 2 reasons and it was easy to agree on. My brother and I had our own business that we had ran for 4 years prior to my marriage, he wanted to protect it. So we have in our partnership agreement that a Prenup must be signed. However if a woman has your kids your kids are still entitled to a portion of the action be advised of this. My wife had a father that was ill and she had a decent estate coming her way, house and some stocks. She wanted to protect that. In the event I divorce, we do have to split all personal assets that have been gained in the marriage. Home, Car, Vacation home. Joint Roth IRA and 401k. However all business assets are not touched. That way a divorce does not put our family operation in dire staights.

However I sure hope my fine lil ebony queen dont leave my white ass after 14 years.

 

[Louis Koo]

These mofos are world class athletes and world class fucking idiots giving these women lottery tickets to walk off with all their damn money for only a couple of years of marriage.

 

[(0_0)..l.. finger]

Well................i Aint One Of The Bgol Females But....
Imma Go Ahead And Crack Outta Turn.

Bottom Line.............
If You Gotta Have A Pre-nup....whay Get Married.
YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO GET MARRIED IF YOU HAVE TO DO THAT.
You Are Getting Married For All The Wrong Reasons.

Just My Two Cents..............

 

[Drayonis]

in todays day and age why get married in the first place?

Because you don't want to raise your kids as bastards.