cosign 100. A broken community becomes that way emotionally before financially. What we are seeing is the side effects of being broken emotionally by hardships and it being passed down generation to generation. The women are attracted to aint shit niggas in terms of character, and the men are attracted to aint shit women in terms of character. Both parties chase what is unavailable but shit on what is, which is a dynamic learned in childhood. I.E. pain=love, masculinity=acting out, femininity=perpetual victim/girl power,etc,etc. Broken all the way.This sista had a very good definition for Ghetto that I think I will borrow from now on. Its a community that's broken and stays broken.
When you think about the cycle that we are in, this definition is very fitting. Although women claim to understand that men should be the leaders, many if not most are reluctant to follow = broken. We both cant lead, and if I lead I don't need you second guessing me all the way.
I don't need a man = broken.
Telling a sista to submit to her man its like asking her to drink poison or something. The reason why this cycle is so broken is because these women know that they are attracted to men who are not submission worthy. The men who would actually carry on the role of leader in the most responsible manner is seen as corny and often times appreciated more by women of other communities, so they have to take their leader attributes elsewhere where they will be appreciated. This guarantees this cycle continues= stays broken.
When a man recognizes this and purposely takes on the attributes of a thug just so he can attract women and gain acceptance with the other losers equals broken.
When you can't even call the police to ensure that children will have a safe community to grow up, means the cycle will continue.
Although Men claim to be leaders, most are reluctant to accept full responsibility for their actions as well . Men might not be able to change the game overnight, but at least you can do yourself and the community a service by not participating in this dumb ass cycle. When you have sex without condoms, that's participating. When you act as if child support of the child you actually brought into the world is some type of government conspiracy, then you are participating.
When you even entertain these hoodrats who you would never take seriously, you are allowing these chicks to live in a fantasy world that will perpetuate in the next generations. Most women who have numerous baby daddy's have no realization that this behavior is killing their chances of a stable home because some dude is always up their ass, they cant tell the difference in a man wanting to smash and wanting to wife.
They literally think a "real man" should take on me and my 4 kids. The reason they think this way is because many men want to be around them, but don't want anything else but sex. So they want the pleasure without responsibility. Which in of itself is true, under any other circumstance you should take on the good and the bad of any situation you willingly place yourself into. Thats why its important not to even entertain a women who you would not take seriously to begin with.
even though most black folk today are middle class, we are broken as hell and still very much a ghetto,given all the denial that is going around about this..will things change?


