To this I heartily agree. A ring should not be the determining factor as to whether or not he/she made the right decision to take the step forward into marriage.
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To this I heartily agree. A ring should not be the determining factor as to whether or not he/she made the right decision to take the step forward into marriage.
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I heard a story about a woman who only wanted a plain band as her engagement ring. The engagement lasted about a year. The wedding was planned, the guests invited, and only a couple of weeks remained. The groom decides that he doesn't love his bride as much as he should love the woman he wants to marry. He calls the wedding off and she is left out in the cold.
The groom said that he would pay any remaining balances for the wedding costs, but he would not marry her. So... one friend told me that this is why engagaement rings should cost the man a lot of money: because most men would seriously weigh spending so much on a ring for a woman they could not see spending forever with. And at least if he pulls a stunt like this one, she's got something pricy to pawn
And why wouldn't he get the ring back if he not getting married?
Is it the ring she/y'all want(s) or the man/marriage?
The ring is a representation of the relationship, the union. If that's not there, then why would she want to keep the ring.... because it's worth money?
So what, he called off the wedding.
Everybody has made a questionable decision that they probably wanna take back. Let the man cut his losses and keep on keeping on (with his ring).
Depends on why he called it off... cheating, lying bastard does not get the ring back. Second thoughts several months before the wedding, should probably get the ring back.And why wouldn't he get the ring back if he not getting married?
the man!!! definitely the man LOL!
because it represents his love. it's a giftThe ring is a representation of the relationship, the union. If that's not there, then why would she want to keep the ring.... because it's worth money?
in this case, I feel like it was too close to the wedding date... but who knows? I don't know what I would do in the situationSo what, he called off the wedding.
because you love him
I heard a story about a woman who only wanted a plain band as her engagement ring. The engagement lasted about a year. The wedding was planned, the guests invited, and only a couple of weeks remained. The groom decides that he doesn't love his bride as much as he should love the woman he wants to marry. He calls the wedding off and she is left out in the cold.
The groom said that he would pay any remaining balances for the wedding costs, but he would not marry her. So... one friend told me that this is why engagaement rings should cost the man a lot of money: because most men would seriously weigh spending so much on a ring for a woman they could not see spending forever with. And at least if he pulls a stunt like this one, she's got something pricy to pawn
I have worked as a court interpreter and although I am sure it depends on the state you live in, I learned that an engagement ring is something given in anticipation of marriage. If the marriage does not happen, the person who purchased the engagement ring has the right to get it back.
In terms of the theory, I don't think the cost of the ring has anything to do with a person's commitment to their partner.
^^^^BGOL is full of the silliest people on earth I swear!!!
I'm not sure what's so silly about what I posted. Please clarify.
As amusing as you may find it, it is factual in many cases and nowhere near as hysterical as wanting to keep the property (and memory) of someone who didn't love you enough to stay faithful and didn't respect you enough to come forward with his true feelings before he got you all worked up over something he knew wasn't going to happen.
ummm relax "madam". It's your name that is hilarious. But you knew that already
^I guess this one thinks that it is so impossible for a husband and wife to both be part of a message board. Have the mods run a check on the posting times and whatnot. But then again, you're one of the biggest shit starters on this board, so anything to cause drama is right up your alley.
Perhaps but I don't see why she'd think that anyone would pay $10 on two separate occasions just to pretend to be someone they're not.
WHOA WHOA WHOA happily married couple. You gotta admit this is funny. Stop reading too much into it and acting sensitive. Try posting on the main forum one right after the other and you'll see. Oh well. Yall enjoy your time together on BGOL
But seriously, Mrs. Is your man always this sensitive? I prefer a man who doesn't show his emotions every time he types
How do you deal with it?
Let's not bring out in any capes in here. Wife or not BCAA let her hold her own,that is the way of the board
It happens more than you think,so its not farfetched at all
LoneStar29
Banned
I don't care how much the ring costs ... if he bought it with love then I'll rock it happily
If I break it off I'll give it back ... if he breaks it off I'm keeping it as a reminder to put myself first
LMAO @ the Mrs ... oh boy I aint even gonna touch that cuz Mr looks ready to cut all of our heads off
and he already seems to dislike sistas so nevermind thatignorance
Let's not bring out in any capes in here. Wife or not BCAA let her hold her own,that is the way of the board
people forget that this is BGOL. I wouldn't put anything past anyone... but damn how sad is it if it really is his wife and that was the best name she could come up with?I don't care how much the ring costs ... if he bought it with love then I'll rock it happily
LMAO @ the Mrs ... oh boy I aint even gonna touch that cuz Mr looks ready to cut all of our heads off
Oh well... I guess caping up is ok if it's your wife LOL @ paying twice. @ Mrs: it's usually not the same person paying. It's usually some joker...
LoneStar29
Banned
I actually believe that is his wife ... he told me before she was thinking about joining and I went through some of her posts LOL and they seem to have a different typing style ... I don't think she is black though but that will probably be a bonus for her on here LMAO SMMFH
She seems aight though ... at least she never got into wigger mode like Da Donna's wife did that time with you follow-up LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO rememebr that shit??? ahahahaha
Edit: I sorta think its cute she calls herself Mrs but then again I can be a bit sappy lol
She seems aight though ... at least she never got into wigger mode like Da Donna's wife did that time with you follow-up LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO rememebr that shit??? ahahahaha
Edit: I sorta think its cute she calls herself Mrs but then again I can be a bit sappy lol
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I don't give a fuck really. They both just need to take a damn deep breath and relax.
Man you actually believe that was that con artist's wife? Cmon son!!! It was too coincidental. still a shame that a grown "man" has to pose like a woman to carry out his foolishness
LoneStar29
Banned
I don't give a fuck really. They both just need to take a damn deep breath and relax.
Man you actually believe that was that con artist's wife? Cmon son!!! It was too coincidental. still a shame that a grown "man" has to pose like a woman to carry out his foolishness
I know, I know
You don't think she's black? Why do you say that?
I never once said I disliked black women. Ever. I dislike some of the things that black women do, like not calling out other black women on their bullshit, but I've never once said I didn't like black women.
BTW, my wife is afro-cuban. I don't know much more black that can be.
You're alright with me LS31...though some of your sistren can be a fucking nuisance at times.
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Edit: I sorta think its cute she calls herself Mrs but then again I can be a bit sappy lol
sappy? Haven't heard that one in a long time.
Dang ya'll......get back to thread topic...I believe it's his wife too.
Now about engagement rings
Dang ya'll......get back to thread topic...I believe it's his wife too.
Now about engagement rings
I got my wife an engagement ring for $250, and once we were married, a practical wedding band, and a promise to upgrade every few years or so. A lot of people seem to think that the bigger the ring, the more you love the person, which isn't the case. Besides, what does a big ass diamond represent, other than you spent a grip on a ring?
LoneStar29
Banned
I coulda swore you said you didn't marry a black woman ... not that it matters anyways cuz it's your life in the end ... what is Afro-Cuban I have never heard of that before???
LOL I can be a bit of a sappy/softy at times but I'll deny it if you tell anyone, I have a rep to uphold damnit
I agree big diamonds are for show and nothing more ... I hate that some women focus more on the ring and wedding day more than the marriage smh
LOL I can be a bit of a sappy/softy at times but I'll deny it if you tell anyone, I have a rep to uphold damnit
I agree big diamonds are for show and nothing more ... I hate that some women focus more on the ring and wedding day more than the marriage smh
I coulda swore you said you didn't marry a black woman ... not that it matters anyways cuz it's your life in the end ... what is Afro-Cuban I have never heard of that before???
LOL I can be a bit of a sappy/softy at times but I'll deny it if you tell anyone, I have a rep to uphold damnit
I agree big diamonds are for show and nothing more ... I hate that some women focus more on the ring and wedding day more than the marriage smh
here's an article on afro-cubans.
http://afrocubaweb.com/raceident.htm
I may have said I wouldn't marry an AMERICAN black woman....I'm sure someone is going through all my posts to see if I have said something along those lines...
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LOL I can be a bit of a sappy/softy at times but I'll deny it if you tell anyone, I have a rep to uphold damnit
LS being a softy? On BGOL? A side of you no one has ever seen! Except the bartender during your weekend long birthday celebration.
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I agree big diamonds are for show and nothing more ... I hate that some women focus more on the ring and wedding day more than the marriage
You know what majority of those women are known as?
Divorced.
I coulda swore you said you didn't marry a black woman ... not that it matters anyways cuz it's your life in the end ... what is Afro-Cuban I have never heard of that before???
LOL I can be a bit of a sappy/softy at times but I'll deny it if you tell anyone, I have a rep to uphold damnit
I agree big diamonds are for show and nothing more ... I hate that some women focus more on the ring and wedding day more than the marriage smh
http://afrocubaweb.com/history/History.htm
In terms of the diamond size, I think that on a practical level, it's just not safe these days to walk around with $5,000 worth of jewelry on your person. People are so evil these days that I'd be afraid of someone trying to chop my finger off or something, lol.
But seriously, Mrs. Is your man always this sensitive? I prefer a man who doesn't show his emotions every time he types
Personally, I find it an asset to have a man who can put himself in your shoes. That means you're on his mind.
LoneStar29
Banned
WOW what a great site ... broke everything down
I have so many questions but I'll save that for another thread LOL
LOL That can happen smh
But for me it's just that I think it's a waste of money overall ... that would be better spent towards a house or car, invest for the future cuz taking care of a family isn't cheap ... I'm pretty simple and don't base feelings on material things
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO and the celebration was actually a month long thank you very much LOL
I cant lie I used to be one of those women that wanted a big engagement ring, but then I learned that if someone is willing to ask you to marry them that alone is all you need. They want to share there life w/ you and that alone makes you special.
Some people will never know that in their life time.
HOWEVER-
I would gladly buy my WEDDING set and merge it w/ the engagement ring I received.....Because well....I love diamonds...
Some people will never know that in their life time.
HOWEVER-
I would gladly buy my WEDDING set and merge it w/ the engagement ring I received.....Because well....I love diamonds...
I coulda swore you said you didn't marry a black woman ... not that it matters anyways cuz it's your life in the end ... what is Afro-Cuban I have never heard of that before???
LOL I can be a bit of a sappy/softy at times but I'll deny it if you tell anyone, I have a rep to uphold damnit
I agree big diamonds are for show and nothing more ... I hate that some women focus more on the ring and wedding day more than the marriage smh
Some people will never know that in their life time.
HOWEVER-
I would gladly buy my WEDDING set and merge it w/ the engagement ring I received.....Because well....I love diamonds...
Some people will never know that in their life time.
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Exactly.
I would gladly buy my WEDDING set and merge it w/ the engagement ring I received
You'd buy your OWN wedding set? WOW.
I really would! There was a thread about that a while ago.
The reason is because...I am going to wear it for the rest of my life and I cant lie...I love diamonds! I am not into big rocks so to speak (marquis cut 2 or 3 carats w/ smaller carats to embellish will suit me nicely) but I am picky. If my man would let me pick it out and couldnt afford it-yep I would buy mine and his too. The least I could do if he was willing to spend his life with me. That is the real gift.
The reason is because...I am going to wear it for the rest of my life and I cant lie...I love diamonds! I am not into big rocks so to speak (marquis cut 2 or 3 carats w/ smaller carats to embellish will suit me nicely) but I am picky. If my man would let me pick it out and couldnt afford it-yep I would buy mine and his too. The least I could do if he was willing to spend his life with me. That is the real gift.
The price of the ring does not ensure the man of not breaking off the engagement. Ladies, if we don't want you, we don't want you and there is not a whole lot that will hold us there. If we could get out and all it cost us is a couple grand on a ring, that's better than getting a divorce and losing half of our stuff. That is a loss most men will take. In my opinion the price or size of the ring shouldn't matter. We want you for you and that's why we asked. We want you to want us for us and not answer based on the size of ring we got.
You don't have to spend a lot of money to get a nice ring. My wifes ring was $1000 and it is the exac ring she wanted. She wanted an aquamarine( her birthstone)surrounded by tiny diamonds going down the side of the band. She loved it and it didn't break the bank.
Ladies let me ask you a question. If a man proposed and you didn't like the ring, would you say no?
You don't have to spend a lot of money to get a nice ring. My wifes ring was $1000 and it is the exac ring she wanted. She wanted an aquamarine( her birthstone)surrounded by tiny diamonds going down the side of the band. She loved it and it didn't break the bank.
Ladies let me ask you a question. If a man proposed and you didn't like the ring, would you say no?
I would never say no to the ring (or to his proposal). Hoping that he knows my style enough to know what I would like... or at least ask my mom or sister for help...
But you don't think that a man thinks long and hard before investing in that ring and proposing? Isn't it a big deal?
The least I could do if he was willing to spend his life with me. That is the real gift.
Not many women like you left on this planet. I'm glad I found mine
and I'm sure the man in your life is glad he found you.Now if there were more women like you in America, the state of black relationships would be repaired in no time.
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