Defending a woman to the death

[Dannyblueyes]

Okay here's the situation.

You're at a club with your man. While walking to the bar alone you encounter an old male friend you haven't seen in a long time. He's clearly drunk and has a very angry vibe about him, but it's been a long time so you say hello. He picks a bullshit fight with you and threatens to punch you in the face.

Your man sees what's going on so he walks up to both of you. He smiles and says "hey, c'mon guys. No need to fight. We're all friends here." The bouncers sense a commotion so they step up. The friend thinks better of continuing the fight so he steps away.

IMO the man fucked up. When a man is ready and willing to physically assault your woman you have a moral obligation to both her and your gender to beat the living shit out of this threat or die trying. Nothing else matters. You may get killed, arrested, or lose all your teeth, but that's just the price you pay to be in a relationship. If you're not willing to defend your woman then you need to let her go before something goes down.

Then again, I could be completely out of line here. Ladies, what do you think? Could you ever respect your man again after he reacted this way?

 

[jucurious]

1st....she dumb cuz she shouldn't have said hi being that he was visibly not in a good state

2nd...i wouldn't want my guy fighting, especially over some bullshit like that. shit goes from 0-60 (60 being the hospital and or grave) over dumb shit like that in the club

and that whole obligation to ur gender...that's that bullshit. as my dad said...pride kills. u bought to die over a chic that aint even ur WIFE, u said ur girl. what if u do all that and she break up w/ u the next week?

personally, i don't like when guys pop off like that all willy nilly...that would bother me. yeah he would be pissed that the guy threatened me and may say somethin to him but if after i say let's go he is not even worth it, he is on some "nah as a man i gotta fuck him up shit" im like but like i said...i would try my BEST to not ever put him in that type of situation.

now if i was literally fighting dude, that is another situation but i still wouldn't want him to damn near kill him cuz, again, its not even worth it. he tryna protect me, gets OD w/ it or hits him in the "right spot" and now i gotta go visit his ass behind bars....booo that shit. i try to avoid that at all costs...which is y she shouldn't have said hi.

 

[DeSiRe]

not a fan of extremes....like to death

but yes...i do think men should protect women

 

[KILLER]

When a man is ready and willing to physically assault your woman you have a moral obligation to both her and your gender to beat the living shit out of this threat or die trying. Nothing else matters. You may get killed, arrested, or lose all your teeth, but that's just the price you pay to be in a relationship.

NO FUCKING WAY.Period.

A MAN'S life WORTHS the same as a Woman's life.Period.

Just think about it:

What about IF YOUR SONS,BROTHERS,UNCLES LOSE their lives because a fight OVER A Woman!

 

[BrownTurd]

not a fan of extremes....like to death

but yes...i do think men should protect women

A man should protect his family not some regular chick.

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I guess I should have mentioned a few other things in my post. The woman and man had been married for about a year. Within a few months of this incident the woman left her husband for another woman. I don't know if this had anything to do with it, but I strongly suspect it.

Her man essentially did protect her. He came over and delayed the confrontation until the bouncers could come around and broke things up completely. IMO if his wife was fighting another WOMAN then his reply would have been very appropriate. Also, if his wife had done something particularly stupid to provoke the fight then he would be right to put her in check AFTER they left the club.

And in case you're wondering, I'm not any of the three people mentioned in the story.

 

[owl]

Seems to be candid enough of an example of a portion of the female psyche.

It is a good mating procedure for high strung, drama queens who live in volatile environments. And if i were so inclined to want to marry such a woman, than i would also be inclined to subscribe to the philosophy proposed in this thread....

And don't think that i don't know about you undercover high strung women hiding behind professional titles and scholastic achievements...i see you as well...the concept of civilization preposes a civilized nation, and i try to live in a civilized manner, which means i use my mind when able to seduce my environment, and use force when all else fails. Some will come in and spout lies and rhetoric about loving a man who will handle the situation rationally, yet i've raided enough hen coops to know that most women define men by their ability to irrationally whip an ass or two....

...my question is who is going to be enjoying you when i'm dead for protecting you, or in jail....

 

[DeSiRe]

i dunno dead or jail has to always be the result of defending a woman

when i used to work in the hood a few years ago...i was protected...

i didnt know anybody out there personally...but the men out there made sure a sista wasnt messed with and i was safe..

nobody went to jail....nobody died......but i had people looking out for me...and even speaking up for me when needed...if i needed help fixing a tire or finding something i had help

thats the type of protection i speak of

 

[Marylandboatman]

What you gonna do with a dead boy friend. 2 weeks later you fucking your number 2 dude, and he is dead. The only ones that will miss him forever is his family not a trick who wants him hurt. Baby you might be fine but you will never be one woman once a guy finds out that his pay for personal body guard is a blow job. Rmember Len Bias brother is dead, the guy who did the deed is in jail, and the girl has married someone else and has kids. Yeah she was worth killing for, she fucked up two lives not hers.

 

[jucurious]

i dunno dead or jail has to always be the result of defending a woman

when i used to work in the hood a few years ago...i was protected...

i didnt know anybody out there personally...but the men out there made sure a sista wasnt messed with and i was safe..

nobody went to jail....nobody died......but i had people looking out for me...and even speaking up for me when needed...if i needed help fixing a tire or finding something i had help

thats the type of protection i speak of

right i've experienced that before...that's cute and def appreciated BUT you have those who are talkin bout (like the OP stated) fighting to the death or die trying...c'mon that is a bit much.

i messed w/ a guy a while back who was a lil too much into "defending" me to the point that his irrationality pissed me off and there was nothin cute about how he escalated the situation instead of deescalating it...that played a big role in why I ended it.

I don't see anything wrong w/ what homeboy did in terms of trying to deescalate the situation. I think that was very mature considering the circumstances. I guess this has to deal w/ personal experience b/c too many ppl that I know and know of have ended up stabbed, shot, w/ legal trouble and/ or severely injured in these situations. I know a lot of ppl who just hit first and ask questions later and the end up making the situation worse.

but to each is own

 

[Dannyblueyes]

right i've experienced that before...that's cute and def appreciated BUT you have those who are talkin bout (like the OP stated) fighting to the death or die trying...c'mon that is a bit much.

i messed w/ a guy a while back who was a lil too much into "defending" me to the point that his irrationality pissed me off and there was nothin cute about how he escalated the situation instead of deescalating it...that played a big role in why I ended it.

I don't see anything wrong w/ what homeboy did in terms of trying to deescalate the situation. I think that was very mature considering the circumstances. I guess this has to deal w/ personal experience b/c too many ppl that I know and know of have ended up stabbed, shot, w/ legal trouble and/ or severely injured in these situations. I know a lot of ppl who just hit first and ask questions later and the end up making the situation worse.

but to each is own

When I spoke of defending to the death I didn't necessarily mean that somebody had to die either. I mean that if the man who hit or threatened my woman was bigger than me or a better fighter I would still fight him, and die if necessary. The thing that matters most at that point is her physical safety and the trust that's established when she knows that you'll do anything to deal with a threat that she might not be able to.

 

[Hellfish]

simple diplomacy is all that is needed in a situation like that. If blows was thrown, well that's a different story

 

[jucurious]

When I spoke of defending to the death I didn't necessarily mean that somebody had to die either. I mean that if the man who hit or threatened my woman was bigger than me or a better fighter I would still fight him, and die if necessary. The thing that matters most at that point is her physical safety and the trust that's established when she knows that you'll do anything to deal with a threat that she might not be able to.

what?

point is like the poster above said...simple diplomacy. u can't think of another way to "establish" trust? i mean damn.


....it all makes sense now

 

[Dannyblueyes]

what?

point is like the poster above said...simple diplomacy. u can't think of another way to "establish" trust? i mean damn.


....it all makes sense now

I'd like to agree but then, simple diplomacy cost this man his wife and life savings. Punching the idiot might have cost the man his freedom and his teaching job, but when you're broke, trapped, and have no pussy then you might as well be locked up anyway.

If you're job, safety and freedom are so important to you that you can't bear to threaten them in any circumstance then you shouldn't have a significant other. Period.

 

[jucurious]

I'd like to agree but then, simple diplomacy cost this man his wife and life savings. Punching the idiot might have cost the man his freedom and his teaching job, but when you're broke, trapped, and have no pussy then you might as well be locked up anyway.

If you're job, safety and freedom are so important to you that you can't bear to threaten them in any circumstance then you shouldn't have a significant other. Period.

I'm pretty sure diplomacy was not the SOLE thing that caused his wife to step...in some strange fashion it might have been the icing on the cake but def was not the sole reason.

and are u reading what your typing? i really can't believe ur trying to rationalize this. what a piss poor mentality to have.

punching would have cost him:
-freedom
-job and future jobs
- possibly his wife
-life savings
-possibly his asshole
- maybe physical harm
- time

not punching cost him:
- wife (doubt it)
- life savings (doubt it)

he can make more money, he can find another chic...wait..i can't believe i'm tryna discuss this with you...i'm wasting my time lol


we will have to agree to disagree

 

[KILLER]

I'm pretty sure diplomacy was not the SOLE thing that caused his wife to step...in some strange fashion it might have been the icing on the cake but def was not the sole reason.

and are u reading what your typing? i really can't believe ur trying to rationalize this. what a piss poor mentality to have.

punching would have cost him:
-freedom
-job and future jobs
- possibly his wife
-life savings
-possibly his asshole
- maybe physical harm
- time

not punching cost him:
- wife (doubt it)
- life savings (doubt it)

he can make more money, he can find another chic...wait..i can't believe i'm tryna discuss this with you...i'm wasting my time lol


we will have to agree to disagree

1000%Cosign!

I can't believe how many women"think" that because they are giving a few blow jobs and the pussy, any MAN HAS TO:

A)Turn into an Assasin
b)Go to Jail
c)End up in the Hospital
D)BE KILLED

= RUIN HIS OWN LIFE!

because of the insults of a complete stranger!.

FUCK DAT SHIT!

I'm in charge of my OWN Future,NOT some bitch.

 

[jucurious]

1000%Cosign!

I can't believe how many women"think" that because they are giving a few blow jobs and the pussy, any MAN HAS TO:

A)Turn into an Assasin
b)Go to Jail
c)End up in the Hospital
D)BE KILLED

= RUIN HIS OWN LIFE!

because of the insults of a complete stranger!.

FUCK DAT SHIT!

I'm in charge of my OWN Future,NOT some bitch.

well u just cosigned a woman and the OP is a man...so don't be fooled and think that its only a woman thing lol.

 

[KILLER]

well u just cosigned a woman and the OP is a man...so don't be fooled and think that its only a woman thing lol.

I know You are a woman.

The O.P. is a MAN? I really don't believe it.

WTF!

 

[LoneStar29]

I wouldn't want my man to hit the guy UNLESS the guy hit me first ... if the guy is only ACTING a fool there is no need for my man to throw the first punch

I would respect him more for walking away from the situation then doing something to make matters worse

OP it sounds like you're on some ego shit

 

[Makkonnen]

Seems to be candid enough of an example of a portion of the female psyche.

It is a good mating procedure for high strung, drama queens who live in volatile environments. And if i were so inclined to want to marry such a woman, than i would also be inclined to subscribe to the philosophy proposed in this thread....

And don't think that i don't know about you undercover high strung women hiding behind professional titles and scholastic achievements...i see you as well...the concept of civilization preposes a civilized nation, and i try to live in a civilized manner, which means i use my mind when able to seduce my environment, and use force when all else fails. Some will come in and spout lies and rhetoric about loving a man who will handle the situation rationally, yet i've raided enough hen coops to know that most women define men by their ability to irrationally whip an ass or two....

...my question is who is going to be enjoying you when i'm dead for protecting you, or in jail....

damn owl

 

[MagicMarvin]

I'd like to agree but then, simple diplomacy cost this man his wife and life savings. Punching the idiot might have cost the man his freedom and his teaching job, but when you're broke, trapped, and have no pussy then you might as well be locked up anyway.

If you're job, safety and freedom are so important to you that you can't bear to threaten them in any circumstance then you shouldn't have a significant other. Period.

Naw. Sounds like a conceited, selfish, closet lesbian-wife caused the man his marriage. Even sounds like she was just waiting for some excuse to bounce. Hell, it even sounds like she subconciously set him up for the fall anyhow.

 

[jucurious]

Naw. Sounds like a conceited, selfish, closet lesbian-wife caused the man his marriage. Even sounds like she was just waiting for some excuse to bounce. Hell, it even sounds like she subconciously set him up for the fall anyhow.

damn you got all that from that?

are you him? lol

 

[Dannyblueyes]

I wouldn't want my man to hit the guy UNLESS the guy hit me first ... if the guy is only ACTING a fool there is no need for my man to throw the first punch

I would respect him more for walking away from the situation then doing something to make matters worse

OP it sounds like you're on some ego shit

I actually agree with this. The only caveat I would add is that you need to respond physically to any man who threatens physical violence on your woman in addition to those idiots who actually do it.

If it's just some guy being a jerk or acting fresh then that's completely different. Diplomacy is the best option in those situations.

 

[owl]

I'd like to agree but then, simple diplomacy cost this man his wife and life savings. Punching the idiot might have cost the man his freedom and his teaching job, but when you're broke, trapped, and have no pussy then you might as well be locked up anyway.

If you're job, safety and freedom are so important to you that you can't bear to threaten them in any circumstance then you shouldn't have a significant other. Period.

You OBVIOUSLY have never been locked up before, so before you make assumptions you have not the conditioning to bear, nor the resources to study, please refrain from comparing anything in society with lock-up...it might save you a trip or two...truss

 

[owl]

damn owl

...long night, MAK...long night...lol

 

[LeroyDibiase]

You OBVIOUSLY have never been locked up before, so before you make assumptions you have not the conditioning to bear, nor the resources to study, please refrain from comparing anything in society with lock-up...it might save you a trip or two...truss

Damn Owl like that uncle, cool as fuck, but then you mention jail and that nigga POP off.

 

[Mo-Better]

I wouldn't want my man to hit the guy UNLESS the guy hit me first ... if the guy is only ACTING a fool there is no need for my man to throw the first punch

I would respect him more for walking away from the situation then doing something to make matters worse

OP it sounds like you're on some ego shit

For the man if he needs to intervene he needs to do whatever is necessary squash this situation before it gets out of hand. As for putting your life of the line for your lady, you have to be willing to do this but not over some childish bullshit. That's where the brains and class of the lady comes in.

This is the main reason why the woman a man selects can't just be about looks. Brains and class are a MUST! A fight is the absolute last thing she should want to see her man involved in. Having said that she should know how to defuse a situation without having it escalate to a point where a fight is necessary. Especially today when it seems like everyone is toting a gun.

Now if we're talking about a total asshole and the fool throws the first punch I say do whatever it takes to stomp his ass like you would a waterbug.

 

[LoneStar29]

I'd like to agree but then, simple diplomacy cost this man his wife and life savings.

Alright ... lets' just keep it all the way real right now

This is on some "he's just not that into you" but with the roles reversed

If this woman picked up her stuff and left the man over this nonsense chances are "she was never that into him" ... real talk ... that's a chicken headed move that she pulled and he should be happy he got rid of her silly ass so soon into the marriage

A mature woman would be able to respect that her man was there to have her back in whatever way ... I mean it's not like he tucked his balls under and ran away ... he was right there with her guarding the situation ... he made the best choice for that situation and brain over brawn has always turned me on ... she's a bird brain ... I mean she left him for another woman ... do you really think that's because he wasn't "manly" enough for her

 

[shywriter]

Seems to be candid enough of an example of a portion of the female psyche.

It is a good mating procedure for high strung, drama queens who live in volatile environments. And if i were so inclined to want to marry such a woman, than i would also be inclined to subscribe to the philosophy proposed in this thread....

And don't think that i don't know about you undercover high strung women hiding behind professional titles and scholastic achievements...i see you as well...the concept of civilization preposes a civilized nation, and i try to live in a civilized manner, which means i use my mind when able to seduce my environment, and use force when all else fails. Some will come in and spout lies and rhetoric about loving a man who will handle the situation rationally, yet i've raided enough hen coops to know that most women define men by their ability to irrationally whip an ass or two....

...my question is who is going to be enjoying you when i'm dead for protecting you, or in jail....

chuuch.

 

[blkcubano]

yes

 

[street_soulja]

call that nigga a pussy and push his shit back folk cuz only a lemon-lame ass mofucka gon pick a fight wit a broad...hand that nigga a tampon after you stomp him out..for real........unless you a bitch ass nigga and you scary as fuck....hide in the corner lemon meringue ass niggas..we aint talkin to yall right now....

 

[Malegobia]

Okay here's the situation.

You're at a club with your man. While walking to the bar alone you encounter an old male friend you haven't seen in a long time. He's clearly drunk and has a very angry vibe about him, but it's been a long time so you say hello. He picks a bullshit fight with you and threatens to punch you in the face.

Your man sees what's going on so he walks up to both of you. He smiles and says "hey, c'mon guys. No need to fight. We're all friends here." The bouncers sense a commotion so they step up. The friend thinks better of continuing the fight so he steps away.

IMO the man fucked up. When a man is ready and willing to physically assault your woman you have a moral obligation to both her and your gender to beat the living shit out of this threat or die trying. Nothing else matters. You may get killed, arrested, or lose all your teeth, but that's just the price you pay to be in a relationship. If you're not willing to defend your woman then you need to let her go before something goes down.

Then again, I could be completely out of line here. Ladies, what do you think? Could you ever respect your man again after he reacted this way?

 

[jucurious]

call that nigga a pussy and push his shit back folk cuz only a lemon-lame ass mofucka gon pick a fight wit a broad...hand that nigga a tampon after you stomp him out..for real........unless you a bitch ass nigga and you scary as fuck....hide in the corner lemon meringue ass niggas..we aint talkin to yall right now....

love that sig

we will def see this pic used repeatedly

 

[swiftandsilent]

Okay here's the situation.

IMO the man fucked up. When a man is ready and willing to physically assault your woman you have a moral obligation to both her and your gender to beat the living shit out of this threat or die trying. Nothing else matters. You may get killed, arrested, or lose all your teeth, but that's just the price you pay to be in a relationship. If you're not willing to defend your woman then you need to let her go before something goes down.

Then again, I could be completely out of line here. Ladies, what do you think? Could you ever respect your man again after he reacted this way?

 

[delril7]

Well the thing is a man should protect their woman but most guys wont or cant . The thing is most men dont know how to diffuse a situation and actually make things worse by using threats and trying to act tough . So I think it should go like this....
1) Step in and politely take your girl out of harms way
2) If he continues to approach instruct your girl (if there is one person with the problem ) to go to the car
3) Try to find a verbal or mental out ... Make fun of the situation ,try to downplay it
4) Be aware of his hands at all times and look for swinging posture... Allow him to be the first to swing and try to wrap him and show him he wont win
5) If all else fails drop him with extreme prejudice