Do you EXPECT an expensive engagement ring?

[MegaDell]

I thought about this while I was writing out a "why do guys wear tons of jewelery thread" which I didn't post.

I personally don't understand why people waste money on jewelery, but especially engagement rings, because so often they are incredibly expensive, and you're not gonna wear them that long, compared to how long you'll wear the wedding band *unless you're like half of married couples and you get divorced.*

So, do you expect an expensive engagement ring? What's that bs rule, the ring has to be 1/4th the mans salary?

 

[DeSiRe]

i dont expect a expensive engagement ring...theres alot of stuff we will have to buy as a family and it doesnt make sense to have an expensive ass ring and struggle to find a house and everything else

but i do expect an upgrade in a few years

 

[Mo-Better]

i dont expect a expensive engagement ring...theres alot of stuff we will have to buy as a family and it doesnt make sense to have an expensive ass ring and struggle to find a house and everything else

but i do expect an upgrade in a few years

Oh your a rare gem.

 

[jucurious]

nah i don't expect an expensive engagement ring


i honestly don't expect a expensive wedding ring either...im really not into jewlery

i would rather that money be spent on a house or invested


i would trade in all those rings for a faitful, healthy marriage

 

[ladyscorpio]

nah i don't expect an expensive engagement ring


i honestly don't expect a expensive wedding ring either...im really not into jewlery

i would rather that money be spent on a house or invested


i would trade in all those rings for a faitful, healthy marriage

Respect


I personally could careless if there was a ring. But then again this is coming from a person who would get married naked. A ring would be added clothing

 

[Mo-Better]

Respect


I personally could careless if there was a ring. But then again this is coming from a person who would get married naked. A ring would be added clothing

Its really good to know there's still women around who aren't materalistic.

 

[MzKittyDelicious]

I expect head on the honeymoon

 

[ladyscorpio]

I expect head on the honeymoon

 

[cbm_redux]

...and you're not gonna wear them that long, compared to how long you'll wear the wedding band

Does this kid think that women stop wearing their engagement rings after the wedding?

 

[JofromthaNO]

I really don't expect anything expensive at first...what I do expect goes far beyond material or tangible status...I expect genuine feelings and honesty when he gets down on that knee, though...

 

[Mo-Better]

I expect head on the honeymoon

The man has proposed to you and your expecting head? Seems like he should be the one expecting head. The man just comitted to wearing your ball and chain around his neck and your expecting head that night. What am I missing?

 

[MzKittyDelicious]

The man has proposed to you and your expecting head? Seems like he should be the one expecting head. The man just comitted to wearing your ball and chain around his neck and your expecting head that night. What am I missing?

umm sensitive, much?

 

[Mo-Better]

umm sensitive, much?

Not at all baby just the idea struck me funny. Its as if this type thing doesn't happen on the regular or maybe its held in reserve for special occasions like honeymoons.

 

[Magicdplaya]

i dont expect a expensive engagement ring...theres alot of stuff we will have to buy as a family and it doesnt make sense to have an expensive ass ring and struggle to find a house and everything else

but i do expect an upgrade in a few years

nah i don't expect an expensive engagement ring


i honestly don't expect a expensive wedding ring either...im really not into jewlery

i would rather that money be spent on a house or invested


i would trade in all those rings for a faitful, healthy marriage

Respect


I personally could careless if there was a ring. But then again this is coming from a person who would get married naked. A ring would be added clothing

I expect head on the honeymoon

I really don't expect anything expensive at first...what I do expect goes far beyond material or tangible status...I expect genuine feelings and honesty when he gets down on that knee, though...

Wow there are some cool ass chicks in SOL.
Why did I every sleep on SOL

 

[mrjody]

Respect


I personally could careless if there was a ring. But then again this is coming from a person who would get married naked. A ring would be added clothing

 

[LeroyDibiase]

Wow there are some cool ass chicks in SOL.
Why did I every sleep on SOL

i know wow, they go against every negative stereotype of women, arent we lucky to have them, what are the odds

 

[Cleopatra_J]

Me and my ex used to go back and forth on this topic....

when i was younger I was all about having a 2 carat ring and all that glittery shit...

but now I'm different than I was then and there is so much more to marriage and relationships than the materialistic things that represent them. I do not want my man going broke on my ring, if you can't afford it, its not meant to be. Jewelry should not be financed...

 

[cbm_redux]

Jewelry should not be financed...

I agree in principle, but not in the case of an engagement ring. If you aren't willing to suck it up and buy your fiancée a nice ring, then perhaps you should question whether you really want to make half of everything you have hers.

 

[DeSiRe]

isnt the ring supposed to equal 15% of his yearly income?

like i said earlier i really dont caree

BUT

im not a fan of guys just going out and getting rings without knowing what his girl likes

most of the time girls drop hints...but he should have a good understanding of her taste when he picks out a ring (stone setting, gold/white gold/platinum/ect)

i dont care how much it is...if is ugly im not going to like it...lol

 

[LeroyDibiase]

I agree in principle, but not in the case of an engagement ring. If you aren't willing to suck it up and buy your fiancée a nice ring, then perhaps you should question whether you really want to make half of everything you have hers.

I wouldn't consider marrying a woman stupid enough and shallow enough to get mad when I don't buy her a bling bling ring. The woman I marry will want me, correction, US to save money and invest in our future. That doesn't mean I wouldn't buy her an expensive ring, just that she wouldn't get mad if I didn't.

 

[followup]

I really don't want an engagement ring, unless he wants me to wear one temporarily. Seems like they are more for a man's ego. On the otherhand, my wedding band has to be beautiful and full of sparkles, but under $1000

 

[LeroyDibiase]

I really don't want an engagement ring, unless he wants me to wear one temporarily. Seems like they are more for a man's ego. On the otherhand, my wedding band has to be beautiful and full of sparkles, but under $1000

The man's ego? Really?

 

[Adam Knows]

Respect


I personally could careless if there was a ring. But then again this is coming from a person who would get married naked. A ring would be added clothing

 

[jucurious]

QUESTION:

what is the purpose of the engagement ring? is it like a high priced promised ring? do men get one too? do u wear it with your wedding band?

seriously...i don't know about this. even though i have MANY married ppl in my family, majority of them literally just wear gold bands and keep it moving...and they are happy...hmmmm

 

[LeroyDibiase]

QUESTION:

what is the purpose of the engagement ring? is it like a high priced promised ring? do men get one too? do u wear it with your wedding band?

seriously...i don't know about this. even though i have MANY married ppl in my family, majority of them literally just wear gold bands and keep it moving...and they are happy...hmmmm

The goldbands (sometimes platinum) are wedding rings. The gaudy engagement ring (only given to a woman) is for her to show off to all her friends.

 

[ladyscorpio]

i know wow, they go against every negative stereotype of women, arent we lucky to have them, what are the odds

The scent of sarcasm.....hmmmm

 

[LeroyDibiase]

The scent of sarcasm.....hmmmm

Uhhh, we have some real superwomen on this board.

 

[jucurious]

The goldbands (sometimes platinum) are wedding rings. The gaudy engagement ring (only given to a woman) is for her to show off to all her friends.

thanks for answering part of the question....can you answer the rest?

 

[LeroyDibiase]

QUESTION:

what is the purpose of the engagement ring? is it like a high priced promised ring? do men get one too? do u wear it with your wedding band?

seriously...i don't know about this. even though i have MANY married ppl in my family, majority of them literally just wear gold bands and keep it moving...and they are happy...hmmmm

Purpose is basically to show that the woman is taken. This goes back centuries.

Basically.

No.

It is usually moved to the right hand, if not stop being worn altogether.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

alright now I'm starting to feel like some of the guys. You females are just too good to be true. I'm not into jewelry but I always expected my ring to be nice. I expected to be able to see it without a microscope, but I never EXPECTED it to be EXPENSIVE. I dont care what it costs, just want it to sparkle in the light lol.

To the OP:

1. Engagement rings are worn in conjuction with the wedding band after the wedding.
2. The rule for engagement rings are 2 months salary not 1/4 salary.
3. I honestly don't feel like you're gonna get 100% honest answers here because none of the women want to seem like gold diggers.

Again, I expected a nice ring, I didn't think about the price and I was not disappointed.

 

[Harlem's Angel]

Purpose is basically to show that the woman is taken. This goes back centuries.

Basically.

No.

It is usually moved to the right hand, if not stop being worn altogether.

The ring is not usually moved to the right hand. It is worn on top of the wedding band closer to the nail so that the wedding band will be closer to the heart.

 

[followup]

Mostly younger women do that. By the time you're married 10 and 20 years, the need to show off passes. And you pretty much just said the same thing all of the other women in this thread said, so are you fronting too?

 

[Crown&Coke]

I have heard about 3 different rules for engagement rings. I heard that it was supposed to be 3 months salary. 15% of yearly salary and 2 months salary. But if its about love and commitment then what does all that matter?​

 

[followup]

I have heard about 3 different rules for engagement rings. I heard that it was supposed to be 3 months salary. 15% of yearly salary and 2 months salary. But if its about love and commitment then what does all that matter?​

Exactly. Yall should be worried if she's having you spend an entire month's salary on a ring or if you feel the need to do that.

 

[ladyscorpio]

alright now I'm starting to feel like some of the guys. You females are just too good to be true. I'm not into jewelry but I always expected my ring to be nice. I expected to be able to see it without a microscope, but I never EXPECTED it to be EXPENSIVE. I dont care what it costs, just want it to sparkle in the light lol.

To the OP:

1. Engagement rings are worn in conjuction with the wedding band after the wedding.
2. The rule for engagement rings are 2 months salary not 1/4 salary.
3. I honestly don't feel like you're gonna get 100% honest answers here because none of the women want to seem like gold diggers.

Again, I expected a nice ring, I didn't think about the price and I was not disappointed.

HA sorry to disappoint you but I can speak only for myself. I am a simple person yes and I do NOT require all this fuss up about a piece of material. NOT all women want the fancy ish.




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