Emotional Affairs and the damage they cause

[mailboxpimp]

I TRIED TO EXPLAIN THIS TO MY EX....... CHEATING SEX HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH..... HOW I FELT ABOUT THE WOMEN... THERE WAS NO REAL EMOTIONAL CONNECTION OR ATLEAST I DID NOT HAVE ONE NOR DID I REQUIRE ONE TO FUCK........ FOR ME I SIMPLY FOUND THE WOMAN ATTRACTIVE....... SHE SMELLED GOOD LOOKED GOOD, LIKE HOW HER ASS LOOKED IN HER JEANS, THE SIZE /SHAPE OF HER TITTAAYS.... HER HAIR....( I LOVE WOMEN WITH LONG HAIR ( REAL HAIR ), AND ESPECIALLY THE WAY SHE WALKS ...... THAT TELLS ME A LOT ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS & WHAT SHE THINKS ABOUT HERSELF..... & IF SHE WALKS LIKE HER PUSSY TICKLES HER THAN IM LIKE

I FUCKED ................ & I MEAN F U C K E D THE DOG SHIT OUT SEVERAL WOMEN REPEATEDLY WITHOUT ANY EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT BUT WAS IN LOVE WITH MY EX....... ( I MUST ADMIT I GOT OTHER ISSUES THAT CAUSED ME TO BE A MAN THAT NEEDED TO VALIDATE HIMSELF IN SOMEWAY AT THE EXSPENCE OF UNKNOWING & UNDESERVING WOMEN....( ONE GIRL TOLD ME SHE REALLY FELT LIKE SHE GOT "FUCKED" & DIDNT LIKE IT ALL I COULD DO WAS GO...) AS A RESULT... I HAVE MADE EFFORTS TO APOLOGIZE TO THE WOMEN THAT I HAVE OFFENDED.... & I FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT... NOT ON SOME SIMP SHIT BUT ON SOME GROWN MAN SHIT TRYING TO CLEAR HIS PATH & TRY TO BRING SOME PEACE TO WOMEN THAT CONSTANTLY DEAL WITH MEN THAT ONLY WANT TO FUCK THEM...... WOMEN KNOW WHEN YOU JUST WANT TO PUT YOUR DICK IN THEM W/O BEING INTERESTED IN THEM.... & MANY OF THEM TELL ME HOW FUCKED UP THAT FEELING IS...... HAD IT DONE TO ME ONCE OR TWICE..... DONT REALLY LIKE IT.... SO I CAN EMPATHIZE A GREAT DEAL.... SO NOW I TAKE THE TIME TOO BE CRYSTAL CLEAR ABOUT WHAT WILL OR WILL NOT BE & MAKE SURE THEY DO THE SAME... THIS WAY WE ELIMINATE ANY CONFUSION!

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Many women do the same thing. Not as many as males but quite a few. I do believe our desire for sex and things like that comes from a different place than a males.

 

[dHustla]

I never met your husband but you should not equate self confidence with a lack of ego. We all have it. Just not in the stereotypical way presented by the media and, honestly, a lot of men.

Dave, self confidence coupled with knowledge of self is what enables .... lets just say, me, to overlook my ego.

I know who I am, what I'm capable of doing, etc... so my ego is not bruised when others underestimate me, doubt me, stereotype me, or categorize me.

I validate myself.

 

[dHustla]

I TRIED TO EXPLAIN THIS TO MY EX....... CHEATING SEX HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH..... HOW I FELT ABOUT THE WOMEN... THERE WAS NO REAL EMOTIONAL CONNECTION OR ATLEAST I DID NOT HAVE ONE NOR DID I REQUIRE ONE TO FUCK........ FOR ME I SIMPLY FOUND THE WOMAN ATTRACTIVE....... SHE SMELLED GOOD LOOKED GOOD, LIKE HOW HER ASS LOOKED IN HER JEANS, THE SIZE /SHAPE OF HER TITTAAYS.... HER HAIR....( I LOVE WOMEN WITH LONG HAIR ( REAL HAIR ), AND ESPECIALLY THE WAY SHE WALKS ...... THAT TELLS ME A LOT ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS & WHAT SHE THINKS ABOUT HERSELF..... & IF SHE WALKS LIKE HER PUSSY TICKLES HER THAN IM LIKE

I FUCKED ................ & I MEAN F U C K E D THE DOG SHIT OUT SEVERAL WOMEN REPEATEDLY WITHOUT ANY EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT BUT WAS IN LOVE WITH MY EX....... ( I MUST ADMIT I GOT OTHER ISSUES THAT CAUSED ME TO BE A MAN THAT NEEDED TO VALIDATE HIMSELF IN SOMEWAY AT THE EXSPENCE OF UNKNOWING & UNDESERVING WOMEN....( ONE GIRL TOLD ME SHE REALLY FELT LIKE SHE GOT "FUCKED" & DIDNT LIKE IT ALL I COULD DO WAS GO...) AS A RESULT... I HAVE MADE EFFORTS TO APOLOGIZE TO THE WOMEN THAT I HAVE OFFENDED.... & I FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT... NOT ON SOME SIMP SHIT BUT ON SOME GROWN MAN SHIT TRYING TO CLEAR HIS PATH & TRY TO BRING SOME PEACE TO WOMEN THAT CONSTANTLY DEAL WITH MEN THAT ONLY WANT TO FUCK THEM...... WOMEN KNOW WHEN YOU JUST WANT TO PUT YOUR DICK IN THEM W/O BEING INTERESTED IN THEM.... & MANY OF THEM TELL ME HOW FUCKED UP THAT FEELING IS...... HAD IT DONE TO ME ONCE OR TWICE..... DONT REALLY LIKE IT.... SO I CAN EMPATHIZE A GREAT DEAL.... SO NOW I TAKE THE TIME TOO BE CRYSTAL CLEAR ABOUT WHAT WILL OR WILL NOT BE & MAKE SURE THEY DO THE SAME... THIS WAY WE ELIMINATE ANY CONFUSION!

Damn MBP, you done got soft on ya folk!

Ol' compassionate ass nicca

 

[Upgrade Dave]

Dave, self confidence coupled with knowledge of self is what enables .... lets just say, me, to overlook my ego.

I know who I am, what I'm capable of doing, etc... so my ego is not bruised when others underestimate me, doubt me, stereotype me, or categorize me.

I validate myself.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I never met your husband but you should not equate self confidence with a lack of ego. We all have it. Just not in the stereotypical way presented by the media and, honestly, a lot of men.

I don't think so. I know there's a big difference between overblown ego, and can't control your ego and a healthy ego. But every once in a while there comes along a person who is that self sacrificing. And they're usually an aquarius lol

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I don't think so. I know there's a big difference between overblown ego, and can't control your ego and a healthy ego. But every once in a while there comes along a person who is that self sacrificing. And they're usually an aquarius lol

I'm sure you want to believe that but it's not true. That's just not how a man is built. Not a successful one, anyway.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

I'm sure you want to believe that but it's not true. That's just not how a man is built. Not a successful one, anyway.

I wished you had the chance to meet him and get to know him. He was quite the different type of cat.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I wished you had the chance to meet him and get to know him. He was quite the different type of cat.

Was he a man? Was he a successful one? Was he a confident one? He had an ego. Drop every bit of negative from the word, it's not a bad thing. Ego drives men to want to build healthy, successful families just like it drives us to have flashy cars and overpriced shoes.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

I wished you had the chance to meet him and get to know him. He was quite the different type of cat.

Me too. I like meeting dudes that aren't crazy.

 

[WhenTheGoingGetsTtuff]

Was he a man? Was he a successful one? Was he a confident one? He had an ego. Drop every bit of negative from the word, it's not a bad thing. Ego drives men to want to build healthy, successful families just like it drives us to have flashy cars and overpriced shoes.

How do you define ego? I think of ego in much the same way you wrote here. I see it as the "I". I will do this, i will do that, FOR........the for doesn't matter i guess. But the I is what the ego is.

 

[Upgrade Dave]

How do you define ego? I think of ego in much the same way you wrote here. I see it as the "I". I will do this, i will do that, FOR........the for doesn't matter i guess. But the I is what the ego is.

I think my previous post is the best definition I can give for it. Ego is that thing that makes me want to do better. Most of us do not want to be that dude that gets this face .