Do you EXPECT an expensive engagement ring?

[PrincessC]

While y'all duking it out, I'll just say that I believe that a lot of the answers have been less than honest because no one wants to be perceived as a greedy person; that's a pattern that I've noticed over the past 6 months tho.

You're very perceptive, LD. It's very peculiar, isn't it?

Let me be clearer...because I was too vague.
I was not talking about a tit for tat situation.

What I meant was if a man bought you a ring(and he EXPECTED NOTHING IN RETURN)........WOULD YOU PURCHASE A MAJOR ITEM FOR HIM THAT HE WANTED BEFORE THE WEDDING?

Why or Why not?

Oh and just to twist your quote a bit.. "If She insists on an expensive (by our budget) engagement ring, there will not be a wedding"

If it is something that he wants, and I can afford it, sure, I'll try to get it for him. I would do that regardless.
But really, your question is still insinuating a tit for tat situation. "She gets the ring, so he gets a big screen." Those things are not comparable.

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

Wow. Someone is bitter? Only got half a carat when you EXPECTED 3? You can cut out the younger women bit. Turn on WE and watch all of those brides. Watch Rich Bride Poor Bride, Bridezillas, and Platinum Weddings. Not all 21 yr olds or even "young women" are the ones wanting to show off. AND its not always the one wearing the ring that wants to show off. Many times when you wear the ring, people wanna grab your hand to look at it and ask you questions about it. You're not necessarily walking around shoving your ring in people's eye.







LS... not makin reference to any one person. But I found it funny that no female was woman enough to admit that they care the slightest bit about their ring. Or maybe I'm the only one of all the SOL ladies who cares about it.

HA,I actually really don't care if I have a expensive ring or not. I have actually never really liked jewelry that much

 

[jucurious]

HA,I actually really don't care if I have a expensive ring or not. I have actually never really liked jewelry that much

exactly..i don't even wear rings now...i don't rock bracelets, necklaces and what not just earrings.

my fam is VERY simple w/ the rings..i think maybe one or two relatives have the blinged out rings while the rest have plain gold bands. part of the reason i don't wear jewelry is b/c i lost it a lot when it was younger.

also in MY experience, the ppl i've known to have BIG HUGE rocks n BIG HUGE weddings have gotten themselves into financial trouble which caused a HUGE problem in their relationship.


like i said b4...i would rather put more effort and money into the marriage than the ring

and i want a wedding like my cuzzin's...everyone pitched in, there were NO outsiders doing stuff..it cost WAY less and was more sentimental to EVERYONE, they TRULY shared their wedding.

so that's my story and im sticking to it

 

[LogicBlack]

I'M GLAD THE WHITE AMERICANS TAUGHT ME HOW TO READ. HARLEM'S ANGEL NEVER TYPED ANYTHING ABOUT WANTING AN EXPENSIVE RING. I SAID I WANTED A NICE RING. I WANT ONE THAT SHINES. SHINE, NICE, AND EXPENSIVE ARE THREE WORDS WITH TOTALLY DIFFERENT DEFINITIONS...NEED ME TO GET THEM FOR YOU?

Ha ha Funny we had the same teacher because IF YOU NOTICE I REFER TO DESIRE ALSO....

 

[doggish_098]

Let me be clearer...because I was too vague.
I was not talking about a tit for tat situation.

What I meant was if a man bought you a ring(and he EXPECTED NOTHING IN RETURN)........WOULD YOU PURCHASE A MAJOR ITEM FOR HIM THAT HE WANTED BEFORE THE WEDDING?

Why or Why not?

Oh and just to twist your quote a bit.. "If She insists on an expensive (by our budget) engagement ring, there will not be a wedding"

that is stupid logic. let me buy this chick a big ass ring to test and see if she will buy me the 105" tv. you are going by the same logic that a woman uses when saying i am not going to marry a dude who can't buy me a xxx K platinum ring. Tit for tat bullshit will end your relationship quickly.

 

[DeSiRe]

As a man... I could care less about an "engagement ring". I would be getting married because I would want to spend the rest of my life with a woman. The ring is merely a trinket that represents a much greater GIFT. A ring is just for show. Now if were to propose YES I would get a ring......but it would NOT be financed..it would be something within my personal means.....also IT WOULD BE THE SYMBOL THAT I WOULD WANT MY WOMAN TO HAVE....because to me that is all it is about. *right*

A woman that is fixated on enagagment ring standards to me JUST WANTS TO GET MARRIED (ceremony). A woman that does not care about all that ... and wants ME TO BE HER HUSBAND...truly wants TO BE MY WIFE (that forever shit).

Question for you DEISRE

If your man gave you an expensive wedding ring.......would you return the favor? Would you buy him say a BIG SCREEN TV AND HOME THEATER SYSTEM, or how about a MOTORCYCLE, or FISHING BOAT?

If you are unwilling to return the gesture.......then that tells me you are going into the marriage 1 sided.........when really its about reciprocity and a union of 2 people.


Many females I talked that have never been married....... spend a great deal of time thinking of the ring..and the ceremony.
A wedding ceremony/reception lasts maybe a 2 - 3 hours..........a marriage is supposed to be a lifetime.

So let me ask the question a different way.

How many women want to get married vs How many women want to be wives?

to answer your question...for my husband....my goal is to make him the most happy man on earth

i wouldnt mind not only buying him something like that early on in the marriage but later on

ive bought similar things for my father so its really not a big deal

as far as the wedding...i dont plan on having a big expensive one...even if i can afford it...it makes no sense that people spend 10s of thousands of dollars on a ceramony like that

like i said earlier id rather spend that money on our future

 

[DeSiRe]

Props

Now to this

Why a upgrade? Its funny that they'res no mention of wedding bands or expensive diamonds and rings when getting married under God..... But The England Rejects AKA white americans infected SOME of the minds of black adults.... Like I said before THANK GOD not every black woman has the mentality of ^^^(Desire, HarlemAngel) this one.... If you want a expensive ass ring buy your own. They'res alot of people who get expensive ass jewelry and never loved they're woman....

And to the women who may think I'm cheap or what ever just ask yourself what are you REALLY in it for? Save us good men who know the guidelines a headache and get with someone else.... Save the women who really want a family and marriage the chance at a decent good guy.

wow...u sure know how to old a grudge

build a bridge and get the fuck over it dude...seriously

yes i would like an upgrade...i never said when...nor how much...how is that too much to ask

u still make no sense

 

[DeSiRe]

Ha ha Funny we had the same teacher because IF YOU NOTICE I REFER TO DESIRE ALSO....

 

[DiamondDeuce]

that is stupid logic. let me buy this chick a big ass ring to test and see if she will buy me the 105" tv. you are going by the same logic that a woman uses when saying i am not going to marry a dude who can't buy me a xxx K platinum ring. Tit for tat bullshit will end your relationship quickly.

You are 100% correct...
I think you missed my point......

 

[SWATLANTA]

I will not try to break the bank on an engagement ring or a wedding. I prefer to invest in my marriage (if that day ever comes) emotionally and financially. A ring, or it's cost is not a priority....

 

[Harlem's Angel]

Okaaaaaayyyy. I still fail to see why you are whining? What exactly is the problem you have with what I am saying? If I post something based on my experience, and you have a different experience, that's called a "disagreement". How did I come at you sideways? Because you're young? Because you want to wear 2 rings at the same time? Sorry--you can't help that. Fact is, if a woman is used to having/earning nice things, she won't be so into what her man is buying her. She can focus on the man himself. I want a nice ring because I like pretty rings. Some women don't wear any jewelry, so they might not ever wear a ring. Who are you to say who's being truthful and who's not?

Only attitude in this thread is when you (and others) basically said that the other women were lying, but then caught yourself repeating the same thing. Why do you need to comment on my "attitude" and who buys me what? I seem to have forgotten about the time we met in person and you saw what I have and I told you who got me what. Why do you think your opinion of my "personality" matters?

1.Whining?? I scoff at your silliness. *Scoffs*
2.It's not a difference of opinion if you make personal reference to someone. *see comment on youth*
3. Fact is, that people like to receive gifts. Doesn't matter what it is. People always like to feel appreciated and loved. So I'm not tryna hear the whole bit about how you buy your own blah blah so you don't care if someone else buys you one. Truth probably is that you've come to accept the face that no one will ever want you because you probably run them away with your nonsense.
4. Catchin myself would mean that I realized that I contradicted myself then tried to edit or defend and I did neither.
5. My opinion matters because you're stupid/silly/ignorant/needy/lonely enough to go back and forth with me on this. You make my opinion matter.

In case you forgot...















And then...

Please tell me how what I said was the same as what the other ladies said???
Let me try this in a simpler format for the slow learners.
HA like shiny rings
HA no care price
HA care shiny shiny pretty pretty

Was that better? I hope it was.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

HA,I actually really don't care if I have a expensive ring or not. I have actually never really liked jewelry that much

Let me be clear. Some women don't care about the size price or whatever of their ring. Not specifically mentioning you of jew who just has to chime in lol I just think it was funny that not one woman besides myself and PC came in and said that they gave a fuck. I don't wear anything but earrings and watches. Doesn't mean that when I got my ring I wasn't bouncing off the fucking walls.



By the way, I wear my ring everyday and its the only ring i've ever had in my life. I love it. But I dont love the ring more than I love my man. It is merely a symbol of our commitment. A very nice, shining symbol.

 

[followup]

wondering if everyone has gotten the rings or "no ring" of their desires and if the marriages are working out...

 

[kwazdog]

Respect


I personally could careless if there was a ring. But then again this is coming from a person who would get married naked. A ring would be added clothing

EMPRESS!!

I LOVE YOU!!!

 

[SEXY_SCORPIO]

wondering if everyone has gotten the rings or "no ring" of their desires and if the marriages are working out...

.Not yet,not really rushing though

 

[followup]

^^ alright. that's cool. no need to rush into things

 

[onyxfemme]

I can honestly say the price of an engagement ring doesnt even matter (YES I SAID IT). What matters most is if someone is really willing to share their life w/ you. 10.00 or 5000.00 engagement ring-it is only a symbolism of their love. Just give me the love and I am thankful.

 

[SoopamanLuva]

The ring I bought my wife was custom made for $1k. She didn't want the main stone to be a diamond, she wanted it to be her birth stone(aquamarine) with small diamonds going down the side. She wanted somethingbthat looked nice and our jeweler hooked us up with a real nice piece. She was real reasonable and didn't want a 10c diamond or something outrageous like that. She told me "you better not buy me anything like that" she straight up said women who demand rings like that are selfish cause they don't have to buy it themselves.

 

[Rossini]

i know wow, they go against every negative stereotype of women, arent we lucky to have them, what are the odds

 

[4North1Side2]

My Wife didn't expect nothing...but I like for her to be draped up nice things so it's no problem for me. I push for her to upgrade her jewelry yearly. Obviously I like to brag and show off.

I always chuckle to myself when I see chicks itty bitty rings.

 

[followup]

My Wife didn't expect nothing...but I like for her to be draped up nice things so it's no problem for me. I push for her to upgrade her jewelry yearly. Obviously I like to brag and show off.

I always chuckle to myself when I see chicks itty bitty rings.

I know quite a few men like you. That's sweet of you (and wrong at the same time laffing at ppl's rings LOL)

 

[Rossini]

My Wife didn't expect nothing...but I like for her to be draped up nice things so it's no problem for me. I push for her to upgrade her jewelry yearly. Obviously I like to brag and show off.

I always chuckle to myself when I see chicks itty bitty rings.

 

[!!*10der*!!]

Europeans introduced the wedding band as a show of commitment to fidelity.

Might I also add...Marriage is a spiritual state, not a right of the 'state'. ​

 

[Big Dream$]

QUESTION:

what is the purpose of the engagement ring? is it like a high priced promised ring? do men get one too? do u wear it with your wedding band?

seriously...i don't know about this. even though i have MANY married ppl in my family, majority of them literally just wear gold bands and keep it moving...and they are happy...hmmmm

engagement rings = marriage rings = for a womans ego


since women are in competition with each other over men, a ring is like a symbolic sign of victory


also, they want to show the world that they're not losers....women feel like you're a loser if you dont have someone committed to you


it's like a badge of honor

 

[melonpecan]

since women are in competition with each other over men, a ring is like a symbolic sign of victory

Really?

I don't know who you been talking to but this his highly mistaken.

 

[Mo-Better]

I can honestly say the price of an engagement ring doesnt even matter (YES I SAID IT). What matters most is if someone is really willing to share their life w/ you. 10.00 or 5000.00 engagement ring-it is only a symbolism of their love. Just give me the love and I am thankful.

Good to see someone has it right. With so many women seem to be hung up on material things its refreshing to know someone realizes what really matters.

 

[melonpecan]

If you buying wedding gowns like you buy beer, the preacher must be making a killing in that town.

 

[Mo-Better]

If you buying wedding gowns like you buy beer, the preacher must be making a killing in that town.

You were expecting Neiman Marcus!? That stores in Maine they're probably suffering with brain freeze.

 

[melonpecan]

You were expecting Neiman Marcus!? That stores in Maine they're probably suffering with brain freeze.

I'm a Stein Mart girl myself...

 

[Lady-Wiz]

I don't expect an expensive ring that fact that he has made the effort to say that he wants to spend the rest of his life together is good enough

I expect head on the honeymoon

Kitty you stay tripping me out

 

[Mo-Better]

I'm a Stein Mart girl myself...

Well of course you are.

 

[mailboxpimp]

nah i don't expect an expensive engagement ring


i honestly don't expect a expensive wedding ring either...im really not into jewlery

i would rather that money be spent on a house or invested


i would trade in all those rings for a faitful, healthy marriage

thanks...............

 

[4North1Side2]

I just treated my Wife to this today.

3 CT. T.W. Marquise Diamond Bridal Set in 14K Gold with Diamond Accents

 

[onyxfemme]

That is beautiful! She is a lucky woman!
marquis cut is my favorite! 4.5 stars! The only thing that would have made this a 5 is if it is white gold.

I just treated my Wife to this today.

3 CT. T.W. Marquise Diamond Bridal Set in 14K Gold with Diamond Accents

 

[BCAA2009]

I can honestly say the price of an engagement ring doesnt even matter (YES I SAID IT). What matters most is if someone is really willing to share their life w/ you. 10.00 or 5000.00 engagement ring-it is only a symbolism of their love. Just give me the love and I am thankful.

I know there are a few dudes on here that got e-beef with you, however...



thanks, from me and the other black men who are thankful for women like you who focus on what matters most.